It's refreshing and actually relieving to see everyone debating on just the simple
"they/them" pronouns instead of this whole
"neo-pronouns" mess.
I only know one person that used
they/them as their pronouns (although they now have changed it to
he/them or something similar, so I will use
"he" for them from here forward.) He's are a very cool person but still quite young and grew up in Portland, OR...so I imagine the whole non-binary thing is almost cultural there.
From his blog entries from a couple of years ago, it was very obvious that he had been suffering gender dysphoria since his early teen years as female puberty started feminizing his body. I can certainly understand that as I suffered in the opposite direction.
I believe that he hasn't gone completely "he/him" yet due to worrying about the possibility of gaining
new dysphoria that the effects of testosterone therapy would have on his body. That's where I believe a lot of
non-binary people come from...they don't really want the sex-characteristics of
either sex.
Really, though...most people have things about their bodies that they are self-conscious about. It's normal for everyone at some point in our lives. We all have to grow up and grow old, and our bodies will be going through all sorts of changes all our lives. It's what we can accept and live with while living in society that drives a lot of this I suppose.
That said, where before it was such a miniscule amount of people suffering gender dysphoria and needing to transition sex just so we could fit into society without wishing for death every day, now it seems to be a growing social craze to go
against social norms. Far too many people want to be different or
special...it's becoming a "look at me" type thing. Many of these young people self-diagnose and collect gender neo-pronouns and disabilities and/or mental illnesses like they are Pokemon.
I just want to blend in and
not be seen. That's what it used to be for
most transgender people...although I'm so tired of what the umbrella term
"transgender" is becoming that I usually now just use the old medical term
transsexual (even though that's apparently a
no-no word now.)