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Mom goes off on store clerk who made racist comment to her kids
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Corpsepyre
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Haha, awesome! She really did go off on that store clerk, alright, and made it sound like she was in a Tarantino film while doing so.
And she was right to be furious but I'm not sure how good the lesson to her kids is with the cursing and screaming.
She's even cursing at the guy on the phone.
Yell. Make a scene. Or curse out of earshot of the kids. But cursing in front of your kids is counterproductive.
She's even cursing at the guy on the phone.
Yell. Make a scene. Or curse out of earshot of the kids. But cursing in front of your kids is counterproductive.
Necrophage
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Was this the right approach? Maybe, maybe not. But she sure as hell got her point across.
She was absolutely justified in calling the employee out, but that wasn't a productive way to handle it.
I don't mind her embarrassing the employee, after all the employee allegedly embarrassed her kids, but don't go full ham I'm front of your kids. What kind of lesson are they going to take away from that? Escalation is the opposite of what you should be showing them.
Don't start none, won't be none.
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Rumblebones
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The mom had every right to complain. Don't agree with the way she went off on the clerk in front of her children though. But fuck it, the point was made.
crimzonflame
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No the world needs more mothers like her.
CassidyIzABeast
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I agree the world needs passionate protective and righteous unafraid mothers. I'm merely suggesting "you kids wait right here I'll be back in five minutes" would be an improvement to this exact same scenario.
HIGH DEF JEFF
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Well shes right and has some good points but she did that thing where she repeats it so many times she starts to confuse herself.
"You will respect the money and make sure you get a check." Quit while youre ahead lady.
"You will respect the money and make sure you get a check." Quit while youre ahead lady.
Oh no! Bad words! Those poor kids have had their mind corrupted by those words!
I think you have hearing problems because she clearly says, "You will respect the money that makes sure your ass got a check"
Gordon Shumway
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But did she protest correctly? Should have taken a knee. Oh, wait. Thread, do your thing..
Wolfgunblood Garopa
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There's a racist ass teacher in my kid's school who say racist shit just like that to pre-K kids. Pre-K kids. I hope one day a great woman like that would go into that classroom and hold the teacher accountable.
Rimon-hanit
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Honestly if the comment would of been toward an adult, I wouldn't agree with her reaction, I mean it's not like anything going to change for her or the clerk. but that shit was towards her kids she had to cut that down.
The kids were obviously dressed up to go out I assume. The mom wasn't. After she heard what happened she probably bolted there.
I wear traditional clothes outside the house too. Doesn't mean my mom is wearing them at the same time.
ratcliffja
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Normal clothes?
Z_Y
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But letting them witness this also shows her kids how to stand up for yourself. I think I'm ok with this. Lost it at "raggedy mother fucker". lol
If I had knowledge of something like that happening, I would feel obligated to report my concerns to the school's administration. Have you not done so?
shattyboombatty
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It's impossible to tell if the "trick or treating" question was meant offensively or not since it's not shown, but somehow I doubt it was meant as "I know what your clothing represents, and I'm going to demean you to your face".
Assuming the clerk didn't know what they were wearing, she was:
* Ignorant of their clothing's meaning -> yes
* Way off to be guessing trick or treating a month early -> yes
* In a position where she should be educated and give a sincere apology -> definitely
But I don't think flying off the handle and berating her was exactly the punishment that fit the crime. It's not like it's black people's jobs to educate white people about their culture, but if someone's (presumably) never seen such a thing, learning about it by being screamed at isn't exactly constructive.
If the clerk DID mean the comment offensively, then the verbal lashing was probably totally warranted... but she seemed pretty apologetic while being yelled at
Assuming the clerk didn't know what they were wearing, she was:
* Ignorant of their clothing's meaning -> yes
* Way off to be guessing trick or treating a month early -> yes
* In a position where she should be educated and give a sincere apology -> definitely
But I don't think flying off the handle and berating her was exactly the punishment that fit the crime. It's not like it's black people's jobs to educate white people about their culture, but if someone's (presumably) never seen such a thing, learning about it by being screamed at isn't exactly constructive.
