Hey all!
I've applied with and am currently waiting for a response from Interac to be an ALT in Japan. I'm guessing I'll be frequenting this thread with some questions.
Just for a bit about me: I'm 23, male, I have a BS in computer science, and I know very little Japanese (but I'm trying to learn more). I have hiragana down, mostly good with katakana, and am slowly losing my mind learning kanji. A good friend of mine has taught me enough to know some basic sentence structure and some phrases and stuff.
I've read plenty about what to expect being culturally displaced and I feel like I have the right expectations and attitude going into it.m. However, I do have a pretty heavy question that perhaps someone with some firsthand experience can help with:
What is it going to be like for me being openly gay in Japan? I've read about this and done some research, and I know homosexuality is a taboo there that people may not often publicly harass me for, but it will come with a social stigma. Will I be able to live a happy life there? I'm assuming that if I'm placed in a more rural area then I'm more likely to be under scrutiny and therefore will feel the social pressure more, compared to if I were placed somewhere more populated.
Going back to being closeted is not an option for me really. I've been open for a few years now and I couldn't be happier that way.
Honestly, I don't see how it could be worse than where I currently live (West Virginia, USA). Here, I actually have been verbally harassed in public and have been followed/watched to the point that I feared for my safety. I know in Japan that's less likely, and instead the effects I feel will be a bit more subtle and passive, but I'm still worried about it.
Not that it matters (and I must insert a disclaimer that I absolutely do not judge or discriminate based on this quality, love everyone y'all) but I feel like it applies to this situation: my idiosyncrasies and mannerisms are such that people will probably assume I am straight. Which means this will probably be coming up in conversation which could make things get really uncomfortable really fast. I'm worried about people assuming I'm straight then being visibly uncomfortable when I mention my sexuality ("Do you have a girlfriend?" "No I'm gay actually.") Basically, what would be an elegant way to explain it if it comes up? That's a question that's not specific to Japan but it's one I thought I'd ask.
Sorry to drop such a heavy question so quickly! But any shared advice or experiences would be really valuable and I thank anyone who replies in advance.