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LGBTQIA+ |OT9| The Return of the Queen
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Ugh, I got Noctis.
End me now
by sucking me into a crystal while you explain the plot
Earthbound64
Banned
Your gender? Your sexual identity?
Male, cismale
Your sexual orientation?
Demisexual / asexual. Sex-neutral / sex-negative. Touch-positive. Along those lines.
Where Are You From?
Massachusetts
Where Do You Live?
Connecticut
How Old Are you?
34
Favorite Type of Music?
Silly love songs, and various other things
Profession or Career interest?
Education, technology, stuff.
Favorite video game(s)?
Chrono Trigger, Earthbound, SNES JRPGs
What are your hobbies (other than gaming)?
Cats, learning
Male, cismale
Your sexual orientation?
Demisexual / asexual. Sex-neutral / sex-negative. Touch-positive. Along those lines.
Where Are You From?
Massachusetts
Where Do You Live?
Connecticut
How Old Are you?
34
Favorite Type of Music?
Silly love songs, and various other things
Profession or Career interest?
Education, technology, stuff.
Favorite video game(s)?
Chrono Trigger, Earthbound, SNES JRPGs
What are your hobbies (other than gaming)?
Cats, learning
Your gender? Your sexual identity?
Male,
Your sexual orientation?
Sexless Gay
Where Are You From?
NY
Where Do You Live?
Las Vegas
How Old Are you?
29
Favorite Type of Music?
Pop, some rock edm
Profession or Career interest?
Airline coordinator, hope to make money off my body or personality one day
Favorite video game(s)?
FF series, anything quick and engaging I can play on the toilet
What are your hobbies (other than gaming)?
Magic the gathering, lifting weights, cooking, being depressed
Male,
Your sexual orientation?
Sexless Gay
Where Are You From?
NY
Where Do You Live?
Las Vegas
How Old Are you?
29
Favorite Type of Music?
Pop, some rock edm
Profession or Career interest?
Airline coordinator, hope to make money off my body or personality one day
Favorite video game(s)?
FF series, anything quick and engaging I can play on the toilet
What are your hobbies (other than gaming)?
Magic the gathering, lifting weights, cooking, being depressed
Heavy question: does anyone have issues with a desire to be perfect all the time?
It's an issue I recognise in myself that I think stems as much from a history of shite self-esteem throughout my pre-late teen years as feeling a need to over compensate for my sexuality. I think in general I still tie a lot of my self-worth to 'success', even though I recognise the absurdity of it.
The stress of feeling like this is leaving me exhausted when it comes to uni stuff. Any advice/experience for breaking out of this?
It's an issue I recognise in myself that I think stems as much from a history of shite self-esteem throughout my pre-late teen years as feeling a need to over compensate for my sexuality. I think in general I still tie a lot of my self-worth to 'success', even though I recognise the absurdity of it.
The stress of feeling like this is leaving me exhausted when it comes to uni stuff. Any advice/experience for breaking out of this?
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
I work too!
For the last 6 years I've had a final exam on or around my birthday. And for the first time since graduating I end up working on my b-day.Also my middle name is patricio
Earthbound64
Banned
Moonlight did not grab me at all. La La Land continues to be perpetually robbed.
Noctis Lucis Caelum
Noctis Lucis Caelum
Nomadic Sparks
Banned
People are raging racists, no matter what skin color or nationality that person.
Educate the people who genuinely want to know and leave the asshole outside in the color.
e: I do hate to sound like an jerkoff but these mindless reddit libertarian edgelord motherfuckers arguing crime statistic from a website called "The Daily Stormer" is genuinely enraging and what not.
1) They're entertaining
2) This post put it into context pretty succintly
It rings true. Everyone is all gun ho about social progress until you come to the thing they enjoy. Then you're overstepping your bounds. In my years on GAF I have seen tons of self-professed liberals who bitched and moaned about the modern reexamination of female depiction in video games, or greater emphasis on gay characters. Vague, non-committal support of a "noble cause" is easy and costs nothing, which is why it's so freely given. But the moment you attach a cost to it, even an imaginary one, they start frothing at the mouth.
Nomadic Sparks
Banned
The Emperor
Member
So true.
It doesn't take much to weed out the superficial feminists and lgbtqia+ allies.
I appreciate even their superficial support, but it is disheartening to see ultimately it is more of a facade than something they would truly fight for the moment a bit of self-reflection or assessment of their sources of entertainment is asked of them.
Wow how did that happen?
CornBurrito
Member
What???
