My GF let a salesman into our home

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Devolution said:
Look I'm being told that if someone is the "bill payer" someone else who lives there isn't allowed to act like it's their abode too. To me that includes letting strangers in.

And he's not really helping matters with his "i made 80% of the money" thing he's got goin' on.
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I agree with you completely that if you live with somebody it's your house too no matter who pays the bills. She lives there she's not a guest who has to ask for permission but I do think he should be able to have an opinion about letting strangers in and spending joint money on things she doesn't want or need.
 
OP is right on being worried about gf jeopardizing her safety.

For the rest you just have to scold here coz:

- You never have a long conversation with a salesman that comes to your door
- You never buy their shit

But the gf wasting some money pales in comparison to the safety issue of course.

I would still be pissed about it if it was shared money though. And I would also still tell her that it is stupid. Because it is.

And the gf coming with excuses afterwards, that's just what they do now ey. She knows you're right, but it takes some time to admit that fact.
 
outunderthestars said:
This. His posts have a distressingly consistent tone.
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That's the problem. I was content in making fun of the offensive tone his OP struck, but over and over again he makes me feel sorry for his GF.
 
3N16MA said:
Let's say her very close friend comes over and brings a stranger with her. Friend says this guy is cool. Is she allowed to let him in?
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Yeah she's gonna need to get to 30% before that happens.
 
Devolution said:
Look I'm being told that if someone is the "bill payer" someone else who lives there isn't allowed to act like it's their abode too. To me that includes letting strangers in.

And he's not really helping matters with his "i made 80% of the money" thing he's got goin' on.
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You guys are mixing things up.

The issue was with her letting the stranger in our house.

The financial situation is completely unrelated. That was about her spending money on something that we did not want or need simply because she was mad. I personally find that disrespectful. I didnt even bring that up with her. Me paying for bills and her letting stranger in home is completely unrelated.
 
marrec said:
I think everyone's missing the point here.

OP was right to be concerned. I'm concerned for my Fiancee when she takes my son to school every morning.

I don't tell her 'Drive the damn speed-limit next time! And lock your car doors when you go through that low income neighborhood for God's sake!'
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If your fiancee drove your son to school in a reckless and dangerous manner every morning, you wouldn't talk to her about the way she was driving and suggest she slow down and be more carefull?
 
Lol at forever alone gaf pretending they know what they are talking about when it comes to relationships.
 
fuzzyreactor said:
You guys are mixing things up.

The issue was with her letting the stranger in our house.

The financial situation is completely unrelated. That was about her spending money on something that we did not want or need simply because she was mad. I personally find that disrespectful. I didnt even bring that up with her. Me paying for bills and her letting stranger in home is completely unrelated.
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Hey man you brought this shit to the table.


VelvetMouth said:
I agree with you completely that if you live with somebody it's your house too no matter who pays the bills. She lives there she's not a guest who has to ask for permission but I do think he should be able to have an opinion about letting strangers in and spending joint money on things she doesn't want or need.
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Yeah he has that right. We also have the right to wonder where he's coming from with this thread if he's already scolded her.
 
fuzzyreactor said:
You guys are mixing things up.

The issue was with her letting the stranger in our house.

The financial situation is completely unrelated. That was about her spending money on something that we did not want or need simply because she was mad. I personally find that disrespectful. I didnt even bring that up with her. Me paying for bills and her letting stranger in home is completely unrelated.
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Then why did you bring it up? Is this a new element to the story? Was she mad at you about something and was getting back at you by buying magazines from a door to door salesman?
 
Punisher said:
OP is right on being worried about gf jeopardizing her safety.

For the rest you just have to scold here coz:

- You never have a long conversation with a salesman that comes to your door
- You never by their shit

But the gf wasting some money pales in comparison to the safety issue of course.

I would still be pissed about it if it was shared money though. And I would also still tell her that it is stupid. Because it is.

And the wife coming with excuses afterwards, that's just what they do now ey. She knows you're right, but it takes some time to admit that fact.
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this, thank you
 
Saadster said:
Lol at forever alone gaf pretending they know what they are talking about when it comes to relationships.
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73% of people in relationships do not know what they're talking about when it comes to relationships.
 
fuzzyreactor said:
You guys are mixing things up.

The issue was with her letting the stranger in our house.

The financial situation is completely unrelated. That was about her spending money on something that we did not want or need simply because she was mad. I personally find that disrespectful. I didnt even bring that up with her. Me paying for bills and her letting stranger in home is completely unrelated.
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Hey, sorry I was trolling you so hard earlier in the thread.

In all seriousness, the way you talk about the situation makes me think you are emotionally abusive towards your GF.

I would suggest that next time you choose your words more carefully.
 
Soru said:
I worked for a fundraising organisation that was a 3rd party that helped charity raise money. We operated door to door. You are the classic person that I despised the most when I worked with them.

Why?

All day everyday, I go from door to door. After about 4 hours of this, very little people would even take 5 minutes to listen to what I have to say. Then there she is, the one person I would find who would like to engage in conversation with me. I spend 20 minutes explaining why our charity needed as much help as possible financially and ask her if she'd help us out. She isn't sure so as per needed by my company I remind her about everything I've said and tell her that signing up for us would make one hell of an impact on our goal (which is, no word of a lie). She agrees.

