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I used to laugh at all the Maury jokes of “you are the father!”

now, I’m like....I wouldn’t mind being a father if it presents itself.

sorry about the ex fiancé not working out, but good luck OP

 

[JBat]

Not to be a downer but like others have said protect yourself and make sure the baby is yours. But assuming the best; Congratulations! Hearing that heart beat changes you. It's truly amazing. If you and Mom can't work it out be there for your kid. They are going to need their father. It's going to be hard but being a father it the best feeling. You've got this!

 

[Foamy]

Since your girl appears to be a head case I'm going to say congrats on the child support payments OP.

 

[teh_pwn]

Yeah I know, the series of events doesn't make much sense but it is what it is.... I am confused as well..... this is a fucked up situation and its gotten to me, in a bad and hard way.

About the people suggesting a paternity test, lol, its no the answer I was expecting.
The unprotected sex act and conception was during a trip we had (I confirmed this with the child age according to the echography). Also, I trust her... I was engaged to her for a reason.

Thanks for the all the supportive responses.

Well you're both hella fertile then. 1 time even if you hit it at ovulation is like 25% chance for people in their 20s, less than that for 30s. My wife and I are trying go get pregnant and it'll be month 3. That's the norm, taking several months. Doctors don't even want to talk about fertility issues until after 6 months.

 

[Doczu]

Yeah I know, the series of events doesn't make much sense but it is what it is.... I am confused as well..... this is a fucked up situation and its gotten to me, in a bad and hard way.

About the people suggesting a paternity test, lol, its no the answer I was expecting.
The unprotected sex act and conception was during a trip we had (I confirmed this with the child age according to the echography). Also, I trust her... I was engaged to her for a reason.

Thanks for the all the supportive responses.

I think people doubled down on the part where you said she freaked out on you after she learned she's pregnant.
You trust her, that's important, so relax and try to be as supportive as you can.
Congrats on sex,om having a kid and on the upcoming preggo and MILF sex.

Well you're both hella fertile then. 1 time even if you hit it at ovulation is like 25% chance for people in their 20s, less than that for 30s. My wife and I are trying go get pregnant and it'll be month 3. That's the norm, taking several months. Doctors don't even want to talk about fertility issues until after 6 months.

Yeah, we tried for almost a year and just before the conception we were at a fertility clinic. My wife has hormone problems and my tests of that day came out (lol) shitty - basically i was shooting blanks. Changed my diet, started a more active lifestyle, took supplements and bam! Pregnant. I was also sick when i did my test and that and the meds i was taking fucked up my sperm count.
On the other hamd our friends also wanted to have a child at the same time and they made it after a month. So yeah, life aint always fair

 

[Ingeniero]

Well you're both hella fertile then. 1 time even if you hit it at ovulation is like 25% chance for people in their 20s, less than that for 30s. My wife and I are trying go get pregnant and it'll be month 3. That's the norm, taking several months. Doctors don't even want to talk about fertility issues until after 6 months.

This is true.
At first, we had unprotected sex almost everyday for like 5 months and nothing happened.

Like I said before, I have no reason to doubt her and assume she cheated.
I am a man of science (Engineer), and I trust numbers and stats, Doctor said the fetus is X weeks and Y days old (gestational age), and according to her period chart and the baby age, she had to be fertile in a very specific set of days, we were alone on a trip all those days, and had unprotected sex so.....

I don't see myself taking a DNA test in the future, but maybe I will...... I am not thinking about that right now.

Thanks for the support.

 

[lock2k]

Hi,

I don't normally post personal stuff online, but I feel like sharing.

So, I got engaged two months ago with my 1.5 year girlfriend, everything was fine.
Girl found out that she is pregnant and freaked out, to the point of saying we are no longer engaged and broke up with me.
Now she is 10 weeks pregnant and I am very excited.
I went with her to her 9 week appointment and listened to the baby’s heartbeats in the machine, wow that was an amazing experience! I cried a bit.

