What is your biggest regret in life?
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Friday and Saturday nights I remember what I done, id kill to delete those memories hahaNone ? i dunno really, maybe paying more attention in highscool, its the easiest thing in the world if you pay just a little bit of attention to it. So many distractions.
Nevertheless i think that people who live thinking "what could have been" are damn fools. It was a different era where you had different priorities and stuff, even with the highscool example: i did bad but i had a lot of fun doing other stuff, sure i should have prioratized better, but i would probably do the same thing if i had that age in that time.
Nevertheless i think that people who live thinking "what could have been" are damn fools. It was a different era where you had different priorities and stuff, even with the highscool example: i did bad but i had a lot of fun doing other stuff, sure i should have prioratized better, but i would probably do the same thing if i had that age in that time.
Nose Master
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More or less cheating on my ex pretty early on in the relationship. Stayed together for a few years after, but the trust was never there. Doomed to fail, as it were.
BrLvgThrChmstry
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Burning bridges, I will never hear from anyone I've known this past year alone. Relationships on any level (friends to romantic interest) have an incredibly short lifespan. I come with a lot of (emotional; psychological) baggage. My life is the personification of the word "instability". Now, I'm back to square one. And speaking honestly, I'm not sure how fix this nor am I willing at this point.
I've met some genuinely good people, and I've let them down.
I've met some genuinely good people, and I've let them down.
MrToughPants
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Eating that giant bowl of Cookies n' Cream icecream followed by the bag of popcorn...urgh
reddmyst
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Lost 120 lbs only to gain back 3 years later after partying and not exercising, which then caused a back injury that cost me my job (3years ago) and a pretty stale sex life : (
Things are looking better though, lost 40lbs this year though, aiming to lose another 80lbs by years end (modifying my diet and doing a lot of exercising).
Things are looking better though, lost 40lbs this year though, aiming to lose another 80lbs by years end (modifying my diet and doing a lot of exercising).
brianjones
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reddmyst said:
what? you're going to lose 80lbs in 4 months?
ChackanKun
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Eating stuff that gave me this crazy diarrhea I have... :| Stuck at work with it also.
BrLvgThrChmstry
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ChackanKun said:
That's a crappy situation. Also, I hate using public/workplace restrooms...especially if I have to go number deuce.
Regulus Tera
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Dropping out of college, though I'm back already.
FormallyMegadrive
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Nose Master said:
Not cheating, but I broke up with her when I wasn't sure, then asked to get back together without any real reasons as to why I did it in the first place. 3 years on and there was no trust like there was. We broke up two weeks ago.
ResidentDante
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tirant said:This year Ive been fixing all my previous regrets
My greatest regret was when i was in year 2. Had a great social life and had a good relationship with my teacher and my fellow classmates. Was class captain and excelling in my school work which pleased my parents. Settled into a group of around 10 friends with 6 of them being girls.
One of those girls was a family friend (our dads worked together in a firm) and we were really close. Mid-year the business started going bad and our two families stopped being 'friendly' with each other and her dad started telling her some stuff about me (never found out what). She believed him and started to tell everyone. Since everyone knew we were close they all believed her. By the end of the year I had no friends and I just gave up on everything and the girl went to another school. My school marks started to go down and was scolded by my parents who knew nothing about my life at school. Had no friends for the next year. Made some new friends in year 5 but didn't bother with changing myself. My marks gradually got better and I became one of those average students.
Most depressing year and a half in my life. Don't think I will ever forget it but I do sometimes compare my crappy present life to that time since it makes me feel better...
One of those girls was a family friend (our dads worked together in a firm) and we were really close. Mid-year the business started going bad and our two families stopped being 'friendly' with each other and her dad started telling her some stuff about me (never found out what). She believed him and started to tell everyone. Since everyone knew we were close they all believed her. By the end of the year I had no friends and I just gave up on everything and the girl went to another school. My school marks started to go down and was scolded by my parents who knew nothing about my life at school. Had no friends for the next year. Made some new friends in year 5 but didn't bother with changing myself. My marks gradually got better and I became one of those average students.
Most depressing year and a half in my life. Don't think I will ever forget it but I do sometimes compare my crappy present life to that time since it makes me feel better...
mikeybwright
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Waiting until today, after reading this thread, to get off my ass and change things.
Johnlenham
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Hmmm spending WAY to much time BMXing rather than learning, I went from top grades in science to average and coasted through with minimal effort on my part.
