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[potam]

Man, went on the worst date-ish thing ever earlier. So I'd been chatting with this girl this week on OKC, and she asks me to meet her at this oyster fest thing (which was basically just an excuse to drink during the day). I got there, and she had two friends with her, which I didn't think much of at first. But basically, it quickly turned into the three of them talking amongst each other while I can't hear shit over the music.

They wandered off twice while I was at the bar. The first time I just chalked it up to them finding a better spot, but then the second time I just pounded my drink and left. It just seemed so bizarre that she would invite me there and then completely ignore me.

 

[Jhoan]

Sooo... tomorrow I'm hanging out with a girl I've gone out with a couple of times. The plan is to watch a movie and maybe make some food together. It seemed like a good setup for a first kiss if the opportunity presented itself. The problem is last night I started to get a cold sore for the first time in what seems like two years. Now I'm racking my brain trying to decide if and how I should address it. Obviously I could cancel, but I really like her and want to hang out regardless of there being no chance at any sort of action until my lip is healed. Am I overthinking this? Any advice?

I was in your same exact position last year. The night before my first date with a girl, I was excited/nervous. Woke up the next day with a cold sore. I ended up having a good time with the girl but at the end of it I told her I had a cold sore as much as I wanted to make out with her. She was cool with it. So my advice would be to go the date but avoid making out with her. If anything, I would suggest you be honest with her and tell her you have a cold sore. I'm sure she'll understand and respect you for it.

Having a cold sore is like catching the cold but there's a taboo associated with having a cold sore (you can thank advertising agencies for that). It'll take at least one to two weeks for it to disappear; apply a layer of petroleum jelly on it with a Q tip every day to protect it from bacteria and it'll disappear eventually. I did this religiously that by the time the next date came, I went to town with the kissing.

 

[Moppet13]

So read up on it. Truth is, you probably have it dormant as well without knowing it. That's actually statistically more likely than the opposite at a certain age. Herpies isn't even an STD and extremely common. Granted, sleeping with her while she has an outbreak would be stupid, but chances are you're gonna catch it one day anyway.

Well, we're not talking cold sores here. I read up on it, and places say you're pretty much fucked if you do anything with anyone who has herpies. Which I some how find hard to believe, but I don't actually know....

 

[MogCakes]

Man, went on the worst date-ish thing ever earlier. So I'd been chatting with this girl this week on OKC, and she asks me to meet her at this oyster fest thing (which was basically just an excuse to drink during the day). I got there, and she had two friends with her, which I didn't think much of at first. But basically, it quickly turned into the three of them talking amongst each other while I can't hear shit over the music.

They wandered off twice while I was at the bar. The first time I just chalked it up to them finding a better spot, but then the second time I just pounded my drink and left. It just seemed so bizarre that she would invite me there and then completely ignore me.

She brought her friends as backup, and she probably judged you the moment she saw you, thought you weren't worth it, and her and her friends shunned you out in hopes you'd leave. People can be right assholes like that. Sorry for your bad experience mate, it happens often with dates off of dating sites.

 

[BlackWaltz]

I was in your same exact position last year. The night before my first date with a girl, I was excited/nervous. Woke up the next day with a cold sore. I ended up having a good time with the girl but at the end of it I told her I had a cold sore as much as I wanted to make out with her. She was cool with it. So my advice would be to go the date but avoid making out with her. If anything, I would suggest you be honest with her and tell her you have a cold sore. I'm sure she'll understand and respect you for it.

Having a cold sore is like catching the cold but there's a taboo associated with having a cold sore (you can thank advertising agencies for that). It'll take at least one to two weeks for it to disappear; apply a layer of petroleum jelly on it with a Q tip every day to protect it from bacteria and it'll disappear eventually. I did this religiously that by the time the next date came, I went to town with the kissing.

