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Got a fun blindfold scene coming this week that I've been planning.

Ice cubes, hot wax, leather gloved touch, total leather clothing change for a reveal, wrist cuffs behind his back.

I made him pick out a blindfold at the toy store that I would approve of and he got a nice moldable on that is total blackout, rather than the light cheat ones you see everywhere.



Any other ideas? He's really not into SM/heavy pain, way more bondage and submission.
 
krypt0nian said:
Got a fun blindfold scene coming this week that I've been planning.

Ice cubes, hot wax, leather gloved touch, total leather clothing change for a reveal, wrist cuffs behind his back.

I made him pick out a blindfold at the toy store that I would approve of and he got a nice moldable on that is total blackout, rather than the light cheat ones you see everywhere.



Any other ideas? He's really not into SM/heavy pain, way more bondage and submission.
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Sweet baby rays.... I'm going out on a limb here... but some actual bare ass spanking may get him going... be GENTLE.
 
Suburban_Nooblet said:
Sweet baby rays.... I'm going out on a limb here... but some actual bare ass spanking may get him going... be GENTLE.
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Genius! We are both new to this but he's very invested in pleasing me. If I want to spank him, he will want it that much more. We just filled out a spreadsheet on likes/dislikes in the scene so we have time to go through that this week too. Adventure awaits.
 
Tease tease tease. That ties it all together so much. The anticipation and build up is the best then you go for spanking.

Make him beg for it and then go slow until he can't stand it. Watching the desire and frustration of wanting it is my absolute favorite.
 
Does anyone have any experience with DD/bg dynamics? I've been trying to get more involved in that because babygirls and littles seem to keep coming out of the woodwork to my inbox since last October. I try asking them...but it doesn't really work too well, understandably so. Anyone a Daddy/Big/Mommy type role that has some insight to share?
 
tearsofash said:
Does anyone have any experience with DD/bg dynamics? I've been trying to get more involved in that because babygirls and littles seem to keep coming out of the woodwork to my inbox since last October. I try asking them...but it doesn't really work too well, understandably so. Anyone a Daddy/Big/Mommy type role that has some insight to share?
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I have some experience here. PM me if you like.
 
Not sure if this is the right place to ask as it's more towards the BDSM thread. Any Recommendations for Websites in regards to Prostate stimulation Or anyone with experience? Seems like such a taboo thing among guys yet it's probably one of the most healthy and rewarding experiences, or at least what I have heard of, especially in regards to a healthy prostate.
Which as I get older I'm dreading more and more having to get mine checked in the near future or any complications that may arise.
 
Maximo said:
Not sure if this is the right place to ask as it's more towards the BDSM thread. Any Recommendations for Websites in regards to Prostate stimulation Or anyone with experience? Seems like such a taboo thing among guys yet it's probably one of the most healthy and rewarding experiences, or at least what I have heard of, especially in regards to a healthy prostate.
Which as I get older I'm dreading more and more having to get mine checked in the near future or any complications that may arise.
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From what I understand, there's three things of importance - a constant rhythm, a near zen-like state of meditation/relaxation, and lube. Lots and lots of it. The Aneros comes highly recommended in this area. It's a hands-free stimulation tool, but it takes some practice...weeks, maybe months. Pretty sure there's a wiki with tips for newbies.

You can still use your fingers...wearing a glove may help with hygiene issues. Practice will still be required. And most guides recommend not touching your penis...it steals focus of sensations (or something like that).

Hope that helps? I'm no expert, and I've never gotten the full proper O from it. I'm way too uptight and bad at relaxing.
 
Maximo said:
Not sure if this is the right place to ask as it's more towards the BDSM thread. Any Recommendations for Websites in regards to Prostate stimulation Or anyone with experience? Seems like such a taboo thing among guys yet it's probably one of the most healthy and rewarding experiences, or at least what I have heard of, especially in regards to a healthy prostate.
Which as I get older I'm dreading more and more having to get mine checked in the near future or any complications that may arise.
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I've done this to my boyfriend. He wasn't about it in the beginning (although he had experimented on his own before we met, however was shy to admitting so) but after much talking and experimenting, we finally got down into it. He absolutely loved it and does it now on his own with a toy we bought :3 If you don't want to talk about it here, you can PM me and I can give you pointers and where to go to learn more about it and some toy recommendations if you want to get a little more exotic with it.
 
i know its not 'pure' BDSM, but is anyone into shibari/kinbaku? i've been a huge fan of araki (photographer) for years, but have recently become more interested in trying it...
 
