Does finding the act of gay sex repulsive, make you prejudiced?
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lorebringer
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Of course it doesn't. Plenty of straight people find the idea of homosexual sex acts kind of gross, just as plenty of gay people find the idea of heterosexual sex acts kind of gross. I think in general people find the idea of sex with someone/something they are not attracted to to be kind of gross.
Yep when everyone around you spouted stupid shit about gays when we were kids of course we have a warped image or gay sex also.
Moff
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really? I'd be very surprised if that was true.
not interested, sure
but finding it repulsive and gross? the same way many straight men think about gay sex?
I'd be very, very surprised.
Photolysis
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No, it doesn't make you prejudiced by itself. What one personally feels is irrelevant, it's how one acts.
Someone can find something repulsive (which is not a conscious decision), while not morally judging it in the slightest, and while still treating it with respect.
Someone can find something repulsive (which is not a conscious decision), while not morally judging it in the slightest, and while still treating it with respect.
Succinct Verbosity
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I'd say hating the act to the point of repulsion can be deemed as homophobic, sure. Having said that, if you simply don;t like the idea of it -like a lot of other sexual activities you may not like- then that seems perfectly normal to me; that's why we have hundreds of categories of porn, after all. I may, for example, find someone weird for liking BBW stuff, and somebody could find me weird for like Bronie Sonic stuff (Note: that is just an example >.>).
lorebringer
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Maybe it's not the case but I've definitely heard and read people expressing that sentiment.
Nah. There's a lot of sex stuff that everyone outside of the target audience are going to find disgusting. Like rosebuds, poop stuff, that Japanese video where the girl eats the blended up roaches and throws it up onto a guy's junk. It's not a hate thing. EDIT: I used extreme examples, but foot fetish or BBW stuff is a more appropriate comparison.
There will be people who find it disgusting because of their hatred for homosexuals, though.
There will be people who find it disgusting because of their hatred for homosexuals, though.
Dusk Golem
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Different kinks and all that. I think there are many completely healthy sexual activities that would seem gross to someone else that's not into it. That's not to say better or worse, but just there are different types of sex, and sex that doesn't revolve around our taste may seem a bit gross.
However, as you felt concerned about it to make a topic, I have to ask what brought about this train of thought, and what about it is repulsive to you? Repulsive is also a strong word for it, so I would say if you're thinking so deeply on this and want to talk about it, is there some underlying thing on your mind about this topic?
But for example, I love my great-grandparents, but the thought of them having sex is kind of... Yeah. Elderly sex is, at this time, foreign to me, and as such I have some different thoughts on it.
However, as you felt concerned about it to make a topic, I have to ask what brought about this train of thought, and what about it is repulsive to you? Repulsive is also a strong word for it, so I would say if you're thinking so deeply on this and want to talk about it, is there some underlying thing on your mind about this topic?
But for example, I love my great-grandparents, but the thought of them having sex is kind of... Yeah. Elderly sex is, at this time, foreign to me, and as such I have some different thoughts on it.
BrokenEchelon
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Or, since you're not wired to find men attractive, the idea of doing that with another man is repulsive?
Seeing two guys get it on induces cringing every god damn time. It's so fucking weird to me.
Moff
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I'd actually like fo few more opinions on this, as it would certainly destroy my theory, that the repulsive reactions to gay sex are purely socially pressured homophobia.
I don't man, I don't care what 2 guys want to do be it sex marriage whatever, but I will turn away if two guys are going to kiss. It's not that I can't accept it but physically it makes my skin crawl.
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BrokenEchelon
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That is such incredible bullshit. You don't like watching a guy suck another guy's dick?! Society has brainwashed you to be a gay-hating homophobe! You should go watch more of it to pay for your sins.
PhantomHound
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I still have trouble watching gay people kiss in public to be honest. I dont know if its social conditioning or heterosexual genes.
In this case, I'd wager there is an underlying reason. It's just a kiss.
OverBlood 3
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Sex is kind of repulsive if we mean looking at it, stuff flying everywhere, things slapping against other things. Balls.
When you're involved you don't really care but if it happened right in front of you when you're trying to enjoy your sunday roast I'd imagine it'd be quite offputting.
When you're involved you don't really care but if it happened right in front of you when you're trying to enjoy your sunday roast I'd imagine it'd be quite offputting.
That depends. Is it a rump roast?
PJV3
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I have no problem watching men banging each other, but yeah the kissing thing is somehow stranger for some reason.
I have a serious disconnect within me that I can't reconcile, and I don't know if you could call it prejudice, bigotry or what...
I have no problem and actively support gay marriage and gay people being afforded the same rights as everyone else. Part of me feels this way because I've already got one failed marriage on the books and another one heading that way right now. Since apparently I can't figure this marriage thing out, just who the hell am I to tell someone else or preach any kind of values about marriage. I say go for it, get married, find out just how fucking insanely hard it is to commit to love another person for your entire existence and be able to stay with that person through all of life's turmoil.
But on the other hand, the thought of, or seeing the act makes me physically ill. Seeing two men holding hands doesn't bother me. Seeing two men kissing does bother me. I remember a few years back getting rick rolled all the time into lemon party and becoming violently sick to my stomach seeing that image. The thought of gay male sex oral or anal upsets me. Its a visceral reaction. I remember watching Brokeback Mountain, and enjoying the story and the emotional journey these two men went on to have this forbidden love. I liked the movie. But the tent scene, and some of the other scenes of affection really bothered me.
