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[fanboi]

Holy shit that is crazy and you gave him another chance ? You gotta be the best girlfriend Ever.

I think that poster is a guy.

EDIT: Wait, I am a bit of a sexist now I realize since I thought "getting fucked" = man insert penis into hole man or woman, aka girl can get fucked and guys fuck... stupid me.

 

[ishibear]

I'm sorry that happened to you OP.

I would try to make some connections the remainder of the time you're there. Hopefully that will help with your feelings of loneliness and maybe even serve as a distraction from the hurt.

 

[Bam Bam Baklava]

Wait a minute. This other guy is short, skinny, and lives with parents and he still pulled all this off? God damn.

 

[fanboi]

Wait a minute. This other guy is short, skinny, and lives with parents and he still pulled all this off? God damn.

GAF:ers still have a chance!?

 

[Yado]

I think that poster is a guy.

EDIT: Wait, I am a bit of a sexist now I realize since I thought "getting fucked" = man insert penis into hole man or woman, aka girl can get fucked and guys fuck... stupid me.

He's a guy.

 

[fanboi]

He's a guy.

But I was still sexist!

 

[YoungHav]

OP, please try your best to avoid that guy. Whether you win or lose, a fight will do no good since he has people in the country.

 

[Mechanized]

Wow the foreshadowing in that last topic is eerie. Really sucks dude. You'll find somebody better. At least you know what she's worth now, the dude she cheated with didn't come out on top or anything, he's stuck with all her bullshit now and she'll likely do the same thing to him.

 

[Plywood]

Word isn't banned, but the intent behind the words usage here was bad.

Could you expand on that? I see the word thrown around in sport threads like candy.

 

[SkeptiMism]

This might be kind of a nasty thing to bring up I guess, but in case she had been cheating on you for a long time, you might wanna check yourself for STDs too.

First off OP, I'm really sorry to hear that happened to you. I was just cheated on as well about two months ago. 3 year relationship down the drain. It fucking sucks.

To everyone saying "kick her out." You guys gotta realize two things: first off they've been together for 5 damn years. Second, he moved to another country with her. What does that tell you about him? He obviously loved her and cared about her like crazy. It's not that easy to just sever all ties and drop everything. He still cares for her. That shit doesn't turn off like a light switch just because of her actions. It sure as hell didn't for me.

It's not that easy. OP, good luck man. Take it day by day and do your best to move on. Remember that while you cannot control her actions, you have absolute control over your actions and what you can do about it. I believe you will come out on top of this a better man. That's what I am trying to do.

It's not easy to sever the ties, but it might end up a lot easier to do that than to live with her for a few months still.

 

[Heysoos]

Kick her out. She's an adult and made the decision to cheat. You don't have to put up with seeing her. Unless she's paying like half the rent or something. Either way kick her out and don't take her back.

 

[flaxknuckles]

Lock her in the guest room and feed her nothing but jerky and tap water

 

[stn]

Don't fight the guy, man. Its completely futile and won't teach your ex anything at all. Cease all contact with her, kick her out of the apartment, and go find positive things to occupy your mind with.

Good luck.

 

[Sami+]

I really hope you can find a solution that makes you happy, OP. Sorry you had to go through that. :/

 

[RyougaSaotome]

My god OP, that truly truly sucks and I feel for you.

You know this already, but beating the guy down, while seeming like a great idea at the time, ultimately would only create more headaches for you when you're already in a shitty situation. That's a lot of stress and bad shit to deal with all at once.

Hang in there, and don't give her the time of day.

 

[CassidyIzABeast]

Tell her to get to stepping.

 

[MikeHaggar]

Tell her to get to stepping.

yeah, definitely. i caught mine after about a year and stayed with her for another 3+ years. bad decision. people who pull that shit are broken, man. do what you have to do to get through until you go home, but don't take her back. it's not that bad being single. you'd be surprised haha

 

[Cow Mengde]

yeah, definitely. i caught mine after about a year and stayed with her for another 3+ years. bad decision. people who pull that shit are broken, man. do what you have to do to get through until you go home, but don't take her back. it's not that bad being single. you'd be surprised haha

Wow, how the heck did you withstand being with her for so long?

 

[Mau ®]

1) Mexican chicks LOVE the spanish accent. They'll open their legs with a little bit of good talk with that accent. I know this because I'm spanish too and I've been to Mexico several times.

2) I think you can find a a lot to do in Mexico. Don't know what city you currently live in but there's always plenty to do there IMO.

 

[Herr K]

OP, leave her. I believe your biggest mistake was the dog, but I'm sure someone could adopt that furry bundle of love, so don't see him as a barrier. She cheated on you and it's probably not the first time it happened, she simply doesn't deserve you.

You can do better than that, son. Go back to Spain and get a fresh start. Suerte.

Wait a minute. This other guy is short, skinny, and lives with parents and he still pulled all this off? God damn.

Never underestimate a Latin Lover.

