Escape Goat
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Just curious. Would someones profession influence your decision to date them?
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Would you date a bartender?
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Ninja Scooter
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uhh free drinks? Hell fucking yes i would.
Tommie Hu$tle
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Teh Hamburglar said:
Is this a real question? Or one of those 'tis a humor blog' things because I'm not really seeing the downside to dating a bartender. I just don't want to be set up because I'm not in on the joke.
Bluecondor
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I think a person's profession makes them more or less attractive. It's not a definitive factor for me, but it definitely catches my eye.
Let's see....
Teacher - usually more attractive, especially if she is positive about it and is really into it. And, if she hates her students and complains about it constantly, this actually makes her unattractive
Bartender - probably makes her more attractive, because it would be impressive to see her at a bar, running game, where 40-50 people are ordering drinks all night long
Accountant - usually less attractive, as accountants I have known/dated can be really insular and can be really stressed about their jobs - especially when on audits
Doctor/Nurse - it depends - a couple of the doctors/nurses I have known are really cool and seem to be the type of positive and highly competent person you would want to be around if you or a friend/family member were sick. A lot of them I have met hate their jobs, or are totally stressed by their job, which is unattractive.
I guess it just comes down to how much someone likes their job and why. I think I would be impressed by anyone's profession if they were into it, and it seemed like they were contributing. I would be turned off by anyone who was miserable with what they are doing and/or who complained about their job constantly.
Let's see....
Teacher - usually more attractive, especially if she is positive about it and is really into it. And, if she hates her students and complains about it constantly, this actually makes her unattractive
Bartender - probably makes her more attractive, because it would be impressive to see her at a bar, running game, where 40-50 people are ordering drinks all night long
Accountant - usually less attractive, as accountants I have known/dated can be really insular and can be really stressed about their jobs - especially when on audits
Doctor/Nurse - it depends - a couple of the doctors/nurses I have known are really cool and seem to be the type of positive and highly competent person you would want to be around if you or a friend/family member were sick. A lot of them I have met hate their jobs, or are totally stressed by their job, which is unattractive.
I guess it just comes down to how much someone likes their job and why. I think I would be impressed by anyone's profession if they were into it, and it seemed like they were contributing. I would be turned off by anyone who was miserable with what they are doing and/or who complained about their job constantly.
Mercury Fred
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I suggest NOT dating a bartender. Better to make friends with and possibly keep as a fuckbuddy. On the other hand, if you're free of all jealousy and don't mind people hitting on your S.O. all of the time, then knock yourself out.
teruterubozu
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Married now but I learned a valuable lesson when I was single:
Wherever you meet your girl, that's where you'll most likely hang out with her most of the time.
Meet a girl in a coffee shop, you'll drink a lot of Starbucks.
Meet a girl in a bar, get ready for many drunken nights.
etc., etc.
I always laugh when friends say stuff like "All she wants to do is go out with her friends!" Then I ask, "Where did you meet her?" "At a bar." No wonder...
Wherever you meet your girl, that's where you'll most likely hang out with her most of the time.
Meet a girl in a coffee shop, you'll drink a lot of Starbucks.
Meet a girl in a bar, get ready for many drunken nights.
etc., etc.
I always laugh when friends say stuff like "All she wants to do is go out with her friends!" Then I ask, "Where did you meet her?" "At a bar." No wonder...
Ninja Scooter
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Mercury Fred said:
you have to figure that any hot bartender is going to get hit on by dozens of drunk guys on a nightly basis, so unless she's a giant whore, she's probably able to just zone it out. From my personal experience
() hitting on bartenders is pretty much a waste, and whenever they flirt back, its probably just to mess with you or get you to buy more drinks.Littleberu
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BarMAID guys. *nervous laugh* You meant MAID right?
Bad times there!TristenCanSing
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I think the profession would influence me a little bit. I mean, I've gone out and have been hit on by bartenders, and while the idea is nice, I think that after awhile the whole night-life scene would get a little old. Especially since I'm really academically focused.
This is the same concept as, would you rather date a stripper or someone who has built their own business kind of thing
This is the same concept as, would you rather date a stripper or someone who has built their own business kind of thing
Escape Goat
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Phoenix said:
People in a bar are usually single guys. Make that drunk guys. bartenders make alot of money flirting. The frequency of being hit on has got to be much higher than meeting people in corporate america. Its a bar.
