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Aarglefarg

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AudioNoir said:
Thank you!

It's a weird one because of what it is, but I'll explain-- we're in our mid-thirties and started dating in high school. Back then, I knew I liked girls, but I also liked boys. Hadn't been with either in any sort of romantic or sexual way, so I guess there wasn't much to base anything off of? Just a "sure I like him/her! He/she is fun and cute!"

Husband and I started dating casually at the end of grade 12. Over the next couple years, I'd have experience with girls (he didn't care) and him. I loved being with the girls :) but didn't meet any I felt "more" for. After a while, husband and I decided fuck it, let's be exclusive. We get along so well, the chemistry is more than I could ask for, he knows what he's doing sexually.

In my late twenties, I had a massive breakdown and we split up. I moved out for a little while (a year maybe?) and during that time was diagnosed with OCD and depression. My head was a disaster, and I more or less decided he could do better, etc etc. I missed him, though, and eventually we started talking about the things I would think and how I felt re: OCD thoughts and the like. I also told him I felt guilty for being in a relationship with a guy when I preferred women overall. He was just... stupidly understanding. I mean, I don't think I've ever met someone that open, and who actually got what I was feeling. We had the best talks we'll probably ever have during that time, because of the situation and stuff. At that point, it hit me that he could have a muppet for genitals and I'd still be with the guy. I told him that, too, and he thought it was hilarious (but knew what I meant).

Essentially, I know I'm in a weird situation, but I'm with someone who's seen me at my absolute worst and was beyond supportive. We'll be together til one of us dies, or til one of us suffers a massive personality change and goes batshit asshole :)

It's been nearly impossible to get into the gay community in our town-- no one seems to buy a girl who prefers girls being married to a male, no matter the story behind it. What I know is that it's made me very aware of how strange relationships and feelings can be. I like to think it's made me more open minded? Maybe. I have no idea.
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Welcome. :)

Would you describe yourself as biromantic? Also I wonder when people say they 'prefer x' with regards to sexuality, whether this is an exclusive preference or comparative.
 
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AudioNoir

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Aarglefarg said:
Welcome. :)

Would you describe yourself as biromantic? Also I wonder when people say they 'prefer x' with regards to sexuality, whether this is an exclusive preference or comparative.
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Thank you :)

I don't think so? When I think of men, I can't fathom any sort of relationship with one beyond family or friendship, or wanting to "try", especially where I know I've been with women and physically, was happy. If something happened and we weren't together anymore, I'd be with a girl.

I think what I have now relies heavily on familiarity, and history. It'd be impossible to match it.
 
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Aarglefarg

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AudioNoir said:
Thank you :)

I don't think so? When I think of men, I can't fathom any sort of relationship with one beyond family or friendship, or wanting to "try", especially where I know I've been with women and physically, was happy. If something happened and we weren't together anymore, I'd be with a girl.

I think what I have now relies heavily on familiarity, and history. It'd be impossible to match it.
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I understand. This type of situation is probably pretty common.
 
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Mumei

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Ekai said:
Me too. Loved Eternal Darkness quite a bit. Still a bit disappointed that we never got that sequel that was in the works.
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I know. :(

I played through it multiple times for all the endings and it was so disappointing to never get a sequel.

~excised for length~
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I see. Persona 4 was my first Persona, so I didn't have a basis for comparison in terms of what it did better or worse than other games in the series. I also thought that there were some issues with stereotypes, but they weren't significant enough to impact my enjoyment. I didn't see it as a decline from a previous standard and sort of took it as a representation of an immature adolescent attitude, you know? I don't think you're wrong to feel the way you did, of course; I just reacted to it differently.

Are you interested in Persona 5? I haven't bought a new video game system since I bought a 3DS, and I haven't bought a console since getting a PS2 back in 2006. I really, really want to play Persona 5 if it's half as good as I'm expecting it to be.

Though maybe I should play my copy of Persona 3 before I get myself worked up about 5.

Agreed on a SoA sequel! I still get chills with the Dark Rift and Lower Sky to this day. < . > A HD re-make/sequel to SoA is like my Shenmue 3. <3
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Sequel! I could take or leave a remake, honestly; I want a continuation. I haven't played an RPG with that sense of genuine adventure and discovery before or since.

Agreed too on Majora's Mask! It felt the most ambitious to me and it engaged me way more than Ocarina of Time did.
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Mm. I also liked that it has significantly less dead time than any other Zelda game I've played; I think it is the densest
Zelda I've played.
 
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zaccheus

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BeesEight said:
Welcome.

Question for you, how old are you? I'm going to assume you're young and that you haven't had a lot of time or experience to work out your feelings. If that is an unfair assumption, I apologize.

But if you are sort of "new to this" I'd recommend not getting too worked up about labels. Just use whatever you feel comfortable describing yourself as even if it is as simple as "I'm complicated." Sexuality is a complex issue and there's no rush to have it all figured out. For many, myself included, feelings and preferences can change over time and that's perfectly natural. Finally, only you can say what you are.

As for your question, no you're not doomed. I would pose some questions to you. Why do you find it difficult to form an emotional connection with guys? Have you tried? Have you tried any sexual activity with men or women? What you may find arousing might not actually be what you really like. My suggestion would be to keep an open mind and experiment. Assuming you are young, this shouldn't be too difficult as it's rare for early relationships to last. Take time to discover who you are and who knows what you'll learn.

Obviously, do so safely too. I would hope that goes without saying. BUt if you have any more questions feel free to ask them. There's lots of support here and out there in general.
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I don't find it difficult to form an emotional connection with guys, as I have a ton of guy friends. Any semblance of sexual attraction that may have been there goes away and is replaced with a complete platonic relationship, however. Girls on the other hand I still get those high school heart flutters when a girl I really like is around. I guess I'm more concerned about finding a girl that is okay with my bisexuality.
 
