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Darksol said:
A painting? Of what?
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A very tasteful blowjob.
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^^^ I took the same test, I got:
99% Submissive
99% Bondage receiver
93% Slave
88% Experimentalist
77% Degradation receiver
72% Primal (Prey)
57% Non-monogamist
51% Masochist
50% Pet
45% girl/boy
44% Brat
30% Ageplayer
27% Vanilla
10% Voyeur
 
Gonn a kind of feel like a butthole posting this. Broke up with my first Domme already, and now I'm having my first date with the second tomorrow.

She's not really into bondage, but she is into D/s

So ummm... two months in, two Dommes in... maybe.

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I like her, so cross your fingers for me.
 
Hypoallergenic Chloe said:
A very tasteful blowjob.
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^^^ I took the same test, I got:
99% Submissive
99% Bondage receiver
93% Slave
88% Experimentalist
77% Degradation receiver
72% Primal (Prey)
57% Non-monogamist
51% Masochist
50% Pet
45% girl/boy
44% Brat
30% Ageplayer
27% Vanilla
10% Voyeur
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Where is this test?
 
Hypoallergenic Chloe said:
http://bdsmtest.org/
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That was interesting.

I got:

97% Switch
90% Bondage receiver
89% Bondage giver
84% Dominant
80% Primal (Hunter)
78% Primal (Prey)
72% Submissive
65% Masochist
64% Vanilla
62% Master/Mistress
62% Experimentalist
61% Sadist
58% Ageplayer
57% Degradation giver
54% Brat tamer
51% Non-monogamist
43% Owner
43% girl/boy
41% Voyeur
39% Brat
23% Daddy/Mommy
22% Pet
17% Slave
13% Exhibitionist
12% All-Rounder

Well, no major surprises in the top half. I've long known that I am switch. And I've enjoyed introducing my past girlfriends to BDSM, getting their feet wet with some light bondage, roleplay, etc.

But it's been hard to find another switch.
 
First time in here, trying to learn the ranks since I am seeing a total s girl...

But we have chemistry based on this:

95% Experimentalist
93% Voyeur
90% Bondage giver
87% Dominant
76% Non-monogamist
75% Exhibitionist
71% Master/Mistress
59% Primal (Hunter)
51% Switch
49% Brat tamer
45% Owner
44% Vanilla
43% Bondage receiver
35% Sadist
29% Degradation giver
26% Submissive
22% Daddy/Mommy
22% Masochist
10% Slave
7% Brat
5% All-Rounder
3% Primal (Prey)
2% Degradation receiver
1% Ageplayer
0% Pet
0% girl/boy
 
100% Dominant
97% Degradation giver
96% Bondage giver
92% Sadist
91% Primal (Hunter)
91% Experimentalist
88% Brat tamer
87% Master/Mistress
82% Voyeur
76% Owner
46% Non-monogamist
41% Daddy/Mommy
34% Masochist
14% Exhibitionist
14% Switch
11% Ageplayer
7% Slave
4% Submissive
3% Bondage receiver
3% Vanilla
2% Primal (Prey)
0% Degradation receiver
0% Brat
0% girl/boy
0% Pet
0% All-Rounder

Yup, pretty much what I figured.
 
== Results from http://bdsmtest.org/ ==
100% Dominant
91% Master/Mistress
90% Bondage giver
79% Owner
72% Primal (Hunter)
71% Degradation giver
71% Brat tamer
66% Sadist
61% Voyeur
61% Experimentalist
59% Daddy/Mommy
42% Non-monogamist
38% Exhibitionist
34% Vanilla
31% Ageplayer
17% Switch
7% Masochist
4% Bondage receiver
3% Primal (Prey)
1% Submissive
1% Brat
1% Pet
0% Slave
0% Degradation receiver
0% girl/boy
0% All-Rounder
See my results online at http://bdsmtest.org/result.php?id=600624
 
91% Voyeur
78% Experimentalist
76% Switch
66% Bondage giver
64% Non-monogamist
59% Submissive
55% Dominant
55% Bondage receiver
53% Exhibitionist
53% Vanilla
43% Primal (Prey)
40% Master/Mistress
33% Daddy/Mommy
33% Owner
31% Brat
30% Degradation receiver
30% Primal (Hunter)
29% Masochist
28% Degradation giver
28% Brat tamer
23% Sadist
23% girl/boy
20% Slave
19% All-Rounder
18% Ageplayer
10% Pet

I wish the questions weren't so obvious, but it works in a general sense.
 
