BKatastrophe
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David Duchovny is very angry
When you hit 30 as a virgin, you become a wizard. But what kind of wizard?
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Ultimadrago
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Dude, you've talked about the "waifu VR dream" in like...three threads I've seen so far.
You're making me depressed for you.
you're just waiting for a spell to be cast on you eh....
can't tell if OC or 4chan copypasta
How About No
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Eehhhhhhhhhhhhh I'm going back to my room
NotTheGuyYouKill
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I don't understand what you mean by "personality not suitable for socializing" and "some unexplainable thing that comes easy to people that you witness from the outside".
Can you elaborate.
The really important thing is being able to put yourself out there. Even if parties aren't your thing, you should try to go to them. Talk to people, find out when they're happening, and try to go. That's a great way to meet people and develop social skills.
And don't be afraid to ask someone if they want to hang out.
And don't be afraid to ask someone if they want to hang out.
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Hatty
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I've been there done that and nothing was as tiring or boring than going to a public social place and hanging out with people
I am much more at peace and can have a better time when I am alone either in or outside my home
I do have certified mental problems though so I guess I'm not the norm
air jordans for dogs
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Keep working on that confidence and you'll be okay
speculawyer
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If you think about this kind of question then it is no surprise you're a virgin.
Tornado Condor
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This is the funniest thread I've read in a while
crimzonflame
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Dammit why'd I get chewed out yesterday when I made jokes, but now it's open season and everyone is laughing.
Yup.
I liken social interactive experience to playing baseball. The first time you take a swing at a baseball, it can be super scary. Someone you don't know is throwing a ball that you know is very hard as fast as they can directly at you, aiming for a very small window, and the act of you swinging the bat only draws you closer to the trajectory of the ball that's hurdling towards you. But the more you do it, the more you realize that the person throwing the ball probably knows what they're doing, and you become more confident in your swing. Eventually the act of swinging is rudimentary, second nature, and you can often make the outcome of connecting with the ball a situation that you were effectively aiming for.
You just have to keep swinging. You won't always hit the ball, you might occasionally get hit by the ball, but you learn more and more as you keep trying.
Just keep swinging. Swing away.
Punch up, don't punch down.
Maybe the fact that virginity is such a big deal to him that so much as mentioning it will get him into berserk mode? People notice that shit.
And I'm not mocking him, I know because I used to be like that.
Nah, its just that parties really are lame as fuck unless you get drunk.
You can talk to people but they arent there to discuss intelligent things. There is also the option to dance I suppose, if you are so inclined. Otherwise, unless theres a game console somewhere in the room its rather dull. Parties are extremely overrated. I think bars are slightly better because of more relaxed atmosphere and pool tables, but not much. You might get lucky and see a fight. Honestly I have no idea really why parties are so popular.
Me_Marcadet
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Did you enjoy losing weight, eating better and dressing well ?
If you enjoy those things you could interact with strangers and random people easily because there's few people who don't like nice clothes, food or sports. Have you tried doing something who makes you feel great and just after that, when you are full of endorphine and feel like the king of the world you hit a bar and start talking with strangers without any discrimination. You don't have to be good at it, just smile, make eye contact, listen carefully and say random things. If the other party is not interested try your luck with another person. If you feel attracted to the other person, just say nice things to her/him like "you're cute", "you seem nice" and keep a happy face. Try to enjoy it and have a good time. Another thing, be aware of your surrounding and try to spot the special events happening around you. In a bar or at a party there is always a lonely person you could keep some company, or a heated discussion you could chime in. Just try not to be too agressive and annoying, practice yourself to find the right tone.
If you finally got money and are comfortable with yourself, you could also try to move out to another town or country. Talking with stranger and being new can help get you some attention and maybe you'll fit in better. There's always something new you could work out and keep in mind you are never wasting your time.
Hatty
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And why is that? Why is it okay to laugh at either the misfortunate or peoples own life choices? I'm not sure where the yuks are, show me the yuks
Dreams-Visions
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go get laid.
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You may be doing parties wrong. When you attend parties, how many people do you actually TALK to? The purpose of parties is socializing. Alcohol assists in socializing. The point of a party, even a party with a theme, is not to submerse yourself in the subject of said theme or the contents of said party, you're supposed to be mingling.
We have Divekick on at all of our parties, because it's a game that keeps the energy in the room up and gets people talking, not because we want to see who in the room is the best at Divekick.
jeremy70583
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Lost my wizards training staff this year at 26. Was a fat kid through college, and struggled with my sexuality. Well since 23 I've been working to get where I am now physically, which is amazing compared to where I come from. I also moved to downtown KC, a little more option for gay men, although still pretty terrible.
I had a random one night stand with an amazingly hot guy I met walking around downtown. (Was after hanging out a few times I'm not a huge whore). We never pursued anything, but a couple months later I met my current BF on a dating site and things are going pretty well.
I say all this because sometimes things happen when you least expect. Who knew I would meet a partner walking home alone from brunch one random day.
I had a random one night stand with an amazingly hot guy I met walking around downtown. (Was after hanging out a few times I'm not a huge whore). We never pursued anything, but a couple months later I met my current BF on a dating site and things are going pretty well.
I say all this because sometimes things happen when you least expect. Who knew I would meet a partner walking home alone from brunch one random day.
I probably am. If its a party where I know people I will usually talk to everyone incessantly. If its a place Im not too familiar with I usually talk to a few people and just people watch to entertain myself. I dont drink though, so that is probably an inhibiting factor.
I havent been to a party in a long time though. I do like going to social gatherings like concerts and sports events.