Yeah, this was pretty much the direction I was leaning in, thanks for the reassurance. I've gotten cold sores more or less my entire life(thanks mom... somehow my dad and brother both avoided getting infected), but never had it come up at such an awkward and frustrating point in a new relationship.

 

[etrain911]

Things have been picking up for me incredibly well, GAF! I have a date tomorrow with someone from a university in the same city as mine who seems super cool, is an aspiring creative type, likes the same kind of humor as I do, and makes me laugh, then I have another date on Sunday in a different city with someone who is into social justice, is an aspiring film maker, plays videogames regularly, and dyes her hair (I'm a total sucker for dyed hair). Then, today, someone who deactivated her OKC a couple months ago reactivates it and gets in touch with me, asking for my number. I feel like I'm living a life of abundance now. Like, every facet of my life is coming together into a perfect storm of opportunity and awesomeness and I owe a lot of what I've learned to this thread. If I could bottle up all of the joy and gratitude I feel and hand each of you a bottle I totally would right now. I've learned how to not over-pursue (I use my phone exclusively for facilitating moments to hang out with the people I like and I make that clear up front so that I don't have to deal with over or under-texting, I don't hang around for "I might be frees" or "maybes" when I know if I were to call someone else up I could get a definite "yes", and I don't bring up relationship talk with people) and I feel totally care-free.

 

[Kopite]

Things have been picking up for me incredibly well, GAF! I have a date tomorrow with someone from a university in the same city as mine who seems super cool, is an aspiring creative type, likes the same kind of humor as I do, and makes me laugh, then I have another date on Sunday in a different city with someone who is into social justice, is an aspiring film maker, plays videogames regularly, and dyes her hair (I'm a total sucker for dyed hair). Then, today, someone who deactivated her OKC a couple months ago reactivates it and gets in touch with me, asking for my number. I feel like I'm living a life of abundance now. Like, every facet of my life is coming together into a perfect storm of opportunity and awesomeness and I owe a lot of what I've learned to this thread. If I could bottle up all of the joy and gratitude I feel and hand each of you a bottle I totally would right now. I've learned how to not over-pursue (I use my phone exclusively for facilitating moments to hang out with the people I like and I make that clear up front so that I don't have to deal with over or under-texting, I don't hang around for "I might be frees" or "maybes" when I know if I were to call someone else up I could get a definite "yes", and I don't bring up relationship talk with people) and I feel totally care-free.

Nice one mate.

 

[Deleted member 10571]

If anyone followed my (short) story before: Since there was no way I was going to just give up on that girl, I decided to go the awful, awful route of 'trying to be friends and get to know each other in a normal tempo, to see how things will go' (abridged version). Things went okay-ish so far, and she just asked me out for a beer tomorrow. Not sure if I should be immensely afraid or incredibly happy, but I'll try to keep calm and just see what's up. Wish me luck, GAF, I'm gonna need it.

Two weeks and still I honestly love her, I have no idea what's gotten into me with her -.-

 

[thesoapster]

Since then, I have traveled the world and done things that most people only dream of. I've trained kung fu at Shaolin. I've ridden a camel through the Sahara and had dinner in the shadow of the Great Pyramid. I've climbed Kilimanjaro and camped on the Serengeti. I've traveled up the Amazon and spent several nights in the jungle. My journeys have taken me to the Atacama Desert, the driest place on the planet, and on a walking safari in South Africa. I've climbed volcanoes, dove the Great Barrier Reef, and backpacked in the Outback. I've been to Everest Base Camp, snowshoed in the Rockies,and so much more. A decade ago I would have thought those things weren't possible, now they are a way of life. I've even managed to get paid to write about those adventures and often go on them for free. It is amazing how far I've come.

You drink Dos Equis, don't you?

 

[Servbot24]

I have a 3rd date tonight. She asked what we're doing and I said I'd cook some food and we'd go to the park. No idea how to cook though... will have to figure something out. More importantly my mission is to land a kiss tonight, lol.

