Maybe that's just my opinion man, but all of that just sounds like burning money for the sake of burning money. That doesn't really sound like an enriching life.
Why are you so boring? (to Tabris)
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affleck1981
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It's just about whether you are spending on experiences or material things.
Interesting - if I'm reading this correctly, you seem to be implying that experiences are better than material things.
From your list of things to do in Vegas, I would class the following as definitely material things:
- MGM Grand - there are cheaper places to stay in Vegas, as I went to a hostel there
- Get some shopping done, maybe pick up new sunglasses
- Go back up to your room to get changed into nice formal wear, maybe a suit (gotta suit up in Vegas in my opinion but some people don't like wearing suits).
- Somewhere in between probably played some blackjack or craps and maybe won some money.
- Playing some video games that Sunday night.
This seems to imply - along with the name dropping of De Niro's Nobu and the great clubs that you are going to - that you actually quite like the material side of life, as it gives you new experiences.
My day yesterday - got home and played Top Trumps with my 5 year old, made Choc Chunk Cookies with my 2 and 5 year old, sat and talked with both about their day. Sat down after they'd gone to bed with a Thai Green Curry made by my wife and then did some school marking before watching Peep Show and going to bed.
Would it give me an interesting story? Probably not. Did I find it interesting and enjoyable? Yes - spending time with my kids is amazing. I can appreciate it's boring for others, but that's the thing about kids - spending time with your own doing even the most simple things can be the best thing in the world. It sometimes comes across Tabris as if you don't appreciate that people can find interest in different things, some of which aren't quantifiable in the same way as going to Vegas!
Interesting - if I'm reading this correctly, you seem to be implying that experiences are better than material things.
From your list of things to do in Vegas, I would class the following as definitely material things:
- MGM Grand - there are cheaper places to stay in Vegas, as I went to a hostel there
- Get some shopping done, maybe pick up new sunglasses
- Go back up to your room to get changed into nice formal wear, maybe a suit (gotta suit up in Vegas in my opinion but some people don't like wearing suits).
- Somewhere in between probably played some blackjack or craps and maybe won some money.
- Playing some video games that Sunday night.
This seems to imply - along with the name dropping of De Niro's Nobu and the great clubs that you are going to - that you actually quite like the material side of life, as it gives you new experiences.
My day yesterday - got home and played Top Trumps with my 5 year old, made Choc Chunk Cookies with my 2 and 5 year old, sat and talked with both about their day. Sat down after they'd gone to bed with a Thai Green Curry made by my wife and then did some school marking before watching Peep Show and going to bed.
Would it give me an interesting story? Probably not. Did I find it interesting and enjoyable? Yes - spending time with my kids is amazing. I can appreciate it's boring for others, but that's the thing about kids - spending time with your own doing even the most simple things can be the best thing in the world. It sometimes comes across Tabris as if you don't appreciate that people can find interest in different things, some of which aren't quantifiable in the same way as going to Vegas!
Snowman Prophet of Doom
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OP, you come across like a smug ass in this thread. You're the millennial equivalent of Andre Gregory thinking that "losing oneself" in ridiculous New Age rituals is so deep and meaningful, when the reality is that a truly interesting person can get as much out of going on a walk with their kid as a climb up Everest. "Interesting" is something you bring to things, not something "out there", inherent in the nature of particular activities.
I mean, Cirque de Soleil is rad. And I'm sure Nobu is fine, although to be honest I have strong doubts about a sushi restaurant in the middle of the desert.
Everything else in your trip is basically what I would experience if I died and was put in a Twilight Zone-style personal hell. Go to Vegas, meet total strangers, and have lengthy conversations with them? Maybe that plane didn't really land after all.
Kind of the point here is that you keep making posts like this which suggest that the stuff you like is just obviously superior to the stuff other people like. Besides being, you know, douchey, it's also basically nonsensical. There's no objective standard to how boring things are! People like doing stuff you don't like, and they don't like doing stuff you do like. When you meet people who like doing stuff you don't like, you probably consider them boring. They probably feel the same way about you.
Namedropping not only a Japanese restaurant in Vegas (by renowned Japanese Chef Robert DeNiro, no less), but also a French Restaurant in Tokyo
ConfusingJazz
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Man, Vegas is boring. Go to New Orleans instead.
Exactly. Probably one of the most vapid definitions of 'seriously having fun XDXD' i've read in a good while.
