NotTheGuyYouKill
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The more I think about it, the more maybe this thread shouldn't exist. I don't want him to stumble onto it. I was just really frustrated when I wrote it.
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My cousin is a crazy mysogonistic dick obsessed with rape and fascism.
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Maybe he'll stumble into it and find that everyone agrees that he is indeed an utter dickwad of a human being, causing him to think, even if for just a second, that maybe he should try to be a better person.
lol naaaaah
Nasty.
I once knew someone who's like that too. He claims to love women but the things that came out of his mouth made me wonder if he even likes women at all. He talks about women like they are some kind of object. He doesn't like it when women have opinion or when they are depicted as a strong, kickass figure. He said that it's unrealistic.
He once told a joke about women that made me scratch my head ("How do you give a woman her freedom? You put a window in the kitchen"). How is that a joke? Which part of it is funny? Add to this him being racist and homophobic (neither of which I found out until I got to know him a bit more), I couldn't press that 'unfriend' button on Facebook faster after we part ways.
Your situation is different though. He's your nephew. You can't unfriend him or anything. Talk to his parents, perhaps?
I once knew someone who's like that too. He claims to love women but the things that came out of his mouth made me wonder if he even likes women at all. He talks about women like they are some kind of object. He doesn't like it when women have opinion or when they are depicted as a strong, kickass figure. He said that it's unrealistic.
He once told a joke about women that made me scratch my head ("How do you give a woman her freedom? You put a window in the kitchen"). How is that a joke? Which part of it is funny? Add to this him being racist and homophobic (neither of which I found out until I got to know him a bit more), I couldn't press that 'unfriend' button on Facebook faster after we part ways.
Your situation is different though. He's your nephew. You can't unfriend him or anything. Talk to his parents, perhaps?
XANDER CAGE
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This is a big problem and if you haven't made your parents aware of it you should probably zero in on this point.
I assume they don't do that on the first day.
Hey, if he can make it through several months of intense physical and psychological training, then maybe he'll do fine. The structure and discipline in military might be the right environment for him.
And if it's not, they'll discharge him, and NTGYK can change the locks and not let the dude back in.
Audiospawn
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Because fuck society, right?
NotTheGuyYouKill
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He's self aware enough that he actually knows this.
Some days he cares, some days he doesn't. I can't stand knowing when he'll be good and when he won't.
Devolution
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Do your parents or aunt/uncle care about your safety? Simply tell them you don't feel safe around him and he should be removed from your home.
WhereAreMahDragonz
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Then he's a sociopath and needs help.
I suggest you getting him help, and fast. IF, a big if, he were to rape someone in the future, or killed someone for that matter, I'd hate to have the thought that I could've intervened and gotten him help.
It'll be hard to get him into a psychologist, just because he will not want to go, but he'll need it sooner or later.
It'll be hard to get him into a psychologist, just because he will not want to go, but he'll need it sooner or later.
This is what I meant. He obviously needs someone to whip him into shape. That's why they send disobedient kids to military school.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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I told my parents and they are gonna talk to his parents.
I actually don't fear for my safety. I am not scared of him.
Audiospawn
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It sounds like they left him on your doorstep for a reason.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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They aren't gonna be given a choice.
Audiospawn
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catotheyounger
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Brother was a coke fiend that sold my parents' and my stuff for a fix. He has done so with us, extended family, and even with his own kids and wife. He is now not welcome at my parents' house after he racked up 9K in credit card fraud on their cards. It is tough to see my parents go through it, a bit tougher now that I am not in the house to be of any comfort. They wanted to press charges, and 'end' the years of lying and stealing - but they ultimately empathized and let it go. I am not too sure he will survive the year to be honest. He is type2 diabetic and has lost a ton of weight, and hasn't gone with insulin for months. It scares me, and kinda shames me to say, but I feel it would be easier if he was gone. That a normal thought? Do I not have the empathy that my parents do?
The U.S military tries to screen out the dangerously ill, but still they can only get so many.
http://www.cnn.com/2014/03/03/health/jama-military-mental-health/
It's because when someone goes through training they're trying to put their best show on so they can graduate. They try harder to repress things that would get them kicked out so they don't start to show signs of who they really are until they get to their duty station. Then it takes, or rather took, an act of god to get someone out just for being "a bit off". What happens when Rapey McKillpeople gets dropped in some sun blasted hellhole on the other side of the earth, living out of a truck, eating out of little brown plastic bags and getting shot at everyday?
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/03/14/books/review/Hammer-t.html
THAT happens.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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We're too nice to toss him. He behaves decent enough around the rest of my family. He just acts like that around me cause I'm who he vents too.
WhereAreMahDragonz
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I'm sorry to hear that man. I think it's normal to feel that way. I assume it's different for your parents because he's their child, but try to hang in there.
Yeah, I can understand that. I just don't think being nice and understanding is helping him. He needs to realize he's on a bad path but if there's no consequences, he won't. Maybe try to get him to therapy then, on an ultimatum of 'it's that or the highway'. Because he sounds really screwed in the head.
Dastardly Jerks
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Every time he whines, tell him to harden the fuck up.
Whine? Harden the fuck up.
Whine again? Harden the fuck up.
If he can associate 'whining' with 'weakness' then he'll stop. Since obviously he's all about the unjustified posturing of strength and not behind the actual ideal of strength.
