GAF, I've made a huge mistake. (Job related.)

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Gastone

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I don't know your situation, OP, but in this case i'm pretty confident you messed up. This is perfectly normal...I''m on my 5th job/employer and i can honestly say that the first 2-3 days at a new position/job were like you described.

You need to time to settle in, and you need to time to let your employer and coworkers do their daily job AND find time to train and help you out. The next time you get a job (and i'm sure you will) you should at least wait a month before you figure out if you're actually doing something or not.
 
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Walter White Walker

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My reaction would of been somewhere between, "Woohoo! Doing nothing and getting paid!" and "Maybe I should ask someone if there's something I should be doing". Up and quitting seems like a bizarre reaction.
 
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stn

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On the first day of my current job they told me to go home early since the lawyers were busy and could not provide training. I instead offered to hang around anyway and shadowed other people in the department. My point? Take initiative and be pro-active. Find something to do when there's nothing to do.

The solution is not ending your life as you apparently want to do, but being smarter about things and keeping your cool in all situations. Life lesson, man.
 
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Ronin Ray

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I have no words for this thread I just can't comprehend what I am reading. Your Mom helped you get a good job and of course she is mad you messed it up but your somehow mad at her. You should be glad you mom cares and is trying to help you.
 
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DrGonzo615

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Yep, sorry OP. You effed up.

Whats done is done, no point in beating yourself up about it now. Just try not to be so hasty when the next job opportunity comes along. Good luck.
 
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hamauzu kaito

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My old boss used to purposely leave new employees to their own devices and see did they have any initiative or drive. I made the same mistake as you in the past. Its not the end of the world, but make sure to never repeat it!
 
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Hex

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So...You could have sat on your ass all day and been paid for it, and instead you rage quit the job?

More than anything that shows a huge sign of impatience and self importance as well as a lack of coping skills.
On the lesser side you could have had a slow roll relax day before things got rolling hard and just kind of got the layout of who is who and how things work around the office from watching and paying attention which can be valuable later on.
 
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Jimbob Smalls

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G0523 said:
So I started my first day as a staff accountant at this corporate company. I've never been a staff accountant before nor have I worked in a corporate environment. I was really nervous about it and I wasn't even sure if I could stand being in a business outfit all day.

Anyway, I get there and after filling out the necessary paperwork, I'm left at my cubicle with nothing to do. My computer isn't hooked up since they couldn't find the power cord and they weren't even sure if they had done a background check on me. After filling out my background information, I was left at my cubicle again with no instructions whatsoever. I was told before that I was going to be in training but nothing happened.

So I just sat there at the desk for two and a half hours. I was on my phone practically the entire time and I was bored stupid. After two and a half hours I had had enough. So I went to my boss and told her that I don't think this is a good fit. I told her that they don't seem organized and told her that I wasn't doing anything. She told me that it's only the first day and that I'm in training. But I told her that I haven't done anything and I wasn't even getting trained. So I told her that I'm leaving and am going home.

And now I'm at home. I called a couple of my friends, my boyfriend, and my mom called me and they all think that I made a huge mistake and should go back and ask for my job back. So I called my boss back and she said "No. You're done." And that was it.

After getting told that I screwed up, that I ruined my future, that this is how the corporate world works, I'm feeling very depressed. It definitely hit me that I made a huge mistake. Why don't I just kill myself now and get it over with? I have no future anyway, right? Why does the corporate world work this way?! This is horrible! Maybe I'm not meant to be in a corporate environment. Maybe I'm just meant to make minimum wage and be stuck at some dead-end job.

I hate my life. Did I fuck up my future that badly?!

TL;DR: I quit a corporate position after doing nothing but sitting for 2.5 hours. And now I'm paying for it, I guess.
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Were you getting paid for doing nothing? I'm not sure what the problem was?

Businesses can be busy places, the trainee takes last priority if there's a bigger or more important job to do. Sit back, get paid and soon you could be the busy one making people wait.

Hell, it could've been a test to see if you've got any gumption....
 
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GaimeGuy

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Op, again, please seek help. Talk to your doctor. This impulsive behavior of just quitting a new job after 2 hours of nothing happening, the back and forth between sadness and rage in your posts, the suicidal and homicidal thoughts you typed out (no matter how fleeting they were), it isn't normal behavior. Even for people who are inexperienced. Even for people who just threw away a job opportunity. You have some underlying condition or behavior patterns that need to be addressed. Don't do anything rash, take the rest of the day to calm down, and tomorrow, contact your doctor and schedule a visit. If you have some kind of e-correspondence system, or even if not, maybe point them to this thread. There's no need to hurt yourself or anyone else mentally or physically over this, but you need to learn from it and take care of yourself.
 
