I've been in several wow raiding guilds since Vanilla and there have always been women in my guilds (my wife being one of them as she always raided with me). I've seen women of all ages, from 18 years old to even early 40s stay at home moms, and never experienced anything you mention in your post. They were always considered the same as every other members and even though it's a mostly male populated game, it's not like women are that rare is in almost every guild I was in, on a 25 men raid, we always had between 3 to 5 women, and guys were not acting weird because all of a sudden "OH MY GOD GURLZ IN MA GAEMS!!!".
The only bad case I've seen was of a guild leader prioritizing his girlfriend over others for loot, she got called a whore, but then the guy had a complain done against him and was banned for a while from the game.
And when we go to gaming/anime conventions every year, we see a mostly even split representation of men and women and no mention of harassment or inequality ever. Sure, some girls will be stalked a bit because of the way some are cosplaying, but when you dress like that, you should expect to be looked at anyway.
This Anita/feminism thing is blown out of proportions. No one ever talked about this stuff before, we've had several successful women in this industry, now more than ever, that have worked their asses off for a long time to get where they are just like anyone else should. Anita isn't part of this industry and never was, yet she acts like she is important now and is having a meaningful impact that will change the way we play games or whatever. People like Anita just come in, try to create a problem/conflict where there is none, people all feel entitled now and Mario games are considered feminist/racist (seriously, wtf!), gaming conversations on forums all turn to shit and there are no more good gaming dedicated discussions anymore, people instead have stopped playing games to come to places like here and talk about this "problem" that doesn't exist.
Why was none of this ever mentioned before of never a problem before? It's not like female rights have completely changed in the last 2 to 3 years to make these kinds of discussions apparently more relevant now. It's just a minority creating all of this turmoil and getting called out for it by people who enjoy games as a hobby and are tired of all the important stuff we care about being left aside to these unimportant discussions that have taken too much time in the spotlight.
Also,
thank you 4chan!