She is more calm now and excited as well, but she is a bit worried because she was taking some pills to lose weight before knowing she was pregnant, the Doctors said we should not worry about this, but we are going to do a genetic echography in two weeks to make sure everything is ok.
She still says she doesn’t love me anymore.... I don't know what happened, maybe the pregnancy shock was too hard on her or the hormones are fucking with her head.... I hope she changes her mind.
But right now the top priority for me is her well-being and the baby's. I won't push her about our relationship right now, I'll give her some time.
We talk every day, we are very friendly with each other and of course I help her out with the Doctor expenses and all that.

I love her and I already love this baby, I am sure things will get better.

Congrats and welcome to the club! Being a father is the best feeling ever, it's an explosion of feelings and one that I would never give up. I have a five year old and I can't wait to have a second child

 

[lock2k]

Well you're both hella fertile then. 1 time even if you hit it at ovulation is like 25% chance for people in their 20s, less than that for 30s. My wife and I are trying go get pregnant and it'll be month 3. That's the norm, taking several months. Doctors don't even want to talk about fertility issues until after 6 months.

When my wife got pregnant for the first time, she was 25 and I was 30. We decided to try and It was a hole in 1. We tried once and it happened. (we always used protection even while married due to a fear of getting pregnant because we didn't have much money). The second time we wanted it, she got pregnant quick again, but we lost our child.

 

[teh_pwn]

Yeah, we tried for almost a year and just before the conception we were at a fertility clinic. My wife has hormone problems and my tests of that day came out (lol) shitty - basically i was shooting blanks. Changed my diet, started a more active lifestyle, took supplements and bam! Pregnant. I was also sick when i did my test and that and the meds i was taking fucked up my sperm count.
On the other hamd our friends also wanted to have a child at the same time and they made it after a month. So yeah, life aint always fair

What kind of dietary changes did you make if you don't mind me asking? When we asked her OBGYN what I can do, she was like "it doesn't matter...just don't smoke weed". lol

This is true.
At first, we had unprotected sex almost everyday for like 5 months and nothing happened.

Ah, okay this is much more realistic. It just jumped out at me because every time in one of those romantic sitcom TV shows a worman gets pregnant on the first try my wife is like "why...?! See we're infertile" and I try to remind her it's fiction that even if you're pristine healthy that if you miss the ovulation pregnancy doesn't happen.

 

[captainraincoat]

Congrats and welcome to a really cool stage of life where u see you kids become better versions of you

 

[Harlock]

Save money.

 

[Stouffers]

Save money.

That ship has sailed.

 

[Master Of Illusion]

That ain't your kid, OP.

 

[The Pleasure]

Save money.

Live better
Paternity test

 

[Nester99]

What was the real reason she broke up with you? If you don’t know that’s a red flag for a paternity issue. God speed

 

[Cleared_Hot]

1) Engaged
2) Pregnant
3) I don't love you anymore and we should break up
4) Reluctantly having baby but still says she doesn't love you. Still engaged?

What the fuck? I have never heard of this happening quite like this.

You sound like a very supportive and kind person, but your inability to think about your own benefit is going to get you hurt and destroyed. Was the relationship strained before this? What were the previous 1.5 years like? Anyway, best of luck. Maybe it is just nerves, but usually it's the other way around and the woman is excited about marriage and the kid, and the guy is the nervous one.

Seriously this chick sounds mental. She was willing to spend the rest of her life with you but having a child changed that?! W T F

Good luck to you though man. You'll be a good dad. I'm also having a baby in April. A girl. First one. Been married three years though and my wife still loves me. I'd be seriously concerned with her mental wellness if she turned like your lady did. That isn't normal. At all. She needs you now more than ever. That baby might not be yours dude.

 

[Ingeniero]

I reread the thread before posting this , man that was wild.

Ok, this is an update and closure to the story.

After a few weeks, girlfriend kept on acting like a b***, but slowly improved her mood, also her mom interceded and made her think things again.
I guess hormones war or craziness went away slowly and we got together again like 3-4 months ago. Corona quarantine season also helped us because we had a lot of time to talk and replan things.
I feel bad for doubting her for a moment (and this thread didn’t help, lol), but happily things went back to normal.
The baby boy was born 3 days ago and he is so cute and healthy. He looks a lot like me, but he looks exactly like my dad in his younger days, like his mini him.
We will get married eventually when Covid and travelling is safe again, so maybe next year.
I’m posting this while she is breast feeding the baby on the bed, smiling.
Thanks for reading.
Peace.

