NotTheGuyYouKill
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Gosh, I hope he doesn't see this...
Before I begin, I realize that a lot of my past threads have been dumb, but honestly, I just wanna get this off of my chest. I hope it doesn't get too Live Journal-y. I'll also preface this by saying that the person in question isn't always an asshole, but when he is, I just do not want to deal with him at all. And before you ask, this is the drunk guy from last year that I'm talking about.
So my cousin has been staying with my family since like... May or June last year. His family resides about four hours away from us, but he's here for university.
Here's how it all started. He usually comes and stays with us for the summer, for like... a month. Which is fine, we're used to it. Except, he came here, stayed a month, and did not leave. His parents assumed that we'd just take him in without actually telling us that he was gonna be living here for the foreseeable future. But you know what, fine. We are nice people. He's family. We took him in, figured he'd stay for a few semesters.
This was a mistake. I always knew this dude had issues, but I thought he'd mellowed out on them.
Look, in my house, we have certain rules we live by. When people stay here, they also live by those same rules. Fair? This dude doesn't care, and spends all day bitching about them. We're vegetarians. We don't allow meat in our house. Since he can't bring meat in the house, he's constantly complaining about it. Everyday. See, he refuses to eat the food that we make. At any time, he can ask my mom to make him something to eat, but he refuses to do that. I don't even know why anymore. He's just content to bitch about being hungry all the time despite our house being filled with food. He just refuses to eat the food we make and would rather whine. He basically calls vegetarians weak and pussies cause we don't get protein or some shit. Basically, if someone lives differently than how he's used to, he calls them weak. Just keep reading on.
He has incredibly unhealthy attitudes towards women. He's always talking about rape. Seriously, rape. All the fucking time. Here's an actual quote he said. You know what it was about? A character in Agents of SHIELD. I was watching the episode with Lorelei and Sif. He saw Lorelei punch a dude into a car or something, and he's like "Wow, what a bitch. Somebody should rape her." He watched a girl wear shorts on Banshee (Dava) and he said "With clothes like that, isn't she asking somebody to rape her?" This is just the two most recent examples. Once I was referring to some comic book villain, offhandedly, as a real nasty piece of shit, and he just says "Does he rape people?" I wasn't even sure what to say to that. I just ignored it for my sanity.
He hates, hates when women are depicted as being stronger than men. I didn't take him to see 300: Rise of an Empire because I knew he'd spend the entire film bitching about Eva Green being tougher than any man. He thinks women are inherently weaker and that if they show strength or dominance over man, it's some kind of fucking affront to his masculinity. Any time there's a woman in some position of power or asserting some sort of dominance or (physical) strength, there's a 50% chance he'll say 'bitch', 'cunt' or something.
He works one day a week and constantly complains about being short of money. When I tell him to ask for more hours, he just says "No, I already have to go to school and only get one day off a week". Ok, he works one day a week. Seven or eight hours. An occasional four hour shift on Friday or Saturday. He has three hour classes Monday to Thursday. He spends the rest of the day playing video games or watching TV with me (unless he's writing a paper or whatever). When I went to school, I went to work any day I did not have school. Monday to Saturday. I hated it, but I fucking did it. And at least I had fucking money the entire time. He runs out of money and then whines about not having food cause he's out of money!
This motherfucker, spends between 10 and 20 bucks a day on food from fast food places when he goes to school or work. That's where all his money fucking goes. I've been trying to help him budget it, but it does not seem to be working. He always spends it on something with meat or PROTEIN cause he wants to be a fucking body builder.
Oh, speaking of that: He's spent the past four months saying he wants to go the gym with me, get a membership, etc. Except he never has money. He keeps complaining about being fat. When I tell him to change his diet, he doesn't do it. He refuses to try, cause like I said, he calls vegetarian food pussy food. He's a tall, good-looking guy with image issues. Constantly calls himself fat, WELL FUCKING DO SOME WORK ON THAT. Go run outside. Do pushups.
He's obsessed with the army. Fucking obsessed. He thinks the only way to get honor and respect is to join the army, and then join the police. That's it. He's obsessed with authority, power, and control. He is angry with Canada cause we don't have conscription or an army the size of the United States. He believes that the army or police is the only way to some kind of fucked up glory. Every time I tell him to sack up and join, he says "I'm not in shape! I gotta get strong!" THE STATE IS GOD THE BE ALL END OF ALL OF EXISTENCE.
Oh you prick, that's the entire point of basic training. At least now he's admitted that he's just scared of basic training, but he still plans on going. Sure. I think he's just gonna keep telling himself that as some kind of dream until the day comes when he realizes he was deluding himself. He refuses to consider any other career path as a way of getting respect. He has a hilarious inferiority complex where he constantly compares himself with his nicer brother.
Worst thing? Once when he was angry, he told me he just wants to join the army cause he wants to kill something. He's never said it since, but it's skeeved me out since.