Sorry Tabris, you might have a cool place to live and all, but your lifestyle is little more than a overgrown caricature of the kind of 'rad' lifestyle dreamt about by 18-year old college freshmen. Don't blame your friends for actually turning into grownups.
Admiral Woofington
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OP sounds like my friend (call him bubu) who I like barely hang out with now. I'm sure he considers me the boring one sure. I have a dog and I'm single so my life actually revolves around him. If I'm going out I make sure to head out no earlier than 530 or 6 to not leave him alone for too long. I enjoy getting together with my closest buddies and putting on a horror movie as we eat some take out or bring back dinner we picked up. We'll chat and maybe drink, giggle our assess off at our raunchy sense of humor. That's a good weekend for us. Maybe a session of dnd some weekends.
Bubu on the other hand is the night life mid 20s dude. He needs to be in the happening places of the cities all of the time and if you tell him "let's go do this weird shit" he's down like a clown. Last time I saw him in a gathering between our parents (his parents are like real close friends to mine) he told me that now he likes going to travel to different cities as often as possible.
He lives with his parents and doesn't pay rent and still has no savings from his decently paying job because he's constantly doing shit that costs money which tends to be the cool people shit.
Bubu will likely have the better stories to tell in the future, I have no doubt of this. But Bubus life seems so..... Plastic. So fake from my point of view. My close group of friends and I are boring if you saw us day to day but we can still be fun to talk with at a bar when you meet us. We're very suburban.
And I don't mind being that.
Bubu on the other hand is the night life mid 20s dude. He needs to be in the happening places of the cities all of the time and if you tell him "let's go do this weird shit" he's down like a clown. Last time I saw him in a gathering between our parents (his parents are like real close friends to mine) he told me that now he likes going to travel to different cities as often as possible.
He lives with his parents and doesn't pay rent and still has no savings from his decently paying job because he's constantly doing shit that costs money which tends to be the cool people shit.
Bubu will likely have the better stories to tell in the future, I have no doubt of this. But Bubus life seems so..... Plastic. So fake from my point of view. My close group of friends and I are boring if you saw us day to day but we can still be fun to talk with at a bar when you meet us. We're very suburban.
And I don't mind being that.
dr3upmushroom
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wait so OP neglects his child so he can bang 20 year olds?
teruterubozu
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OP admitted his girlfriend plans everything for him. Sounds exciting right?
FortuneFaded
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How can you have a dog when you are a dog?
Is this some kind of Goofy & Pluto scenario?
Gravy Boat
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OP doesn't have a kid. Who has time to procreate when all your spare time is used be being too cool for school? Only squares have kids.
Vegas is soul-sucking to me. I mean, more power to you if you like it, but I feel like I've been plopped in a manufactured park tantamount to Walt Disney World or Busch Gardens minus anything fun like roller coasters the one time I've been there. Many people probably say the same about NYC, but I love my yearly trips there, but I'm not going to go around begrudging anyone that doesn't go to NYC yearly or at a moment's notice. I can think of a million more "authentic" places to go then freakin' Vegas - hell I prefer LA to Vegas. I'm on the east coast though, so my trips tend to stick around there, I fly to the west coast enough for work that a flight there for vacation isn't terribly appealing to be honest.
It's obvious you are a natural extrovert. I, and many others are natural introverts. I'd rather go out with established friends, and if I we meet new people great, but I need to take socializing breaks like every twenty minutes when I'm out - even if that's just running to the restroom to have a second to be alone.
As someone who has a great number of friends who have had issues having children (having children matters little to me, and I'm gay so it just makes the whole thing more complicated), I find the tone of the OP rather insulting when I know people that have been heartbroken many times over trying to get pregnant or bring a child to term.
It's obvious you are a natural extrovert. I, and many others are natural introverts. I'd rather go out with established friends, and if I we meet new people great, but I need to take socializing breaks like every twenty minutes when I'm out - even if that's just running to the restroom to have a second to be alone.
As someone who has a great number of friends who have had issues having children (having children matters little to me, and I'm gay so it just makes the whole thing more complicated), I find the tone of the OP rather insulting when I know people that have been heartbroken many times over trying to get pregnant or bring a child to term.
