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[Richiban]

A co-worker and I were sitting around bullshitting after work one day and we got to talking about the girls in the office.

He's absolutely in love with one of the women who work here, and when I say in love, I mean he's obsessed. He calls her his wife, and mentions her every chance he gets.

Anyways, I agreed with him that she was a beautiful.

He narrowed his eyes and told me flat out "You're violating the guy code"

What?

Apparently I'm not allowed to show any interest beyond platonic in any girl that he likes.

Seriously, he even told me that guys don't mow another mans lawn, which was funny because buddy isn't even dating this girl.

Is there even a guy code, and if so, what the hell is it?

 

[ToxicAdam]

Speaking of code, does you business have rules about dating other co-workers? You might want to mention that to Mr. Stalker-to-be.


The 'guy code' only applies to GOOD friends and thier girlfriends. Not potential girlfriends of co-workers.


Actually, I would volunteer to help this guy. Say "i'll talk to her, and see if she has any interest in you. I will say alot of nice things about you to her." Then use his permission as a free pass to pick this girl up. If he calls you out on it .. say that she wasn't interested in him.

 

[Triumph]

Dude sounds like a psycho. You didn't violate the code.

 

[dem]

CODE OF MEN

Thou shall not fuck your friends Mom.
Thou shall not fuck or even show interest in your friends sister without explicit permission.
Thou shall not cockblock.
Thou shall not talk about friends girlfriend in a sexual way. This may vary from friend to friend.. but I play it safe.
Thou shall not ever speak with a female about what really goes on at a stripclub. This ofcourse goes out the window if you can talk a girl to coming to the stripclub with you.


Theres many more... but this is just my general rules. You are in the right if he has had ample opportunity to move on it.

 

[ManDudeChild]

I don't see how saying she's fine violates any sort of code. Sounds like your buddy has some self esteem issues.

 

[SpeedingUptoStop]

The dude is clearly making up new parts of the guy code to prevent you from getting his girl. He must be punished for a violation of such proportion.


Solution: Marry the girl. And fuck her on his front lawn. That'll show him, nobody makes up rules to the guy code.

 

[Richiban]

Rule #1 (for me anyways) Don't dip the pen in the company ink. Last thing I need is to see my girlfriend at work AND at home.

I'm not even interested in this girl, but I should chase after her just to prove a point.

Dude's weird anyways.

 

[StrikerObi]

Guy code only applies to friends.

Don't go after another guy's girlfriend
If you know your buddy really likes a girl and is going after her, don't go after her until he's given it his shot.
If you really like that same girl, give at least some cool down time after his shot before you go after her.
Going out with your buddy's ex is not the best idea, and requires at least a few months of them broken up before you should even attempt.

 

[Nerevar]

stay the fuck away from this dude. He clearly has mental problems.

 

[SKluck]

Guy code only applies to friends.

Thank you. People either don't know this or are forgetting it. If you hate the guy or don't know him, fuck em. That is part of the code.

 

[Ninja Scooter]

 

[Triumph]

Well I googled it, and this is what I came up with:

http://www.liquorwits.com/code.html

 

[Zaptruder]

Umm... yeah, that guy is just a freak. Punch him in the face and take the girl for yourself.

 

[Fifty]

His wife? He's breaking rule #73. Don't be a fucking weirdo.

 

[bishoptl]

Thou shall not fuck your friends Mom.

uh oh

18. While your girlfriend must bond with your buddies girlfriends with in 30 minutes of meeting them, you are not required to make nice with her gal pal's boyfriends- low level sports bonding is all the law requires.

:lol

 

[bigfurb]

Looking at the situation as you've described it you don't seem to be in violation of "the code". As a matter of fact, I don't see many ways you could be in violation of the code in this situation.

You didn't express interest in going after the girl so you were not trying to horde in on a woman he had already laid claim to (obsessing from afar is not considered laying claim to a chick. Only active pursuit of said chick can be taken as a claim. If this pursuit is unsuccessful for a period of about 1-2 months, claim is null and void and said chick is open to all).

Even under these circumstances there is no real violation. Not going after the girl is considered merely a sign of courtesy and respect for your friends feelings. If you decided you were interested in her, pursued her and got her you are not in direct violation of the guy code, since he had no real claim to her (though he does reserve the right to refer to u as asshole for at least one year). If the girl showed interest in you and you merely accepted her advancements, you are in the clear. Even if he has hard feelings about it he can't voice his displeasure without putting himself in violation of the code (under hating/cockblocking)

The main reason there is no code violation on your part in this situation is the fact that you refer to him as merely your coworker. If you had called him your boy/bredren/nigga/pahtna/etc. he might have had a slight case trying to claim you were being a fucked up friend (even then it would be a weak case as he has no real claim on her and you were only commenting on her attractiveness). But since he's merely a coworker and not ya boy, you have no obligations to this man. In fact, on principle you should actively pursue this women, fuck her and rub the details in his face for him being such an insecure dumbfuck. If anything, his comment to you was in violation of "the code"