I give up. I find my cousin more sexually attractive than my GF and she dumps me?
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Yeaaaaaah.
I absolutely empathize with you that it sucks and her reaction is harsh, but I can also definitely see why that made her freak out. The family angle also doesn't work in your favor here. I don't think it softens the blow.
Take your time to recover, learn from this and try getting back on the horse when you feel the time is right.
whatsinaname
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Holy shit.
1) You hook up, then ignore her mails and calls for three days.
2) Then you message her, convince her you interested in a relationship.
3) You move from your parents house into her place, (which she owns).
4) She comes home to find that you are drunk, playing games with your friend till 3am.
5) In the morning she finds out you also messaged some other girl that you find more attractive.
And you are saying you have no idea why she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you.
Vicetrailia
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Yeah OP you blew it with that joke.
He was drunk. I assume that isn't something he'd usually say.
lem0n
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You told your cousin shes sexier than your girlfriend? If thats a joke, why isnt it funny?
didn't sex. I was hammered and attempted a joke to maybe flatter her or shock her. It was stupid and yes creepy i get that. But the history you dont know is that we would joke that way in the past. nothing ever amounted to it. I'm not that kind of person. But enough for my ex to break the relationship apart? shatter everything we planned?
A inappropriate joke like that? I might was well fucked another girl that night. the results would have been the same.
Delta Assault
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Boy.
That's a hell of a joke.
That's a hell of a joke.
You missed the part where he said they used to make this joke a lot, but the cousin matured.
Pretty much this.
entremet
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Yeah. I get that. I don't really blabber when I'm drunk, so hard for me to relate.
If a girl reads that you texted some other girl that the other is more sexually attractive, I think she has a right to be suspicious.
"Oh no babe, you got it all wrong! That's my cousin!"
Someone said above that this isn't breakup worthy and I somewhat agree. There needs to be something else mixed in. Does she have self esteem issues?
"Oh no babe, you got it all wrong! That's my cousin!"
Someone said above that this isn't breakup worthy and I somewhat agree. There needs to be something else mixed in. Does she have self esteem issues?
Subpar Spatula
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Drunk words are sober thoughts.
Is him being drunk playing games with his friends a big deal? I admit the whole cousin thing is creepy and weird as fuck but I do think she could have talked to him about it.
choco-fish
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You mention several times in your original post that you did everything for her what do you mean by that, in my experience a relationship where you do everything for someone isnt a two way street.
What you said to your cousin was out of line though, and if she cant forgive you then it might be best to close that door.
What you said to your cousin was out of line though, and if she cant forgive you then it might be best to close that door.
OP ignored the girl for three days. I think it's safe to say that she does have some issues with him.
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lem0n
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Even if she wasnt respecting your privacy, which was wrong on her part, you still called some other woman (whos related to you no less) more attractive. I can see why she wants you out.
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BreezyLimbo
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Uhm. This is a cousin you haven't joked with in years apparently, and you're telling her she's sexier than your ex. Your cousin also isn't apparently on your friendslist either. And you pretty much just sugared her up by complementing her and ending with 'You're sexier than her.'.
.......Yeah, after your girlfriend lets you move in with her, after you ignore her when she comes home because you're drunk playing video games, and after you flirt with your damn cousin(Who your Ex probably doesn't know is your cousin) in her own damn house, with no previous context to the relationship between your cousin and you, yeah I'm on yoru GFs side here. Ya fucked up, don't drink if you can't handle what you say.
Stereogatari
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NEVER talk about videogames that way AGAIN!
yes. She always would watch me whenever I went on my phone. I was not allowed to have a lock key on my phone when she did. She would get mad at me at say a store cause another woman looked at me.
She was so insecure and have been burned in the past sooooo many times I think the very second she found something. ANYTHING, she convinced herself
" See, all men at the same!"
1/ Was it the first time you got drunk and played videogames for the whole night with one of your buddies ?
2/ Did you have a job when you were together ?
3/ Did you gain weight ?
4/ Did she gain weight or complain about how ugly/fat she looked at any point before the incident ?
2/ Did you have a job when you were together ?
3/ Did you gain weight ?
4/ Did she gain weight or complain about how ugly/fat she looked at any point before the incident ?
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Bolded what I see to be slights, petty behaviours, and lack of respect.
You'll recover from this and hopefully find a better relationship.
First time have gotten drunk in her presence.
Had a job, paid my rent, had my own car.
didnt gain weight.
she never gained weight
This should be the OP's new tag.
Dude, what the hell were you thinking? Oh, right, you were probably letting your little head think, not the big one.
I'll admit the whole calling your cousin more sexy than your GF is creepy as all hell, but if they were serious about marriage they could have tried to work through this.
Lets be real. MANY females check out guys and talk to guys with their friends whom they call hot all the time. If that's the basis of ending a relationship everyone would be single.
Lets be real. MANY females check out guys and talk to guys with their friends whom they call hot all the time. If that's the basis of ending a relationship everyone would be single.
She fucked up by inviting him to live with her after being together for 3 months. She realized she made a mistake and corrected it.
Delta Assault
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Guys, I think we're really skipping over the most relevant part of the discussion...
Was your cousin, in fact, more attractive than your girlfriend? We really need to nail this down.
Was your cousin, in fact, more attractive than your girlfriend? We really need to nail this down.
BreezyLimbo
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From the sounds of it and the culmination of the matter, she probably had past boyrfriends cheat on her, thus the insecurity. So something like a 'you're sexier' comment to someone else would be a huge fucking trigger.
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Seems to me this would have exploded sooner or later anyway. If so this timing might have saved him future grief.
DizzyCaffeine
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You're not "allowed" to lock your phone? Red flag.
FTFY.
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Jea Song
Did the wrong thing
Did the wrong thing
samoscratch
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Your joke was disturbing no doubt..the fact that you're not allowed to lock your phone and her reaction to other women looking at you are huge red flags though...the relationship was doomed in my opinion, no real trust or respect in either direction.
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