InfiniteBento said:
I've done this to my boyfriend. He wasn't about it in the beginning (although he had experimented on his own before we met, however was shy to admitting so) but after much talking and experimenting, we finally got down into it. He absolutely loved it and does it now on his own with a toy we bought :3 If you don't want to talk about it here, you can PM me and I can give you pointers and where to go to learn more about it and some toy recommendations if you want to get a little more exotic with it.
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Have you tried a strap on? I hear that's amazing. Can't try as I'm single :/
 
Log4Girlz said:
Have you tried a strap on? I hear that's amazing. Can't try as I'm single :/
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Not yet as the nicer ones can be a bit more on the pricey side. Now that I'm at a great paying job, we'll definitely give it a go at some point (hopefully soon). There are a few more toys on the to buy list currently too. We both love this toy the most right now. 10 different vibrating functions, waterproof too, and its perfect for stimulating the g-spot ;)
 
Maximo said:
Not sure if this is the right place to ask as it's more towards the BDSM thread. Any Recommendations for Websites in regards to Prostate stimulation Or anyone with experience? Seems like such a taboo thing among guys yet it's probably one of the most healthy and rewarding experiences, or at least what I have heard of, especially in regards to a healthy prostate.
Which as I get older I'm dreading more and more having to get mine checked in the near future or any complications that may arise.
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I have an aneros and it is fantaaaastic. Highly recommend. As others have said, lube will be your best friend for anything that goes in back there. Don't be stingy with it! You can never have too much.

Edit: has anyone here ever played with wireless vibrators/the like? Was at the museum of sex in NYC recently and came across this thing and almost bought it right there but thought better of it. The fact that it apparently works over wifi is both fucking hilarious to me but also kinda hot.
 
InfiniteBento said:
Not yet as the nicer ones can be a bit more on the pricey side. Now that I'm at a great paying job, we'll definitely give it a go at some point (hopefully soon). There are a few more toys on the to buy list currently too. We both love this toy the most right now. 10 different vibrating functions, waterproof too, and its perfect for stimulating the g-spot ;)
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Yeah, don't cheap out on strapons and harnesses. You get what you pay for. Bad ones can give rashes/blisters or pinch and can bring everyone's desire to experiment to a stand still.
 
Moff said:
maybe you shouldn't just go there to find a date but do generally meet new people, become part of a community? if finding a date is your number 1 priority, it might help you with that, too. in time. but just like with vanilla dating, if you look for dates too desperately, you probably won't be successful.
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TyrantGuardian said:
Don't make assumptions like those - everyone has their own taste and within bdsm there is generally less pressure to conform to what you're "supposed to like". Just go there and meet some friendly people.
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Thanks, you guys are right.
I haven't been to one of those munches yet, due to being "busy", but this coming Saturday I'll be going to a BDSM meeting for people aged between 18 and 35. They've been holding these meetings since 2010 and it's tied to a community website + fetlife group. There are several bar-like areas, but also rooms for play *gasp*.
I have a good feeling about it, but I think I'm going to be quite nervous.
 
Sai-kun said:
I have an aneros and it is fantaaaastic. Highly recommend. As others have said, lube will be your best friend for anything that goes in back there. Don't be stingy with it! You can never have too much.

Edit: has anyone here ever played with wireless vibrators/the like? Was at the museum of sex in NYC recently and came across this thing and almost bought it right there but thought better of it. The fact that it apparently works over wifi is both fucking hilarious to me but also kinda hot.
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That doesn't look very pleasing (the wireless thing you linked). Its form is too simple for me. I like when the toy is inside of me and especially considering that is on the outside, i imagine it'd be pretty loud and hard to cover up when you're in more quiet places.
 
krypt0nian said:
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That is a very troubling statement on multiple levels from general human behavior to the specific act of sex. I completely disagree with that statement.
 
I figure I'd throw in that Amazon is an INCREDIBLE place to get your BDSM toys from. My girlfriend and I have been getting our tape, handcuffs and dildos from there for a while. Etsy is another good place to scour for fun stuff.
I'm thinking of installing a steel bar above the bed, any recommendations?
 
