it might have to do closer to how male/females play and understand games

When I play I
am the hero (I AM TIDUS RAR!). I discussed it w/ my BF and he says he just feels that he's playing a character, not
becoming the character.
If I was playing the sexy mini game, that would be
me doing the sexy things, but in his eyes if it was him it would just be another normal character in a game. So it's "just a game" in his eyes but if I saw him playing the sexy game I would take my experiences and feel as though
he is actually doing the sex'n up.
The lady in question might be feeling the same way