There was a girl who I had a little bit of a crush on back in secondary school (high school) who I hung out with a couple of times and we were decent friends. We were also in the same tutor group for 2 years so we weren't strangers or anything but we weren't particularly close either.
[sweeping cut]
On top of what Wormdundee and stn already said, I wanted to add my two cents to the whole "she's into manga, anime, videogames" thing.
I've learned with great pain how thick is the amount of low self esteem people among the nerd community. I'm not just talking possible girlfriends, but also possible friends.
The world is chock-full of communities of outcasts who get excluded, bullied and victimized only to become bullies (most times intellectual bullies) in their own right.
I think there are nerds who enjoy who they are and are constantly looking for like-minded (in terms of interests) people, and that there are nerds who hide into hobbies and entertainment because they secretly wish to be like the quarterback/ cheerleader and convinced themselves they can't make the cut. So they can't stand the people they want to be akin to because they remind them of who they cannot be, and they can't stand the people who have the same interests, the same weird ways to dress/ think/ enjoy the pleasures of life, because they remind them of who they don't want to be.
A good way to select the rotten, bitter, insidiously petty motherfuckers from the cool guys/ cool girls when it comes to "nerd-life" is to express enjoyment or spite for the same thing the like or dislike and see how they react: if they immediately "explain" their opinion in order to make clear you like/dislike the same thing BUT NOT IN THE SAME WAY THEY DO, then get rid of them immediately. If they rejoice at the common ground, that's a sign you've met someone who's starving for a friendship/ relationship with someone who understands the world "differently" and you are good to go.
Have you ever met someone on Gaf or similar forums who would go "I like Winter Soldier" and then you go "hells yeah, Winter Soldier was awesome" and he goes "well, not awesome: it was good"? Stay away from people like this.
Went on the third date yesterday and it was completely amazing. Met up at noon, so part of me wondered if this was going to be just a friendship thing. Went to two art museums ( one of which was about an hour of waiting for a Goya exhibit). We didn't really flirt or talk much about anything other than the art so I assumed the worst, but was fine accepting the fact that we could just be friends. We had nothing planned afterwards, but he asked if I wanted to grab a meal somewhere. I suggested we just go back to my place and cook a meal and maybe watch a movie.
Made soup and watched Manhunter in the bedroom and it felt as platonic as possible, but by the end of the movie he had his arm around me and we were kissing.
He asked if he was "still hard to read?"
Ok: I'm going to steal this line.
Stated that he was interested in me, and wanted me to know more about him. So we spooned and we talked about our backgrounds and he was extremely reluctant to leave (has a film side project to work on) and Said he wished he had some of his things here so he could just spend the night.
The first night we met (which I had assumed would just be a one night hookup on his part) he leant me a pair of his shoes and my feet hurt from heels all night before. As he was leaving I gave him his shoes and he said "leave them here, there's something comforting about them being here."
Smooth.
Overall these have all been the best dates I've ever been on. This date lasted about 12 hours. Again it didn't get sexual, but it seems he wants to take things slow, which I think I kind of need myself. at least for now I can relax.. Our next date is wednesday to go see the babadook. I also asked him if he was an anxious person, he said he used to be but his breathing and heartbeat escalated just from laying my head on his chest.
I'm smitten.
This guy is cool as fuck. Definitely interested to read any update about him.