 

[Kajigger]

Well, Dating GAF, I'm stuck. The girl I've been after went back to her Ex (which appears to be emotionally abusive, but I digress). My common sense is telling me to drop it already, but somehow I can't. Right now I'm kind of bummed. I feel like dating other people, but I can't help staying on her. What can I do to just move on? Would it be wrong of me to just move on and forget about it, considering she doesn't want help? I'm really conflicted about this. On one hand, I know it won't end well and she'll need someone, but on the other I know she won't accept help. What do?

 

[Servbot24]

Well, Dating GAF, I'm stuck. The girl I've been after went back to her Ex (which appears to be emotionally abusive, but I digress). My common sense is telling me to drop it already, but somehow I can't. Right now I'm kind of bummed. I feel like dating other people, but I can't help staying on her. What can I do to just move on? Would it be wrong of me to just move on and forget about it, considering she doesn't want help? I'm really conflicted about this. On one hand, I know it won't end well and she'll need someone, but on the other I know she won't accept help. What do?

You can't do anything. Anything that happens with her will be her decision at this point, you don't want to live hanging on her whim. Focus on yourself.

 

[giga]

If anyone followed my (short) story before: Since there was no way I was going to just give up on that girl, I decided to go the awful, awful route of 'trying to be friends and get to know each other in a normal tempo, to see how things will go' (abridged version). Things went okay-ish so far, and she just asked me out for a beer tomorrow. Not sure if I should be immensely afraid or incredibly happy, but I'll try to keep calm and just see what's up. Wish me luck, GAF, I'm gonna need it.

Two weeks and still I honestly love her, I have no idea what's gotten into me with her -.-

This is your recent ex? You won't get over her if you keep seeing her. Do you even want to get over her?

Well, Dating GAF, I'm stuck. The girl I've been after went back to her Ex (which appears to be emotionally abusive, but I digress). My common sense is telling me to drop it already, but somehow I can't. Right now I'm kind of bummed. I feel like dating other people, but I can't help staying on her. What can I do to just move on? Would it be wrong of me to just move on and forget about it, considering she doesn't want help? I'm really conflicted about this. On one hand, I know it won't end well and she'll need someone, but on the other I know she won't accept help. What do?

Went through the same thing. Just know it's not you, it's her. Forget about her and find someone who isn't mentally unfit.

 

[Kajigger]

Went through the same thing. Just know it's not you, it's her. Forget about her and find someone who isn't mentally unfit.

You can't do anything. Anything that happens with her will be her decision at this point, you don't want to live hanging on her whim. Focus on yourself.

Thanks guys. I never thought about it that way. I just thought it would make me a bad person to forget about her. I just have to come to terms with it I suppose.

 

[giga]

Thanks guys. I never thought about it that way. I just thought it would make me a bad person to forget about her. I just have to come to terms with it I suppose.

I know the feeling. I begged and pleaded with mine. She even admitted she didn't know what was wrong with her. She went with it anyway. It's out of your control at that point. These days I just feel bad and take pity on her, instead of myself.

 

[Deleted member 10571]

This is your recent ex? You won't get over her if you keep seeing her. Do you even want to get over her?

As I said a few times (I guess), I don't want to give up so easily, not as long as I have the feeling there might be something worth saving.

 

[Servbot24]

If anyone followed my (short) story before: Since there was no way I was going to just give up on that girl, I decided to go the awful, awful route of 'trying to be friends and get to know each other in a normal tempo, to see how things will go' (abridged version). Things went okay-ish so far, and she just asked me out for a beer tomorrow. Not sure if I should be immensely afraid or incredibly happy, but I'll try to keep calm and just see what's up. Wish me luck, GAF, I'm gonna need it.

Two weeks and still I honestly love her, I have no idea what's gotten into me with her -.-

Just to warn you I went through a similar thing and let it stretch out for months. Emotional torture for nothing. Not saying it can't work out, just don't get your hopes up. Cutting her out of your life would be the rational thing to do, but I understand that sometimes we don't feel like being rational.