Icedburden said:
I figure I'd throw in that Amazon is an INCREDIBLE place to get your BDSM toys from. My girlfriend and I have been getting our tape, handcuffs and dildos from there for a while. Etsy is another good place to scour for fun stuff.
I'm thinking of installing a steel bar above the bed, any recommendations?
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I would just invest in hog ties. Its at least discreet. Bondage options are limitless and some have bar attachments ;)
 
Damaged said:
Not bad, all gone quiet on the kink front for me at the moment sadly with being busy at work. Hoping it will all pay off and eventually treat myself to a vacbed :D
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lol Oh my. Haven't been beaten in a good while (school and finals coming up) so I've been quite antsy. My domme has been busy with her own stuff and there isn't many other people I'm comfortable having a session with. One of my friends volunteered and so when I went over to her house, she pulls out a whip and a Catwoman mask and asked if this was ok. I politely declined and went home lol.
 
neorej said:
Thought I'd return and share our experience from the other day. It was really great. We agreed on two safewords, one where the games would stop entirely, and one where an assignment would be too much out of line for her, but she'd want the games to continue. She completely surrendered her body to my will, and she did everything I demanded. She's kind of shy, so when I told her to take the drive home wearing nothing but her lingerie, boots and wintercoat, she hesitated, she even said no, but I pushed through and she went along with it.

After she came home, I had the cuffs, ties and rope laid out and she immediatly knew the game wasn't done yet. We had a great evening and night, and the next morning we talked about the experience. She was particularly turned on by being coerced into driving home semi-naked, being dominated like that made her "oozing with excitement" (her words). Getting tied down, whipped, spanked and electro'd was an extremely pleasant bonus at that point. It's definitely something we'll do again.
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Wait a second. You electrocuted your girlfriend?!?
 
Damaged said:
Not bad, all gone quiet on the kink front for me at the moment sadly with being busy at work. Hoping it will all pay off and eventually treat myself to a vacbed :D
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How pricey are those things anyways?

Wynnebeck said:
One of my friends volunteered and so when I went over to her house, she pulls out a whip and a Catwoman mask and asked if this was ok. I politely declined and went home lol.
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Well uh... She tried. I guess that's something. :p

Corpsepyre said:
Wait a second. You electrocuted your girlfriend?!?
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Probably with one of those electro pads. Small electric, stimulating shocks. Generally pretty safe. Doubt they were talking about hooking up jumper cables to a car battery or anything like that, ha ha.

Sai-kun said:
Actually, could use some help from y'all. I don't trust my googling skills as much as I trust all of you! I'm in need of a little resource for different ways to tie knots/rope!
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Wish I could help but I'm pretty shit at that, myself. Been meaning to improve in that area...
 
Darksol said:
How pricey are those things anyways?
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Can get a reasonable one with a one way valve so you dont have the vacum on all the time for around £150, if you want more ornate decorations or customisation it gets very expensive.

Darksol said:
Probably with one of those electro pads. Small electric, stimulating shocks. Generally pretty safe. Doubt they were talking about hooking up jumper cables to a car battery or anything like that, ha ha.
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Yeah probably an estim or maybe a violet wand, estim is pretty fun. Love my pinwheel attachment
 
Sai-kun said:
Actually, could use some help from y'all. I don't trust my googling skills as much as I trust all of you! I'm in need of a little resource for different ways to tie knots/rope!
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someone posted a link on one of the last pages, but honestly you should visit a workshop, it's the best way to learn as there are many things to consider, it helps a lot if someone teaches you who knows what he's doing.
there may be one in your area, if you don't find one on google try fetlife.
 
I went to the club last night, and my girlfriend did a rope suspension on me. It was pretty cool, I got to be pushed around some too

I also go to see a sounding and catheter scene last night. That was pretty amazing.
 
ChubbyHuggs said:
Here.
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Moff said:
someone posted a link on one of the last pages, but honestly you should visit a workshop, it's the best way to learn as there are many things to consider, it helps a lot if someone teaches you who knows what he's doing.
there may be one in your area, if you don't find one on google try fetlife.
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Thank you both!

How would I go searching for a workshop like that? Like...literally just 'bdsm rope tying workshop'? haha

tearsofash said:
I went to the club last night, and my girlfriend did a rope suspension on me. It was pretty cool, I got to be pushed around some too

I also go to see a sounding and catheter scene last night. That was pretty amazing.
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this sounds pretty fun :D
 
Sai-kun said:
Thank you both!

How would I go searching for a workshop like that? Like...literally just 'bdsm rope tying workshop'? haha



this sounds pretty fun :D
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Go on fetlife and search for local events or rope groups. Its not the best laid out website but it can be a useful resource
 
The Seattle Pride parade was awesome today. Got to do pony play for the first time and pulled a cart the whole parade route. Exhausting but fun, :D
 
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