What do you think about age differences in relationships?
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Pejo
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Well sure, there are always outliers, but this whole topic is based around generalizations. Also, equating "been through some shit" with maturity isn't really a cause/effect thing. Plenty of people of all ages that have been through shit still end up turning to drugs or other vices, which I consider a sign of immaturity.
I'm just saying it's unlikely that any random 19 year old would have much in common with any random 30-40 year old. If you've been in several relationships throughout stages of your life, you also likely have an idea with what I'm talking about.
Like a 19, your girlfriend ditches you to go to the movies with her friends on a Friday night and it's just the biggest deal. At 40? Good, go, I need some 'me time' anyways. Things like that.
Zephyranthes
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Morally speaking, I find no problem with two consenting adults of any age pairing up, so long as there is mutual transparency and respect in the relationship.
Practically speaking, there can be challenges, especially when you're talking about generational age differences. The worldview/responsibilities/priorities of a person in their 40s is likely to be dramatically different from someone in their 20s, which may make it difficult to align on important life decisions (whether to have children, how to raise them, etc). Also, if two such people marry, there is a natural likelihood that the younger one will become a caretaker for the older in their last years, and their spouse will probably die many years before they do. But again, there's nothing wrong as long as both partners are aware of and accept this when they marry.
Practically speaking, there can be challenges, especially when you're talking about generational age differences. The worldview/responsibilities/priorities of a person in their 40s is likely to be dramatically different from someone in their 20s, which may make it difficult to align on important life decisions (whether to have children, how to raise them, etc). Also, if two such people marry, there is a natural likelihood that the younger one will become a caretaker for the older in their last years, and their spouse will probably die many years before they do. But again, there's nothing wrong as long as both partners are aware of and accept this when they marry.
The Fartist
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I remember being 18, and I remember being 38. You're basically dating a grown child. Fuck that.
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Thurible
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My Dad was like 10 years older than my Mom. It is also my understanding that it is not uncommon for there to be some sort of age disparity among men and women in a relationship. Men can be fertile just about their whole adult lives while the same cannot be said of women. Many men prefer younger women as a result. Likewise, many women prefer older and more mature men as they have more life experience and can be seen as more capable providers. Couples don't have to be the exact same age.
Donald mac Ronald
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At 19/20 to a late 30s guy they are absolutely in different phases of their lives and the maturity shows.
When I was 30 I briefly dated a 19 year old, she was hot and the sex was good. But then she would complain about her dad coming into her room and annoying her and other stupid stuff. I just noped the fuck out.
After this I had a relationship for 3 years with a 23 year old, 7 years weren't too bad but she definitely didn't want to have kids any time soon and she was emotional immature, sucked the life out of the room with moods she would get in over next to nothing. Was more of a personality issue.
So I tried dating girls my own age and they'd come with kids or ex marriage baggage.
Man cant catch a break.
Passport bro anyone? Time to get a 20 something Asian.
When I was 30 I briefly dated a 19 year old, she was hot and the sex was good. But then she would complain about her dad coming into her room and annoying her and other stupid stuff. I just noped the fuck out.
After this I had a relationship for 3 years with a 23 year old, 7 years weren't too bad but she definitely didn't want to have kids any time soon and she was emotional immature, sucked the life out of the room with moods she would get in over next to nothing. Was more of a personality issue.
So I tried dating girls my own age and they'd come with kids or ex marriage baggage.
Man cant catch a break.
Passport bro anyone? Time to get a 20 something Asian.
HeisenbergFX4
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One of my neighbors is older than me into his 60s (I only recall going to his 60th bash a few years ago) and his current girlfriend living with him is 20 something
Happens though when you are worth about a billion dollars
If something ever happened to my wife, who is about 9 years younger than me, I personally would be ashamed to have a 20 something girlfriend
Happens though when you are worth about a billion dollars
If something ever happened to my wife, who is about 9 years younger than me, I personally would be ashamed to have a 20 something girlfriend
Dirk Benedict
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OmegaSupreme
advanced basic bitch
My last relationship started when I was 35 and she was 22. So obviously as long as you're both adults who cares.
Topher
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I'm not a good person to ask such things. I've been married for 31 years to my high school sweetheart and we are about 11 months apart in age.
Could I imagine being married to someone twenty years younger?
lifa-cobex
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So long as it's legal. I don't care.
But I don't envy the conversing with someone 15+ years young than me.
But I don't envy the conversing with someone 15+ years young than me.
NeoIkaruGAF
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But that's exactly the point.
