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Okcupid is not that bad. I already got a date!

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Piecake

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So having a dialogue with a girl and it occurs to me...
I really have no idea how to go beyond the messages we're sending back and forth and ask her out, lol

Do you want to get a drink with me and continue this conversation in person?

She says yes.

Great! How about this place at this time.
 

y2dvd

Member
Do you want to get a drink with me and continue this conversation in person?

She says yes.

Great! How about this place at this time.

Pretty much. I usually wait until I know she's interested and will say yes but some will just throw it out after a few messages and hope for the best. I usually end up sending several messages back and forth before finally getting a date but I don't mind. It usually feels more natural for me this way.
 

y2dvd

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Augh, my date cancelled on me in the last half hour. Said she had to work late and we should reschedule and I haven't heard back since. We were texting each other nonstop up to that point. These girls can be so flaky. -_-

Valrus: The confidence is surely there! I'd probably take out the "looking for a boyfriend" part. A pic with an animal is money. I've gotten a few replies on my pic with a llama. As far as the self-summary, I'm still messing around with mines. I can't tell if girls actually read it at all. I know they've glanced at mines but rarely do they comment about it.
 

Piecake

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Yea. I would take out the looking for a boyfriend as well.

I would probably get a bit more specific. Like maybe what are you doing work-wise, how exactly do you improve yourself, and talk more about your interests and passions. Basically give women more to work with if they want to message you.
 
Just go yolo ( I hate that word but it's appropriate in this instance) the more careful you are writing your profile you come off as scripted in a way. Same goes with messages usually I would either A) comment on something she wrote or B) hey I won't give the same bs cheesy witty line so I'll save us the agony lol plus it works.

Just swing for the fences you'll strike out a lot but eventually you'll catch a fast one and hit it out the park.
 
Seriously, i feel stuck up and unhumble, especially since im no perfect male specimen by any stretch of the imagination, but I only find like 1 in 15-20 women on this site attractive.
 

Jhoan

Member
I'm about to head out to this OKC event at a rooftop bar to meet up with GK86. We'll report back later. Admittedly, I got some butterflies in the stomach which a little bit of alcohol should relax. However, the first and foremost priority is to have fun above everything else. This should be fun.
 

GK86

Homeland Security Fail
We talked to a few girls. No luck but it was a learning experience. I think we are gonna go to these events more often.

There is another one coming up (have to check the details) if any other NYers wanna come.
 

Piecake

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I just had a fantastic date. She actually looked better in person than her pictures and the conversation was great since we are interested in similar things. I definitely will be seeing if she is interested in another date. I'm going to text her on Thursday to if she is up for something on Sunday.
 
I just had a fantastic date. She actually looked better in person than her pictures and the conversation was great since we are interested in similar things. I definitely will be seeing if she is interested in another date. I'm going to text her on Thursday to if she is up for something on Sunday.

Good stuff bro best of luck !
 
We talked to a few girls. No luck but it was a learning experience. I think we are gonna go to these events more often.

There is another one coming up (have to check the details) if any other NYers wanna come.

Keep up the good fight as a fellow New Yorker dating scene is insane but hey if at least you talked to females even if it didn't led to nothing it was a good experience.
 

Jhoan

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Where was this?
Delancey Street. It was in a rooftop bar right in front of the entrance to the Williamsburg Bridge. We're thinking about going to the Board game event that's on the 15th.

The sticking points that we took away from event were:
1. We overthought about talking to a group of girls. If they made eye contact, they were interested but sometimes they were engaged with a group of dudes.
2. Gotta get in there early to engage them.
3. It's okay to talk to dudes as well to warm up and shoot the breeze with. We could always enlist one as a tertiary wing man.
4. It's also okay to spread out in order to divide and conquer.
5. Drinking alcohol only does so much.

Otherwise, it was solid. Many dudes had a pretty cool attitude about it. Definitely will try going to another event or two for the hell of it to break up the monotony of hitting up several girls a day.
 

potam

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kris.

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guys i messaged a girl out of the blue and she messaged me back and 20 minutes later we're texting each other and it's going really well and this hasn't really happened before ohmygooooodddddddd
 

Piecake

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guys i messaged a girl out of the blue and she messaged me back and 20 minutes later we're texting each other and it's going really well and this hasn't really happened before ohmygooooodddddddd

Grats dude! Now ask her out for drinks.

I messaged some super hot chick just now since she visited my profile. She actually responded back immediately and gave me her number to text. Well, two text sent and one reply from her. She provided nothing on the site and gave me nothing in the texts nor answered any of my questions, so I am honestly starting to wonder if this is a scam of some sort... Can someone do anything shady to me with just my cell number?

Oh, and I this episode pretty much confirmed for me that I am rather incompetent when it comes to flirting.
 

kris.

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Grats dude! Now ask her out for drinks.

I messaged some super hot chick just now since she visited my profile. She actually responded back immediately and gave me her number to text. Well, two text sent and one reply from her. She provided nothing on the site and gave me nothing in the texts nor answered any of my questions, so I am honestly starting to wonder if this is a scam of some sort... Can someone do anything shady to me with just my cell number?

