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So a little update from last weeks situation if you read about it.

I had a few days off from work (Wed-Fri), I wanted to try to make up for the troubles I've caused that past weekend so I drove up after work for a couple days. The first day was still a little rocky, hesitant I guess to try working on the relationship again but we made it through. We went out to the movies and saw Dope (it was good btw), got some food and fell asleep again once we got back.

The next day went pretty good IMO. I waited for her to get out of work before going to play some tennis and laid in the hammock for a little while outside. Being able to talk and relax together made it all worth it. it give me some time to reflect on everything that has been happening and I was just glad that what's happening is still going on.

Later in the night we headed over to her friends house for a party she was throwing. It turned from a few friends to a full house quickly but it was still going good. Me and her were sitting on the back deck with her girl friend and a couple other guys smoking, talking about local kid problems (I'm not from their city, nor do I live there) so I didn't have much input but I tried to put myself out there more and interact. We stayed there for about a good hour before everybody headed down in to the yard to sit by the fire. The group we were sitting with at the table (myself, the gf, her friend and another friend) all left at the same time because they either had to work early in the morning or just wasn't feeling the party much. Another good night.

Friday night we planned on leaving due to me having to work Saturday morning at 7am. No big deal though, both of us were ok with that. I slept most of the morning and early afternoon until she got out of work and then it was the start of our day. She took a little nap after getting out and then our day started. It was her friends birthday that day and her friend from the other night was throwing another party, and so were two other people. I wanted to go to all of them and so did she. We went over to her girl friends house before the night, smoked again and just sat around talking, watching Pirates of the Caribbean. Everything was going good, I was interacting, laughing and just enjoying myself. I should always give them a chance before anything.

Later on we went and got dinner before heading over to her friends to tell her happy birthday and chill for a little bit before heading out for the night. again there was talk about people I didn't know so I stayed quiet but tried to have input where I could. it all is still going good. fast forward to about 10pm and were on our way to one of the parties after going through a text fiasco about if the party was still happening or not (gf and her friend. we weren't arguing) but it was. finally around 1030 we're headed to the house party. it was good seeing her best friend, she's funny and has always been nice toward me. she knew about the things that happened between me and the girlfriend so she gave a sudden hint while dancing to a song and telling me to watch myself. I respect that. we stayed for a little bit but then the house got crowded with suddenly 20+ came all within 5 minutes of each other and she didn't know many of them anyway so we left. heading to the next party to meet up with her friend but it turned out to be a dud. no biggie, we were only going to make an appearance anyway before heading back to my house so I could sleep for work.

Finally around 1145 we got on the road to my house so I could get some sleep with 3 days good under our belts. today we're going to my grandmas birthday party and then I think I'm going to suggest going back to her place depending on how I feel or just crash here for the night. my ex texted me but I never responded, I don't know what she wanted.
 
I think the only thing that will mend mu broken heart is to find someone else, someone better. But it's so hard to put myself out there, especially when I'm so depressed. It's written all over my face that I'm on pain. And this may sound shallow but, this girl was so fucking beautiful. Absolutely gorgeous. Unless I find someone as beautiful or more so, I don't know if I'll ever move on. I see girls at the gym or at the store and think "not good enough." It's so frustrating. I sound like a dick.
 
I think the only thing that will mend mu broken heart is to find someone else, someone better. But it's so hard to put myself out there, especially when I'm so depressed. It's written all over my face that I'm on pain. And this may sound shallow but, this girl was so fucking beautiful. Absolutely gorgeous. Unless I find someone as beautiful or more so, I don't know if I'll ever move on. I see girls at the gym or at the store and think "not good enough." It's so frustrating. I sound like a dick.
Your heart isn't broken, its your balls (all I see is you mentioning how hot this girl is, nothing else). Don't be so melodramatic, its not good for you. Take your time to get over it, take as long as you need. Once you have a clear head, go after what you want. I can promise you right now that you won't get the "hottest" girls in your current mindset. They tend to want only the most confident and secure men.
 
Your heart isn't broken, its your balls (all I see is you mentioning how hot this girl is, nothing else). Don't be so melodramatic, its not good for you. Take your time to get over it, take as long as you need. Once you have a clear head, go after what you want. I can promise you right now that you won't get the "hottest" girls in your current mindset. They tend to want only the most confident and secure men.