100% Bondage receiver
100% Submissive
93% Experimentalist
93% Slave
92% Pet
91% Degradation receiver
83% Masochist
52% Non-monogamist
42% Exhibitionist
39% Primal (Prey)
33% Brat
32% Switch
24% Degradation giver
18% girl/boy
13% Bondage giver
10% Sadist
10% Primal (Hunter)
9% Voyeur
8% Vanilla
6% Dominant
2% Owner
0% Daddy/Mommy
0% Ageplayer
0% Brat tamer
0% Master/Mistress
0% All-Rounder


This sounds pretty right. Not dominant in the slightest.
 
Hypoallergenic Chloe said:
Gonn a kind of feel like a butthole posting this. Broke up with my first Domme already, and now I'm having my first date with the second tomorrow.

She's not really into bondage, but she is into D/s

So ummm... two months in, two Dommes in... maybe.

wtzgU.gif


I like her, so cross your fingers for me.
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NVM. Dumped her.

Gettin tied up tonight all casual.
 
So umm, after my experience on the 31st, I can now firmly say D/s is one of the greatest things in the universe.
I'll write out what happened later if she gives me permission.
 
Guess that's about right. Had a ton of duplicative questions.
100% Bondage giver
86% Dominant
76% Experimentalist
75% Non-monogamist
74% Voyeur
48% Master/Mistress
40% Sadist
38% Exhibitionist
34% Submissive
30% Switch
26% Vanilla
22% Brat tamer
20% Owner
13% Daddy/Mommy
12% Bondage receiver
11% All-Rounder
11% Primal (Hunter)
9% Degradation giver
9% Masochist
7% Slave
5% Primal (Prey)
2% Ageplayer
1% girl/boy
0% Pet
0% Brat
0% Degradation receiver
 
== Results from http://bdsmtest.org/ ==
84% Submissive
84% Bondage receiver
63% Vanilla
44% Experimentalist
41% Masochist
38% Switch
30% Slave
28% girl/boy
24% Degradation receiver
24% Non-monogamist
19% Brat
18% Dominant
16% Bondage giver
16% All-Rounder
12% Voyeur
11% Pet
11% Exhibitionist
8% Primal (Prey)
8% Ageplayer
3% Primal (Hunter)
1% Brat tamer
0% Sadist
0% Master/Mistress
0% Degradation giver
0% Daddy/Mommy
0% Owner

Was a strange test to take since I mostly go with "asexual" and have had no sexual partners in the past. My kinks are pretty much exclusive to my head. That being said, the top four fit pretty well. Not sure on the "Switch" thing, and "Slave" gets thrown around too much as a lifestyle and not a "in the bedroom" for me to really feel comfortable with the word.
 
Hi BDSM-GAF!

Pretty sure this is my first post here. I just bought some bondage stuff so my SO or I could be tied to the bed frame, and blindfolds. I'm kind of testing the waters and seeing how ...much either of us are really into this, yet we're both excited. We also have several toys. Also my SO likes being choked and I always feel weird doing it haha.

I guess my question is; this is my first real foray into bdsm-like stuff. So any tips or anything would be helpful haha.
 
Dany said:
Hi BDSM-GAF!

Pretty sure this is my first post here. I just bought some bondage stuff so my SO or I could be tied to the bed frame, and blindfolds. I'm kind of testing the waters and seeing how ...much either of us are really into this, yet we're both excited. We also have several toys. Also my SO likes being choked and I always feel weird doing it haha.