 

[Jhoan]

I have a 3rd date tonight. She asked what we're doing and I said I'd cook some food and we'd go to the park. No idea how to cook though... will have to figure something out. More importantly my mission is to land a kiss tonight, lol.

What?! Lol! Can you at least cook potatoes? As a Hispanic, I know how to cook our staple diet of rice with assorted meats as well as plantains. Beans not so much but I'll get it eventually. Every year when my mother goes out of town for a month, this website is my Holy Bible of cooking.

But again, it depends on what style you want to cook in and what kinds of ingredients are available to you. I'm sure if you Google simple recipes for 2, something will pop up. Treat cooking like an activity, put music on, and have fun doing it. You can easily make tacos with ground beef and/or pepper steak with sauteed vegetables as well as an easy basic salad, and maybe some fries on the side (buy a frozen bag from the super market). Girls love when guys cook.

A quick update on my camp. Last time I spoke to the Asian girl was at about 2:30AM on Saturday. Asked her what she was planning on doing yesterday, said hang out with friends, homework and play DOTA 2 so I didn't suggest anything and didn't contact her yesterday. Was thinking about contacting her either tonight or tomorrow to see what's up. Definitely want to give her space but don't want to go cold on her since I'm want to show that I'm still interested in her. No real loss for me if it doesn't go anywhere given my prospects with other girls as it's still early in the semester.

 

[Lucid07]

Welp, asked a girl if she was busy this week no reply especially after how much we've been talking. On to the next one.

 

[Mr.Fresh]

What are you guys planning for Valentines Day?? I need some ideas lol.

 

[Kajigger]

I know the feeling. I begged and pleaded with mine. She even admitted she didn't know what was wrong with her. She went with it anyway. It's out of your control at that point. These days I just feel bad and take pity on her, instead of myself.

Exactly! I feel bad for her and don't want her to get hurt, but you're right, it's out of my hands.

 

[DutchNeon]

What are you guys planning for Valentines Day?? I need some ideas lol.

Nothing super special for me. The girl I'm dating has to work on Valentine's day. I got a day off and we both tried to see if she could get a day off too but can't due the too much people being sick.

Going to her place before she is done working so i'll be there when she comes home. Bought a gift (an IKEA love heart - thought it was funny as we both work and met eachother at IKEA) and a card. She has her birthday too on sunday but she wants to celebrate it with me on Valentine's day together. Probably gonna chill at her place or go the city. Kind of improvisation. She offered me to go out for dinner tomorrow as a compensation as she couldn't get a day off. Pretty sweet of her

Asked her if she has anything special in mind what she wants for her birthday (I've got some ideas but maybe she has something she wants a lot) but she stated that it was a already a gift to her that I would be with her on valentine's day to celebrate it. Awhhh <3. Still going to buy something for her - any good ideas?

Maybe a childish thing to do (correct me please) but I'm gonna ask her that night if she wants to me my girlfriend. The dating has been a huge success and we both enjoy being together. Kind of asking if it is official

 

[Pau]

What are you guys planning for Valentines Day?? I need some ideas lol.

Hope that my presents get there that day and have a Skype date. Long-distance man.

 

[Kung Fu Jedi]

You drink Dos Equis, don't you?

LOL! I have a few friends who like to say that I am the Dos Equis Man.

 

[Deleted member 10571]

Just to warn you I went through a similar thing and let it stretch out for months. Emotional torture for nothing. Not saying it can't work out, just don't get your hopes up. Cutting her out of your life would be the rational thing to do, but I understand that sometimes we don't feel like being rational.

Oh, I know and I don't get my hopes up - at least I try not to. But as long as there's a chance, I'll go for it. If this goes on for weeks, I'll bail the fuck out, but I promised her and myself to at least try to give it some time.

Thank you for the warning though!

 

[Mr. Matthew]

Been a long time since I last posted here, but I got great advice last time, and now I need some more!