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Electrichapel

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Hello GayGAF!!

Finally decided to post in here.

Came out to my mom today, in response to getting my heart broken last night. It has been a weird 24 hours.

Hoping to post in here more often!
 
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Elaniel

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Hey everyone! I've been a lurker on here for a long time, and thought, why not finally post?

I'm terrible at introductions.

Your gender?
Male

Your sexual orientation?
Gay

Where Are You From?
Military brat, father served in US Air Force but live in the UK now.

Where Do You Live?
Coventry

How Old Are you?
31 (Ugh...)

Favorite Type of Music?
Big fan of Japanese music, but as a teenager (and still now) love Sheryl Crow, Jewel, Sarah Mclachlan, and No Doubt.

Profession or Career interest?
Facilities / Development Manager. Certainly don't get paid near the going rate, so am looking elsewhere.

Favorite video game(s)?
Mirror's Edge, Final Fantasy, Shenmue, but was a huge fan of DDR in years past.

What are your hobbies (other than gaming)?
Archery
Ice Hockey (Had a scholarship for University but damaged my leg in my senior year of high school.)

Not sure what else to share. I've been in a relationship for 8 years now, more or less happy, but I've been a bit of a loner the last few years. Confidence issues, but working on getting over those. I have some great online gaming friends, but actual "in person" friends I'm severely lacking.

So.... hello to everyone here.
 
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Kater

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Welcome to the thread, Elaniel!

I feel your pain when it comes to having few close-by friends. My friends live all over the world too. ^^

But I'm going out more again, just today I was at a board game table with a bunch of mostly like-minded people and it was great fun.

I hope you can find some way to meet new people too. :)
 
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Elaniel

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Thanks both for the welcome.

I'm trying to get out of my comfort zone, but any time I'm not at work I just want to relax and play some games. All other free time I like to spend with my partner, but I struggle to find any further time for socialising.
I know it doesn't matter how many people you have in your life, as long as you're happy, but having a few close friends would be good. (You can't always talk to your partner about everything, especially if they annoy you!) :)
 
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Electrichapel

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MetalGearZed said:
wow,so many new people. Welcome \o/ i hope you find normality soon. who broke your heart?
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My ex, we dated for only 2 months and I found out last night he had another bf the entire time I was with him. So yeah that sucked hard to hear but after what he did to me last night I want nothing to do with him. Onto new beginning!

Wow so many newbies in one day.
 
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Aarglefarg

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zaccheus said:
I guess I'm more concerned about finding a girl that is okay with my bisexuality.
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You can do that. There can be bad experiences but heaps of people are good with it. It's good to be clear from the start to figure out if they're biphobic from the start.

Electrichapel said:
My ex, we dated for only 2 months and I found out last night he had another bf the entire time I was with him. So yeah that sucked hard to hear but after what he did to me last night I want nothing to do with him. Onto new beginning!

Wow so many newbies in one day.
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Seduce the other boyfriend away from him. :)
 
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Elitist1945

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All this talk about GAYCATION so I watched it. Love where its going, praise to Page for doing this and going deeper into issues related to LGBT communities.
 
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RatskyWatsky

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Electrichapel said:
Hello GayGAF!!

Finally decided to post in here.

Hoping to post in here more often!
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Elaniel said:
Hey everyone! I've been a lurker on here for a long time, and thought, why not finally post?

So.... hello to everyone here.
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Dany

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I'm so sleepy. &#128564;Work is dragging now. I feel bad. I'm doing nothing in a Patients room. While a coworker had to work the entire floor by herself
 
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What It's Like To Be A Gay Black Man Who Has Only Dated White Men
When I'm dating a white man, I occasionally feel like I need to confront the issue of race head-on and acknowledge the difference in life experiences between me and my partner. It can be frustrating, but also deeply enriching, to teach someone about my cultural upbringing. But the older I get, the more I find myself wanting a partner who can relate to me without needing to be taught. I’ve become increasingly drawn to the concept of Black love, which celebrates Black couples and affirms Black pride within relationships, and I eventually want to experience this.

There are also times when I feel like my white partners are trying to overcompensate for their whiteness. They start social justice conversations, bringing up racism and homophobia almost as if they're trying to prove how down they are. It makes me wonder why they’re interested in me. Are they using me as an experimental phase? Does it give them a sense of moral superiority around other white people, as if they are more progressive? Does it make them feel less guilty about gentrifying the neighborhood?

My understanding of relationships is developing, as is my knowledge of race, but I’m still unpacking how my sexuality really relates to my Blackness. As I continue on this road to self-discovery and acceptance, I often think about my gay uncles who died, and I wish they could have been a part of this journey.
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RatskyWatsky said:
is there any way to get the paint to stay this way on the canvas permanently? Dried, I mean, so you could frame it?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5WHs74r4NVc

@ 5:15

like, it's so runny that you'd probably have to leave it out for weeks and put it under heat lamps or something...Or is fluid paint mainly done just to make cool videos?
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That's a lot of wasted paint.

It depends on what type of paint it is. Oil takes forever to dry. Tempera will eventually but not very quickly at that quantity and will probably crack after a while because the outer layer will dry out first, then the moisture inside will try to escape creating fissures in the "skin." I don't really know of anyway you could without some kind of damage. You may have to bake it at a low heat and have it slowly dehydrate but that may require a special paint. Maybe you could use latex paint instead?

In other words: I've helped not one bit.
 
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