I guess my question is; this is my first real foray into bdsm-like stuff. So any tips or anything would be helpful haha.
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Safety and Hygiene first!

If you're doing any type of bondage, keep a pair of Trauma Shears handy. If there's an emergency, it's better than trying to undo cuffs or rope.

Personally I don't like tying, as in with rope, people to any thing. I always recommend bondage tape or cuffs and double-sided clips. Either can be undone much quicker than a knot.
 
The night wasnt nearly as active as I thought it would be. We mostly just talked, I was the only sub who actually got to play. I think my nipples might fall off though. Nipple torture jesus christ.
 
My SO has confessed that she likes being dominated a lot more than she originally thought. We've agreed upon three code words; one that initiates play, and two safewords to stop an activity or play altogether.

We've had a few sessions now and it's part of our sex-life now. We still make love / have vanilla-sex, but even those are more intense now we've embraced our desire for an occasional sub/dom-session.

I never imagined that this could be possible in a romantic relationship, but romance and our love for each other takes a backseat once the triggerword is said. Once playtime is over, we hug and hold each other and love comes back.
 
Sometimes I forget why I'm part of kink communities and then a fetish related thread appears on GAF and it becomes abundantly clear why I prefer chatting in here.
 
I knew this already..
I've been playing the dominant/Degradation/Giver/Sadist role so long I'm having a problem sexually in the vanilla world now that I'm in a vanilla relationship.

100% Dominant
97% Primal (Hunter)
95% Brat tamer
93% Master/Mistress
93% Degradation giver
89% Bondage giver
89% Sadist
87% Experimentalist
81% Owner
67% Voyeur
67% Daddy/Mommy
64% Non-monogamist
61% Exhibitionist
44% Ageplayer
38% Vanilla
12% girl/boy
9% Brat
5% Masochist
3% Pet
0% Degradation receiver
0% Switch
0% All-Rounder
0% Bondage receiver
0% Slave
0% Submissive
0% Primal (Prey)
 
backslashbunny said:
I know which thread you are talking about. :x

It's pretty eyeroll inducing.
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Yeah, they seem incapable of realizing that people who like cuckoldry or emotional masochism in general are able to be well adjusted individuals who love each other. They also seem oblivious to the fact that it's not always men getting cuckolded, and that having a BBC fetish is not a prerequisite for cuckolding.
 
== Results from http://bdsmtest.org/ ==
85% Vanilla
67% Dominant
52% Experimentalist
47% Bondage giver
43% Master/Mistress
42% Voyeur
41% Daddy/Mommy
31% Owner
30% Switch
29% Ageplayer
26% Brat tamer
24% Primal (Hunter)
23% Non-monogamist
23% Submissive
15% Sadist
15% All-Rounder
14% Bondage receiver
8% Exhibitionist
8% Primal (Prey)
7% Brat
6% Slave
5% Pet
1% Degradation giver
1% Masochist
0% girl/boy
0% Degradation receiver
See my results online at http://bdsmtest.org/result.php?id=739508

Interesting. I do like it plain and simple.
 
Darksol said:
Yeah, they seem incapable of realizing that people who like cuckoldry or emotional masochism in general are able to be well adjusted individuals who love each other. They also seem oblivious to the fact that it's not always men getting cuckolded, and that having a BBC fetish is not a prerequisite for cuckolding.
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That's the internet for you. A lack of knowledge about something won't stop someone from having an opinion and debating it.
 
backslashbunny said:
I also want to say that I'm so grateful for this thread/community.

I had TWO encounters today where I blocked people for being rude, and they were so angry they felt the need to create another account just to continue messaging me. Pathetic -__-

Finding someone for your kink is sooo hard. I don't know how y'all do it at times, but best of luck to those that are looking and congrats on those that have someone.

Also.. almost Halloween! I feel like Halloween is a great holiday for kinky couples, especially because scary mazes / themes / movies = lots of screaming, music to some of our ears :p. What are y'all doing for Halloween? (Sir & I are going to HHN, because he thinks it's cute when I'm terrified...)
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Imagine the frustration of one who has kinks but cannot even find/attract someone in the first place.

