IncandescentPrecept
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Nopes, it's the most common way for people to get dates these days.
Does online dating still have a stigma?
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VeryGooster
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I'm sure some people still see it as this sort of feature for "outsiders" and "basement-dwellers," but I've known quite a few people who have met via online dating and are still together, married even.
The Albatross
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It still definitely has a stigma. It shouldn't, but it does. Even though it's so ridiculously common people still scoff at it. And not even like old people or people not brought up on the internet, even young people who have grown up using the internet will still scoff at it. I haven't online dated in 3+ years (in a relationship, did not meet online), but it still pisses me off when people give a look or react in a negative way when somebody says that they're on Match or met their significant other from a dating site.
I'm most annoyed by people who complain that they're single and will never find a girlfriend, and then they're always the ones who are most against online dating, or who say things -- like OP said -- "I'm not desperate" or something. There's nothing desperate about online dating. It's logical, easy, fun, and makes tons of sense.
I'm most annoyed by people who complain that they're single and will never find a girlfriend, and then they're always the ones who are most against online dating, or who say things -- like OP said -- "I'm not desperate" or something. There's nothing desperate about online dating. It's logical, easy, fun, and makes tons of sense.
Green Ranger
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TInder has made it very socially acceptable among the college crowd.
I kinda miss when online dating wasn't very main stream. It use to be a lot easier for me to get dates. There is way more competition now. Online dating use to be mostly for nerds and ugly people. I'm a bit more attractive than the average nerd so getting responses to my messages was easy. Now there is way more competition and I'm pretty much the average guy now, I don't really stand out like I use to. Although, it is nice that is more socially acceptable. I remember telling some BS story to my parents about how I met my first girl friend I met online, so did the girl. I met her through AOL chat. This was like 1998 so there was definitely a stigma back then.
terrisus
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BocoDragon
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No not at all.
I say this as someone who made this exact thread about 5+ years ago.
I say this as someone who made this exact thread about 5+ years ago.
Haha this is true. Wildebeest stories, the girl who wore flip flops and no makeup.
Actually, I've recently learned that I can probably get a much higher quality of girl at a bar, so I'm going to shift focus from online. For tall and/or good looking guys, online is all you need in big cities.
SillyEskimo
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Hey, me too! I also gloss over that bit.
terrisus
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What separates a "fetish" website from a "special interest" website?
Astral/H3X
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I might need to look into this sort of thing. Trouble is I've only ever been interested in long term relationships, so I've always relied on people I fell for through regular interaction, so I have -zero- experience with any sort of casual dating.
Just left a relationship about a month ago, and kinda need some help moving on past it. I've accepted it, but I'm still at the point where I want to go back.
Just left a relationship about a month ago, and kinda need some help moving on past it. I've accepted it, but I'm still at the point where I want to go back.
terrisus
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One can find long-term relationships online as well.
All I was ever interested in were long-term relationships. And the 1999-2002 online dating scene was significantly more difficult than it is now.
Just be up-front with what you want, and don't waste time on people who aren't looking for the same thing that you want.
clearacell
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A bit, since catfishing is still a thing.
SillyEskimo
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Casual dating is great. If things don't work out, no back room drama from friends who set you up or other BS.
Online dating allows you really date outside your "normal" dating pool. That was the best thing about it IMO. It really mixed things up.
What does "special interest" mean to you?
terrisus
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Well, I mean, there are websites for people who are interested in younger/older people, people of certain races, people of certain religions, fatter/thinner people, people with certain specific interests or preferences ("nerds," "goths," etc.), etc.
Is there a line which separates when it goes from a particular interest or preference, to where one identifies it as "I met my SO on a fetish website."
SillyEskimo
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Fetish = Sexual Deviant web site.
Yes, it does. I have this one friend who is very insistent that I get an OKC profile ASAP, but he's definitely an exception. There's still this idea that it's resultant of "desperation".
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Astral/H3X
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Oh yeah, there's a pretty clear line between the two. There's a difference between "I met my partner on a site for short people" and "I met my partner on a BDSM site" (Not my thing, mind, I'm more of a light bondage person, just using it as an example).
terrisus
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But there's something more important to contribute to this topic here.
This thread is avatar quoting GOLD. Please let me indulge.
BlazingDarkness
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I don't think anybody I know would consider online dating to be strange.
Most people are connected online every day anyway, I don't know anybody who doesn't use social networking sites etc. to some degree. So what does it matter if you met a person through such means first or not?
The internet is largely used to supplement and develop our social relationships, so why can't it also be used in the same way for romantic relationships?
Most people are connected online every day anyway, I don't know anybody who doesn't use social networking sites etc. to some degree. So what does it matter if you met a person through such means first or not?
The internet is largely used to supplement and develop our social relationships, so why can't it also be used in the same way for romantic relationships?
terrisus
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I guess I would still just say "I met my partner on a dating website" or "I met my partner online."
See? As far as you're concerned, love transcends ti-
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YOU.
You restored the period at the end of my quote.
My beautiful avatar quoting collage has been STAINED.
I'm remembering that. Mark my words, I will have revenge.
pretty sure even today more people still get dates by IRL interactions
What I usually summarize to, I normally decline to elaborate.
I've never used any 'traditional' dating site or dating app otherwise.
Then again, it's hard enough to date as a MtF transgender individual, so I'm pretty glad I started the conversation I did, because my BF is amazingly supportive <3
Punchy4486
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I met my fiance on Giant Bomb.
When we say we met online, it's always something people make note of, so it's still not considered "normal".
I'd say most people think "Oh, okay. No big deal", but there's still like 1/4th of people who think it's funny or weird. And most of them are perpetually single and alone, so....
When we say we met online, it's always something people make note of, so it's still not considered "normal".
I'd say most people think "Oh, okay. No big deal", but there's still like 1/4th of people who think it's funny or weird. And most of them are perpetually single and alone, so....
Whenever I think about looking for someone that way I can't imagine any outcome other than a creepy one.
terrisus
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Maybe because I imagine most of those guys are just out for shallow sex.
terrisus
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Still 2seedy4me.
Themacabre
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I believe that it still does have a stigma, but it really shouldn't. I don't see how it's any different than just talking to random strangers except for the fact that the people that you are talking to are there for the same thing and you don't have to potentially bother people.
Also,
so yeah.
Also,
I met my wife on 4chan,
PaulExcellent
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Yes, and I hate it.
Had a few peeps that did it and were secretive about it. Like, dude. Just say you're on a dating site. Don't make it weird.
Had a few peeps that did it and were secretive about it. Like, dude. Just say you're on a dating site. Don't make it weird.
NEOPARADIGM
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About as much stigma as, say, dressing unfashionably - i.e., a classic "who gives a shit?" stigma at best.
Fact is it hardly matters where you meet someone; it's going to lead to phone conversations and dates and whatnot either way. So you didn't meet at a bar, school, church, or grocery store. How does it matter in the slightest?
Whatever stigma is left over is probably rooted in the idea of "online relationships" like our boy Manti Te'o's, not using an online site to meet someone per se.
Fact is it hardly matters where you meet someone; it's going to lead to phone conversations and dates and whatnot either way. So you didn't meet at a bar, school, church, or grocery store. How does it matter in the slightest?
Whatever stigma is left over is probably rooted in the idea of "online relationships" like our boy Manti Te'o's, not using an online site to meet someone per se.
Eaten By A Grue
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I tell my friends I do not know how meeting someone online is worse than meeting a person in a bar.
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