Why do people have to shout when they're arguing?

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I can understand kids and teenagers doing it, but it honestly bothers me when someone just wants to have a civilised discussion and another adult starts shouting in anger. It pisses me off when this happen; it's not like a person is going to agree with the other just because they're shouting.

Another annoying thing that happens in these situations is when someone is speaking during an argument and the other person shouts over the other before they can finish.

I always try to answer calmly and let the other person finish their phrase before speaking and I honestly expected the majority of people to do the same, but I came to realise that almost nobody I know in real life can do that.
It doesn't happen often to me personally, but it's very common in my house and I'm tired of hearing people shouting when they disagree with another.

I tried searching online but I don't believe the "distance between hearts" bullshit.

Wouldn't it be annoying if everyone on GAF replied in capital letters whenever they disagreed with a post?
 
They perceive a threat; it's hard-wired in some people. Some people are just more easily threatened than others, even in conversation with someone who presents no threat.
 
Well, you see Data, when humans let their emotions overpower them, it results in an increased volume when communicating.
 
Because unfortunately some of us are the same as most animals in that regard. The bigger and louder one usually scares the other one into submitting.
 
Because the loudest person is the correct one, obviously.

But seriously, most people aren't usually interested in having civil debates. Shouting at someone, like posturing close to them, is mainly an intimidation tactic to make the person back down from their position. I'd argue most people aren't doing it consciously, it's just natural to want to shut down dissent in the quickest manner which tends to be physical intimidation. That's why it's usually funny to see people who ARENT physically intimidating to get so angry over things.
 
Sometimes I find myself yelling in an argument because the person I'm arguing with actually gets *less* upset if you're yelling.

I know it sounds weird, but I've found that many people get more upset with you if you're arguing but are doing so calmly and dispassionately.
 
I guessed they're trying to intimidate each other, but it looks so ridiculous because nobody gets intimidated and they all just start shouting.

When somebody shouts at me, I politely try to make them realise how stupid they look when they're shouting by themselves without gaining anything by doing it.

Vincent Grayson said:
Sometimes I find myself yelling in an argument because the person I'm arguing with actually gets *less* upset if you're yelling.

I know it sounds weird, but I've found that many people get more upset with you if you're arguing but are doing so calmly and dispassionately.
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I don't know, I've personally found that people progressively lower their voice against me if they see I don't shout back, whereas when I hear other people arguing and both are shouting, they both continue shouting for a long time.
 
zsynqx said:
Probably because they are losing the argument.
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Probably yeah, but definitely not always.
Fermbiz said:
Annoyance is one reason too.
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Jakten said:
Lack of emotional discipline/self control.
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Vincent Grayson said:
Sometimes I find myself yelling in an argument because the person I'm arguing with actually gets *less* upset if you're yelling.
I know it sounds weird, but I've found that many people get more upset with you if you're arguing but are doing so calmly and dispassionately.
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My ex used to get really annoyed at the fact I would always approach our arguments with rationality. I used to be really confused by this but I did realise I was bottling some stuff up for the sake of a 'better outcome'.
 
Makes a weaker argument sound artificially dominant (at least in their view). Maybe pride kicks in. Maybe they're a control freak. Or could be for people who aren't good at expressing themselves that want to convey to the other person that they'd like to end the debate early. It happens for a multitude of reasons, which is why it's so common, and why good debate is so rare even in adults.

Another annoying thing that happens in these situations is when someone is speaking during an argument and the other person shouts over the other before they can finish.
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This happens to me a lot. My sister does this thing though where if someone does that to you, you just channel them out and carry on talking exactly as you were, it gets the point across and it tends to work more often than not.
 
Frustration.

Doesn't matter if you have a well reasoned argument or a bullshit guess at something. If the other person isn't listening to you, it gets frustrating, and therefore makes you angry.
 
Or because you have to repeat yourself multiple times in different ways before they comprehend the actual discussion.
 
I always tell my gf to please not shout if we argue. I hate shouting. Usually asking her not to shout resolves the situation quicker. Not that it happens a lot.
 
I yell when I'm emotional and I get emotional if I'm arguing something that I believe in.

If it's something I care less I don't do that.
 
Oh please with these responses, like you're all zen masters or buddhist monks.

Some people are just annoying, abusive or straight up pricks, and after trying to be the bigger person and walking away, playing it cool, whatever, after enough pushing you just snap.

Temper's flare, it's normal, we shout because we let our passion get the better of us.
 
I actively try not to get heated when having an argument/disagreement, and if it does get to that point where it's bordering on yelling/disrespect, I walk. Most arguments can't be settled when one or both are yelling/screaming. I don't want that in my life, at all.
 
Some of yall acting like people's emotions make complete sense. People get angry in arguments sometimes and when you're angry you might yell. It's not emotional immaturity to lose your calm once in a while.

People don't just defualt to yelling if they don't feel pushed to.
 
Betty said:
Oh please with these responses, like you're all zen masters or buddhist monks.

Some people are just annoying, abusive or straight up pricks, and after trying to be the bigger person and walking away, playing it cool, whatever, after enough pushing you just snap.

Temper's flare, it's normal, we shout because we let our passion get the better of us.
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Definitely agree that this can be the case sometimes as well (that's why I left that other 1% out there).
 
Sometimes when im arguing and people dont want to listen or dont let me talk I shout to get attention and as soon I get attention I lower my voice.

Only with Friends/family, not at work or back at school.
 
My dad had bad hearing and he drank a lot, so he pretty much only communicated with me by shouting at me. If someone raises their voice to me now I just leave. I quit a decent job a few years ago because one day my boss got annoyed with me and raised his voice. I just finished the day out and never went back. I don't ever yell at people and I will not put up with it.
 
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