Then thought fuck going to college to get A levels Il go earn money, education is for chumps! (As you can see I was a moron:lol )
So I basically missed out on Uni because I was a dumb ass slacker.
Getting addicted to FF11 and wasting like a year of my life.
Spending too much money on technology rather than going traveling/going to gigs etc
Thankfully ive got a half decent job which has let me fix most of 3, been to turkey, went to Glastonbury, going to Greece tomorrow and India in Jan of 2011 Oh and getting a tattoo Ive wanted for years done aswell
Then thought fuck going to college to get A levels Il go earn money, education is for chumps! (As you can see I was a moron:lol )
So I basically missed out on Uni because I was a dumb ass slacker.
Getting addicted to FF11 and wasting like a year of my life.
Spending too much money on technology rather than going traveling/going to gigs etc
Thankfully ive got a half decent job which has let me fix most of 3, been to turkey, went to Glastonbury, going to Greece tomorrow and India in Jan of 2011 Oh and getting a tattoo Ive wanted for years done aswell
I regret not killing myself in high school, i had everything planned out but chickened out at the end. I also thought life would probably get better but now with this job really killing me inside and life being such a pain i wish i could go back in time and to tell myself to do it, so it can save me all the crap i had to go through.
ResidentDante
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Seriously? What are you working with? Don't get to caught up in if the job is interesting or not itself, it's the work enviroment you should focus on. If it isn't nice to work there or the people don't communicate well just leave and get another job. It gives a lot of motivation regardless of the type of work you are doing if the work enviroment is enjoyable and you look forward to meeting the people at work.neojubei said:
Definitely the way I handled college, most notably going into it right out of high school even though I had no clue what to do with my life. Went to Binghamton and after 3 semesters I was forced to pick a major so I picked English. Hated it and after 1 semester changed to History. Hated it and after 1 semester transferred out and got an Associates Degree, which I knew full well going in is worthless but it was better than paying tens of thousands of dollars to get a degree in something I hated. I then went to Adelphi and after 6 years of college got a BA in Psychology. It's certainly interesting but I don't know if it's something I want to spend the rest of my life doing, and if I want to get a good psych related job grad school is pretty much mandatory. And I still to this day don't really know what I want to do with my life.
My other, maybe biggest regret is pretty similar and fits in with the first regret in my last post. I felt like I'd spent my entire life preparing for college so once highschool ended, not going to college wasnt even something that crossed my mind. But I just wasnt ready- academically, personally, socially- I just wasnt at that point where I was capable of taking advantage of college in any way. I ended up floating through the classes and through the semesters and not learning nearly as much as I should have because of depression and apathy. I got a bulls*it degree that isnt worth nearly as much as was spent on it and had nothing of the whole best years of your life experience that college is supposed to be. I sometimes wonder if any of that would have been different if Id spent a year or two after highschool doing something else away from home, or going to therapy, or something. Oh well.Raw64life said:
The worst part is the regret over this just totally consumes me and years after graduating it still hurts just as much.
lakesideflight
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-playing too much video games/WoW in highschool and didn't apply myself as well as I should have, although I didn't do that bad, I could have done much better
-quit playing sports/skateboarding in HS and lost all competitive spirit
-quit playing sports/skateboarding in HS and lost all competitive spirit
Honestly, I believe everything happens for a reason. I have regrets, but looking back at some of them, it was for the best that I didn't take advantage of some of them. I sorta regret being a bit of a coward when it came to girls during middle school, as pretty much anytime I was interested in a girl the feeling was almost always mutual, but I was too scared to just ask them out. Looking back, I wasn't exactly the cleanest guy (lot of stuff going on at home that contributed to that) and if I had gone out with some of those girls I imagine the would have told stories and spread rumors and damaged my reputation, such as it is.
If there is any one thing I regret, its not figuring out what I truly want to do with my life career wise until 5 years ago or so. When I initially graduated from high school in 98, I chose Comp Science as my major, and it was a complete disaster. I had very little interest in it and my grades showed it. 5 years ago I went to Gibbs College for Graphic Design, and fucking loved it. In a way, my career path was blaringly obvious; I had numerous teachers in HS and even friends who were genuinely shocked I wouldn't pursue art further and just never understood why.
If there is any one thing I regret, its not figuring out what I truly want to do with my life career wise until 5 years ago or so. When I initially graduated from high school in 98, I chose Comp Science as my major, and it was a complete disaster. I had very little interest in it and my grades showed it. 5 years ago I went to Gibbs College for Graphic Design, and fucking loved it. In a way, my career path was blaringly obvious; I had numerous teachers in HS and even friends who were genuinely shocked I wouldn't pursue art further and just never understood why.
