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Just found out my girlfriend is cheating on me
- Thread starter kittoo
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Ragelink26
Member
Holy shit that thread was incredible
Earthstrike
Member
Get all your shit first.
SmackDaddy
Member
Paging op! He's prly sleeping right now, or trying to. Man people can be fuckers.
Her, not op. Lol
Also this. All of my girlfriends have been petty af and kept my stuff.
Her, not op. Lol
Also this. All of my girlfriends have been petty af and kept my stuff.
OriginofHysteria
Banned
OP needs to talk to his gf first.
For all we know this dude could just be lying to try and get her to be single.
For all we know this dude could just be lying to try and get her to be single.
Johnny Cage In The Shower
Member
Why the fuck some of you keep posting these? People have all sorts of reasons to get married sooner than later while in a relationship, ideally you do want to pass the 2.5-3 year mark, but life (timing) is not always "ideal"
PSlayer
Member
Honestly you shouldn't had think this was ok. If she made friends on the date app they probably have facebook/twitter/snapchat,etc.. so she could talk to them through it. This was a red flag unfortunely.
soundahfekz
Member
Kill her with kindness my guy
Fuck all this deleting social media blocking etc. nah keep her as a friend on social media, embrace the pain of whatever shows up so that when you're done, the feeling will be involuntary and fully resolved.
Eventually you'll find someone else and you'll be so far removed from what was pain & disdain nothing about her or her life will phase you. There's no better inadvertent dish of comeuppance than truly moving on and finding happiness again
Fuck all this deleting social media blocking etc. nah keep her as a friend on social media, embrace the pain of whatever shows up so that when you're done, the feeling will be involuntary and fully resolved.
Eventually you'll find someone else and you'll be so far removed from what was pain & disdain nothing about her or her life will phase you. There's no better inadvertent dish of comeuppance than truly moving on and finding happiness again
You cant say this and not link it
Angry Grimace
Two cannibals are eating a clown. One turns to the other and says "does something taste funny to you?"
Shadow Puppetry
Member
lol
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Imperial Hot
Banned
What everyone else said but I'd also try to just get one last hate fuck in.
It's cathartic.
It's cathartic.
Naw, the cheater hasn't earned anything. I agree about the no-contact though. Would also suggest informing the other guy if OP hasn't already.
Shadow Puppetry
Member
First page is amazing.
Conkersbadfurday
Member
I know this is off topic, but how the fuck did a "My gf is cheating on me" thread get 93 pages long? Like that's a commitment to wade through.
But you know, not one that guy's g/f would bother with because shes' a cheater :V
Angry Grimace
Two cannibals are eating a clown. One turns to the other and says "does something taste funny to you?"
He took a day before he confronted her (while he was getting advice from GAF), then he confronted her by saying "fancy seeing some more dick?" (that line probably got a few pages alone), there was a lot of fighting and OP posted all of the follow-ups of him moving out. Also a Sunhi video got posted which is usually good for 1000s of posts in and of itself.
This.
Sygma
Member
You first post op almost sounded like you still had a high regard on that bitch.
She was faker than a boobjob bro. She only said this to have you, and obviously she's an awful compulsive liar with a very disgusting narcissistic personality
The fuck out of here man, find someone as awesome as you are. Get disgusted. Let the hate poor into your skin and release that sweet testosterone at the gym or something
You do you op. DEFINITELY let the other dude know and high five your sister because she's the real mvp here
She was faker than a boobjob bro. She only said this to have you, and obviously she's an awful compulsive liar with a very disgusting narcissistic personality
The fuck out of here man, find someone as awesome as you are. Get disgusted. Let the hate poor into your skin and release that sweet testosterone at the gym or something
You do you op. DEFINITELY let the other dude know and high five your sister because she's the real mvp here
Ryzaki009
Member
That video is beautiful. even on a rewatch I'm still cracking up. XD
superdeluxe
Member
Glad you found out before kids etc
TheCthultist
Member
Not really all that surprising. The guy seems fairly level-headed, so nothing in this thread is probably coning as much of a surprise to him. Not really much to add if the situation isn't going to progress until tomorrow anyway.
Hope things work out, boss. Don't do anything super vindictive.
Yeah, it's all speculation at this point. Unless the guy mentioned times when they were together that correlate with her being absent.