 

[TheMan]

I reread the thread before posting this , man that was wild.

Ok, this is an update and closure to the story.

After a few weeks, girlfriend kept on acting like a b***, but slowly improved her mood, also her mom interceded and made her think things again.
I guess hormones war or craziness went away slowly and we got together again like 3-4 months ago. Corona quarantine season also helped us because we had a lot of time to talk and replan things.
I feel bad for doubting her for a moment (and this thread didn’t help, lol), but happily things went back to normal.
The baby boy was born 3 days ago and he is so cute and healthy. He looks a lot like me, but he looks exactly like my dad in his younger days, like his mini him.
We will get married eventually when Covid and travelling is safe again, so maybe next year.
I’m posting this while she is breast feeding the baby on the bed, smiling.
Thanks for reading.
Peace.

Sounds like a familiar story (i used to have an associated tag before the great purging)

Anyway good luck with the baby.

 

[and 3 others]

yeah but what next gen console are you buying!?!?

 

[Lone Wolf]

I reread the thread before posting this , man that was wild.

Ok, this is an update and closure to the story.

After a few weeks, girlfriend kept on acting like a b***, but slowly improved her mood, also her mom interceded and made her think things again.
I guess hormones war or craziness went away slowly and we got together again like 3-4 months ago. Corona quarantine season also helped us because we had a lot of time to talk and replan things.
I feel bad for doubting her for a moment (and this thread didn’t help, lol), but happily things went back to normal.
The baby boy was born 3 days ago and he is so cute and healthy. He looks a lot like me, but he looks exactly like my dad in his younger days, like his mini him.
We will get married eventually when Covid and travelling is safe again, so maybe next year.
I’m posting this while she is breast feeding the baby on the bed, smiling.
Thanks for reading.
Peace.

All the best brother. Don’t forget to try the breast milk.

 

[Ingeniero]

yeah but what next gen console are you buying!?!?

PS5 fam, I will need lots of kids games in a couple of years.

 

[SpartanN92]

Congrats! I had my first 9 months ago and it changes your life (for the better though).

Best of luck. Enjoy every second, I promise you while the first month or two seems like it lasts an eternity (from lack of sleep) it really does go by soooooo fast.

 

[quickwhips]

Congrats. I have 2 boys 1 and 5 it is the most amazing thing to see them grow and learn. It is also wonderful having a great wife to grow old with and share these experiences. Good luck!

 

[Cunth]

Congrats. My wife hates me too. Hormones eh...

 

[Azelover]

Congratulations!

This is the end of life as you know it... for better or for worse.

Good luck!

 

[Cleared_Hot]

Being a dad is the greatest. I'm holding my almost-3-months-old daughter right now. She passed out on my chest. It's an absolute joy being a father I love it ..

 

[MiyazakiHatesKojima]

 

[Doczu]

What kind of dietary changes did you make if you don't mind me asking? When we asked her OBGYN what I can do, she was like "it doesn't matter...just don't smoke weed". lol

Wow, this reply will way lttp, but i didn't saw your quote back then.
Less fats, more greens to balance out my vitamines needs. I had a bit shitty diet, to say it lightly.
But i'm more than sure that the fucked up test was because i was recovering from a sickness and i've waited too manydays to jack off. It came out watery and shitty that day, normally it aint so "empty".
Stress also didn't help, a bad mindset may change a lot

I reread the thread before posting this , man that was wild.

Ok, this is an update and closure to the story.

After a few weeks, girlfriend kept on acting like a b***, but slowly improved her mood, also her mom interceded and made her think things again.
I guess hormones war or craziness went away slowly and we got together again like 3-4 months ago. Corona quarantine season also helped us because we had a lot of time to talk and replan things.
I feel bad for doubting her for a moment (and this thread didn’t help, lol), but happily things went back to normal.
The baby boy was born 3 days ago and he is so cute and healthy. He looks a lot like me, but he looks exactly like my dad in his younger days, like his mini him.
We will get married eventually when Covid and travelling is safe again, so maybe next year.
I’m posting this while she is breast feeding the baby on the bed, smiling.
Thanks for reading.
Peace.

Congrats OP, it will be a crazy ride!