You're trying to frame this in terms of consequences to the people involved in the incident, but that's not the way the NFL should be looking at this. His behavior was so deplorable that the league will lose credibility if they don't take drastic action. And you say that Ray Rice is a scapegoat, but a scapegoat is an innocent actor. I don't think he's a scapegoat unless his twin knocked out Janay Palmer.
Politics are not analogous because allowing a small group of decision makers to throw out a politician on a whim could undermine the democratic process. People do in fact want to throw politicians out for the stupid things they say and do but it is not easy to do so for the reasons that I mentioned. Football is just entertainment, and if the league has determined that he will do more harm than good for their brand then they have no reason to employ him. That is capitalism at work.
I think he's a scapegoat in the sense that people are using the incident to lump outrage on him specifically, when there are plenty of people who have done far worse (including killed people) and are still in the NFL. I think a six game suspension is enough in this instance. Maybe I could go for a year long suspension. But I don't think anyone should lose their job here.
Where did I say I agree with capitalism?
I wasn't asking you about Ray Rice, I was asking about, at first a bit rudely, about your idea that it's a natural and common thing for angry people to hit their partners. You sure like to deflect.
I've done some thinking on your question since last night. Let me try another angle.
Yes, like I said, its something that happens. I doubt it reliable research on the question exists, but I would imagine probably half of America has done something that could legally be construed as assault at some point in the course of a relationship. If we're counting children, then I'm certain it's at least half. Hell, I was mildly assaulted by a teacher in 5th grade when she squeezed the shit out of my shoulder to throw me out of class and left a mark.
If we're counting children in the domestic violence equation, let me share some of my own experience: My mother used to throw pots and pans at me when she was angry. Any one of those could have knocked me out or even killed me if I weren't better at dodging them. In retrospect that was bad, but when I was a kid the things I feared far worse were her spankings. Those really hurt. If I got in trouble at school (which happened often because I went to one of those magnet schools that were basically run like a prison), I would be terrified every Friday because those were the days she would figure out how many times I'd gotten in trouble. Most Fridays I got a spanking. Sometimes, I would get in trouble on the weekend and get a spanking. I distinctly remember a couple of times (there may have been more) where my father specifically told my mother to stop- sort of the opposite of what people tend to expect.
There were even a couple of weeks where she would spank me once every day I went to school as a 'reminder' to behave when I went to school. Looking back on it, that shit was pretty fucked up. I'm pretty sure she regrets doing it now, she doesn't hit my younger siblings like that.
A few other things:
*When she was still able to spank me, my grandmother would tell me to go get a switch (basically a thorny vine) from the farm for her to spank me with. If I didn't get one big enough, she would get a bigger on herself. Those were worse than belts.
*My uncle once punched my female cousin with a closed fist.
*According to family stories my great grandfather spanked my grandmother (not the one that spanked me with switches) so often that she developed a stutter.
*When I was in high school I regularly saw men punch another man in the head and nearly knock the other one out. Once, I saw a a very heavyset girl pick up a skinnier girl and drop her on her head. She may have been briefly unconscious, but there were too many teachers (and one resource officer) trying to break up the fight for me to see. Her head was bleeding a bit. For the most part, these people were just suspended, unless they were regularly violent.
*Before I went to graduate school, I worked with people who would willingly recount stories of growing up in a backwoods country town. In one of these stories, they recounted a story where they
ran a train on a "virgin" (his words) girl. As they described it to me the whole situation doesn't seem to be entirely legal. At some point, the girl passed out from the violent intensity of the "sex" (attack?). The boys (apparently they were in Middle/early Highschool) ran out of the house and just left her there. She ended up at the hospital according to the guy telling the story. Nothing happened to the guys. A Frankly,
that shocked me.
This Ray Rice video does not shock me at this point in my life. I'm just being honest. I've seen and heard of much more violent things happening. Returning to my own experience, our family would have been devastated if my mother or uncle had gone to jail and lost their jobs over those incidents. That would. have. been. worse. than letting us handle the situation internally as a family. My cousin and I (and my grandmother before us) have grown to be very successful people. We got past it.
That doesn't mean I believe that every domestic violence incident is likely to end so well. As I have said previously, if you're habitually violent, you are a danger to society, and should probably be in jail.
We have no evidence Ray Rice is habitually violent. He made a mistake. He was wrong. He probably handled alot of it wrong. I do not believe that what he did is worth his job in the NFL. Unless you're in some kind of job where not being violent ever is generally part of the job requirements (perhaps a police officer, a domestic violence counselor, a nurse), then I don't think you should be fired unless you're tried, convicted, and sentenced to jail time. The reason we have a justice system is so we can adjudicate appropriate punishment for crimes. We elect prosecutors and find juries of our peers so that we can establish justice according to local community norms. In my opinion, your employer has no moral right to lump punishment on top of that.
Yes, I know we have capitalism, and at will employment in the United States. Just because that is currently the case doesn't mean I have to agree with that norm.