Admiral Woofington
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We are the dog military, he's under my command.
dr3upmushroom
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Haha I have a kid and another one on they way, sure I don't have time to do all the crazy shit, and I do sometimes fantazose about what my life would be living the single life, but I'm happy and don't feel like I have to impress friends with escapde stories, I actually find those kind of people fucking boring. I do 't care where you've been if the entire story revolves around you, I don't care if you ate good food or saw a great show. I have friends with kids, in relationships without and single freinds and I can still relate to all of them because we have other shit to talk about.
teruterubozu
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Actually the parents are saying they don't give two shits about being entertaining, but for some reason Sunday Morning Breakfast is death to all that is fascinating.
old manatee
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It sounds like OP is closer to being a Gen Xer that dates millennials.
More_Badass
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To be fair, my parents were a bit different because I was a premie so they were focused on me and my health from when I born.
My family has a strong belief in a strong family unit, it was something instilled in us generations ago.
I find the notion of not being able to do anything exciting when you have a kid a bit odd. My cousin has a six year old and they've been to Atlantis and Puerto Rico and Disney. My parents took me to Florida or South Carolina every summer. We'd go to the museum, the zoo, circus, go hiking, car shows, etc. And we're not rich by any means. Mom's a guidance counselor in a public middle school, dad's a court clerk, and we lived in a Bronx apartment
Carnby
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Immense words, from an immense man.
I am 33 and I think I am still technically a millennial depending on what definition is being looked at.
Anyhow, I have a daughter who is almost two. My policy is to not talk about my girl/family unless someone is asking a specific question, or I am talking to another parent (whose talking about their kid). I get that 99.9% of the people I encounter aren't as interested in what she does as I am. I don't really care what other peoples' random kids do either (even though it seems amazing when my kid does the same shit).
That said, I think that some 30+ bachelors (including the OP) don't seem to get that most of us boring parental types had our more wild early-mid 20's and don't really feel the need to keep living it for 15-30 years.
Also, expecting to have as active a social life as you had pre-kids when your kids are really young (pre-school, and even elementary school to a lesser extent) is absurd unless daycares, babysitters, and inlaws are raising your kid. Babies and little kids want to spend time with their parents, and demand attention during that time. Some of your boring friends who barely get out will probably become more interesting again all of a sudden when you are all in your mid 40s and their kids have their own things going on.
This notion of pre-millennials being less absorbed with their kids is mostly true of men, since it was socially acceptable to stick almost the entirety of child rearing on your wife as you took off to the bar after work 30-40 years ago. Mothers have always been extremely focused on their children. Dads are just starting to catch up in that regard.
Word.
Kind of a weird dichotomy in this thread though, I totally understand how people's priorities change and how going out clubbing probably seems silly when you have a family at home that you'd prefer to spend your time with, but I feel some parents ITT are basically writing off their entire pre-child existence as being sad and hollow.
I can sympathize with the frustration, I guess I'm about the same age, and don't have kids. Many of my friends are having them, and it is a little boring when that's all they talk about. (Most of them have the self-awareness to not go overboard too often, though.) It's a little sad that they're not available for activities like they used to be.
I try to be magnanimous about it. That's life; this is what people do. That's the important thing going on in their lives right now, and it's the least I can do as a friend to take a basic interest in it. They've chosen a certain path in life that presumably they find rewarding, and they don't exist for my entertainment.
I don't know; maybe your friends find it boring to hear about your latest Vegas trip, or to talk to the 22-year-old girlfriend you brought to their dinner party.
I try to be magnanimous about it. That's life; this is what people do. That's the important thing going on in their lives right now, and it's the least I can do as a friend to take a basic interest in it. They've chosen a certain path in life that presumably they find rewarding, and they don't exist for my entertainment.
I don't know; maybe your friends find it boring to hear about your latest Vegas trip, or to talk to the 22-year-old girlfriend you brought to their dinner party.
Messofanego
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Clubbing is pretty sad and hollow, though. I've been many times out clubbing, sober mind you. It's pretty sad and hollow. Good exercise from the dancing at least. Bringing back drunk roommates to the apartment, not fun at all. Yeah, I don't miss that experience at all.
Don't have kids to take care of,
but that above Vegas Trip sounds so boring... :|
Last time in Vegas I enjoyed going to the race track on the outskirts and racing some exotic cars.
Also enjoyed going to one of the ranges and firing guns that are illegal here.
Went with the GF too...
Everyone has their likes though...
but that above Vegas Trip sounds so boring... :|
Last time in Vegas I enjoyed going to the race track on the outskirts and racing some exotic cars.