Go to better parties. It's New Years' Eve and I'm about to head off for an evening of board games like Ticket To Ride and Dominion. Screw the loud music and gallons of alcohol ones.
I have work tonight.
However work will be a bit of a party anyway because we have to shut the trucks down at midnight for safety reasons. I will spend 6 hours basically doing nothing but watching movies or something.
As for parties, I live in Louisiana. Parties and festivals are everywhere but you can get tired of it. The only one I really look forward to a lot is Festival International for the music.
jeremy70583
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Live in Lafayette I take it?
Hatty
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It's not shame so much as somewhat empty pity and insensitive jokes
Sometimes people try to give advice which is appreciated but mostly it's something like "just be yourself" which isn't helpful when "yourself" is the problem
BKatastrophe
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yeah.
Being the only sober person at a party can actually be fun, because everybody else is really easily entertained. You can convince drunk people that you're some kind of comedian by telling shitty jokes and stories.
It's Neogaf. Angry resentful nerds will punch down when they manage to actually find somebody that might be lower on the social order than themselves.
Yes, there's a tendency to mock people, but it usually isn't the feeding frenzy that this site often turns into when the topic is raised.
Aesius
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Are you completely unaware of pop culture?
Not saying it's right, but it's pretty common in media and therefore common in day to day life.
true story, back in College all my friends were drunk at a party and we decided to play drunk Hide and Go Seek on the roof. I was the only sober one and I fell off the roof onto a car and got all cut and scraped up. Moral of the story is never play drunk games while sober.
BKatastrophe
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It's even weirder when you consider that people want to know details of what sex you have had.
"Have you ever had sex?"
"Yeah"
"Tell me about it"
"Well, it was with a girl."
"More"
"We were at her house and in a bed."
"Tell me more."
"We enjoyed...it?"
"GIVE ME DETAILS"
And then scary things ensue. Because people really want to mentally jerk off to the image of you fucking someone else, apparently. Even worse when people want you to know things. I've just been told things about what certain people have done. I've never asked. I actually know other people's safewords, how they like it...man, fuck being approachable.
Crash Station
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As someone who's been to more parties than he can count, I can say with quite a bit of confidence they aren't for me. I'll have fun with the similarly reclusive people playing Smash Bros or whatever in the living room while everyone else is outside, but that's about it. Can't drink more than a little bit for medical reasons and even if I could, I don't think I'd want to.
Hell, I'm dreading going to a New Year's Eve party I'm heading to tonight. Not because of social anxiety or anything like that, but because I know the only thing I have in common with the host there is something he's too embarrassed to talk about when other people are around, and I highly doubt I have anything in common with everyone else there.
I prefer smaller, more intimate crews in general.
This doesnt even make sense
Wait what?!? There's gotta be more to that story.
BKatastrophe
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I assume that's when he discovered his superpowers.
kunonabi
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Despite my distaste for western religion I actually have more fun at church parties. I went to one for this Korean church and it was tons of fun. Everybody was laughing and there was tons of great food and fun party games. Typical booze parties are pretty shitty though since I don't drink. I remember going to one Halloween party and being bored out of mind. My friend and I grabbed some safety cones and went out trick or treating instead despite being being a day early. We ended up taking half the party with us. The guy throwing the party wasn't too happy about it but its not my fault his party sucked.
I'll be a 32 year old virgin in a few weeks but I just don't pay much attention to it. I'm not interested in casual sex so until I manage to land a date and start a relationship it just isn't going to happen. Dating is really the issue since I can find anybody single. I don't do bars and everybody I've asked at work or school is involved or not interested. I'm also in debt up to my ears with no prospects while trying to keep the rest of family from imploding. I just have bigger things to worry about than getting laid.
Well...to be fair, people don't usually trade such stories as a means to gather fapping fodder. It's usually an attempt to empathizing with someone as a lot of sexual encounters come with interesting stories. The actual SEX part of the story is usually pretty boring, those stories are more about the hours leading to sex then the real sex.
Unless you're talking to people who are sexual enthusiasts, and then I can't help you.
Lol, brutal.
I hadn't touched a drop of alcohol until I turned 30, and it was an uphill battle to build up enough confidence to dance at a club, or talk to girl I liked. But overcoming that, without the help of booze was a huge character builder. I would still go home and sulk and hate myself sometimes for not fitting in, but other times I would feel great, and it made up for it. You can do it, you just need to be supremely okay with yourself. That being said, I've had more sex 3 years after starting drinking than all the 30 years previous. It's not about being drunk, its about being social.
The other thing about intelligent discussion, people will talk about intelligent things but you just need to be a good story teller. One discussion I often do well with at parties is the premise that we will find immortality through mechanization. I don't launch into it like "did you know that we will all become robots one day?". Instead I state "I'm excited to get old..." and eventually move to the theme "...think of the freedom that technology will bring us: Robot gardeners, robotic limbs, exoskeletons, virtual reality." and carry on from there. A lot of people have an opinion one way or another about how they want to grow old, and their love/fear of technology, so it lets people jump in and be opinionated without any knowledge of the subject.
BKatastrophe
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I understand the difference, and yeah I'm referring to the latter. Why do you want to know how much anal I've done? And no, getting pegged by a short woman in clown makeup has never crossed my mind.
Well, now that you've mentioned it...
ConsumerSquare
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Oh man.
I'm even pretty sure that I am better at SFIV than most SF player because of my confidence, my empathy, my athletic skills, all those years of meditation, playing with myself, learning and researching, I know how to Ultra someone and be careful.
I'm even pretty sure that I am better at tipping than most restaurant patron because of my confidence, my empathy, my athletic skills, all those years of meditation, playing with myself, learning and researching, I know how to please someone and be careful.
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