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Why must females mess with stuff that isnt their buisness?

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StoOgE

First tragedy, then farce.
Ok, so Im semi-dating a girl at work.. we hang out together alot, go on very datish things and really get along... but people at work are starting to pick up on it and are making things hard for us by talking shit constantly... so at this point, Im just going to let things be what they are and move in officially when I start my new job in two weeks... and things had been going extremely well between us..

then in the middle of last week things got really fucking wierd. She would make up excuses not to hang out.. and when we did get together things were really ackward on her end... then the other day she casually mentions that she got an e-mail from one of my really good female friends. How my friend got her e-mail addy I dont know, but she did. I was sorta pissed that she would contact her (because it would imply that I am giving people she doesnt know her e-mail address)...

but I blew it off, and things have continued to get wierder and wierder between me and my coworker... on a whim I called my friend and talked to her about the e-mail.. made her forward me a copy of it. She sent in the day things got wierd, and the e-mail makes me sound like I obsess over my coworker constantly (which I might, thats pretty normal in early relationships, but you dont tell the other person that shit).. so, then my friend shoots off another e-mail to my coworker to try and fix the problem (again without telling me), and things are to the point now that my coworker is completely blowing me off.

I mean, who the fuck do you think you are that I need you getting involved in my personal life? She is a really good friend, but really good friends dont go behind their friends backs to fuck with their love life. Especially considering they have never met each other. Its all the more wierd because I recently found out that my friend (the one who sent the e-mail) wants me to date another of her friends, so at this point Im left to believe that she is sabotaging my relationship in secret so that she can hook me up with someone she chooses... and when I got pissed as fuck and bitched her out over the phone she started laughing because she thought it was funny. Fuck her.
 
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Loki

Count of Concision
Pardon my French, but you got cock-blocked by someone who doesn't even have a cock. Consider yourself emasculated. Hang your head in shame. ;) :p


Seriously though, that's REALLY messed up. I'd give her a stern talking to, myself.
 
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Ninja Scooter

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StoOgE said:
Ok, so Im semi-dating a girl at work.. we hang out together alot, go on very datish things and really get along... but people at work are starting to pick up on it and are making things hard for us by talking shit constantly... so at this point, Im just going to let things be what they are and move in officially when I start my new job in two weeks... and things had been going extremely well between us..

then in the middle of last week things got really fucking wierd. She would make up excuses not to hang out.. and when we did get together things were really ackward on her end... then the other day she casually mentions that she got an e-mail from one of my really good female friends. How my friend got her e-mail addy I dont know, but she did. I was sorta pissed that she would contact her (because it would imply that I am giving people she doesnt know her e-mail address)...

but I blew it off, and things have continued to get wierder and wierder between me and my coworker... on a whim I called my friend and talked to her about the e-mail.. made her forward me a copy of it. She sent in the day things got wierd, and the e-mail makes me sound like I obsess over my coworker constantly (which I might, thats pretty normal in early relationships, but you dont tell the other person that shit).. so, then my friend shoots off another e-mail to my coworker to try and fix the problem (again without telling me), and things are to the point now that my coworker is completely blowing me off.

I mean, who the fuck do you think you are that I need you getting involved in my personal life? She is a really good friend, but really good friends dont go behind their friends backs to fuck with their love life. Especially considering they have never met each other. Its all the more wierd because I recently found out that my friend (the one who sent the e-mail) wants me to date another of her friends, so at this point Im left to believe that she is sabotaging my relationship in secret so that she can hook me up with someone she chooses... and when I got pissed as fuck and bitched her out over the phone she started laughing because she thought it was funny. Fuck her.
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thats why i try to avoid getting involved with girls that i work with. There's just some people in a work environment that think everything that goes on is there business and love to talk shit and gossip like little bitches. Makes me think these people aren't anymore mentally mature than they were in high school. It makes it really uncomfortable, because you don't want everyone at your job to know, but at the same time i wouldn't want to be all secretive about it if it was with a girl, having to sneak around and stuff.

That other girl just sounds crazy though.
 
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DarienA

The black man everyone at Activision can agree on
You got cock blocked big time dood.... it's always disappointing when it's 'friends' who do it...
 
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Mike Works

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I read 3 of your 4 paragraphs and couldn't really follow it properly with the basketball game going on (jesus fuck halfcourt shot), but I did notice the part where you said, "Maybe I do obsess over this girl (to my friend)...". It's bullshit that she went behind your back and said this to the girl, but don't obsess over her to other people in the first place. Obsessing = bad.
 