This is an awesome post. Thank you so much dude
Oh shit, I hope you don't feel bad physically, wish the best for you
Thanks!
So what's everyone's plan for the night?
Gym, cleaning and Tumblr for me most likely
Just got doing gym and my weekly test and blackboard posting for school.
So as of now some Horizon and Widowmaker/Mercy fan fiction unless my bro hits me up for some OW later on.
I'm good, just a complicated situation... It's all gonna be better soon. Thank you all
I live in the Northeast so gonna be observing the snow. I wish I could go to the gym but I'm sure it's gonna be closed tomorrow. I can't seem to get myself to workout at home, too many distractions.
Earthbound64
Banned
I'm going to be relocating at the end of the month to an apartment complex in Connecticut (about 30 minutes from where I am in CT right now) with an on-site exercise room (bikes and treadmills and weights and such) as well as an indoor pool. I'm really looking forward to it - since I never get out to the gym otherwise, and walking doesn't work too well when there are feet of snow.
You Know Nothing
Member
Tell them.
I still haven't actually played it. lmao
Made a pact that I would not buy a new video game until I lost a certain amount of weight.
RIP Mass Erect and Persona 5
I mean I don't think you'll be missing out on much with Mass Erect (ile Dysfunction)
But Godsona 5 will surely end careers. B*oware's included.
You Know Nothing
Member
Mobile posting is a fucking struggle.
DyslexicAlucard
Member
Guys, I can't tell you how nice life has been since I started on ADHD medication. It's like this mental weight has been lifted, and I can actually accomplish things I once thought impossible. I was actually getting emotional with my psychological nurse recently (in a good way,) because I finally understand so much about my life.
I know why I took so long to understand things, to read, to do a project.
I know why I'd put anything that took any mental effort off, over and over.
I know why I was constantly so tired, especially after school or reading.
I know why I would drift off mid-conversations, even if I was legitimately invested in a conversation.
It's just crazy, honestly. I feel like a whole new person lately. It's funny how sometimes, hitting what feels like rock bottom is a blessing. This time, it gave me the impetus to find out what was actually going on with me, instead of just treating symptoms.
Anyone that feels similarly, I really do recommend you see someone. Making that first step is the most important part, and it can do wonders. I'm also open to talking, if anyone has questions or the like!
Oh, and a quick aside: I got a new hat! I never thought this style would suit me, but I've gotten a few compliments on it already from strangers.
Sorry for the redness of the photo. But between the color of the room and my beard, it couldn't be helped.
I know why I took so long to understand things, to read, to do a project.
I know why I'd put anything that took any mental effort off, over and over.
I know why I was constantly so tired, especially after school or reading.
I know why I would drift off mid-conversations, even if I was legitimately invested in a conversation.
It's just crazy, honestly. I feel like a whole new person lately. It's funny how sometimes, hitting what feels like rock bottom is a blessing. This time, it gave me the impetus to find out what was actually going on with me, instead of just treating symptoms.
Anyone that feels similarly, I really do recommend you see someone. Making that first step is the most important part, and it can do wonders. I'm also open to talking, if anyone has questions or the like!
Oh, and a quick aside: I got a new hat! I never thought this style would suit me, but I've gotten a few compliments on it already from strangers.
Sorry for the redness of the photo. But between the color of the room and my beard, it couldn't be helped.
Will keep an eye for the review thread to see the meltdowns if someone gives it a 7 or 6
Looking good DyslexicAlucard!
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
ShmeebAlina
Member
Well the fact you recognised it and where it's rooted is a good start to changing it. Next you gotta be able to catch yourself when you're being overly critical of yourself and ask if the thought is helpful or just getting in the way of getting things done. Also it's unfair to attribute so much self-worth to being perfect if you wouldn't do that to somebody else.
I mainly had issues with perfecting artwork, but also have problems when typing emails/posts and essays were a nightmare. With art I try to remember that it's more a learning process than getting an end result, focus on the improvements I'm making, and saying it's worthless compared to someone who can do better is a bit silly, since they've had experience and made many mistakes themselves. Also remember the positive things people have said about my work. When other people are around I also kind of laugh about/almost parody the thoughts in my head, brings to light how absurd they are. Dunno how much that will apply to you since I don't know what you're doing at uni.
This link might be helpful if you wanna read up on it. Just remember it can take time, I'm def not 100% over it, but I was aware enough to get things done and graduated from uni. Best of luck.
This is super awesome and I'm glad it worked out for you.
This is common for gays I think. In college i threw myself into a ton of different student groups so I would be "too busy" to date and so I had plenty of non-dating things to talk about at parties and stuff.
