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Why are you married? ( particularly for those not interested in children )
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Self High Five
Member
deafmedal
Member
Not really? You can trace everyone back to the same source if you go far enough back. Whether you look at it from a scientific, religious or alien seeding point of view we are all connected.
Happily married for 16 years, our sex life has never been better and we strengthen one another. Tomorrow doesn’t matter, only today. And we are good today.
Elcid
Banned
My wife and I are both two extreme conservatives but she defers to me on all political decisions like who to vote for. Prevents that kind of issue completely. I'm married cause we support each other, both physically and emotionally. Yeah we have our kids and we love them immensely, but one day they'll leave the nest and then we'll only have each other every day. We enjoy each other's company and every now and then my mom takes the kids, and we get to spend a few days just being together. It's great. I keep trying to tell her I'm gay but she doesn't believe me. Fuck.
highrider
Banned
And at 53 years old no less
Yep that’s what I’m doing. Looking for social currency amongst the cool kids of NeoGAF...
GHG
Member
Ah gotcha, so if she has an accident and you go to the hospital they won't tell you what her condition is or let you see her unless you're married to her?
Where do you live by the way?
Susurrus
Member
We do have kids, so it helps a lot with that, but we were married before them. It definitely helps on that front though.
We lived together for 2 years before getting married, but I'm military and we were in Germany, she (Japanese) was riding Visas which worked well for a while but at some point it was time to just get her dependent status. Then I had to get her green card at some point since I got reassigned to the US (DC). Obviously a lot easier. Also, being military being married has financial benefits such as higher housing allowances, and she can ride my medical insurance at no cost.
We lived together for 2 years before getting married, but I'm military and we were in Germany, she (Japanese) was riding Visas which worked well for a while but at some point it was time to just get her dependent status. Then I had to get her green card at some point since I got reassigned to the US (DC). Obviously a lot easier. Also, being military being married has financial benefits such as higher housing allowances, and she can ride my medical insurance at no cost.
NecrosaroIII
Ultimate DQ Fan
Because I love my wife and want to see her every day. She comes from a traditional culture that doesn't allow cohabitation before marriage. So in order to live together you have to marry.
MiyazakiHatesKojima
Banned
Can't wait to ruin your family this upcoming holiday season
Richard Packer
Member
Can't wait to ruin your family this upcoming holiday season
Why would you say something so hurtful
Rentahamster
Rodent Whores
You have good accessory coordination for an old fart!I said when I was younger but yeah this is me today. More just saying hey, I’m not hideous, there’s no barrier in terms of appearance.
Cheers to finding your ideal family unit in the future
MiyazakiHatesKojima
Banned
$599Why would you say something so hurtful
MiyazakiHatesKojima
Banned
Northeastmonk
Gold Member
My wife was still married when we met. Divorces take time and he had moved out already. Maybe it was the taboo of it all? We got married 8 months later. I’ve always been the type who enjoyed change when the change is good for me. We do have kiddos, but that wasn’t a huge deal.
Tschumi
Member
I think, considering you let something as elective as politics pollute and ultimately dissolve a lifelong commitment you made to someone who would have got along fine without you, there was probably more wrong with your relationship than just that... Maybe you didn't deserve the privilege of demanding so much attention from another human - maybe you both unconsciously came to realise that.
I'm getting married because my parents got married and they did a great job of it. My family are civil servants so we don't fall for political bullshit - got a finely honed bullshitometer tho. (We're progressives, not liberals, I would take reuters and the ap et al over cnn, fox news, etc, any day)
I'm getting married because my parents got married and they did a great job of it. My family are civil servants so we don't fall for political bullshit - got a finely honed bullshitometer tho. (We're progressives, not liberals, I would take reuters and the ap et al over cnn, fox news, etc, any day)
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O-N-E
Member
Again and again, your posts are consistently filled with assumptions.
Cutty Flam
Banned
Picture me and my 109 wives in a mansion playing Mario Party 2 and 3 all night
llien
Banned
As far as we know, for the most of human history, we were hunters/gatherers.
No birth control pills, high infant mortality, lots of people dying from diseases, wars.
Colossal gap in parental investment with women knocked out for about a year, but men being eager to impregnate hundreds of women.
This inevitably shaped how human relationships work.
Men are "more romantic" in the sense of not having grave concerns like "what if this asshole dumps me, when I'm pregnant", no such concerns on male side: no need in committed female partner to survive.
No birth control pills, high infant mortality, lots of people dying from diseases, wars.
Colossal gap in parental investment with women knocked out for about a year, but men being eager to impregnate hundreds of women.
This inevitably shaped how human relationships work.
Men are "more romantic" in the sense of not having grave concerns like "what if this asshole dumps me, when I'm pregnant", no such concerns on male side: no need in committed female partner to survive.
highrider
Banned
Oh hey Roddy Bottum! no idea you were on here.
The Effortless Mastery of Faith No More's Roddy Bottum | KQED
Faith No More’s keyboardist on fixing his broken band, making his first opera, and the story behind that amazing shot of him with Rob Halford.www.kqed.org
He looks nothing like me, from a band that always sucked
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Ionian
Member
highrider
Banned
I’m sorry, I really do think they suck. Plus that guy is half bald, so I’m never really thrilled to be compared to some guy that imo is a lesser specimen than myself. Not to mention his name sounds straight from gay porn.