Oh noes, the poor completely legal, late-teen woman with the smoking-hot body, having to sleep with the older guy who has his shit together and drives her around in a Lamborghini, takes her to pool parties twice a week, buys her things and dinners, and allows her to not worry about having to spend a few of her best years flipping burgers or serving customers! Why won't the old dirty bastard let her live an economically precarious life, living with roommates and enjoying all the 20-something broke gymbros that would be so happy to sleep with her in exchange for bus rides and takeaway at their place?
A lot of those grown children are very happy with that, I assure you. If she's out of high school, she's free to choose that life and the dude won't have to listen to her talking about homework. These days, her parents, if present at all in her life, would probably be happy even if the dude is 50 years older than her, as long as he isn't in debt.
Mind, I'm not saying I'd date a late teen. I have a hard enough time finding an adult woman who can sustain a conversation that's not entirely around herself and her bubble, who doesn't check her phone as soon as silence drops, and who doesn't want to party and travel in any free minute she has.
But the problem is entirely non-existent. Women used to marry young enough that they literally had no life experience that hadn't been curated by their mothers. Today, a woman in her early 20s is very likely to have more experience - and baggage - than guys in their late 20s and beyond. They're not victims if they date older dudes.
Donald mac Ronald
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Tell me about it brother.
I just don't give a shit about going out and having fun any more.
Kenneth Haight
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You don't have kids do you?
Imagine my face as a Dad when my 19 year old daughter turns up with a 38 year old.
You don't have a problem with it cause you're probably the 38 year old looking for the 19 year old?
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Heimdall_Xtreme
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You don't have kids do you?
Imagine my face as a Dad when my 19 year old daughter turns up with a 38 year old.
You don't have a problem with it cause you're probably the 38 year old looking for the 19 year old?
And what if the boyfriend comes along and says, "Father-in-law, I'm 42 years old, but I'm a millionaire, I have a doctorate, and I have a good job... and I'm a member of a prestigious association?"
And then another guy comes along, 22 years old, but he didn't finish high school... He works at McDonald's... He's not interested in studying, and on top of that, he's just stuck in his comfort zone
And are there only those two people?
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Kenneth Haight
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And what if the boyfriend comes along and says, "Father-in-law, I'm 42 years old, but I'm a millionaire, I have a doctorate, and I have a good job... and I'm a member of a prestigious association?"
And then another guy comes along, 22 years old, but he didn't finish high school... He works at McDonald's... He's not interested in studying, and on top of that, he's just stuck in his comfort zone
And are there only those two people?
Hey man, if you are after the jailbait don't let me stop you. You like em young we get it.
Heimdall_Xtreme
Hermen Hulst Fanclub's #1 Member
Hahaha, you didn't answer my question
. Actually, some girls are interested in me and want to be with me. But we shouldn't stigmatize that aspect either. Like they said before...
The important thing is the connection.
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Straight Edge
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Sounds like people conveniently agree on whatever age the law defines as an adult and would be happy to go younger if legally allowed.
Liopleurodon
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Grildon Tundy
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GAF finding radioactively-divisive topics to talk about without it technically being politics.
HeisenbergFX4
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And what if the boyfriend comes along and says, "Father-in-law, I'm 42 years old, but I'm a millionaire, I have a doctorate, and I have a good job... and I'm a member of a prestigious association?"
And then another guy comes along, 22 years old, but he didn't finish high school... He works at McDonald's... He's not interested in studying, and on top of that, he's just stuck in his comfort zone
And are there only those two people?
I can kind of answer that as a dad of a son who took quite some time finding his wife as he wanted a wife who was a working professional as he desired to be one of those "power couples"
I would hope that my daughter would not go after a 22 year old that was content putting fries in the bag the rest of his life and at least have hopes of climbing the ladder within McDonalds
And to counter your question of a 42 year old showing up let me ask where would you draw the line?
I am 58 years old and what if I showed up at your door dating your 21 year old daughter?
I don't not have a doctorate, am retired and not a member of any prestigious association but have enough wealth your daughter would live an amazing life, would that be ok to you?
People are free to do what they want, but for me...the maximum gap should be ten years. Past that point, it starts to look awkward for both parties.
If you're 20 or 30 years older than the other person in the relationship, folks will almost certainly talk shit behind your back, accurately or not.
Say: either the younger person is not-so-secretly waiting for you to die and get all your crap, or you're taking advantage of someone else's youth and inexperience. Maybe both!
If you're 20 or 30 years older than the other person in the relationship, folks will almost certainly talk shit behind your back, accurately or not.
Say: either the younger person is not-so-secretly waiting for you to die and get all your crap, or you're taking advantage of someone else's youth and inexperience. Maybe both!
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daffyduck
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With college homework?
TommyCronin6969
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Sometimes cunts have to redo shit