My heart literally aches. I feel actual physical discomfort on my chest when I think about her. It wasn't just her looks, trust me. I'm just going about getting over her in the worst way. I feel like unless I find someone that's better in every possible way, I'll just be settling. One of the first things you notice is looks so I'm going off that before anything, which is pretty stupid. You're right, in this current mindset I'm not gonna find shit. But working out, hanging out with my friends, focusing on myself and all that doesn't feel like enough. I wanna get out there and find someone better but that feels impossible the way I am right now. I'm not really sure how to regain my confidence.
 
Imagine her taking a dump, then scratching her bum, sniffing her fingers, then eating some boogers without washing her hands in-between.

The physical chest aching is stress/anxiety.
 
My heart literally aches. I feel actual physical discomfort on my chest when I think about her. It wasn't just her looks, trust me. I'm just going about getting over her in the worst way. I feel like unless I find someone that's better in every possible way, I'll just be settling. One of the first things you notice is looks so I'm going off that before anything, which is pretty stupid. You're right, in this current mindset I'm not gonna find shit. But working out, hanging out with my friends, focusing on myself and all that doesn't feel like enough. I wanna get out there and find someone better but that feels impossible the way I am right now. I'm not really sure how to regain my confidence.

You will think like that for a while, but it will pass.
 
My heart literally aches. I feel actual physical discomfort on my chest when I think about her. It wasn't just her looks, trust me. I'm just going about getting over her in the worst way. I feel like unless I find someone that's better in every possible way, I'll just be settling. One of the first things you notice is looks so I'm going off that before anything, which is pretty stupid. You're right, in this current mindset I'm not gonna find shit. But working out, hanging out with my friends, focusing on myself and all that doesn't feel like enough. I wanna get out there and find someone better but that feels impossible the way I am right now. I'm not really sure how to regain my confidence.

Better in every possible way? So your last chick was absolutely perfect? How long were you two dating again?
 
I sold a game to a girl on Craiglist who I think it's really cute. After we texted for a little bit(business related) I got her to tell me her name, then she said "nice to meet you! Thank you for selling me these games!" which I just said you welcomed! I am meeting her tomorrow to sell her another game but I dunno if I should ask her for a date after we meet tomorrow. She is definitely the weird/geek type of girl I am more like the normal guy/soccer who is also really into games. Should I ask her if she wants to hang out sometime?

The other part is.. She reminds me a lot to my ex physically, basically this is the slimmer version of my ex who I still have emotions for... My friends think I shouldnt do it because it seems I am just trying to replace my ex with a different version of herself.
 
Met a girl at bar through friends and we both got pretty drunk but I can safely say we hit it off pretty well. She took selfies with me on her Snapchat and was kinda touchy and all that good stuff. I didn't want to grow attached to her cause I'm leaving the country for two and a half weeks. I told her this and she was playfully joking how I'm leaving her and her friends. She even remembers the date I come back.

Was with friends the entire time and never had any extended time with her alone to really know her. So as we were walking home with the group she held my arm and was just a great person all-around. As we were approaching her home, She asked what everyone's doing the next day and I whipped out the phone and she was quick to give the digits (She lost her shit about the fact that we share the first three digits) and called it a night and that was it.

Next day I did the questionable decision of texting her saying if she's heading out with the group and she said she was trying to recover from the day before cause she was really hungover but was down to go out some other time Saturday with friends. I really just wanted to see her again and she was down also but those plans fell through cause not enough people were down. I have her number and she seemed nice when I texted her (just grateful she remembers me really) but I don't want to get into a situation where things go great but then, "Alright see ya in two and half weeks!"

I just don't know what to do and I'm leaving in about three days. No chance of delaying said trip. Should I call her to see her or just let this run it's course and move on?

So a little update: I'm three days in on the trip and I still can't get her off my mind and how much of the timing sucks so much. I try to relax and I snapchat this trip like a motherfucker to let her know of my existence and so far she's seen all of em.