I definitely regret not traveling more when I was younger. Looking back, there's no reason at all to rush headfirst into the rat race that is the life of a working stiff.
My advice to anyone fresh out of university/college is to go wherever you've been meaning to visit and simply work & live there for a year or so, and do that until you're about 25 or even later. It'll teach you valuable life skills, expand your global network, and generally give you a better perspective of and appreciation for people and culture as a whole. It's simply amazing life experience, and you'll gain a lot of great memories (good, bad, and hilarious) from it.
My advice to anyone fresh out of university/college is to go wherever you've been meaning to visit and simply work & live there for a year or so, and do that until you're about 25 or even later. It'll teach you valuable life skills, expand your global network, and generally give you a better perspective of and appreciation for people and culture as a whole. It's simply amazing life experience, and you'll gain a lot of great memories (good, bad, and hilarious) from it.
TheLastCandle
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No major regrets here.
I regret tiny stuff such as "I shouldn't have bought BlazBlue", or "I shouldn't have ordered the fish and chips from TGI Fridays". College seems to be a theme in this thread, but if anything I'm damn glad I dropped out of college because I'm not even sure why I was there.
Edit: I take it back. One reasonably big regret was dating this one girl while I was on hiatus with my previous girlfriend who is now my wife. That girl was a freaking NUT.
I regret tiny stuff such as "I shouldn't have bought BlazBlue", or "I shouldn't have ordered the fish and chips from TGI Fridays". College seems to be a theme in this thread, but if anything I'm damn glad I dropped out of college because I'm not even sure why I was there.
Edit: I take it back. One reasonably big regret was dating this one girl while I was on hiatus with my previous girlfriend who is now my wife. That girl was a freaking NUT.
You can still pick things you would have done differently, though.Acheteedo said:
I usually think of "regret" as something you did that you probably should have known better than to do but didn't. I'm not sure that I really have any regrets either, because I feel like I have generally made the best decisions with the information that I had at the time, but there are certainly some things I would change if I had the opportunity.
not joining the military right out of high school. I did some decent work during that time and made some alright money.. but also ended up in a big flux in my life that probably could have been helped with some rigid structure. 35 now and just starting to get my life back on track. at the time I was out of high school we were already just out of iraq the first time and weren't going back there for another 8 years. Should have really gone in for four and figured some things out.
outside of that, just living the first half of my life with a lot less instant gratification and a bit more "doing the right thing".
outside of that, just living the first half of my life with a lot less instant gratification and a bit more "doing the right thing".
suikodan
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It's mostly about girls.
In 6th grade, me and the girl I had a crush for were friends and I "think" she wanted to kiss me but I was too frozen.
Then in high school, my standards for girls were way too high so I stayed single most of the time.
Then when I was 21, I met a girl who was 18 and never had a boyfriend. When we met, I was struck by how she met my standards (at the time): brown hair, nice body, etc...
The only problem is that I wasn't prepared for that so I went there looking sloppy and thus, she wasn't interested. Coming out of a 4-year relationship where the looks weren't that important, I learned there a very important lesson to always look your best when meeting a girl.
After that, I can say that I didn't have any problems but damn, that girl, that day...
In 6th grade, me and the girl I had a crush for were friends and I "think" she wanted to kiss me but I was too frozen.
Then in high school, my standards for girls were way too high so I stayed single most of the time.
Then when I was 21, I met a girl who was 18 and never had a boyfriend. When we met, I was struck by how she met my standards (at the time): brown hair, nice body, etc...
The only problem is that I wasn't prepared for that so I went there looking sloppy and thus, she wasn't interested. Coming out of a 4-year relationship where the looks weren't that important, I learned there a very important lesson to always look your best when meeting a girl.
After that, I can say that I didn't have any problems but damn, that girl, that day...
sixteen-bit
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1. not doing better in school
2. buying treasure games
2. buying treasure games
cmonmanreally
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forcing my girlfriend of five years to break up with me because i made a mistake that she would have forgiven me for if i only did the right things/showed her i still wanted to be with her. i didnt, and instead just sat and watched the entire thing crash and burn. that was 7 months ago and i think it was the biggest regret of my entire life. not a day goes by that i haven't thought about her and how much i want to be with her now. she was the only person in my life that was truly in love with me, that i was truly in love with, and i gave it all up for stupid reasons. i would do anything to have her back in my life again, but i think it might be too late.
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