Basically, love, and feeling loved, is a big part of building self-esteem. For myself, I never had romantic love as a teen so I tried compensating by being a good student, good at video games, good at comedy. Kind of a doomed, fruitless search for some objective measure that would "prove" that I am worthy of being liked/loved.
My suggestion would be to try to outline a goal/set of goals, then try to aim for those as long as those goals come from within - don't try to achieve the arbitrary benchmarks made for society.
Edit: And to be honest, I think this "overcompensation through excellence in areas outside of the one you're deficient in" contributes to some of the toxicity in gay culture. For example, many gays (myself sadly included) chase a "perfect" body because it's a generally objective thing to optimize toward with tangible results. I try to keep the standard myself (I like cuddly guys of many body types), but for my own self-worth, improving my body is a scaffold that is doomed to fall once as I get older.
The bleak part though, is that it is working. As I've lost weight, guys who wouldn't respond a year ago now message me and want to hang out. You try to get in shape hoping that once you hit a benchmark, you can be seen as a person, but in reality you're just trading in one form of objectification for another, less painful variant.
Not enough snow here! Only delays but places are opening.
That's awesome! I would love to live in an apartment​complex like that. Enjoy~
Nice. My dream is to get a house and have a big area for some weights.
You look so much like a philosophy professor I had. Every time I look at your selfies I think of Mr. J, one of my favorite professors.
Thanks Ratsky!
That's awesome! I would love to live in an apartment​complex like that. Enjoy~
Luckily my gym is at home
Nice. My dream is to get a house and have a big area for some weights.
Sorry for the redness of the photo. But between the color of the room and my beard, it couldn't be helped.
You look so much like a philosophy professor I had. Every time I look at your selfies I think of Mr. J, one of my favorite professors.
what the fuck
I'm sorry that happened to you hobo
stay strong~
Thanks Ratsky!
So this may seem like an odd question/problem, but lately I've been feeling, bad or I don't know, guilty, for not having more/any black gay friends. Full disclosure, i'm black. Its odd because growing up and early in my 20s my groups of friends would joke that we needed a "token white" for our group and now I feel kind of alone in a sense. Don't get me wrong I love my friends now and my best friend is white but sometimes I wish I had someone there that could get it as far as the black gay story goes.
I have only two gay friends, and I'm not too close to them. They're more like acquaintances. I don't think you get to choose your friends for the most part, they're people that through exposition and socialising bond with you, so aiming for a perfectly diverse group of friends is somewhat of an unreasonable task, IMHO.
Marketing was a giant mistake to get a degree in. Literally all the jobs that are calling me are stupid ass door to door sales bullshit, which I'm surprised still exist in this day and age. I hate sales and that's not why I chose this "career" (I can't call it a career when I haven't actually started).
Life was a mistake TBH
Life was a mistake TBH
I totally get what you mean. Two of my best friends in the entire world are both brown, Muslim, and on the spectrum. Talking to them about my problems is just so different than when I do it with other people because they understand the struggle without me having to explain the layers and intricacies of the dynamics of my life. Like... it's just easier.
*sigh* I feel the same with my Advertising degree. Sometimes it feels like there's no middle ground between those jobs and ones that ask for a shit-ton of past work experience.
I'm still applying for those jobs I'm interested in despite them calling for 10 years experience when they're marked entry level. I swear I hate myself for not having had an internship, although that's hardly the biggest mistake I've ever made. The Air Force is looking more and more appealing.
I would say I'd join you but I have mild asthma so I'd probably be turned down for that as well. lol
I mean I have to lose a sizable amount of weight before I'm even eligible and I should probably quit smoking haha. I dunno if they'd turn out away for asthma though I imagine Meycin would know better.
Head of Vengarl
Banned
I'll be interested in what Anita Sarkeesian thinks of that game. I haven't played it but from what I've seen, it has some rather blatant fanservice with the upskirt/thong leotard stuff?
Platinum is god-tier when it comes to gameplay though.
Body-wise I'm in a similar boat - I tell myself it's for health and feeling good but I just as much appreciate feeling slightly more attractive/sexualized, both of which are probably unhealthy.
Really appreciate the advice. If I replaced music with art I can safely say I feel exactly as you described. I'll read the link, thank you very much. I did the whole cbt thing a few years ago but still definitely hold myself to a different standard to other people. Kind of a passive arrogance now that you highlight it.
Quote of the day, genius!
I really wanted to love it. I'll probably buy it again on pc as a finished game before dropping it 15 hours in.
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