Before I left she texted me out of the blue and said she wanted to get together with friends before I left. She then texted me the day of meeting up saying that she couldn't go out tonight and told me to hit her up when I get back. I get back in three weeks and I only met this girl once.

I went out for drinks with friends anyway and the girl's sister was with us and said that she got too nervous. It might have been the three gin and tonics but I was flustered by this development.

And now I'm gone for three weeks and I can't for the sake of me go full-on vacation mode.

That and one of my wisdom teeth just got impacted.
 
I sold a game to a girl on Craiglist who I think it's really cute. After we texted for a little bit(business related) I got her to tell me her name, then she said "nice to meet you! Thank you for selling me these games!" which I just said you welcomed! I am meeting her tomorrow to sell her another game but I dunno if I should ask her for a date after we meet tomorrow. She is definitely the weird/geek type of girl I am more like the normal guy/soccer who is also really into games. Should I ask her if she wants to hang out sometime?

The other part is.. She reminds me a lot to my ex physically, basically this is the slimmer version of my ex who I still have emotions for... My friends think I shouldnt do it because it seems I am just trying to replace my ex with a different version of herself.

I don't know. Your friends might be right, but it also might only be that you have a type of girl. I'd say go for it, but what do I know.
 
I sold a game to a girl on Craiglist who I think it's really cute. After we texted for a little bit(business related) I got her to tell me her name, then she said "nice to meet you! Thank you for selling me these games!" which I just said you welcomed! I am meeting her tomorrow to sell her another game but I dunno if I should ask her for a date after we meet tomorrow. She is definitely the weird/geek type of girl I am more like the normal guy/soccer who is also really into games. Should I ask her if she wants to hang out sometime?

The other part is.. She reminds me a lot to my ex physically, basically this is the slimmer version of my ex who I still have emotions for... My friends think I shouldnt do it because it seems I am just trying to replace my ex with a different version of herself.

Eh, maybe you're just into a type. Nothing wrong with that.

Maybe you can tie the asking her out with the games somehow? "Forget the Nintendo Game Counselors...call me if you get stuck."

Don't do that, but maybe she's down to play sometime? Or if you're meeting at a Starbucks to do the exchange, maybe you can ask if shell meet you there again for a date?
 
My first date with the girl I had been speaking to on OKC has been a success. We met up at 7pm and went around to a couple of local bars until 1am. Walked her back to her place and made out for a bit. Am now walking home. Yay.
 
I sold a game to a girl on Craiglist who I think it's really cute.
If you decide to do it, just tell her you'd like to take her out for a coffee, and that she knows how to reach you if interested. Otherwise she might feel "trapped" since she's agreed to come buy a game but ends up being put into that situation. Make it the last thing you say so that you can both leave when its done. She doesn't feel pressured and also gets to see that you're not thirsty.

See what others here tell you but I think this is the best way.
 
If you decide to do it, just tell her you'd like to take her out for a coffee, and that she knows how to reach you if interested. Otherwise she might feel "trapped" since she's agreed to come buy a game but ends up being put into that situation. Make it the last thing you say so that you can both leave when its done. She doesn't feel pressured and also gets to see that you're not thirsty.

See what others here tell you but I think this is the best way.


I am thinking about doing small chat since i am just selling her a game. Then like a couple hours later text her saying this " Hey girl you seem real nice, would you like to hang out sometime?
 
I am thinking about doing small chat since i am just selling her a game. Then like a couple hours later text her saying this " Hey girl you seem real nice, would you like to hang out sometime?

I would follow stn's advice. The follow-up text idea sounds kinda creepy to me, to be honest.
 
I am thinking about doing small chat since i am just selling her a game. Then like a couple hours later text her saying this " Hey girl you seem real nice, would you like to hang out sometime?

I think that what the other guy said is better. Ask her out after you sold the game and are saying the goodbyes.
 
So after the small chat I am gonna say something like this, hey "girl name" would you like to grab coffe sometime?
 
So after the small chat I am gonna say something like this, hey "girl name" would you like to grab coffe sometime?

No, you want to say: "Hey, how about grabbing a drink this Thursday? I know a ________." You fill in the rest. And, as stn mentioned, make sure this is after the transaction's complete and you're on your way out.
 