Oh, and I this episode pretty much confirmed for me that I am rather incompetent when it comes to flirting.

i just did. she lives half an hour away but we've been talking this whole time and she's cool as hell, so i asked her what she's doing next saturday night, waiting for a response.

and idk, she might sign you up for cat facts and i wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy

edit: i just got a date. fucking sweet.
 

Caladrius

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So I'm in a bit of a minor bind.

A couple of weeks after I last posted here I found out I'm moving to another state. I've mostly left the account alone and have gotten a couple of messages in the meantime (some of which were spam). It's to my understanding that the system keeps track of how many messages you've actually answered, and I'd prefer not to make it look like I never answer. Would it be more worthwhile to address the messages I can or just go ahead and open a new account?
 

Maddocks

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you probably only have to answer around 2-3 to get a "this person replies a lot" its a crazy low number to reach that goal. You would have to ignore around 10-15 to actually turn red.

But it all depends on how in love you are with your user name and how many questions you have answered. Once you delete the account to make a new account(you can do this to use the same email) you can never use that name again. I also have answered 1k questions on the site to narrow matches down. That is a big investment for me, so I would just answer back to the messages given and call it a day instead of remaking the account. You might not have to worry about any of that and just restart from scratch and not really miss a beat.
 
So I'm in a bit of a minor bind.

A couple of weeks after I last posted here I found out I'm moving to another state. I've mostly left the account alone and have gotten a couple of messages in the meantime (some of which were spam). It's to my understanding that the system keeps track of how many messages you've actually answered, and I'd prefer not to make it look like I never answer. Would it be more worthwhile to address the messages I can or just go ahead and open a new account?

Think it resets each week so I wouldn't worry.
 

Windam

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Girls that reply to my messages 98% of the time show no interest in carrying out a conversation, and will not ask anything back. Then again, 99% of girls don't respond to my messages anyway.
 
Good news! So this girl messaged me last Monday, and since then we've exchanged texts every day and things have been going really well (I'm an awkward, anxious wreck and girls usually stop responding to me after a few messages, so this is a big deal for me haha). I would have tried to set up a date by this point under normal circumstances, but this particular girl actually lives three-and-a-half hours away, which I feel complicates things somewhat. If I ask her out, wouldn't that sort of require the person who travels to stay at the other person's house overnight (due to the long travel time)? Is it too early for something like that? I mean, our conversations have occasionally gotten sexual and we've shared some personal shit, but I dunno if she's that comfortable with me yet. I really dig this girl and would love to meet her in person, but should I maybe just keep things textual for now and ask to meet up once we've gotten to know each other better?
 

Piecake

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Good news! So this girl messaged me last Monday, and since then we've exchanged texts every day and things have been going really well (I'm an awkward, anxious wreck and girls usually stop responding to me after a few messages, so this is a big deal for me haha). I would have tried to set up a date by this point under normal circumstances, but this particular girl actually lives three-and-a-half hours away, which I feel complicates things somewhat. If I ask her out, wouldn't that sort of require the person who travels to stay at the other person's house overnight (due to the long travel time)? Is it too early for something like that? I mean, our conversations have occasionally gotten sexual and we've shared some personal shit, but I dunno if she's that comfortable with me yet. I really dig this girl and would love to meet her in person, but should I maybe just keep things textual for now and ask to meet up once we've gotten to know each other better?

Skype date? Meet somewhere in the middle?
 

Necrovex

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I decided to return to Okcupid for the remaining months I have left in the States. I had fun with it last time, and I've been gone for the past few months as I try to gauge my situation for future plans. Not sure when I'll complete my profile, but I'll post it sometime soon so I can get some critiques on it.

Though I'll toss my current profile out, so people can decide if the pics I posted are fine.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Necrovex
 

Luigi87

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Date unfortunately cancelled shortly before we were supposed to meet. Said she would need to reschedule due to an emergency, so we'll see if that happens or not.
 

Caladrius

Member
you probably only have to answer around 2-3 to get a "this person replies a lot" its a crazy low number to reach that goal. You would have to ignore around 10-15 to actually turn red.

But it all depends on how in love you are with your user name and how many questions you have answered. Once you delete the account to make a new account(you can do this to use the same email) you can never use that name again. I also have answered 1k questions on the site to narrow matches down. That is a big investment for me, so I would just answer back to the messages given and call it a day instead of remaking the account. You might not have to worry about any of that and just restart from scratch and not really miss a beat.

Think it resets each week so I wouldn't worry.

I think I'll just leave everything alone then.

Thanks.
 

Necrovex

Member
Someone should reboot this thread. With tips in the OP. Do and Don't of online dating. Etc.

I certainly wouldn't mind seeing this site get some reawakening.

I have only answered questions and posted pictures, and I already got three four-stars and a message. Time to actually give my profile some legit meat.
 

Jhoan

Member
Someone should reboot this thread. With tips in the OP. Do and Don't of online dating. Etc.

I wouldn't be opposed to doing it. I'm no online dating casanova but I can totally find good online dating articles and list several online dating websites besides OKC, POF, and Match. Also I think we can all agree that the new thread should be renamed "Online Dating [OT] [witty title related to online dating here]".
 