 

[MikeHaggar]

Wow, how the heck did you withstand being with her for so long?

honestly, i'm not sure. i think a big part of it was ego. i didn't want to have to admit that it happened. i suppose it happens. i don't sweat it now though. her loss

 

[YoungHav]

Give an update if you can OP.

 

[Arcteryx]

Shitty situation man.

My advice: go out and have some fun on your own for a change. Meet new people. Visit new places. Make friends(dog should help). etc.

The worst thing you can do is mope around until your flight later in the year.

 

[zert]

That sucks. You mention that your designs were selling great. If you return to Spain wouldn't you be losing some of the business you built here? (are you a fellow industrial designer? or what type of designs you do?)

 

[PlayALLtheGames]

Sorry about that. I haven't gone through the same thing but I assume it's fucking rough. Still, like all things, it'll pass. Hopefully you can make some friends and they may help take your mind off it.

 

[PoweredBySoy]

Been there, OP. Girlfriend of 4 years. This was years ago though....

It will suck for about 6 months, but in the end it will only make you stronger. It has to.

 

[tmarques]

Word isn't banned, but the intent behind the words usage here was bad.

Other mods always free to disagree with me.

What I don't necessarily understand is why calling a specific woman certain names because she's cheated on her boyfriend is bannable, but comments like "Mexican chicks will f*ck anyone who's European / white / has a certain accent" which are demeaning to tens of millions of women aren't considered sexist and offensive.

 

[Mononoke]

I definitely agree that you should kick her out if at all possible. Unless she's paying like the rent or something. I'm assuming you can't just move out. Honestly, I would try to find the dog a new home, and then try to move your flight up. I know you already paid for it, but sometimes airplane companies will let you move your flight up but it will cost you a fee. Is there like no one back in Spain (family) that could help you out with that, given your circumstances? I do understand others suggestions to just stay there and try to travel. And I suppose if you can make that work, that would be great. But the reality is, it's going to be pretty difficult staying in a country you never wanted to go to in the first place (I think this was a mistake, you should never move to another country you don't want to for someone that isn't your spouse). And even if you are able to kick her out, chances are you will still end up running into her (as I imagine she's not going to let this drop). Bleh.

Whole situation is ass. I would personally find the dog a home, and be working tirelessly to get a flight back home to Spain ASAP.

EDIT: But I mean, if you really can travel and meet new people, then I don't think that's a bad idea either. I guess just access the situation and make the call based on how things are going.

 

[I_D]

EDITED

 

[manual4]

wow that sucks

 

[Exr]

Word isn't banned, but the intent behind the words usage here was bad.

Other mods always free to disagree with me.

I dont understand. We can use the word but cant call women cunts? What context makes cunt ok? What context makes it not ok? Didnt we have this debate a few months ago in OT?

WhiteBison thats shitty man, nothing I can say will make it better. If shes paying half the rent then you have to just wait it out till october. Try to enjoy Mexico while you're still there and try some new things before leaving.

 

[Verano]

1) Mexican chicks LOVE the spanish accent. They'll open their legs with a little bit of good talk with that accent. I know this because I'm spanish too and I've been to Mexico several times.

2) I think you can find a a lot to do in Mexico. Don't know what city you currently live in but there's always plenty to do there IMO.

andale, güero..
just make sure that mexicana dont have a BF and you good.

 

[Protag]

Cant trust these girls, even the best ones can betray you.

Sorry b

 

[aHebrewMenagerie]

I'm sorry to hear that OP. My girlfriend cheated on me, and I found out later she cheated on her new BF, she's the kind of girl that is going to be alone for all her life if she doesn't smarten up.

 

[Panzon]

Holy shit this thread is a ban mine.

Your situation sucks op but I believe this will make you stronger and you will find a better woman

 

[dafinezt]

damn sorry dude.

 

[Whitebison]

OP, who pays the rent? Has this been answered yet?
If you pay the rent, you have total control and can do whatever you want.
If you both pay the rent, you have to wait it out for just a few months, which makes you roommates, and you can act as such however you please.


You know what I'd do? It works in both rent-paying situations:
If at all possible, sleep in separate rooms and give her the totally cold shoulder for a while. Her reaction will tell you how to proceed.
If she is legitimately sorry and tries to win you back, give it some consideration. I don't think I'd ever trust somebody who cheated on me, but I've never been in a five-year relationship either.
If she acts like a total bitch and starts being a slob, vindictive, or anything else, you have your answer for who she really is.

We both payed the rent until October so we are trapped here, we both payed the forniture,stove,fridge,tv etc... so it's not that easy as just kick her out.

Today we haven't even talked to each other, I was doing my things and she was almost all day laying on the bed with his cellphone (probably texting the guy).

It's IMPOSSIBLE that I would forgive her or get back together, just looking at her disgust me.

When we were arguing last night she pulled the " you know that things weren't ok in our relationship blabla...", of course that we had some problems you piece of shit, but as a grown up woman you could said something,break the relationship or whatever and then fuck everyone you want but not just cheat on my back.

She even said "sorry" and when I pointed that out she said " you know I'm sorry..." then just fucking say it at least goddamn.