I believe the downside is that they're in a very visual place, and if you're an insecure/untrusting guy, you'd have trouble putting up with tons of guys trying to constantly get in her pants. That kind of thing could be a REAL mindtrip if you're not capable of trusting that she'd rather come home to you, for whatever reason it may be.Phoenix said:
I could see it sucking ass. If some asshole was groping her or some shit like that, and I saw it, I'd naturally want to kick his ass. Then if she said I couldn't or she had it under control, I'd probably feel like a douche as my caveman instinct kicked in, saying to stomp that motherfucker, while I had to supress it cuz the VICTIM (the woman who was a bartender) didn't want me to help.
East Clintwood
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Suppose you don't know he/she works as a bartender.
Bluecondor
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Teh Hamburglar said:
I don't know though - if your girlfriend works at one of those corporate jobs in which she have regular 10-12 hour days, travels frequently for work, and is encouraged to "team build" and socialize with her peers, the dudes she works with can be a major pain in the ass.
I dated an assistant buyer in a large department store. She worked 60 hour weeks, travelled at least once a week with her "team" at work, and then she went to at least one all evening long happy hour with her team every weekend (after work drinks on Friday = 6 PM to 10 or 11). There were a bunch of dudes in her office, and - sure enough, after three months, she left me for "TJ from finance" (I could see it coming a mile away, and I loathed this dude).
I had a similar experience recently when I dated a woman who works for one of the "big four" accounting firms. She travelled 3 or 4 days a week (Monday through Wednesday or Thursday) with her team, worked long hours (7 til 7 every day), and - to make it worse - accounting is a male dominated profession, with lots of young single guys. Once again, two months into it, we were at one of her work functions, where I met Jason, the dude who she dropped me for two weeks later, because she "doesn't have time to date with her schedule."
And - conversely - when I have dated wait staff and/or bartenders, they usually couldn't wait to leave work, and, usually wanted nothing to do with people from the bar/restaurant during their free time. Granted, I'm sure that there are people who work in bars who hook up all the time with co-workers and customers, but, I don't know that I would trade someone who works in a bar for an accountant or an assistant buyer.
God my dating life is sad. :lol
Tommie Hu$tle
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I'm still confused is this a joke or a real question? I'm still not seeing a downside to this.
I mean if your chick looks good dudes are going to hit on her anywhere and regardless where her job is. Bartenders are paid to have personality so if you can't handle the fact that a your girl is going to have to use her body and flirt to get a sucker to pull more out of his pocket then maybe you so hit on a groery store cashier.
But, if you hit on her then someone else might too...hmmm bad choice what about a schoolteacher?
Forget that one too you can't compete with a pre-teen.
Corporate America is worse than a bar, the guy hitting on your chick can find a new bar easier than he can a new job...I think you should just go gay.
Dang that was you!!!
Small world.
I mean if your chick looks good dudes are going to hit on her anywhere and regardless where her job is. Bartenders are paid to have personality so if you can't handle the fact that a your girl is going to have to use her body and flirt to get a sucker to pull more out of his pocket then maybe you so hit on a groery store cashier.
But, if you hit on her then someone else might too...hmmm bad choice what about a schoolteacher?
Forget that one too you can't compete with a pre-teen.
Corporate America is worse than a bar, the guy hitting on your chick can find a new bar easier than he can a new job...I think you should just go gay.
Bluecondor said:
Dang that was you!!!
Small world.
Phoenix
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Teh Hamburglar said:
People at work are usually single guys. Generally well educated, friendly, and clearly gainfully employed guys. Those guys will hang out with and flirt with your SO as well. Many times she will be working late, long nights on stressful projects with other guys moreso than the drunk ass slob at the bar sipping down drinks. A woman is more likely to be interested in a decent guy than some random drunken ass sitting at a bar. If your girl is YOUR girl it won't matter where she is - she's not going to be trying to hook up with someone new because you aren't 'on top of your game'.
Ninja Scooter
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bishoptl said:
i know all too well, bishop. All too well.
Bluecondor
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Tommie Hu$tle said:
I have always had this dream/hope that I would run into TJ again at some point. He would be dating some hot girl who he was into, all head over heels, etc., Naturally, I would be at the very top of my game that night, and after twenty minutes, his girl would be all over me - in an obvious, gratuitous spectacle, as TJ stood by, helpless, as my raw animal magnetism literally overpowered his girl - right before his very eyes.