Luigi87

Member
I wouldn't be opposed to doing it. I'm no online dating casanova but I can totally find good online dating articles and list several online dating websites besides OKC, POF, and Match. Also I think we can all agree that the new thread should be renamed "Online Dating [OT] [witty title related to online dating here]".
Just because you mentioned it...

Online Dating | OT | If at first you don't succeed
Online Dating | OT | Kiss Kiss Bang Bang


... Anywho
*continues sending more messages out*
 
I had the worst experience with OkCupid and I vowed to never use it again. Here is my Tale Gaf

After 2 weeks of messaging various Girls, I managed to hit off with this one girl named Dee. Looking at her Pictures she was gorgeous. The icing on the cake was how much of an avid gamer and Batman fan that she was.

By the time the date rolled around I was excited as hell. I remember being nervous driving up to her house. I saw her come out in these big sunglasses and this maxi dress. She got in my car and we began conversing...it was all good up until she took of her glasses and I saw that while one eye was looking at me the other wasn't. I almost crashed my car doing a double take....the weird thing is that when I looked at her face again...both eyes were straight. But the next thing I noticed was how crooked her teeth was...not a good look.

But Im a gentleman right? So we park the car across the street from the theatre due to it being so packed and continued on with the date. I took us to this AVX cineplex to watch Iron Man 3. I asked her prior to getting out the car. Do you want to get something to Eat and see a later movie or see the movie then eat. She chose the former. We rolled up a joint, smoked it and started talking about life, superheroes and what the meaning of life was.

Time came upon us and we made our way to the movie. I bought our tickets, popcorn and drinks plus her favourite Candy all to a cost of about $35.67 after taxes. Thats when she told me she was going to hit up the bathroom....she's gone for 5 minutes before she reappears and says "I don't feel well...can you take me home" Of course right away I go sure of course....Then she fainted in the middle of the theatre. I admit...I could have caught her if I wasn't just shocked and confused to what the hell had just happened. (Being stoned as fuck didn't help either) I managed to get her to regain consciousness and I held her up as we tried to make it back to the car. (I had to leave all the snacks, the tickets everything I bought behind except my coke).

We get through the Theatre doors when she told me she was fine to walk on her own. I let her stand on her own and then she collapsed again but didn't faint again just lost her balance.

We get halfway to the car and I swear to God, I looked away for 10 seconds and this girl collapsed again. I kind of caught her but her head snapped back and it hit the concrete. Boom knocked out again. Now I'm really freaking out. Im a Black guy with a black girl in an all white neighbourhood and she looked like she just popped a molly.

At this point she's completely knocked out and I'm getting weird looks from everyone that's passing by. Finally someone helps me to get her to regain consciousness again. Then he called the paramedics....who took particularly long to get to the scene due to how packed the theatre was.

Now when they got there...They started asking me questions about what she took, who I was etc. She was answering and then when the Paramedic went did you take any drugs..she went yes and pointed at me and went "I got them from him"...I was nervous as hell but when the Paramedic did more digging she revealed that not only had she not eaten anything the whole entire day. She also took a shot of whiskey and a glass of wine before our date.

The Paramedics brought her to a hospital in the Ghetto and I followed after them. At the Hospital we decided to follow each other on twitter...then the doctor came out and asked her a series of questions In front of me no less...one which was "When did you last have your period? Are you aware that you might be pregnant"

An awkward silence passed and she said no. He discharged her and we left. To put the icing on the cake for this date...the hospital charged $5.00 for parking via machine. I put a $20.00 in and got back...nothing...it ate my fucking change. By that point I just said fuck it, Im meant to suffer today and drove her back home.

Now I'm a black guy with a group of black friends. However, out of my friends I'm the only one that dates and considers Black Women attractive. Jokingly after I got home, I went on Twitter and tweeted "I think I'm done dating Black girls"...not remembering that she followed me on Twitter at the Hospital. She called, cussed me out and told me never to speak to her again.

And that GAF was my first and last time using OKC. Was I a Douche? Yes. Did I do my best? No. What did I learn? Meet girls in real life.

this is hilarious. i'm sorry man
 

Smiley90

Stop shitting on my team. Start shitting on my finger.
Just because you mentioned it...

Online Dating | OT | If at first you don't succeed
Online Dating | OT | Kiss Kiss Bang Bang


... Anywho
*continues sending more messages out*

Online Dating | OT | We are the real 1%
Online Dating | OT | Where not being an idiot actually helps
 
i was on there for like 3 weeks, it was such a good experience but i felt like a scumbag juggling conversations. like, sexting one girl while waiting for another to come over to my house to bang. i didn't feel like me. all that aside, i found the perfect girl for me, we're almost at 3 months now. actually on our first date i got snapchatted boobs from another girl, which she found hilarious, that's when i knew.

i recommend it.
 

Jhoan

Member
The tribe has spoken. Online Dating |OT| Please Respond it is. It made me chuckle as well. I'll get to work on the thread now and will post the link when I'm done and eventuallly get a mod request to give this thread the lock.
 
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