So at about the end of spring/start of summer my ex gf was hanging out with me everyday. Not going out. We stopped that awhile back and given about a month's time we started hanging out more and more, became friends with benefits, and generally had a great time. We both hung out with each other more than anybody else. Considering I lived on the same block helped that. But we watched movies together all the time, went out to eat, just hung out, made out, etc. At school's end we're hanging out after finals all day and enjoying the last few days. As the summer starts and I move.
First day after I move Im actually allowed by her trusting parents to spend the night as my family's in a hotel. So I do that for a night. We see each other slightly less often but at the same time they're longer visits. I even spent a weekend there and helped their family with a charity picnic. Went on vacation with them for 3 days of their 7 and got a ride home. But things started to change. It wasn't the same as living by her where everything was so convenient and things just seemed simple. Eventually one day she tells me she doesnt want to see me "like" all the time. Her old friends who had decided to do their own thing during the school year start hanging out with her more and she didnt feel so rejected. She started hanging out with a bunch of other people and in between 3 or 4 days of her doing that I'd call and nothing would come of it. No setting up a date to hang out again or anything.
The things we did plan to do meanwhile never happen like seeing Spider-man 2 and hanging out a couple times a week. Instead a week goes by. I'll see her online a few nights a week and we'd talk but that was about it. She tells me about her life through there and eventually even that dissappears. She's dating this guy from out of state meanwhile. A friend of a friend who is moving here and was in town one weekend. He's visited twice now but she's fallen in love with him online or so I heard. She had me come over once over the summer. To pick up my gamecube and game I left there for her to play. An obvious excuse just to see me again. I dont know whether to make it hard for her to become an actual friend of mine again or help us become friends again. On this particular day she says I was going to be in and out because she had to babysit but when I get there of course she says "well, i really dont have that big a job babysitting. You can hang around." My computer breaks and stays down for about a month and a half over the summer a couple weeks after that visit. I go on other people computers once in a week maybe and sometimes she'd find me online and chat. Or like the otyher week she used my sister who was on to get me as we hadnt spoken in probably 3-4 weeks.
I got a new aol account now also. We had 2 and downgraded to 1 so I lost my old name. The last time I visited I gave her my new number. She says she doesnt have my number though and one time told me to call her and "we'll talk and stuff". I did and there was no answer. Called twice that day I think. It was following probably the longest IM we had in months. Which though by normal standards is a standard im conversation with anybody. But I never called back after that day. Then 2 weeks later maybe I talk to her again online and she says I didnt call. Told her I did twice and she just says oh. The conversation is maybe 8 lines and in it she says something like "yeah, u should call me sometime".
Meanwhile, as of today I havent spoken to her in nearly a month or a little less. I cant remember. Either way, after any small smidget of an IM you know that's it for a few weeks. It's a very unrewarding "friendship" if I do say so myself. For some reason Im still interested in what she's doing these days and I read her journal on livejournal.com. For what reason, i dunno. Guess it's the wondering if she feels any remorse but I rarely detect it. The thing is if I want I could make the effort to talk to her fairly often. I havent even IM'ed her on my new name but I did see her online. Had an away message of "talking to my one and only, leave a message". Don't need to stoop to that. I figure she's the one who decided she wanted to "not hang out like all the time" so I'm leaving the effort to her if she wants to be friends or live with it.
The dilema comes in with it being her birthday next weekend. She even has a friend who lives like an hour away and never hangs out with her come in for that every year even if they havent talked in awhile. All her friends from the group she hangs out with comes and she's has a party at her house. From what she said of her last birthday anyway. Is it unfair to expect her to contact me without a number or IM name? Is it stupid to expect she wants me there? Would I be the jerk for not noticing her birthday with say an email or phone call or her for telling me she doesnt want to hang out all the time and blowing me off on occasion early in the summer? Basically I dont know what I really want, but I got a feeling talk could cease altogether if I dont contact her about her birthday, or the next convo after it she'll be pissed and who the hell knows what then. And she's not one who makes small occasion of her b-day. She's had a 30 day countdown in her journal going.
First day after I move Im actually allowed by her trusting parents to spend the night as my family's in a hotel. So I do that for a night. We see each other slightly less often but at the same time they're longer visits. I even spent a weekend there and helped their family with a charity picnic. Went on vacation with them for 3 days of their 7 and got a ride home. But things started to change. It wasn't the same as living by her where everything was so convenient and things just seemed simple. Eventually one day she tells me she doesnt want to see me "like" all the time. Her old friends who had decided to do their own thing during the school year start hanging out with her more and she didnt feel so rejected. She started hanging out with a bunch of other people and in between 3 or 4 days of her doing that I'd call and nothing would come of it. No setting up a date to hang out again or anything.
The things we did plan to do meanwhile never happen like seeing Spider-man 2 and hanging out a couple times a week. Instead a week goes by. I'll see her online a few nights a week and we'd talk but that was about it. She tells me about her life through there and eventually even that dissappears. She's dating this guy from out of state meanwhile. A friend of a friend who is moving here and was in town one weekend. He's visited twice now but she's fallen in love with him online or so I heard. She had me come over once over the summer. To pick up my gamecube and game I left there for her to play. An obvious excuse just to see me again. I dont know whether to make it hard for her to become an actual friend of mine again or help us become friends again. On this particular day she says I was going to be in and out because she had to babysit but when I get there of course she says "well, i really dont have that big a job babysitting. You can hang around." My computer breaks and stays down for about a month and a half over the summer a couple weeks after that visit. I go on other people computers once in a week maybe and sometimes she'd find me online and chat. Or like the otyher week she used my sister who was on to get me as we hadnt spoken in probably 3-4 weeks.
I got a new aol account now also. We had 2 and downgraded to 1 so I lost my old name. The last time I visited I gave her my new number. She says she doesnt have my number though and one time told me to call her and "we'll talk and stuff". I did and there was no answer. Called twice that day I think. It was following probably the longest IM we had in months. Which though by normal standards is a standard im conversation with anybody. But I never called back after that day. Then 2 weeks later maybe I talk to her again online and she says I didnt call. Told her I did twice and she just says oh. The conversation is maybe 8 lines and in it she says something like "yeah, u should call me sometime".
Meanwhile, as of today I havent spoken to her in nearly a month or a little less. I cant remember. Either way, after any small smidget of an IM you know that's it for a few weeks. It's a very unrewarding "friendship" if I do say so myself. For some reason Im still interested in what she's doing these days and I read her journal on livejournal.com. For what reason, i dunno. Guess it's the wondering if she feels any remorse but I rarely detect it. The thing is if I want I could make the effort to talk to her fairly often. I havent even IM'ed her on my new name but I did see her online. Had an away message of "talking to my one and only, leave a message". Don't need to stoop to that. I figure she's the one who decided she wanted to "not hang out like all the time" so I'm leaving the effort to her if she wants to be friends or live with it.
The dilema comes in with it being her birthday next weekend. She even has a friend who lives like an hour away and never hangs out with her come in for that every year even if they havent talked in awhile. All her friends from the group she hangs out with comes and she's has a party at her house. From what she said of her last birthday anyway. Is it unfair to expect her to contact me without a number or IM name? Is it stupid to expect she wants me there? Would I be the jerk for not noticing her birthday with say an email or phone call or her for telling me she doesnt want to hang out all the time and blowing me off on occasion early in the summer? Basically I dont know what I really want, but I got a feeling talk could cease altogether if I dont contact her about her birthday, or the next convo after it she'll be pissed and who the hell knows what then. And she's not one who makes small occasion of her b-day. She's had a 30 day countdown in her journal going.