If the clerk DID mean the comment offensively, then the verbal lashing was probably totally warranted... but she seemed pretty apologetic while being yelled at
This isn't shocking to me because this happens in London quite often. African clothes would be called "costumes". I don't think it's racism, but it's definitely ignorant and there's no problem with it being labeled as so.
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Z_Y
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I gotcha. A few less f bombs wouldn't have diminished her point.
Big Baybee
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Of course what she said was malicious. It's fucking September. She tried to clown them and they told their mom.
Rimon-hanit
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I don't really get that from the video, but maybe it's the 'sweetie' that's throwing me off, really annoying.
That's a good point. I honestly have never seen anyone wear anything like this outside of a festival. I do live in the deep south so maybe it a regional thing that's more common in other places.
shirt and pants. I dunno what you call it.
The clerk clearly can be heard at 35 sec saying "I didn't mean it in a bad way"
Big Baybee
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Doesn't matter what she said. Asking kids if they are going trick or treating was obviously her making a shitty joke about their clothes. "Oh I'm sorry, I didn't mean to insult your clothing in a BAD way".
IndoAssassin
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Do people when they are pissed off really talk like "Excuse me sir, your ignorance towards my children is dumbfounded. You live in a black dominant neighborhood, however your actions suggest you are an ignorant low life uneducated fool. Please apologize to my kids because I'm real angry right now but have the courtesy to politely speak with you. Also I would like to speak with your manager as this behaviour is totally unacceptable. You sir are an idiot and I want your manager to know that, so you can get fired".
Come on, people on this forum go wild when you talk about their favorite piece of plastic the wrong way. But the woman should show some courtesy when a racist fool talks shit to her children front of her children lol.
Emotions how do they work?
Come on, people on this forum go wild when you talk about their favorite piece of plastic the wrong way. But the woman should show some courtesy when a racist fool talks shit to her children front of her children lol.
Emotions how do they work?
Rabbi_Vole
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I've never seen these types of garments. I wonder if it's common in the region in which this video was filmed.
Tevious
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I don't know. I could see this as an overreaction and misunderstanding. The clerk could have just been curious and made the trick or treating comment as a friendly joke to make conversation and didn't mean to offend them. Even for a black neighborhood, that's not common attire. Without seeing the original comment in question, I'm going to guess that the clerk was just ignorant. It's her job to be friendly to customers, so it's doubtful she made the comment in an intentionally demeaning way.
SDCowboy
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Uh, yeah, most adults, if they even got upset at this, would handle it in a calm and collected manner. The swearing and yelling right off the bat is not the proper way, IMO, to handle such a situation. If it bothered her that much, she should have calmly explained to the employee what the issue was, and gone from there. Treat it as a teaching experience.
Wolfgunblood Garopa
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Of course. This teacher has a laundry list of complaints from parents and staff, but the teacher is still there this year. The union prevents the school district from being able to do anything about it.
The way you framed that quote makes it sound equally as uncommon. No one speaks that way. Come on. Most people will slightly raise their voice, sure, but not like the mom in the video. Most have a firm voice while angry.
FadedRevolution
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A mom defends her children but she is wrong because she didn't do it the way you want her to do it.
She made that joke because of how unusual or elaborate their set of clothing look. She probably doesnt know that its a traditional African garment.
She could be making the same joke if 2 white kids in a gleaming bright Tuxedo with bow tie walks in. You just dont expect to see people wearing things like that.
I mean its shitty joke, but is it necessarily a racist one? Is it only racist because a white lady says it?
THank heaven i'm a minority. I know i've joked about worse things than that.
What the kids are wearing are also "normal clothes."
SDCowboy
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Yes, I do think he handled it wrong. Part of being an adult is acting like one. This situation, from what I could see in the video, in no way called for yelling and swearing right out of the gate. Freaking out on someone usually teaches them absolutely nothing.
Brianimaniac
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I don't know if you can automatically attribute this one to racism. I get that there's so much racism out there that it's hard to not see it that way, and it may be true in this case too, but I just ask myself "is it plausible that this could have happened to a white person?" And I think that yes, the same thing could have happened if a Scottish woman walked in with three sons wearing kilts and all that other crap that goes with them.
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