Obviously not, but she was great. I don't see what's wrong with wanting the next one to be better. I feel a bit better now. I've just gotta go out more.

I get why you say that you want something better. Of course you want the best and not to settle. But when you say better, it implies that you are comparing them to your last girl, which probably isn't a good idea. People are different. They might have qualities that are better and at the same time have ones that are worse. When you go in to things looking for something in particular, i.e. better or on par body, in to the same things, better sense of humor, you are setting yourself up for failure.

Just take each person as they are. Finding the right person is not about finding the best person possible. It's about finding somebody that fits you. Everybody has weaknesses. Don't pigeonhole a potential partner and discount them because they don't have a certain quality your ex had.
 
Yo GAF how do you guys feel about age differences?

I met this cool girl the other day, got number bla bla bla. Got a date tomorrow.
We were texting last night and I actually only found out now that she's 18.
I'm 22...
I had no idea she doesn't look it. I personally don't really care, she's overage so whatever but like if things work out and I eventually have to meet her family I'd feel uncomfortable as fuck... 18-22 seems inapropriate for some reason.
Overreaction?
 
4 dates with this girl.

Hold hands alot and kissed a couple of times.

Today she tells me she wants to be friends as she hasnt got any romantic feelings yet??

Maybe I should have pushed for a makeout session today or something.

FUCK!
 
Yo GAF how do you guys feel about age differences?

I met this cool girl the other day, got number bla bla bla. Got a date tomorrow.
We were texting last night and I actually only found out now that she's 18.
I'm 22...
I had no idea she doesn't look it. I personally don't really care, she's overage so whatever but like if things work out and I eventually have to meet her family I'd feel uncomfortable as fuck... 18-22 seems inapropriate for some reason.
Overreaction?

I dunno, I go out with girls as much as 10 years younger. Yolo, I guess?
 
Yo GAF how do you guys feel about age differences?

I met this cool girl the other day, got number bla bla bla. Got a date tomorrow.
We were texting last night and I actually only found out now that she's 18.
I'm 22...
I had no idea she doesn't look it. I personally don't really care, she's overage so whatever but like if things work out and I eventually have to meet her family I'd feel uncomfortable as fuck... 18-22 seems inapropriate for some reason.
Overreaction?

If it is to be it is to be . age is just a number in the end .

My nephew who is 24 is dating a girl who is 17 ( no sex though ) and seems to get along fine .
 
If it is to be it is to be . age is just a number in the end .

My nephew who is 24 is dating a girl who is 17 ( no sex though ) and seems to get along fine .

Yup, there's definitely no sex happening there.
Sorry, had to.

Anyway -- 18 and 22? Seriously? That's not inappropriate at all. I suspect that, at 22, you somehow think yourself to be a mature adult, far more worldly than this teenage girl. Well, you're not. So enjoy it! You're slightly farther along in life than she is, so help her along and stop worrying about it.

Besides, as ZackieChan said, as you get older, it matters less and less. I'm 32. My dating pool is 25-30.
 
Yup, there's definitely no sex happening there.
Sorry, had to.

Anyway -- 18 and 22? Seriously? That's not inappropriate at all. I suspect that, at 22, you somehow think yourself to be a mature adult, far more worldly than this teenage girl. Well, you're not. So enjoy it! You're slightly farther along in life than she is, so help her along and stop worrying about it.

Besides, as ZackieChan said, as you get older, it matters less and less. I'm 32. My dating pool is 25-30.

Ok thanks for the reassurance bro
 
After a week long of consistent messaging and calling, morning, day and night...


What happens when all a sudden the amount of text messages, snap chats (clean ones mind you) drastically drop, and you don't hear anything from her for good10-20 hours until you decide to message her.

And when you ask her "Do you want to chat later tonight?"

She replies:


"Sure, gimme a call later if you want."

What now bros?
 
After a week long of consistent messaging and calling, morning, day and night...


What happens when all a sudden the amount of text messages, snap chats (clean ones mind you) drastically drop, and you don't hear anything from her for good10-20 hours until you decide to message her.

And when you ask her "Do you want to chat later tonight?"

She replies:


"Sure, gimme a call later if you want."