I have been lurking this thread for awhile and the advice/feedback everyone gives truly helps, trust me. But now I have my own issue, and I could really get some advice.

So here is the deal, last summer I met this girl and we clicked blablabla. Long story short, we have been dating since mid November and things couldn't be more perfect. However, since mid January there have been some changes. I got a full time job and she works part time. She is part of three drama clubs, and because of this, she has rehearsals 5 times a week. In addition, she is also very, very social active which means her schedule is literally filled every single week. Now here's the catch, she started rehearsals mid January, so I went from seeing her 3, occasionally 4 times a week to barely 1 night per week. This has been going on for roughly 4 weeks now, and last night I talked to her about this, because I don't really like seeing her only once per week. And we found out, that her agenda opens up more when all the rehearsals are done and all. And that's in the beginning of September.

I really like her, and acting is her passion and I would never ask her to give that up, but it is bugging me that I cannot see her that often anymore. I mean, I don't need to see her every single day, but I would like it if I could spend, like, 2 days a week with her. My question to you guys is, what would be wise for me to do? Should I stop seeing her all together and search for someone who isn't so socially active? Or should I keep dating her, and just enjoy the moments that I am with her? I really like her, I really do, but I am struggling with seeing her just once per week. Hopefully you guys could give me some insights!

Thanks

 

[grap3fruitman]

You're all going to die alone.

 

[Minamu]

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[Anoregon]

You're all going to die alone.

I won't die alone if I have you, Grape-san ^_________^

 

[Idde]

Been a long time since I last posted here, but I got great advice last time, and now I need some more!

I have been lurking this thread for awhile and the advice/feedback everyone gives truly helps, trust me. But now I have my own issue, and I could really get some advice.

So here is the deal, last summer I met this girl and we clicked blablabla. Long story short, we have been dating since mid November and things couldn't be more perfect. However, since mid January there have been some changes. I got a full time job and she works part time. She is part of three drama clubs, and because of this, she has rehearsals 5 times a week. In addition, she is also very, very social active which means her schedule is literally filled every single week. Now here's the catch, she started rehearsals mid January, so I went from seeing her 3, occasionally 4 times a week to barely 1 night per week. This has been going on for roughly 4 weeks now, and last night I talked to her about this, because I don't really like seeing her only once per week. And we found out, that her agenda opens up more when all the rehearsals are done and all. And that's in the beginning of September.



I really like her, and acting is her passion and I would never ask her to give that up, but it is bugging me that I cannot see her that often anymore. I mean, I don't need to see her every single day, but I would like it if I could spend, like, 2 days a week with her. My question to you guys is, what would be wise for me to do? Should I stop seeing her all together and search for someone who isn't so socially active? Or should I keep dating her, and just enjoy the moments that I am with her? I really like her, I really do, but I am struggling with seeing her just once per week. Hopefully you guys could give me some insights!

Thanks

It sucks that the situation isn't gonna change till the beginning of september, but sometimes that's just how life is. If you're gonna stick together there's always gonna be times when one person will be busier than the other. If you can deal with only seeing her once a week, and aren't gonna hold any grudges about how busy she is, stick with it. Enjoy the times you have together and see it as practice for when you'll have a job later, and time together will be really scarce.

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Water will kill you. True fact. 100% of the people who've died have drank water. Shit's dangerous I tell ya.

 

[Charlie McCarthy]

You're all going to die alone.

 

[Minamu]

Water will kill you. True fact. 100% of the people who've died have drank water. Shit's dangerous I tell ya.

I believe all people who died also stopped breathing before they died. I don't recommend doing that.

 

[Idde]

I believe all people who died also stopped breathing before they died. I don't recommend doing that.

And! All people who have died have also breathed! So...don't stop breathing, but also, don't breathe?

 

[Minamu]

Don't stop! Believin'! Hold on to the feelin'!

