What do you think about age differences in relationships?

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Heimdall_Xtreme

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The messages caught my attention... And sometimes opinions distort reality. In my opinion, I don't see anything wrong with those relationships, if they have consent or support. And I think what's important is the effort of each individual.
 
Nothing wrong with it I guess, but I can't imagine as a 37 year old man dating someone almost half my age.

I can only speak for myself, but I had more change/growth/maturing in my early 20s than any other part of my life. Always felt like a better fit for me personally to be with someone closer to my age.

By the way, how old are you Heimdall_Xtreme Heimdall_Xtreme ?
 
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If the woman is over 20, the man can be pretty much any age.
Relationships are about economics. Men are looking for sex. If a woman thinks she's getting something valuable in exchange for that, no objective person will think she is "too young" or "being taken advantage of" after 20. Otherwise we'd have to assume every 20-something gal who dates a millionaire is naive and she's letting him exploit her. They aren't so innocent.

Also, men have been marrying much younger women for millennia and it was never frowned upon until the sexual revolution and women's rights of the 20th century. It't then and there that it suddenly became gross. Before, nobody batted an eye when a rich, noble dude got a late-teen wife - rather, everyone was happy for her, provided he wasn't a notorious wife beater.
 
kpopSuperstar said:
When you are a teen or early 20s you are too young to grasp what you are doing, a 38 year old man would be manipulating the situation in this example.
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This, although it's legal there's a high chance a man has completely different life priorities than a woman that young, and it can go both ways. A man can want stability, but at the same time he can be immature and jut want to have fun with little commitment, whereas a girl will be easily impressed by the false sense of "maturity".
 
NeoIkaruGAF said:
If the woman is over 20, the man can be pretty much any age.
Relationships are about economics. Men are looking for sex. If a woman thinks she's getting something valuable in exchange for that, no objective person will think she is "too young" or "being taken advantage of" after 20. Otherwise we'd have to assume every 20-something gal who dates a millionaire is naive and she's letting him exploit her. They aren't so innocent.

Also, men have been marrying much younger women for millennia and it was never frowned upon until the sexual revolution and women's rights of the 20th century. It't then and there that it suddenly became gross. Before, nobody batted an eye when a rich, noble dude got a late-teen wife - rather, everyone was happy for her, provided he wasn't a notorious wife beater.
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Michael Richards Yes GIF
 
Heimdall_Xtreme said:


The messages caught my attention... And sometimes opinions distort reality. In my opinion, I don't see anything wrong with those relationships, if they have consent or support. And I think what's important is the effort of each individual.
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Nothing wrong with it. A lot of western ideas about relationships and sexuality are dogwater hypocritical. Ignore the twitterbot.
 
I've learned that big age gaps can make things harder, not because of the number itself, but because the people involved are often in very different phases of their lives. Different priorities, experiences, or expectations can create challenges that couples closer in age may not face as often.

Still, I couldn't care less. Do what you want
 
Really don't think it's a huge deal depending on maturity and consent if both are considered adults in their state, culture, region. Western rules and concepts are frankly ruining relationships. Not helping. And not long ago were large age gaps normal. Now, it seems if it's even a couple years then some find it odd.
 
As long as both parties are consenting adults, it's nobody else's business and people who freak out over it are weirdos.

Biggest age gap I've been in personally was 6 years, (19/25) it was never a problem for us.
 
It's usually very easy to answer.

Assume for a minute you have a 19 year old daughter. Assume she had a boyfriend that 20 years older than her?

Would you be ok with that? --> yes
Would you not be ok with that? --> no

Where I am at.. It depends on the dude an how the relationship came to be.
 
I'm around that age and I don't really find the idea of being in a relationship with a 19-year-old appealing. If it works for others then fair enough. But I always wonder, other than when you're fucking, what does your time together look like? What's an average conversation like?
 
My wife is 9 years younger, my dad was 10 years older than my mom. We have been together for almost 14 years now and still going strong. Age never comes up but yes its weird to think that when she was 9, I was 18, still, we met when she was in her early 20s. Like the poster above said, once they are out of the teens you're good.
 
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Not ok, imo.

It's really tempting to say something like "if they're both happy it's fine" but really it's weird. The age gap means less as you get older, but one person being twice the age of another is unlikely to get to a comfortable position.
 
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At 32 my girlfriend was 21.

It wasn't an objective of mine to get a young chick, it just happened.
No difference than someone my own age except when talking about older movies where she would look at me as if I was speaking chinese.
 
Dr. Suchong said:
I think most people who have a problem with these sort of relationships should go back to the 1950s.
Probably just jealous as fuck.
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Ironically, in the 1950s it was much more socially acceptable for an older, financially established/powerful man to marry a much younger woman. Just look at the pairings from Hollywood pictures from that time.
 
What works is entirely dependent on the people involved. Some are going to be miserable regardless of any age gap. If it's legal and both parties are happy, then everyone else can fuck off.
 
The beauty of being an adult is that you can do whatever you want and you don't have to care about what anyone else thinks, so only care if it bothers you personally, otherwise just be happy and live your life.
 
1/2 age + 7 has always worked for me. Bumped it a few times dating 18 yos when I was in my early to mid 20s but otherwise no real issues. Started dating my wife when I was 30 and she was 23, it's been 21 tears....oops, freudian slip, 21 years :P

At this point, were I single, I think I would put a hard floor somewhere in the mid 30's, probably 40. That's IF I was looking for a long term relationship. Anything younger and I'd be exhausted from the ride after a week :P Not enough testosterone and cocaine to keep up, for sure. Sadly, so many women in their 40's and 50's have botoxed and injected their faces into a horrific nightmare, even if they have a fit body, you may as well just go younger to avoid that crap (or go asian/scandinavian).
 
Unless its a minor, some sort manipulative behaviour or abusive relationship I got no problem.
Its completelly normal for men to look for an younger partner. Same can be said about some women taking preference in older men because older men tend to have stable money, are more mature and dependable than younger ones.

Also I dunno if you guys knew this but there were some sort of trend about older woman catching younger guys, but people didn't seem to bat an eye for some reason.
 
E-Cat said:
Ironically, in the 1950s it was much more socially acceptable for an older, financially established/powerful man to marry a much younger woman. Just look at the pairings from Hollywood pictures from that time.
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Yes, absolutely!
Quick Google search shows a fair few high profile pairings.
Cary Grant and Sophia loren, knocking boots.
The lucky dog.
 
Completely depends on what the ages are of the two people.

Generally, the older you get the larger that gap can be.
 
At 40, I dated a 26 year old for a few months. She was more mature than a lot of mid-twenty women I have met in my life. Boy was it fun for about a month. Then it was just awkward, even trying to have a regular conversation seemed impossible. Definitely not for me. I do prefer younger women, but normally only a few years difference.
 
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