So what can I do to reconcile this disconnect? Supporting your right to commit the act, but no way in hell do I want to see it in front of me.
I have no problem and actively support gay marriage and gay people being afforded the same rights as everyone else. Part of me feels this way because I've already got one failed marriage on the books and another one heading that way right now. Since apparently I can't figure this marriage thing out, just who the hell am I to tell someone else or preach any kind of values about marriage. I say go for it, get married, find out just how fucking insanely hard it is to commit to love another person for your entire existence and be able to stay with that person through all of life's turmoil.
But on the other hand, the thought of, or seeing the act makes me physically ill. Seeing two men holding hands doesn't bother me. Seeing two men kissing does bother me. I remember a few years back getting rick rolled all the time into lemon party and becoming violently sick to my stomach seeing that image. The thought of gay male sex oral or anal upsets me. Its a visceral reaction. I remember watching Brokeback Mountain, and enjoying the story and the emotional journey these two men went on to have this forbidden love. I liked the movie. But the tent scene, and some of the other scenes of affection really bothered me.
So what can I do to reconcile this disconnect? Supporting your right to commit the act, but no way in hell do I want to see it in front of me.
Winter John
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Nope, it doesn't make you prejudiced. I have a gay friend who says he doesn't like it, and doesn't have sex with his partner. That seems a bit weird to me, but his partner is a bit of a dork, so maybe that's where the problem lies
Dusk Golem
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I must just be weird, I wouldn't really want to watch other people have sex, but I think kissing is cute. But then I don't watch porn really for the reason I don't really enjoy watching other people have sex (and don't find people attractive outside of face value unless I have some connection with them), but find people being passionate about each other adorable. When I was in high school, I arrived to my drama class after lunch a bit early, and accidentally walked in on two girls I knew making out. I didn't know they were going out and obviously were being hush on it, and while a little surprised I still thought it was cute of them, and same when I've seen guys kiss.
I think maybe a part of the kissing thing is because kissing is conditioned by media to be something like 'a sign of love', I honestly think it might be a society thing on this front.
I think maybe a part of the kissing thing is because kissing is conditioned by media to be something like 'a sign of love', I honestly think it might be a society thing on this front.
Well given how general the OP is...
Are we talking outright repulsion?
Are we talking people being fine with the idea, just not wanting to talk about it?
Are we talking about people who don't want to watch it?
You have to be more specific. Because if you answer yes to questions 2/3 you're not saying it's repulsive, you're just saying you don't want to give it much thought. Same way some people are cool with sex, they just don't want to talk about/watch it.
Are we talking outright repulsion?
Are we talking people being fine with the idea, just not wanting to talk about it?
Are we talking about people who don't want to watch it?
You have to be more specific. Because if you answer yes to questions 2/3 you're not saying it's repulsive, you're just saying you don't want to give it much thought. Same way some people are cool with sex, they just don't want to talk about/watch it.
SliceSabre
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Sex in general is pretty gross, what with tits and balls flopping around and sweaty human musk so I doubt that has much effect on people's prejudiced against homosexuals.
He could be asexual. Or some people just don't like sex.
laughing at these "2 dudes kissing is gross but TWO GIRLS MAKING OUT IS SO HOT DUDE" responses though, really shows the male centered homophobia and hypocrisy the world is known for.
Or like how the same applies when you think about your own parents or that hot stud and your ex-girlfriend.
Stumpokapow
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Finding the act of gay sex relevant to any other discussion of homosexuality makes you prejudiced, because you don't need to know about or endorse a straight couple's bedroom behaviour to see them as normal and/or legitimate, so the same ought logically hold for an LBGT relationship. Like, there's pretty unlikely to be some scenario where you're held hostage and forced against your will to watch sex that repulses you, so typically when this conversation comes up it's a straight person unnecessarily sexualizing homosexuality while failing to do the same thing for heterosexuality.
I know in this hypothetical, the person is held as being "not prejudiced in any other way", but there are many subtle ways in which people are prejudiced, not just "the wages of sin are death" type grandiose statements. If your standards for straight couples don't hold for gay couples as far as their dignity and the fullness of their love and humanity are concerned, you are prejudiced. If your standards for straight people don't hold for gay people as far as their dignity and their humanity are concerned, you are prejudiced.
I know in this hypothetical, the person is held as being "not prejudiced in any other way", but there are many subtle ways in which people are prejudiced, not just "the wages of sin are death" type grandiose statements. If your standards for straight couples don't hold for gay couples as far as their dignity and the fullness of their love and humanity are concerned, you are prejudiced. If your standards for straight people don't hold for gay people as far as their dignity and their humanity are concerned, you are prejudiced.
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Et voila.
kinoki
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After watching Shortbus and various scenes from True Blood I've found myself thinking it's kind of natural. I thought I would be more uncomfortable with it than I was. It's just sex and the people seem to be enjoying themselves.
milquetoast
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I don't think so, if it does then gay people are prejudiced too because from what I understand they feel the same kind of revulsion when they see straight sex.
NEOPARADIGM
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Culture and history is at a point where people are now expected to come to terms with it. Part of that involves thinking and talking about gay sex.
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