Be very thankful for what you have. -_- Some of us are seemingly totally repulsive or unable to attract anyone.
 
backslashbunny said:
Finding someone for your kink is sooo hard. I don't know how y'all do it at times, but best of luck to those that are looking and congrats on those that have someone.
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yah some of my biggest kinks tend to result in some angst and jealousy brewing with certain types so finding someone who actually wanted to have an ongoing sexual relationship became pretty difficult. and when shit went south in one community I felt ostracized, so I had to go meet new people and feel uncomfortable with myself all over again.... at this point I've let it take a backseat to some of the things I've deemed more important for me at this point in my life. I've found someone I'm very happy with but is quite vanilla, so fantasies have to stay fantasies for the foreseeable future.

GAF is a lot of things, but oddly enough there's a lot of resentment when certain subjects come up. It makes me glad I can always come back here to see people on the internet being so supportive and sex-positive. I'm sorry to hear about your troubles and hope it gets better soon.

My girlfriend and I are going as weird/creepy fantasy creatures. She does damn good makeup and is going as some sort of demonic fawn thing, can't remember what she called it. She bought a pretty hot dress for it and I've got some sort of minotaur thing going on. At the very least, I can get some creepy sexy costume action.
 
backslashbunny said:
Wait, really? The scene in ATX isn't a good place?

I honestly always found that BDSM communities are much more inclusive of phyiscal variances in beauty. While FL's "hot and popular" or whatever is always filled with attractive young women (and that's about it), most of the people in my local community are actually older and definitely not models.

I do think sadomasochism, along with the sexual part of it, tends to be one of the biggest draws. Maybe ATX just needs a few more years before it moves away from strictly BDSM. In OC, we actually have a HUGE shibari/bondage scene.
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No. Not if you're straight.

If I were gay, I'd be set.
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Gay guys here love me, but (almost unfortunately, I'm starting to feel) I am 100% not attracted to men.
 
backslashbunny said:
Oh, really? Dang.

I always felt like there is a huge lack of dominant straight men that are in my age range, TBH.

As a straight, younger sub chick, I honestly have always had a lot of problems finding monogamous, straight, dom men in my age range... and I live in socal, too (back when I was looking).

To be fair though, most single straight men in the scene are going to have a tough time breaking in anywhere due to fear of predators. Not sure how you'd ease into it except by getting close to a local group near you and slowly becoming more familiar with everyone. I guess it's about as hard as normal online dating is, actually.
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Not that I'm an expert, just a casual observer: I think many young boys/men don't get comfortable with the idea of dominance because of social pressure, what we're taught about sexuality, and what may be expected of us. It takes experimentation, time and experience (in my opinion) to sort of grow those skills to get comfortable with them (and realize the lies you were fed). I'm not the same man at 30 that I was at 21. If I had been (as knowledgeable/skilled at 21), sex life would have most certainly been much different. Live and learn.
 
backslashbunny said:
What are y'all doing for Halloween? (Sir & I are going to HHN, because he thinks it's cute when I'm terrified...)
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I'll be stuck in one of the best places in Canada (Montreal)...designing lesson plans for ESL students, and never seeing the light of day >.<

But next Halloween I'll be living in Japan, so my sub and I will probably go to a decent S&M party or something of that nature.

Etrian Oddity said:
Imagine the frustration of one who has kinks but cannot even find/attract someone in the first place.

Be very thankful for what you have. -_- Some of us are seemingly totally repulsive or unable to attract anyone.
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It can be a long process, especially for people with as specific and diverse interests as we do. The up side, however, is that once you find that someone, you'll be inseparable :) I think we're all aware of how difficult it can be to find the right match.

backslashbunny said:
It's a long process. I dated about 10 years (and have always been into my kinks for about 20 years) until I found someone that actually was compatible with me. Seriously... I started dating around 13/14, but I didn't meet my partner until I was about 22/23? & even then, we were friends for a bit.
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Pretty much the same for me: about 10 years of solid dating before I found the right person.