 

[HalfBakedProphet]

You're all going to die alone.

getting Combine'd would be a good step in the right direction for you at this point. It isnt a stretch to say GAF isnt good for you and you're not good for GAF

 

[Servbot24]

I have a 3rd date tonight. She asked what we're doing and I said I'd cook some food and we'd go to the park. No idea how to cook though... will have to figure something out. More importantly my mission is to land a kiss tonight, lol.

mission failed D:

i think maybe i had too much to drink and it made me stop caring

but she wants to meet again. hopefully i'm not friend-zoning myself.

 

[rooflapimp]

mission failed D:

i think maybe i had too much to drink and it made me stop caring

but she wants to meet again. hopefully i'm not friend-zoning myself.

You didn't bang her yet? You better get on that fast

 

[Oxn]

mission failed D:

i think maybe i had too much to drink and it made me stop caring

but she wants to meet again. hopefully i'm not friend-zoning myself.

3 dates and not even a kiss? Whats going on

 

[Deleted member 47027]

mission failed D:

i think maybe i had too much to drink and it made me stop caring

but she wants to meet again. hopefully i'm not friend-zoning myself.

Don't worry, there's no such thing as a friendzone. Also, what's so bad about being a friend? Be a friend brah. Friendships are good things.

 

[depths20XX]

So the girl I've been seeing for the past month landed a job about 6 hours away. I knew it would happen since she was looking for a job there when we first started seeing each other. I just didn't expect it to be so...soon.

I feel like things moved really quickly with us and we're both really into each other, so we are going to keep seeing each other on weekends when we can.

Basically, how do you people in distance relationships make it work? I'm in a very confused place in my life right now too and have been thinking of quitting my job. So I can't tell if this is a good thing or bad thing.

 

[Minamu]

What does it mean when people say there is no friendzone?

Also; http://www.cracked.com/blog/5-relationship-zones-worse-than-the-friend-zone/

 

[Deleted member 47027]

So the girl I've been seeing for the past month landed a job about 6 hours away. I knew it would happen since she was looking for a job there when we first started seeing each other. I just didn't expect it to be so...soon.

I feel like things moved really quickly with us and we're both really into each other, so we are going to keep seeing each other on weekends when we can.

Basically, how do you people in distance relationships make it work? I'm in a very confused place in my life right now too and have been thinking of quitting my job. So I can't tell if this is a good thing or bad thing.

I've never had a long distance relationship that lasted. The issue is it cannot CONTINUE to be long distance of despair will take over and it'll end. You have to be willing to get closer. Are you? I mean, you said you are thinking about quitting your job...

If someone is prepared to get closer and is making steps towards it (or willing to) then there is hope.

What does it mean when people say there is no friendzone?

The Friendzone is made up. It's not real. It's made by people who feel others should be obliged to be sexually attracted to them. It's an excuse. An actual friend is a great thing. That's someone that is valued to someone else, someone important to them - and if THAT is a problem, if being a friend is what you think is standing in the way of your dick getting sucked, well...

It really should just be called Unrequited Boner-Zone. Either you're attracted to someone or you're not.

 

[Anoregon]

So the girl I've been seeing for the past month landed a job about 6 hours away. I knew it would happen since she was looking for a job there when we first started seeing each other. I just didn't expect it to be so...soon.

I feel like things moved really quickly with us and we're both really into each other, so we are going to keep seeing each other on weekends when we can.

Basically, how do you people in distance relationships make it work? I'm in a very confused place in my life right now too and have been thinking of quitting my job. So I can't tell if this is a good thing or bad thing.

Honestly, I think you are either just the kind of person (or people) who can deal with the distance or you aren't. Talk every day, video chat, that sort of thing helps. It might be enough to keep things going or it might not, it all depends on how you both can handle the distance.

 

[n64coder]

So here is the deal, last summer I met this girl and we clicked blablabla. Long story short, we have been dating since mid November and things couldn't be more perfect. However, since mid January there have been some changes. I got a full time job and she works part time. She is part of three drama clubs, and because of this, she has rehearsals 5 times a week. In addition, she is also very, very social active which means her schedule is literally filled every single week.