God Dayumm
Banned
It's a hilarious form of victim blaming: "It's your fault she cheated because you rushed into marriage". As if there were no people that get cheated 10 years into a relationship
rokkerkory
Member
Choice is easy here. Tell her bye.
hipbabboom
Huh? What did I say? Did I screw up again? :(
This silver lining is often overlooked. You may feel like shit right now but this is the bullet you dodged. The guy who found out was also played. She hurt many people and is a terrible person. Be glad that you have this opportunity to end it here.
Man, it's not easy. I found out my girl of 8 years was sleeping with someone in August last year. I was a mess for a few months but eventually, you move on and find happiness again.
My advice to you would be to confront it, cut off communication and let yourself grieve. Cry, punch things, hit the gym, but do not whatsoever take her back or anything like that. She can't be trusted and you need to start again. Now is the hard part but it gets easier and you'll be okay. Lean on family and friends and if that isn't an option, we'll help you through the worst of it. I'm now with a much better (and better-looking girl) and barely even think about my ex anymore.
If you want to distract yourself, read my story here: http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1274907
My advice to you would be to confront it, cut off communication and let yourself grieve. Cry, punch things, hit the gym, but do not whatsoever take her back or anything like that. She can't be trusted and you need to start again. Now is the hard part but it gets easier and you'll be okay. Lean on family and friends and if that isn't an option, we'll help you through the worst of it. I'm now with a much better (and better-looking girl) and barely even think about my ex anymore.
If you want to distract yourself, read my story here: http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1274907
chromhound
Member
What he said
BuddyTheBestPuppy
Member
A bit off-topic, but this happened to a friend of mine. His girlfriend of 7 years left him, while she was in Spain pursuing her masters. This happened last year around this time, I caught up with him this summer and he was still a mess.
Sometimes it feels better to be alone since I don't have to deal with this stuff. :/
Sometimes it feels better to be alone since I don't have to deal with this stuff. :/
kittoo
Cretinously credulous
Thanks for all the posts and help guys. Was trying to sleep. Could only sleep for 2 hours or so.
Looks like there is some confusion about how the guy knows my sister. They are FB friends since quite some time and earlier the guy used to live in the same town as my sis and thats how they met. Then after a while he moved to where my GF lives and thats where he met my GF through this dating app. So it wasnt that this random guy was messaging my sister about a girl he was dating. He just saw the FB pic of my sis and GF together so wondered how my sis knew my GF and asked on FB.
As of now the plan is to just meet face to face and let her know that I know this and just in case she had some explanation. I wouldve ghosted but since the guy might be lying or exaggerating I just want to make sure that what I am thinking is true. The plan is to see if she still has that app and what talks she has had with this guy. As soon as I get a concrete proof that she is still using the app and/or about the chats, I am out forever.
Looks like there is some confusion about how the guy knows my sister. They are FB friends since quite some time and earlier the guy used to live in the same town as my sis and thats how they met. Then after a while he moved to where my GF lives and thats where he met my GF through this dating app. So it wasnt that this random guy was messaging my sister about a girl he was dating. He just saw the FB pic of my sis and GF together so wondered how my sis knew my GF and asked on FB.
As of now the plan is to just meet face to face and let her know that I know this and just in case she had some explanation. I wouldve ghosted but since the guy might be lying or exaggerating I just want to make sure that what I am thinking is true. The plan is to see if she still has that app and what talks she has had with this guy. As soon as I get a concrete proof that she is still using the app and/or about the chats, I am out forever.
haha
lol
Bruce Springsteen
Member
As simple as this sounds, its THE best and only thing to do
OP doesnt need a big confrontation with her, its over
Okay and if she lies or sugar coats the truth which is likely...
Aizo
Banned
Right. OP seems to be holding onto hope that I don't believe is there. It's just too suspicious. I wouldn't truse her.
paragonpro
Banned
Leave her as quick as possible but also make sure your open to hear what may have driven her away in the first place. Doesnt make what she did any less shitty though. Also next time id wait about two years before you discuss marriage. And live with them first.
kittoo
Cretinously credulous
I do plan to just keep her phone aside as soon as I meet her and then go through it to make sure. If she doesnt let me, I anyway know the answer.
Auto_aim1
MeisaMcCaffrey
I think that's the right thing to do so good luck with this.
Man, personally id Approach the dude before her at this point. If anything it seems like hes clueless. Talking to him will give you more proof than anything else. No reason to go through her phone. No reason to even hear what she has to say or see her. You have evidence and hes just as likely to give you the proof you need if you really need the closure. This way youre helping out someone else from falling into the same trap and yourself.
The best plan is to just dip out of the increasingly toxic situation entirely.
Oh and get fucking tested
adamsappel
Member
Don't go through her phone. Just dump her and move on.