What now bros?

IRL date ASAP
 
So I just had the best date I've ever had.

Second date with this girl I really like. She lives about two hours away but we got to talking online even though she insisted I was too far away. The Monday after July 4 she messaged me and said she would be driving near my work on Tuesday morning on her way home from the holidays so we met for coffee for an hour and I could feel there was some chemistry but I didn't want to actively pursue anything because she had previously mentioned that distance was a problem. I was planning on going wine tasting near her next weekend anyway so i was thinking that I would invite her to that eventually.

Then last weekend she texted me and said that she had been thinking about me and really wanted to hang out again if I was interested. We agreed that I should visit her today.

Basically we spent eight hours exploring the central California Coast and Big Sur. We had lunch, played ping pong, watched these goofy elephant seals sleep on the beach, hiked straight down some cliffs to a remote beach with black sand and had a really deep talk, climbed back up and then had drinks admiring the view, drove further north and hiked in a redwood patch and then found an amazing spot standing on a cliff jutting out way above the ocean and watched the sun set over the Pacific Ocean while the sky and waves turned pink and orange and purple and blue. The moment the sun went down we had our first kiss and it was the best kiss I've ever had. She said it was the most romantic thing imaginable and I agreed, it was like it was out of a movie or something. I drove her back to her car and then we kissed some more and I drove home.
 
I went on a second date with her recently, it was middle of the week (Thursday) I was dead tired from having a shitty work week...

I was half hour late to pick her, up ( I called ahead said I was going to be 15 minutes late) The burger joint I took her (she wanted to go) the waitress was terrible and indifferent to us, it made her upset.. The bowling I promised her wasn't that great, we were rushing everything all night, I ended up driving wrong way on a one way street, I was out of my element, but anyway ... ended up kissing the end of the night, maybe a bit too much... I have no idea what is going on, I am kinda exhausted form all this.

But overall, first date >>>> second date.
 
Sorry could you elaborate a little more, To elaborate it myself, I went on a second date with her recently, it was middle of the week (Thursday) I was dead tired from having a shitty work week...

I was half hour late to pick her, up ( I called ahead said I was going to be 15 minutes late) The burger joint I took her (she wanted to go) the waitress was terrible and indifferent to us, it made her upset.. The bowling I promised her wasn't that great, we were rushing everything all night, I ended up driving wrong way on a one way street, I was out of my element, but anyway ... ended up kissing the end of the night, maybe a bit too much... I have no idea what is going on, I am kinda exhausted form all this.

But overall, first date >>>> second date.

I am thinking of taking her to a nice surprise romantic picnic in the evening at the park tomorrow to make up for all the crap on the second date and maybe keep the kissing at minimum? I think I kissed her too much and (tongue action) and all that, fuck I donno! GAF halp, excuse my drunken rant, it is late at night I need sleep.




Dude, that's awesome, everything you did, is kind of what I had in mind for her tomorrow, but at a smaller scale in a park by the beach, may I ask, when you guys are hiking and stopping, are you lugging anything with you? My issue is carrying picnic stuff around. Was any of that a problem or you had your car(s) near by and drove to all the spots?

In my experience, things always flow a lot better after a date.
So if you feel things are slowing down, go see her, get things rolling again.
 
So after the small chat I am gonna say something like this, hey "girl name" would you like to grab coffe sometime?

It's better if you say the day instead of "sometime". If she's interested but can't go that day, she'll let you know the day that's better to her.



Yo GAF how do you guys feel about age differences?

I met this cool girl the other day, got number bla bla bla. Got a date tomorrow.
We were texting last night and I actually only found out now that she's 18.
I'm 22...
I had no idea she doesn't look it. I personally don't really care, she's overage so whatever but like if things work out and I eventually have to meet her family I'd feel uncomfortable as fuck... 18-22 seems inapropriate for some reason.
Overreaction?

It doesn't matter even a little a bit. 4 years is nothing.

So I just had the best date I've ever had.

Second date with this girl I really like. She lives about two hours away but we got to talking online even though she insisted I was too far away. The Monday after July 4 she messaged me and said she would be driving near my work on Tuesday morning on her way home from the holidays so we met for coffee for an hour and I could feel there was some chemistry but I didn't want to actively pursue anything because she had previously mentioned that distance was a problem. I was planning on going wine tasting near her next weekend anyway so i was thinking that I would invite her to that eventually.