And.....then I wake up. :lol
Bluecondor
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Phoenix said:
Wow - this is so true. Suddenly, I feel like listening to "One For My Baby" by Frank Sinatra, with a bottle of bourbon, one glass, no ice.
WrathOfOtaibah
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I went out with a bartender for a while. She wasn't much of a party girl but could mix drinks really well. She said she heavily flirts with men there to tip her more and get her more drinks. I was jealous as she was taking home some pretty big bank every night. She purposefully wore low cut clothing. All of this was just a ruse to get more men to tip. She said she didn't like it at first but when drunk men would tip her $10, 20 or more, she accepted it.
That said, I sincerely hope you don't try to make moves on a bartender. If you do, make them outside of the bar.
That said, I sincerely hope you don't try to make moves on a bartender. If you do, make them outside of the bar.
Teh Hamburglar said:
Give us some context on this hypothetical bartender. Have you spoken to him outside the context of the patron/bartender relationship? I'd imagine if this has been his profession for any period of time, he's probably just about immune to any bar-flirting that a customer could serve his way.
Tommie Hu$tle
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Phoenix said:Not even that. Hell when I was single it didn't matter where a girl was. If she was 'tight', I'd at least flirt with her to see what my chances were.
Yeah, I'm going to play the odds off top. Regardless I'm a man like that.
WasabiKing
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As someone who has worked really hard on hookin' up with a bartender before, keep in mind that there are many pitfalls as well as the benefits.
* If you really like to go to this bar, would you accept not being able to go back if things do not work out? - DEALBREAKER FOR ME
* Are you ready to put in the time and effort? I mean, some of these gals get shit like millionaires offering to fly them out to the other side of the country as soon as she gets off, so your average bullshit flirting will not work
* Are you able accept the fact that guys will hit on her EVERY night. Can you resist being the jealous boyfriend?
I've only, hooked up, but nothing long-term. And the benefits could be great, but many of the gals I know don't like to hook up with customers.
* If you really like to go to this bar, would you accept not being able to go back if things do not work out? - DEALBREAKER FOR ME
* Are you ready to put in the time and effort? I mean, some of these gals get shit like millionaires offering to fly them out to the other side of the country as soon as she gets off, so your average bullshit flirting will not work
* Are you able accept the fact that guys will hit on her EVERY night. Can you resist being the jealous boyfriend?
I've only, hooked up, but nothing long-term. And the benefits could be great, but many of the gals I know don't like to hook up with customers.
The timing for this thread couldn't be more perfect. My fiance actually just started working at a bar after she quite being a baker for Vons. She was insisting I come in and check the place ot so that I wouldn't be uncomfortable with it. I can deal with people hitting on her since she is very attractive so I wasn't uncomfortable with it to begin with. It comes down to trust and I completely trust her and the owner was a decent enough guy who just had a kid and assured me that she is quite safe (which honestly was my capital concern).
Turns out, this place doesn't even sell hard alcohol just beer and soda. Fucking girl was making a big deal out of working in a pool hall with a beer section. I left in disgust soon afterwards and waited for her to get home.
Turns out, this place doesn't even sell hard alcohol just beer and soda. Fucking girl was making a big deal out of working in a pool hall with a beer section. I left in disgust soon afterwards and waited for her to get home.
Tommie Hu$tle said:
:lol :lol :lol
Phoenix said:
That's what I'm thinking. And in a way, isn't that what you'd prefer? A nice looking girl that everyone else wants, as opposed to some homely chick that nobody would be caught dead showing interest in? If you don't trust your girl enough to resist temptation, you don't have much going on there anyway.
I know a girl that works in a club type place; it's a clean place, but most of the girls over there do little extras on the side that doesnt involve pouring beers and doing drinks; so dating those girls might turn to be problematic. I really doubt this is like that in every place, maybe its just that place :lol
Oh Montreal!
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Tommie Hu$tle
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shuri said:
QUE? That could be anywhere a freak is a freak and that can be found anywhere. Hell you got female Marines out here in Iraq selling pussy. It has nothing to do with the occupation and everything to do with the person.
psycho_snake
I went to WAGs boutique and all I got was a sniff
If she gives me free beers, then sure.
Escape Goat
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Suerte said:
Yep
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