In OC, we actually have a HUGE shibari/bondage scene.
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I'm amazed by how much the shibari & bondage scenes are blowing up. It reminds me of how much I still have to learn, because I'm shit with a rope :p Maybe I'll take that up in Japan too! ^_^

Pai Pai Master said:
GAF is a lot of things, but oddly enough there's a lot of resentment when certain subjects come up. It makes me glad I can always come back here to see people on the internet being so supportive and sex-positive.
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Amen!

Etrian Oddity said:
No. Not if you're straight.

If I were gay, I'd be set.
9I1LV7e.gif
Gay guys here love me, but (almost unfortunately, I'm starting to feel) I am 100% not attracted to men.
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I've actually heard that before -- that Austin is a great place to be gay and kinky but not so much straight and kinky.

Machina said:
You guys think you've got it tough. I'm a straight male sub. The pond is not biting, let me tell you.
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My condolences!
 
backslashbunny said:
Good luck to you, though. Sometimes it does feel like it's pure luck.
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Sometimes, it is pure luck. I met my fiancé in a kink chatroom when I private messaged him (against site rules, technically) for taking my side in a silly argument with an Anti-psychiatry nutter.

Turns out I had messaged one of the few bisexual guys who was also experiencing issues with gender identity and we're living together happily nearly five years later. I'm 28, for the record.

EDIT: Fucking autocorrect
 
I'm lucky enough that almost everyone I talk to thinks I'm adorable. On the other hand like 50% of the interest I get is because transwomen are seen as a walking fetish, especially if we pass.


Anyhoo, My ex Domme and I may be back together. So yaaay
 
backslashbunny said:
Hahahaha awww. At least you're helping the world! (If it makes you feel better I'll be stuck in an interview as the firms are all doing second rounds during that week.)

I'm already jealous of you next year! Honestly I kind of hope I'll be able to spend the next Halloween with my dom, too, at some sort of BDSM party. But, probably not in Tokyo :(. Oh well... when we go visit again, I'll hit you up and we can maybe all hang out :D
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Best of luck with the interview(s)!

Halloween just seems like a naturally kinky time of the year.

As for Japan, I'll be there at the start of February, so these last few months are just dragging by so slowly! And yeah, that'd be great! I hope it happens ^_^

Reishiki said:
Sometimes, it is pure luck. I met my fiancé in a kink chatroom when I private messaged him (against site rules, technically) for taking my side in a silly argument with an Anti-psychiatry nutter.

Turns out I had messaged one of the few bisexual guys who was also experiencing issues with gender identity and we're living together happily nearly five years later. I'm 28, for the record.

EDIT: Fucking autocorrect
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Wow, yeah you definitely got lucky. What are the odds, eh?

Come to think about it, I met my girlfriend on Fetlife completely by accident, as neither of us were looking for a relationship.

Hypoallergenic Chloe said:
Anyhoo, My ex Domme and I may be back together. So yaaay
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Congrats!
 
Hypoallergenic Chloe said:
http://bdsmtest.org/
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I come in peace in this thread (for the second time) as a person who considers myself pretty vanilla. I answered as truthfully as possible. Fun quiz lol. Still don't feel like I can truly can call myself as a part of the BDSM community, trust me. Maybe the B community haha?

97% Dominant
89% Bondage giver
55% Primal (Hunter)
48% Master/Mistress
40% Vanilla
39% Brat tamer
34% Sadist
26% Experimentalist
17% Bondage receiver
17% Owner
14% Non-monogamist
14% Switch
8% Masochist
8% Daddy/Mommy
8% Voyeur
6% Degradation giver
5% Exhibitionist
3% All-Rounder
0% Pet
0% girl/boy
0% Submissive
0% Brat
0% Ageplayer
0% Degradation receiver
0% Slave
0% Primal (Prey)
 
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