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ZootedGranny

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"Get in the car, and don't touch nothin, sit in the car"
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Aruarian Reflection

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Mike Works said:
I read 3 of your 4 paragraphs and couldn't really follow it properly with the basketball game going on (jesus fuck halfcourt shot), but I did notice the part where you said, "Maybe I do obsess over this girl (to my friend)...". It's bullshit that she went behind your back and said this to the girl, but don't obsess over her to other people in the first place. Obsessing = bad.
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*nods* Rule #1: Don't be clingy!
 
Bluecondor

Bluecondor

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It can be tough when you are friends with women. I was really good friends with a woman for the past year or so, and she just did not mix well with the women I tried to date. I really liked this girl last Summer/last Fall, but my female friend hated her the second they met. I really liked another girl this Winter, and it was the same thing.

On one hand, I know that my friend was looking out for my best interests (neither girl was right for me, and I was blinded because I liked them). But, on the other hand, it made things tough, because my female friend had a really strong personality, and she doesn't hide her thoughts/opinions very well.

I think that when you are good friends with a girl, you really have to talk things through with the women you date, and almost tell them to expect some strange interactions. Women like to lie it all on the line, and they can get pretty concerned/protective whenever their friends are involved. Thus - the female friend and the potential girlfriend is often a dangerous situation - especially at first.

Bottom line - I'm sure your female friend has/had the best intentions. She is just trying to protect you, which - again, leads to some strange behavior at times.

You should let things go for a few days, and then ask the girl you like to have a drink with you or something - so that you can clear the air. And - don't trash your female friend. Just try and explain to the girl you like that your friend was just trying to look out for you, and it got wierd. It's tough balancing friends and girlfriends....
 
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b_dawk

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SnowWolf said:
*nods* Rule #1: Don't be clingy!
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It doesn't count as clingy if you're obsessing in private to close friends. That's totally different from calling a girl a zillion times when you are just getting to know each other. It's totally normal to want to talk a lot about someone you really like. I think your friend sucks and it'd probably be best not to tell her anything else about this girl- or any other girl for that matter. Have you tired to sit your coworker down and explain what happened? I know "talking" can be kind of weird in a new relationship, but you might be able to salvage your relationship if you tell her what's up.
 
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Meier

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SnowWolf said:
*nods* Rule #1: Don't be clingy!
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Erm, it's not exactly being too clingy when it isnt to the person you're "clinging to." Come on, who doesn't talk about their new girlfriend or boyfriend (or just someone theyre dating) frequently to friends early in the relationship?
 
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Koopa

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Erm, it's not exactly being too clingy when it isnt to the person you're "clinging to." Come on, who doesn't talk about their new girlfriend or boyfriend (or just someone theyre dating) frequently to friends early in the relationship?
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Uhh.. normal people, thats who. Seriously, I have a friend right now who is seeing someone from his work, he is also manic depression and thinks im an asshole or a fucker for not listening to every thought in his head at the time of conception.

I know more about this girl then he fucking does, thats because he's told me everything there is to know and he didnt retain most of it.

Its cool you found someone that clics with you, you should. there are what? 7 billion people on this rock, and the motherfucking planets didnt align to bring you two together. Deal with it.

Life is so much simpliar when you keep your bid'ness your bid'ness.

Take it as a lesson learned and move the fuck on. Personally I would date the friends person and just be the biggest fucking asshole imaginable, preferably, ending all contact with a FHUTA and a dirty sanchez.

Then when you friend confronts you about your actions, and asks you why you did that. Tell her that she fucked up a relationship between you and a friend and your gonna fuck up a relationship between her and her friend.

And if the girl likes the dirty sanchez, wedding bells in the fall? Muhahahahaha.
 
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Koshiba

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That really sucks. :( I hate when people do that kind of stuff. It's happened to me several times. With both my male and female friends. It's like, "Just leave my love life to me and get your own." >/
 
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ToxicAdam

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Lathentar said:
Do you ONLY date girls from your work? God damn.
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Wasn't there a thread where we all warned him NOT to date chicks (maybe this one) from his workplace?

::Generic Rage here:::
 
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dskillzhtown

keep your strippers out of my American football
Was this the same chick that you were making out with in front of everyone at your job at a party and ended up naked on a couch?

Anyway, how did your friend get your co-worker's e-mail? I would think you would really concerned about that more thatn anything.
 
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