Also enjoyed going to one of the ranges and firing guns that are illegal here.
Went with the GF too...
Everyone has their likes though...
Carnby
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Acting like a tourist in Vegas is NOT boring.
Should have quoted my other part
Myself, I enjoyed old strip much more.
The main one felt very fake, not my type of thing.
Again, everyone has their likes.
Carnby
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Ha. I was agreeing with you. When I travel, the last thing I do is act like a tourist and do tourist activities. My trip to Vegas was fucking awesome and a once in a life time experience. And I didn't spend it in Celebrity brand name restaurants.
Carnby
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Quoted for the irony.
FortuneFaded
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Right before you took them to your hotel room and the floor is covered in newspaper.
Your version of Vegas is fun for one night, not two.
TheRagnCajun
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Its not sad and hollow when its appropriate for that chapter of your life. My 20's were awesome, and I tried to make the most of my freedom, lack of responsibilities and expendable income. I don't want my 30's to be about the same thing. I think its sad and hollow when your life gets stuck in that mode for 10+ years
WrenchNinja
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aren't you rewatching How I Met Your Mother
Yes. Barney is his role model.
I don't even have kids and frankly, more often than not I'd rather stay home playing Fallout/Netflix and chill with my gf. I'm even worse than your friends with kids, Tabris!
I have no problem with being called boring, it's a completely accurate label in my case. Vegas is more of a annual/semi-annual thing for me, and I prefer it that way. The main issue is budget and the fact that I'm tied down. I'm perfectly happy laying in the cut enjoying my drinks and watching everyone else go nuts.
I have no problem with being called boring, it's a completely accurate label in my case. Vegas is more of a annual/semi-annual thing for me, and I prefer it that way. The main issue is budget and the fact that I'm tied down. I'm perfectly happy laying in the cut enjoying my drinks and watching everyone else go nuts.
Just for starters, I don't drink.
Quoted so I can enjoy this post in this thread forever.
old manatee
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You don't like pools surrounded by hot women (or men)?
You don't like relaxing in the sun against your face?
You don't like getting dressed up?
You don't like dancing?
You don't like cirque du soleil (especially the adult version) or going to some musical act?
You don't like going shopping?
You don't like thrill rides on top of a building?
You don't like talking with new people from other countries?
You don't like gambling?
You don't like getting amped and staying amped?
I know for sure I could ensure everyone here had a blast in Vegas.
I genuinely hope this is just an elaborate parody thread or straight troll job by Tabris. Because if what he's saying is actually all true, then I feel bad for him. This is straight up some Barney Stinson-type stuff that it's so cartoonish.
I take no issue in anything he typed out in terms of having fun, but to dismiss people with children so easily with such arrogance is just terrible.
In HIMYM, Barney didn't really get a lot of attention from his parents (dad was gone, mom wasn't always focused on him). I think I'm sensing the same with Tabris.
Not enough friends who want to hang out with him on his terms and doesn't value friendships enough to make a compromise or sacrifice once in a while, so he has to resort to hoping to entertain strangers. Reminds me of the lonely guy at the bar, who would randomly talk to anybody to be reminded that he's alive.
I take no issue in anything he typed out in terms of having fun, but to dismiss people with children so easily with such arrogance is just terrible.
In HIMYM, Barney didn't really get a lot of attention from his parents (dad was gone, mom wasn't always focused on him). I think I'm sensing the same with Tabris.
Not enough friends who want to hang out with him on his terms and doesn't value friendships enough to make a compromise or sacrifice once in a while, so he has to resort to hoping to entertain strangers. Reminds me of the lonely guy at the bar, who would randomly talk to anybody to be reminded that he's alive.
Carnby
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Tourist.
What? Couldn't get Blue Man Group tickets?
OP ain't Bateman, he's Mojo Rowley.
Of course I'm a tourist. Why would I want to live in Vegas? Vegas off the strip is gross.
Vegas is an adult playground you experience for a weekend.
You keep saying I'm a joke or parody character, there are just my inner thoughts and opinions without filter. Also why do people keep trying to psychoanalysis me?
WrenchNinja
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what is the adult version of cirque du soleil
are they naked or something
are they naked or something
Carnby
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Acting like a tourist in Vegas is boring. You're boring. Your friends are boring. Your stories bore people like me, those that are not boring.
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