He refuses to leave our house and stay with other family members. Why? Cause he says he can be himself around us. Motherfucker, I don't want you to be yourself. I'm tired of dealing with your shit.
He has serious anger issues. He goes off on rants and if he's in a bad mood, you don't wanna be around. He smokes and walks through my room stinking up the place, while trying to avoid my parents cause he doesn't wanna be seen. Since the last time he was drunk, he's done it a couple times since and I had to go pick his drunk ass up from the train cause I don't need him stumbling to the door and waking up everyone else in the house. He bitches about the rest of my family to me all the time. He's a lazy, spoiled brat with anger problems that is obsessed with power and women. He whines about the culture that he's descended from all the time. He's a jingoist. He hates other cultures wholesale. He's racist.
I want him the fuck out of my house. Most of the stuff here, I'm the only one privy to it. I've been dealing with his crazy for eight months now. He doesn't act like that in front of the rest of my family cause he knows that'll create more problems for him. I haven't even told all of the shit he did, this is just the stuff last couple of days. This is just scratching the surface.
The sad thing is, he's actually gotten better since he's started staying here. He moderates his behavior better. He's nicer than he once was. There's a good guy in there, but there's a worse guy that keeps it trapped. I love the guy, I do. He's capable of goodness. But I can't deal with him anymore. The rest of my family knows he has issues and that he's annoying, but they don't fully realize the extent of his crazy like I do. I'm the guy that he rants and raves and vents to when he thinks the rest of the world is conspiring against him. He's in my head all the time. I'm the only one he really listens too, so that's something. I can moderate his behavior, control him somewhat. I guess I have his respect. About 70% of the time, he behaves well. He can be a really funny and fun guy to be around, when he's well-fed and has had a good day. But when he hasn't... I dunno.
His parents are coming over this weekend. I begged my dad to talk with them and get him out of the house as soon as possible. He agreed. Hopefully he'll be gone within the next few weeks. I can deal with him for a couple of weeks, a month. But eight months, and I've begun to get ground down, attrition.
Look, I'm sorry for the long-ass crazy post. Maybe it'll be locked, maybe not. I just had to get all of this out. I'm tired, and he was just whining, and I just got sick of it. I don't need sympathy or pity, cause I'm getting him the heck out. Just to justify the presence of this thread...
Do you have any insane relatives like this?
TLDR: My cousin is a crazy mysogonistic dick obsessed with rape and fascism.
Edit: oh yeah, he threatened to kill and eat our bird cause he was angry and hungry at the same time twice.
Before I begin, I realize that a lot of my past threads have been dumb, but honestly, I just wanna get this off of my chest. I hope it doesn't get too Live Journal-y. I'll also preface this by saying that the person in question isn't always an asshole, but when he is, I just do not want to deal with him at all. And before you ask, this is the drunk guy from last year that I'm talking about.
So my cousin has been staying with my family since like... May or June last year. His family resides about four hours away from us, but he's here for university.
Here's how it all started. He usually comes and stays with us for the summer, for like... a month. Which is fine, we're used to it. Except, he came here, stayed a month, and did not leave. His parents assumed that we'd just take him in without actually telling us that he was gonna be living here for the foreseeable future. But you know what, fine. We are nice people. He's family. We took him in, figured he'd stay for a few semesters.
This was a mistake. I always knew this dude had issues, but I thought he'd mellowed out on them.
Look, in my house, we have certain rules we live by. When people stay here, they also live by those same rules. Fair? This dude doesn't care, and spends all day bitching about them. We're vegetarians. We don't allow meat in our house. Since he can't bring meat in the house, he's constantly complaining about it. Everyday. See, he refuses to eat the food that we make. At any time, he can ask my mom to make him something to eat, but he refuses to do that. I don't even know why anymore. He's just content to bitch about being hungry all the time despite our house being filled with food. He just refuses to eat the food we make and would rather whine. He basically calls vegetarians weak and pussies cause we don't get protein or some shit. Basically, if someone lives differently than how he's used to, he calls them weak. Just keep reading on.
He has incredibly unhealthy attitudes towards women. He's always talking about rape. Seriously, rape. All the fucking time. Here's an actual quote he said. You know what it was about? A character in Agents of SHIELD. I was watching the episode with Lorelei and Sif. He saw Lorelei punch a dude into a car or something, and he's like "Wow, what a bitch. Somebody should rape her." He watched a girl wear shorts on Banshee (Dava) and he said "With clothes like that, isn't she asking somebody to rape her?" This is just the two most recent examples. Once I was referring to some comic book villain, offhandedly, as a real nasty piece of shit, and he just says "Does he rape people?" I wasn't even sure what to say to that. I just ignored it for my sanity.
He hates, hates when women are depicted as being stronger than men. I didn't take him to see 300: Rise of an Empire because I knew he'd spend the entire film bitching about Eva Green being tougher than any man. He thinks women are inherently weaker and that if they show strength or dominance over man, it's some kind of fucking affront to his masculinity. Any time there's a woman in some position of power or asserting some sort of dominance or (physical) strength, there's a 50% chance he'll say 'bitch', 'cunt' or something.