How does she feel about the situation. You say that her social calendar is booked, what is she doing when she's not at rehearsal or at her job?

If you're dating and there's a lot of passion, I would think you would try to make time to be with each other more. It's good to be apart and to have your own interests but once a week seems not enough and it's likely for the romance to die out.

Also, are the two of you considered to be a couple at this point? Or are you still free to date others?

 

[depths20XX]

I've never had a long distance relationship that lasted. The issue is it cannot CONTINUE to be long distance of despair will take over and it'll end. You have to be willing to get closer. Are you? I mean, you said you are thinking about quitting your job...

If someone is prepared to get closer and is making steps towards it (or willing to) then there is hope.

I've always told myself I wouldn't be able to do the long distance thing but in this particular situation it just didn't feel right to be like, "Well, it was nice seeing you. Good luck and goodbye." I also have really strong feelings for her and we've been staying over at each others places since the second date.

I'm just going to go with it for now and see where things go. I agree with you that it can't continue to be long distance for a long period. I've only seen that work once with a friend of mine, but I don't think it's for me.

 

[Deleted member 47027]

I've always told myself I wouldn't be able to do the long distance thing but in this particular situation it just didn't feel right to be like, "Well, it was nice seeing you. Good luck and goodbye." I also have really strong feelings for her and we've been staying over at each others places since the second date.

I'm just going to go with it for now and see where things go. I agree with you that it can't continue to be long distance for a long period. I've only seen that work once with a friend of mine, but I don't think it's for me.

I hear ya brah. You will be facing that "move or it's over" scenario sometime though. Might be a month from now, might be a year. Would you be down for that?

 

[depths20XX]

I hear ya brah. You will be facing that "move or it's over" scenario sometime though. Might be a month from now, might be a year. Would you be down for that?

If it would ever get to that point I think I would be down. I don't feel a huge attachment to the town I'm in anymore, and as I said, not satisfied with my job right now. We'll see!

 

[Anoregon]

If it would ever get to that point I think I would be down. I don't feel a huge attachment to the town I'm in anymore, and as I said, not satisfied with my job right now. We'll see!

Yeah, that's my situation. It still feels too early for me to really be thinking about leaving my job to be closer to her, but it's absolutely something I'm willing (and even want) to do when the time comes. The fact that I currently have a job is really the only thing keeping me where I am, if I had a job lined up where she lives I'd be there tomorrow.

 

[Mr. Matthew]

How does she feel about the situation. You say that her social calendar is booked, what is she doing when she's not at rehearsal or at her job?

If you're dating and there's a lot of passion, I would think you would try to make time to be with each other more. It's good to be apart and to have your own interests but once a week seems not enough and it's likely for the romance to die out.

Also, are the two of you considered to be a couple at this point? Or are you still free to date others?

Well, she meets up with her best friends and she is starting her own company so that also takes some time. She still makes time for me, because if she didn't, I would bail out.

I agree with you on the bolded part, but I talked to her late at night and she was very tired, so we are continuing the conversation the next time i see (honestly, I should have waited with telling her cause she was tired the entire weekend) so we haven't really come to a conclusion yet. But the romance hasn't died out, thankfully.

Oh and we are technically not a couple, but let's just say that we are not seeing other people and we only see each other in that regard.

 

[Kung Fu Jedi]

My current relationship has been long distance since we met last summer. In a little less than three weeks I'll be moving in with her. I gave notice at my job this morning, I've been packing for some time, and I've got the movers hired to take my long-distance down to sharing the same house. We're both more than ready.

We're definitely a long distance success story. It hasn't always been easy, but we've also made it a priority to see each other as often as we can, communicate everyday and express our feelings openly about where things are headed between us. It has been great, and I'm more than willing to move to be with her.