Here's the thing.
Don't want to talk to your family about them being shameless racists or unapologetic, conspiracy-guzzling fuckshit morons? Fine, do you.
But DON'T assault me with your bullshit. Because if that's the case, then you are NOT my ally, and I'm liable to cuss YO ass out.
It's just...its a feeling that goes beyond just offensive at this point. It feels like an assault. It feels like you're using me as your personal, emotional social justice cumrag. Like you get some sick fucking pleasure out of waxing poetic to me about how bad you feel, how embarrassed you feel, how terrible this is for you to sit at the family table, or be present at the family function, and occasionally be subjected to the racist hate that I already know about because it's my motherfucking life, you dumb trick. And now, it's my job to stand there, look conciliatory, pat you on the fucking back and comfort YOU. Because apparently this is now all about you, and how bad YOU feel being briefly exposed to the very hate I have to be in fear of every day of my black ass life. Congrats, what a motherfucking feat.
And of course – oh, of course – when I go to ask, "so, what did you do?" here comes the bullshit excuses about why you just couldn't stand up for the things you desperately want me to believe you give an actual fuck about.
So, I've already put all my non-black friends on notice. If you can't speak up and speak out about what's right unless you're in a fucking march surrounded by likeminded people with your dumb-looking pink pussy hat and your witty signs, if that's all you got...then you can miss my succulent black ass with your pleas for a pity party. I don't want to hear about your racist family dinners, or your racist cookouts, or your racist family reunions, or your racist hookups, or your racist office break rooms when I'm not present, or your racist D&D groups. Unless you want to tell me about how you almost flipped a table telling them about themselves, then shut the fuck up talking to me. Because I'm not here to make you feel better about your silence, and your inaction.
And that's on dubs.