Then last weekend she texted me and said that she had been thinking about me and really wanted to hang out again if I was interested. We agreed that I should visit her today.

Basically we spent eight hours exploring the central California Coast and Big Sur. We had lunch, played ping pong, watched these goofy elephant seals sleep on the beach, hiked straight down some cliffs to a remote beach with black sand and had a really deep talk, climbed back up and then had drinks admiring the view, drove further north and hiked in a redwood patch and then found an amazing spot standing on a cliff jutting out way above the ocean and watched the sun set over the Pacific Ocean while the sky and waves turned pink and orange and purple and blue. The moment the sun went down we had our first kiss and it was the best kiss I've ever had. She said it was the most romantic thing imaginable and I agreed, it was like it was out of a movie or something. I drove her back to her car and then we kissed some more and I drove home.

Wow, that's awsome. Congratulations and good luck.
 
In my experience, things always flow a lot better after a date.
So if you feel things are slowing down, go see her, get things rolling again.

You're totally on to something here, I feel like I shoudl be doing what you're saying ( before you even said it) But at the same time I am kind of worried she made up her mind and is no longer interested in me and I would be wasting lots of time and money planning this picnic.

I really want to go all out on this picnic, put together a nice basket with snacks, cheese food, and a few bottles of wine. (Two things she made it crystal clear to me so far are , she loves chivalry and wine, so...) and maybe even pillows and blanket and chill by the beach, get into deep conversations that were suppose to happen but never did on the second date ( Who fuckin new it's hard to carry a conversation during bowling!) haha

I kind of kept my pride and did not call her tonight, waited for her to text me to call her ( which was in her nature to do so until very recently) She didn't contact me at all tonight, so I said fuck it..I refuse to look desperate and chase her down, so did not call her or text her.

The only reason I wanted to talk to her tonight to see if she is free after work tomorrow and wants to hang out, hence the picnic.

So what should I do tomorrow? it will kind of be last minute, she works at a cafe and is not allowed to check her phone too often, I donno... ugh! I hate this, she's slipping between my fingers like sand!
 
You're totally on to something here, I feel like I shoudl be doing what you're saying ( before you even said it) But at the same time I am kind of worried she made up her mind and is no longer interested in me and I would be wasting lots of time and money planning this picnic.

I really want to go all out on this picnic, put together a nice basket with snacks, cheese food, and a few bottles of wine. (Two things she made it crystal clear to me so far are , she loves chivalry and wine, so...) and maybe even pillows and blanket and chill by the beach, get into deep conversations that were suppose to happen but never did on the second date ( Who fuckin new it's hard to carry a conversation during bowling!) haha

I kind of kept my pride and did not call her tonight, waited for her to text me to call her ( which was in her nature to do so until very recently) She didn't contact me at all tonight, so I said fuck it..I refuse to look desperate and chase her down, so did not call her or text her.

The only reason I wanted to talk to her tonight to see if she is free after work tomorrow and wants to hang out, hence the picnic.

So what should I do tomorrow? it will kind of be last minute, she works at a cafe and is not allowed to check her phone too often, I donno... ugh! I hate this, she's slipping between my fingers like sand!


Well unless ou go for it you'll never know 100% sure that she's not interested.
Call her, tell her you wanna picnic tomorrrow.
She won't go with you if she's not interested. Then you ace that date, make it fun.
 
Well unless ou go for it you'll never know 100% sure that she's not interested.
Call her, tell her you wanna picnic tomorrrow.
She won't go with you if she's not interested. Then you ace that date, make it fun.

I want the picnic to be a surprise, or at least I could downplay it?

Having looked back< I see that most of my conversation with her was through Google chat while at work, the reason we talked a lot was b/c her (weekday job) was pretty boring and she had time to talk to me.. having read my conversations on Gchat with her on Friday, things seemed fine and Friday is the post second date day.

I think I am overthinking.
 
I want the picnic to be a surprise, or at least I could downplay it?