Sorry for the poster that got banned :S I feel partly responsible.

And thanks a lot for all the support guys, it meants a lot for me

 

[akira28]

Reading that other thread, it seems like this was destiny. You wanted to go back to Spain and she definitely didn't, and the only reason you stayed was because of her. It looks like you two need to part ways, and you need to spend the rest of your time away from her. Let her figure it out. If push comes to shove, she can always go back home on her own, right? She's still got family, yes?

 

[itxaka]

We both payed the rent until October so we are trapped here, we both payed the forniture,stove,fridge,tv etc... so it's not that easy as just kick her out.

Today we haven't even talked to each other, I was doing my things and she was almost all day laying on the bed with his cellphone (probably texting the guy).

It's IMPOSSIBLE that I would forgive her or get back together, just looking at her disgust me.

When we were arguing last night she pulled the " you know that things weren't ok in our relationship blabla...", of course that we had some problems you piece of shit, but as a grown up woman you could said something,break the relationship or whatever and then fuck everyone you want but not just cheat on my back.

She even said "sorry" and when I pointed that out she said " you know I'm sorry..." then just fucking say it at least goddamn.

Sorry for the poster that got banned :S I feel partly responsible.

And thanks a lot for all the support guys, it meants a lot for me

Man,fuck that. Just enjoy your time in mexico, and come back in October which is almost Herr already.

You got a dog and some time abroad, you got rid of a poisoned relationship, which hurts a lot, I had the same, but much better now than in a few years down the road.

Cuando me paso a mi lo mismo, dolio mucho, pero ahora estoy mucho mejor. He conocido a una persona que le da mil vueltas he encontrado un trabajo mejor y todo me va estupendo.

Hang in there bro

 

[Herr K]

We both payed the rent until October so we are trapped here, we both payed the forniture,stove,fridge,tv etc... so it's not that easy as just kick her out.

Today we haven't even talked to each other, I was doing my things and she was almost all day laying on the bed with his cellphone (probably texting the guy).

It's IMPOSSIBLE that I would forgive her or get back together, just looking at her disgust me.

When we were arguing last night she pulled the " you know that things weren't ok in our relationship blabla...", of course that we had some problems you piece of shit, but as a grown up woman you could said something,break the relationship or whatever and then fuck everyone you want but not just cheat on my back.

She even said "sorry" and when I pointed that out she said " you know I'm sorry..." then just fucking say it at least goddamn.

Sorry for the poster that got banned :S I feel partly responsible.

And thanks a lot for all the support guys, it meants a lot for me

So you did break up, right? If I were you, I'd bring a girl over and fuck her brains out in front of the ex.

You're trapped in Mexico, you may as well enjoy the rest of your stay.

 

[Whitebison]

So you did break up, right?

Absolutely.

 

[Dai101]

I'm really sorry to hear that : / I guess the best thing you can do is explore the country on your own and find things that you have really wanted to do, and the time will fly by.

This so much. Wr're a lot of folks frm several parts of Mexico here on GAF who i bet can give you a hand or hsng out meanwhile. Cheer up, you'never alone. If u are in Gdl i can invite you for a drink or something

 

[Amagon]

Absolutely.

You have my sympathy OP and I know its going to be a rough few months. I wish I can say its going to be easy but with your situation.... Keep up the faith and just put positive energy into a hobby or something to keep yourself going.

 

[megamerican]

You wanted to go back to Spain, she wanted to stay in Mexico. The situation sucks, but she essentially made the decision easy for you. Now you won't have to deal with guilt when you head back home, which it sounds like you were planning to do anyway.

Mexico is a pretty good place to be a single guy, just saying.

 

[m3k]

Sorry bro, you have us at neogaf!

you handled the situation well, try and go and do things you like and make the best of a shitty situation... Things won't get better if you stay in doors and feel sorry for yourself for 3 months

This so much. Wr're a lot of folks frm several parts of Mexico here on GAF who i bet can give you a hand or hsng out meanwhile. Cheer up, you'never alone. If u are in Gdl i can invite you for a drink or something

champion

 

[davepoobond]

fuck that's terrible. i remember reading the other thread, too.


sorry man

 

[jimi_dini]

It's IMPOSSIBLE that I would forgive her or get back together, just looking at her disgust me.

Keep this stance, otherwise you will regret it later.

 

[SapientWolf]

It's easy to get bitter and angry over something like this, but you have to try to forgive and move on. Not because she deserves forgiveness, but because that's the only real way to move on. She was weak, and now you have to be the strong one here.

And the less you see of her the better.

 

[Calvero]

Damn this thread is a graveyard.

OP, like someone else said, try to travel maybe Guadalajara or Guanajuato, I know you have a dog but maybe you can leave him in a dog shelter or something for a while.

Your life is going to be miserable living with her.

Guanajuato is beautiful OP. check out el Museo De Las Momias if you ever go

 

[Saganator]

Sucks OP. At least you didn't marry and have kids. Hopefully you learned a little about yourself (and others) and you use what you learned in future relationships. That's all you can do.

Good luck getting back home.