We get ready to fill out the form. Before I do so, I want to make her feel comfortable by doing so. I let her know that donations are made by a bank to bank transfer to avoid government taxing. All we ask for is the account number and sort code of your bank account (not your credit card number or your security verification number) and that all we can do with that info is set up a standing order or put money into your account. To set up this standing order you need a legal binding document which is what we'll be using and something you can take to the police and your lawyers to have my ass behind bars if anything dodgy goes on (at which point I show her my passport to help her feel easy).

It's taken us 45 minutes to get to this stage but thats no problem because we've found us a worthwhile donator who is going to make a difference in our country. She has all the info and we have no problems. We begin to fill out the form and then it happens.

"it" being the boyfriend/husband. He comes home, sees me and immediately tells me to go fucking hit the road. A little argument ensues between him and her and he treats her like shit. "It's a scam you dont know any better we dont know this guy". The truth is though, he is the one who doesn't know any better. The reason he is so against this is because, he hasn't sat down and spoke to me. He doesn't have all the information she does. He is the one making the ill-informed decision. In my case his decision ensured that for the time being we couldn't afford to find a bone marrow match to offer a transplant to a child with leukaemia.
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Yeah, still doesn't excuse your behavior.
You are the one intruding on people's private lives when calling them or confronting them face-to-face and the reason you do it is because it is harder for them to say no to you when doing so - you're taking advantage of basic human empathy to further your cause.

Any anger or irritation people feel towards you is fully justified because of this.
 
GavinGT said:
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What I immediately thought of.
 
They ship these kids from other states and just set them loose for a day. People rarely get any magazines. I really don't know how these businesses are allowed to stay open. I actually fell for it once(I'm an idiot), but checked it out online right after they left. I quickly called my bank and cancelled the check.
 
Shanadeus said:
Yeah, still doesn't excuse your behavior.
You are the one intruding on people's private lives when calling them or confronting them face-to-face and the reason you do it is because it is harder for them to say no to you when doing so - you're taking advantage of basic human empathy to further your cause.

Any anger or irritation people feel towards you is fully justified because of this.
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Oh snap...side fight.
 
CrankyJay said:
Then why did you bring it up? Is this a new element to the story? Was she mad at you about something and was getting back at you by buying magazines from a door to door salesman?
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I wonder if he fixes cable.
 
Punisher said:
And the wife coming with excuses afterwards, that's just what they do now ey. She knows you're right, but it takes some time to admit that fact.
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fuzzyreactor said:
this, thank you
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So you aren't looking for advice, you're looking for validation for treating you GF like a child.
 
OP is probably with his wife laying in bed eating popcorn reading this thread laughing his ass off. With the salesman cuddling in between.
 
honestly, the negative reaction to the sensible sentiment of the OP is pretty indicative of someone out of touch with reality or someone who is overly sensitive

marrec said:
That's the problem. I was content in making fun of the offensive tone his OP struck, but over and over again he makes me feel sorry for his GF.
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hop on your trusty steed and go, only you can save her!
 
Devolution said:
Hey man you brought this shit to the table.




Yeah he has that right. We also have the right to wonder where he's coming from with this thread if he's already scolded her.
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The way he wrote his post makes him sound controlling but maybe I'm just giving him the benefit of the doubt because my husband spent $42 on the foulest popcorn because he felt pressure from a kid. I mad.
 
Ricky_R said:
OP is probably with his wife laying in bed eating popcorn reading this thread laughing his ass off. With the salesman cuddling in between.
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I think it's important to note that this is his GF.

From the OP it's apparent he trusts her enough to share a joint bank account with her.
 
outunderthestars said:
I think the bigger problem is that you apparently treat your girlfriend like a 10 year old child instead of an equal.
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His girlfriend should probably learn to act like an adult first, and not let random people in her home just because she is afraid to say I DON'T WANT YOUR FUCKING MAGAZINE, FUCK OFF.
 
DMPrince said:
http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=405553 she should be allowed this one time right.
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OH SHIT!

fuzzyreactor said:
I used to date this chick a few years back and it lasted about a year and half. I never really liked the girl, she is fucking nuts and completely untrust worthy but i stayed with her casue im a loser and thats all i could get. We have depressing sex, she loves my tears(large lol) and i love the way she laugh at it.

well anyway, i reunite with her on facebook and we talk a lil. She tells me she has a kid now with her fiance. i should have just walked away then but she ask me to hang out and i decide ok. i chill with he that day, just shoot the shit and kick it. next day she ask me if i wanna go see a movie and i agree. i convince her scott piligrim is the only thing worth seeing lol. during the movie she starts poking me and laughing at my very below average penis .....we end up making out a lil.

I drop her off the night and make my way home when i get a text "omg u made me so clammy deuring the movie, i just wanted to slap u there. ur dick is so goddamn mediocre i wanna engage in the process of procreation without the outcome in ur backseat" so of course i bust a u turn and do the deed.

Well ive been hanging out with her kinda often. not too long ago i was at her house and he shows up. he kinda like who the fuck is this and she makes up some bs and i leave. 30 min later she calls me for more. he out of town now and she is calling me via telephone so much. i just feel terrible afterward and im pretty sure he is catching on and can beat my ass. so should i just cut it off or....
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This explains so much
 
CrankyJay said:
I think it's important to note that this is his GF.

From the OP it's apparent he trusts her enough to share a joint bank account with her.
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yeahh I got carried away with the wife thing. For some reason I couldn't get it into my head that the thread title says GF.
 
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