Having looked back< I see that most of my conversation with her was through Google chat while at work, the reason we talked a lot was b/c her (weekday job) was pretty boring and she had time to talk to me.. having read my conversations on Gchat with her on Friday, things seemed fine and Friday is the post second date day.

I think I am overthinking.

Yup, less thinking. More doing!
 
Thanks Jindrax,

First thing this morning, will text her, see if she's free to talk, and see if she's free after work! Then will take it from there.

If you want the picnic to be a surprise you can ask her without letting that out. Just say something along the lines of "are you free for a date tomorrow? I know this really nice place I'd like to take you."

Side note: You're definitely overthinking things. Don't worry to much about what her small actions mean and how you should react to them, just do what you feel is right.
 
Obviously not, but she was great. I don't see what's wrong with wanting the next one to be better. I feel a bit better now. I've just gotta go out more.
There's nothing wrong but depending on how long you were dating, your basis for comparison is usually more based on a projection you made in your head than how she really was. Like many things, we have a tendency to project desirable attributes onto them and look back with Rose tinted glasses so the attempt to find "someone better" often leads to disappointment and being alone. That's why I was asking how long you dated.
 
There's nothing wrong but depending on how long you were dating, your basis for comparison is usually more based on a projection you made in your head than how she really was. Like many things, we have a tendency to project desirable attributes onto them and look back with Rose tinted glasses so the attempt to find "someone better" often leads to disappointment and being alone. That's why I was asking how long you dated.

Hey Zaraki, could you please read your PMs (from me) and let me know dude, I will much appreciate it.

If you want the picnic to be a surprise you can ask her without letting that out. Just say something along the lines of "are you free for a date tomorrow? I know this really nice place I'd like to take you."

Side note: You're definitely overthinking things. Don't worry to much about what her small actions mean and how you should react to them, just do what you feel is right.

Thanks man, yeah I think I will do that, It all rides on her saying yes or no ( "I have other plans, busy etc.") Soon as she says yes, I am on top of it, already made a list for what I need.
 
Dude, that's awesome, everything you did, is kind of what I had in mind for her tomorrow, but at a smaller scale in a park by the beach, may I ask, when you guys are hiking and stopping, are you lugging anything with you? My issue is carrying picnic stuff around. Was any of that a problem or you had your car(s) near by and drove to all the spots?

Yeah, my car was close by and we drove from spot to spot. Basically, I brought two backpacks with me. One I always left in the car that contained literally all the clothes and stuff I would need to do everything from swim in the ocean to go out to dinner and I left in the car and the other had a thermos full of water, some trail mix, and a small towel.

When we stopped to hike I changed out of jeans and later when it got cooler I grabbed a light sweater and gave her one too which she loved. When we went hiking I just grabbed the small backpack with the water and snacks and we would just go. She told me a couple times how impressed she was with how prepared I was lol. We didn't even need 80+% of what I brought but the entire date was very improvisational / spontaneous so it was good that being well prepared allowed for that.

Good luck man! :)
 
Yo GAF how do you guys feel about age differences?

I met this cool girl the other day, got number bla bla bla. Got a date tomorrow.
We were texting last night and I actually only found out now that she's 18.
I'm 22...
I had no idea she doesn't look it. I personally don't really care, she's overage so whatever but like if things work out and I eventually have to meet her family I'd feel uncomfortable as fuck... 18-22 seems inapropriate for some reason.
Overreaction?

I dunno, I go out with girls as much as 10 years younger. Yolo, I guess?
By yolo, you mean you want Jindrax to date 12 year olds???
 
Yo GAF how do you guys feel about age differences?

I met this cool girl the other day, got number bla bla bla. Got a date tomorrow.
We were texting last night and I actually only found out now that she's 18.
I'm 22...
I had no idea she doesn't look it. I personally don't really care, she's overage so whatever but like if things work out and I eventually have to meet her family I'd feel uncomfortable as fuck... 18-22 seems inapropriate for some reason.
Overreaction?

I know this has been answered a lot, but the biggest problem that seems to come with age differences is life experience and what place you're at in your life.

18 and 22 seems pretty darn close, honestly. I see no problem there. It's definitely not creepy or anything.
 
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