He works one day a week and constantly complains about being short of money. When I tell him to ask for more hours, he just says "No, I already have to go to school and only get one day off a week". Ok, he works one day a week. Seven or eight hours. An occasional four hour shift on Friday or Saturday. He has three hour classes Monday to Thursday. He spends the rest of the day playing video games or watching TV with me (unless he's writing a paper or whatever). When I went to school, I went to work any day I did not have school. Monday to Saturday. I hated it, but I fucking did it. And at least I had fucking money the entire time. He runs out of money and then whines about not having food cause he's out of money!
This motherfucker, spends between 10 and 20 bucks a day on food from fast food places when he goes to school or work. That's where all his money fucking goes. I've been trying to help him budget it, but it does not seem to be working. He always spends it on something with meat or PROTEIN cause he wants to be a fucking body builder.
Oh, speaking of that: He's spent the past four months saying he wants to go the gym with me, get a membership, etc. Except he never has money. He keeps complaining about being fat. When I tell him to change his diet, he doesn't do it. He refuses to try, cause like I said, he calls vegetarian food pussy food. He's a tall, good-looking guy with image issues. Constantly calls himself fat, WELL FUCKING DO SOME WORK ON THAT. Go run outside. Do pushups.
He's obsessed with the army. Fucking obsessed. He thinks the only way to get honor and respect is to join the army, and then join the police. That's it. He's obsessed with authority, power, and control. He is angry with Canada cause we don't have conscription or an army the size of the United States. He believes that the army or police is the only way to some kind of fucked up glory. Every time I tell him to sack up and join, he says "I'm not in shape! I gotta get strong!" THE STATE IS GOD THE BE ALL END OF ALL OF EXISTENCE.
Oh you prick, that's the entire point of basic training. At least now he's admitted that he's just scared of basic training, but he still plans on going. Sure. I think he's just gonna keep telling himself that as some kind of dream until the day comes when he realizes he was deluding himself. He refuses to consider any other career path as a way of getting respect. He has a hilarious inferiority complex where he constantly compares himself with his nicer brother.
Worst thing? Once when he was angry, he told me he just wants to join the army cause he wants to kill something. He's never said it since, but it's skeeved me out since.
He refuses to leave our house and stay with other family members. Why? Cause he says he can be himself around us. Motherfucker, I don't want you to be yourself. I'm tired of dealing with your shit.
He has serious anger issues. He goes off on rants and if he's in a bad mood, you don't wanna be around. He smokes and walks through my room stinking up the place, while trying to avoid my parents cause he doesn't wanna be seen. Since the last time he was drunk, he's done it a couple times since and I had to go pick his drunk ass up from the train cause I don't need him stumbling to the door and waking up everyone else in the house. He bitches about the rest of my family to me all the time. He's a lazy, spoiled brat with anger problems that is obsessed with power and women. He whines about the culture that he's descended from all the time. He's a jingoist. He hates other cultures wholesale. He's racist.
I want him the fuck out of my house. Most of the stuff here, I'm the only one privy to it. I've been dealing with his crazy for eight months now. He doesn't act like that in front of the rest of my family cause he knows that'll create more problems for him. I haven't even told all of the shit he did, this is just the stuff last couple of days. This is just scratching the surface.
The sad thing is, he's actually gotten better since he's started staying here. He moderates his behavior better. He's nicer than he once was. There's a good guy in there, but there's a worse guy that keeps it trapped. I love the guy, I do. He's capable of goodness. But I can't deal with him anymore. The rest of my family knows he has issues and that he's annoying, but they don't fully realize the extent of his crazy like I do. I'm the guy that he rants and raves and vents to when he thinks the rest of the world is conspiring against him. He's in my head all the time. I'm the only one he really listens too, so that's something. I can moderate his behavior, control him somewhat. I guess I have his respect. About 70% of the time, he behaves well. He can be a really funny and fun guy to be around, when he's well-fed and has had a good day. But when he hasn't... I dunno.
His parents are coming over this weekend. I begged my dad to talk with them and get him out of the house as soon as possible. He agreed. Hopefully he'll be gone within the next few weeks. I can deal with him for a couple of weeks, a month. But eight months, and I've begun to get ground down, attrition.
Look, I'm sorry for the long-ass crazy post. Maybe it'll be locked, maybe not. I just had to get all of this out. I'm tired, and he was just whining, and I just got sick of it. I don't need sympathy or pity, cause I'm getting him the heck out. Just to justify the presence of this thread...
Do you have any insane relatives like this?
TLDR: My cousin is a crazy mysogonistic dick obsessed with rape and fascism.
Edit: oh yeah, he threatened to kill and eat our bird cause he was angry and hungry at the same time twice.