Your family are too nice and passive. Unfortunately his brashness will exploit that for as long as you let it.
Whine? Harden the fuck up.
Whine again? Harden the fuck up.
If he can associate 'whining' with 'weakness' then he'll stop. Since obviously he's all about the unjustified posturing of strength and not behind the actual ideal of strength.
Your family are too nice and passive. Unfortunately his brashness will exploit that for as long as you let it.
If you have empathy for someone it means you have experienced similar things as them. So basically you are saying your parents are also coke addicts that have committed felonies.
Hopefully you meant sympathy.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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I usually just yell 'first world problems!' And he quiets down.
You need to somehow get him mental help. If you just kick him out he might hurt someone. What would you feel when you read in three months that he raped and killed a girl?
btw what's his major?
or at the next family event he drunkenly confesses to you that he raped someone and got away with it
btw what's his major?
NotTheGuyYouKill
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I've PMed a mod and asked if this could be locked. Honestly guys, I was just in a really shitty mood when I wrote all that up and I just posted it impulsively. My problem is honestly all but solved. He'll be gone soon, no matter what, and I can deal most days with him just fine.
But thanks for reading and stuff. I appreciate that. I guess I just wanted some catharsis? I didn't really have anyone to talk to at the moment, so I was just tossing my words out into the void.
But thanks for reading and stuff. I appreciate that. I guess I just wanted some catharsis? I didn't really have anyone to talk to at the moment, so I was just tossing my words out into the void.
encephalon
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Edit: Oh, oops. Good luck.
WhereAreMahDragonz
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There's nothing wrong with venting. It's understandable that you would need to get that off your chest.
Best of luck to you!
He sounds like a painful train wreck waiting to happen, speak to your family and get him out of the house.
Tiny side point, this is just about the only thing he thinks which is actually correct, men are stronger but we also don't live as long so it's all balanced out in the end.
Tiny side point, this is just about the only thing he thinks which is actually correct, men are stronger but we also don't live as long so it's all balanced out in the end.
Chairmanchuck
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Is your family asian?
I hear that a lot from asian people that they adore Hitler and even though you tell them the shit he did, they always say "But he could manipulate all of Germany. It shows what a genius he is!"
Edit: Oh. Just saw "brown guy".
Honestly he reminds me of Jimme De Santa from GTA 5
It is not easy to just kick him out like that:
1) he is family
2) he is already batshit crazy; who knows what he would do if they kicked him out?
I would say since he feels comfortable around you, talk to him about it. Tell him not to smoke in the house for example and be serious about it. People like him tend to take everything as a joke.
It is not easy to just kick him out like that:
1) he is family
2) he is already batshit crazy; who knows what he would do if they kicked him out?
I would say since he feels comfortable around you, talk to him about it. Tell him not to smoke in the house for example and be serious about it. People like him tend to take everything as a joke.
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You should be banned for not reading the OP.
To the OP. I hope your father is successful in getting him kicked out. Good luck.
Kitsunebaby
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That's not what empathy means.
CanadianForces don't need people like him, also the same applies to gyms.
OP if he doesn't like living with you and your family give him das boot and dat tough love. Family or not he is still a guest at your home and he must abide by your rules. Put that foot down already.
Please no. It sounds like this guy needs to be as far as possible from any kind of job/thing that involves guns & potential violence. Keep fuckwits like him as far as possible from the army, law enforcement etc. He sounds exactly like one of those police pigs who are on some power trip and give police a bad name, or the kind of soldier who'd do all the kind of nasty things that soldiers did in Iraq and Afghanistan, killing, humiliating & torturing people and taking pictures. He doesn't need to be anywhere near those kinds of situations.
Well this is BS. Maybe men are stronger on average in a physical sense, but that doesn't mean women are weak or that women can't be strong. And I get the feeling he wasn't just talking about physical strength (or about it at all), but mental strength/strength of character.
Uhh... No, empathy means a skill of kind of being able to put yourself into someone else's shoes in your mind, to being able to understand what someone else is feeling/going through even though stuff isn't actually happening to you or has never happened to you.
Fully agree. I've been in the military (not in the US) and crazy psychos like that will do all sorts of nasty shit and things will inevitably get out of control at one point. It gets even worse if, for some reason, he ends up in a leadership or command position.
Edit: And it's not that he needs to be away from guns or violence. He needs to be away from any organization that enforces discipline and authority through a strict hierarchical structure.
They are vegetarians and don't want to have to deal with the smell of cooked meat in the house and have their moral/other reasons for not eating meat in the first place and would rather keep it out of their house. It's perfectly reasonable. When you've been a vegetarian for a long time, at least some meat can start to smell bad and it's understandable if people don't want to deal with that in their own house.
HP_Wuvcraft
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I'm sorry, OP. It sounds like this guy has it in his head that doing things for himself makes him weak, which is contradictory to his whole attitude that other people are doing things wrong.
It's a catch-22. He probably thinks he's "teaching" you all how to do the right thing by being a little bitch. Doing anything on his own will let people know that it's okay to back down.
It's a catch-22. He probably thinks he's "teaching" you all how to do the right thing by being a little bitch. Doing anything on his own will let people know that it's okay to back down.
So the crazy dude has to be unnatural because they are? The change in diet could be having an adverse effect.
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