The other day i took an attachment theory quiz end it rated me as a fearful avoidant style with anxious preoccupied tendencies.
The deeper i fell in searching and reading about it, the more i realized that this is who I am.
Most of my relationships have lasted from 4 to (my recent one) 8 years. And it made me feel so emotionally drained because i put so much energy and time to make things work but they always end up having a change of heart and attitude towards me. So, i always ask "wtf did i do wrong? Where did i go wrong?" And they never could answer that question. They just blame themselves for not being good enough, that they are broken or not good in a relationship.
I sit here thinking "nah, there has to be more to that." So, when they leave and my life is turned upside down, i can't stop thinking it's my fault, it was me, i did something wrong. Nowadays, i immediately think "yeah, they'll love me now but watch, they'll change sooner or later".
I just wish i could be a better person and work on my mistakes. Learn from where I went wrong so i don't go and screw it up again or have them think they're the screw ups.
Any suggestions?