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rofif
Can’t Git Gud
We don't want kids and just got married few months ago after 12 years together (I am 31).
There was no other option. She is an obvious choice and I just feel good around her and would probably not be with anyone else. No nagging, no problems. Plenty of time for our own hobbies. No forced bullshit. Maybe I got lucky
There was no other option. She is an obvious choice and I just feel good around her and would probably not be with anyone else. No nagging, no problems. Plenty of time for our own hobbies. No forced bullshit. Maybe I got lucky
Grinchy
Banned
I want to find one of those women who spends all of our money on her hair, nails, shoes and clothes. The kind who wants to go and eat at restaurants multiple times per week.
The kind who will watch 4 hours of reality TV and network sitcoms every day and then tell you that your hobbies are childish and you need to grow up. The kind who demands you do all the weekend things she wants to do but then tells you that the one time per year you want to hang out with your guy friends that she will use sex against you as a weapon if you make that choice.
And when I find that, I want to sign legal documents that protect the shit out of her and cause me to live in a one-bedroom studio apartment while working 2 jobs to continue sending money to her while she lives in the house I also paid for the second that she feels like she wants something else.
The kind who will watch 4 hours of reality TV and network sitcoms every day and then tell you that your hobbies are childish and you need to grow up. The kind who demands you do all the weekend things she wants to do but then tells you that the one time per year you want to hang out with your guy friends that she will use sex against you as a weapon if you make that choice.
And when I find that, I want to sign legal documents that protect the shit out of her and cause me to live in a one-bedroom studio apartment while working 2 jobs to continue sending money to her while she lives in the house I also paid for the second that she feels like she wants something else.
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TheContact
Member
I got married for the companionship, but ended up having kids. I married her bc she was my best friend. People who are married look back (as do I sometimes) at the freedom they used to have and a lot of that is through rose-tinted glasses because you see a lot of single (free) people out there who are depressed and lonely, despite being able to do whatever they want, whenever they want. Dating generally sucks and it's nice to have someone you can be intimate with and just be yourself.
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highrider
Banned
You have good accessory coordination for an old fart!
Cheers to finding your ideal family unit in the future
Thanks, have no desire to partner up or find that lol.
Evil Calvin
Afraid of Boobs
51 here. married 25 years (this month). No kids. Never wanted kids. Brother is married 30 years with no kids. Sister in law's sister married no kids. my aunt has no kids. I just was never in a big family so i didn't miss it. I enjoy spending time with the wife travelling and biking and drinking. Get off my lawn!!!
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highrider
Banned
Yeah I don’t date and I’m not looking. I can imagine it would suck to be single if you didn’t want to be alone. It’s don’t actually think single life is any better really, just a lot less risk. One family court hit is all I can deal with in this life.
highrider
Banned
That’s great, glad it works out. On the flip side when you build your entire social/life/intimacy needs around one person it tends to wreck them when they split. I mean this as no disrespect, but I tend to think couples like this the man usually has trouble meeting women, because he’s essentially offering everything for very little in return. Why invite the state in?
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Rentahamster
Rodent Whores
I'm that case, cheers to doing whatever the fuck makes you and the others around you happy, and being a good dad to your son!
highrider
Banned
I'm that case, cheers to doing whatever the fuck makes you and the others around you happy, and being a good dad to your son!
Im not trying to be contrary lol, but happiness isn’t the goal. Thanks tho
Rentahamster
Rodent Whores
Get a vasectomy.
Rentahamster
Rodent Whores
What is your goal?
highrider
Banned
I’m building a house and a separate garage/studio where I can do my refinishing and art and try to push to be one of the best at what I do. I’ve done everything sexually I ever wanted to try, been with all types of women. Would only consider bringing a woman in if she complimented my life and had zero demands, and that ain’t happening
highrider
Banned
I’ve reached that level where the puss no longer has influence over how I move.
Rentahamster
Rodent Whores
Doesn't that make you happy?
They're out there. I've met 'em.
Do you think sex and sex-related pursuits hamper your art?
highrider
Banned
No not happy really, more just satisfied that I’m working towards a goal.
I’m sure they’re out there, at my age not really though. Lot of baggage and debt.
I don’t think sex really effects the creative process or the work for me. I look at sex like happiness, I’ll take it, but that’s not a concern really.
Rentahamster
Rodent Whores
I'd argue that satisfaction is a subset of happiness, but that's another conversation. I'm glad you have stuff you're good at that you like to do.
Who says they gotta be your age? lol
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highrider
Banned
Young women getting with older men want security. They won’t get that with me and they know that. I will ruthlessly smash and dash though
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Rentahamster
Rodent Whores
There's all kinds, but I guess it depends on your local culture. In my observation, you can go for the 20-something who embraces hookup culture, or the late 30s+ older woman who is divorced, may or may not already have kids, doesn't want to get married again, and just wants to fuck. They're quite common, IMO. The problem is taking the effort to connect with them and get to know them well enough to the point where you know that's what they're after and you're both on the same page.
highrider
Banned
Yeah that’s out there, but I’d have to put effort in. It’s a waste of time.
Rentahamster
Rodent Whores
Fair enough. Your priorities are what they are. If you curate your exposure and clout well vis a vis your art and skills, they'll eventually come to you on their own anyway.
highrider
Banned
The nice thing about being old is that you still have a sex drive, but you learn to govern it. But yeah I’m sure if I were super successful I’d have my pick of gold digging whores lol.