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BumRush

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OP you keep responding in this thread. You honestly have a chance to salvage this and I guarantee you most anyone would jump at that opportunity.
 
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truly101

I got grudge sucked!
Some days I wish I had walked out on my job, but I work for two of the most evil people in my town. Hopefully these IT and networking classes I'm taking pay off, or I win the lottery. I really hate my job.
 
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G0523

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crisdecuba said:
I'm really a bit baffled by your thought process. Please indulge me in a couple of questions:

1. Why did you jump to saying "I quit" instead of simply asking your supervisor about the training?

2. Why are you jumping to "maybe I should kill myself" instead of considering that this isn't the end of the road?

3. In general are you quick to jump to "bail out" or "well f this, i quit" decisions?

Those questions are purely curiosity questions on my end because I don't understand your thought process...

But like others have said, yes you did screw up this particular job, but not your entire life. No reason to end it.

I can understand why your mom is upset, but don't take her words literally when she says you've ruined your entire life because you haven't. In case you haven't done so, it might be good to apologize since it sounds like she put in effort to help you get the job. And finally just remember to be more patient next time. It sounds like this company did not have a good onboarding / training process, but at the same time you shouldn't quit without at least talking to your supervisor about it (I understand you talked to them but you basically led with "I quit," which isn't going to do you any favors).
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I guess I wasn't thinking. I'm so used to everything getting done immediately that I wasn't used to doing nothing. I feel like if I'm doing nothing then I'm missing something.

I was jumping to the "killing myself" part because I do suffer from depression and I think I was okay with quitting but then when my mom called me and started yelling, I just went there.

I'm used to making quick decisions at my previous jobs so I guess I was doing the same thing here. It didn't work clearly. I've never had a corporate office job and I didn't know that it was this slow.
 
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zoozilla

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EDIT: It's not the end of your life, OP. Chill.
 
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GaimeGuy

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stump sock said:
haha I've done a number of dumb training/certifications that mean nothing for my job because I think it's funny

10 minutes out of my day to say "yeah I know how to clean up exploded batteries now"
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It was required corporate training. Some kind of zero injury target initiative or something
 
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Sethista

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ISWThunder said:
Yep, we've got one of those. Part-Timer came in dressed like she was going to a Phish concert. Went to lunch, never returned again.

Didn't hear from her until a month later when she called up asking where her check was for the 4 hours she worked.
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Oh shit really? theres more of them out there? That frightens me


G0523 said:
Probably, yeah. I doubt I would've gotten it without her to be honest.



28.
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Your mom should be goiing nuclear really. You should be glad you (apparently) dont live with her.

28? Being honest here, I would have guessed 19 to 21. this baffles me even more
 
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entremet

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G0523 said:
I guess I wasn't thinking. I'm so used to everything getting done immediately that I wasn't used to doing nothing. I feel like if I'm doing nothing then I'm missing something.

I was jumping to the "killing myself" part because I do suffer from depression and I think I was okay with quitting but then when my mom called me and started yelling, I just went there.

I'm used to making quick decisions at my previous jobs so I guess I was doing the same thing here. It didn't work clearly. I've never had a corporate office job and I didn't know that it was this slow.
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What's your job experience like?

Was accounting your major?
 
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StMeph

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God Dayumm said:
Not sure. On one hand OP actually wanted to work and do something productive instead of being lazy, on the other hand he was naive, on the third hand he seems to get bored easily. Maybe he's a boomer?
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He didn't want the job. His mother wanted him to get a "real job", and he took it to end her nagging, not to actually start a career. He left after 2.5 hours because it didn't fit his expectations of what a "real job" is and figured he'd done enough to mollify his mother.

And then he reveals he's 28 and has no idea how anything works.
 
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Catdaddy

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OP did you really want the job in the first place, or was it because you were getting pushed by your mom? If that is the case, might better explain the behavior.
 
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CloudyTuba

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That is pretty normal and I don't know why you threw such a huge tantrum over getting paid to sit around for a couple hours. It's no surprise that they turned you down when you called back.

But no, your future is not fucked. It's just one job. Just learn and move on and try again elsewhere.

G0523 said:
I didn't really want this job. I loved my old one working at a small business and working with video games. I didn't actively search it. My mom hooked me up and kinda made me do it because if I said no then I never would've heard the end of it. But now I'm really not hearing the end of it from her because she keeps calling me, telling me that I fucked up my future, yelling at me over the phone, saying "how hard she worked" to get me this job, etc.. It's not really helping my mood and I just want to kill her or myself.
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OP I'm completely serious when I say that you need to see someone about your feelings and get outside help. This is not a small thing or something you can ignore, you need to do this. It will help you feel better. Talk to a doctor/therapist
 
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UltimaPooh

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You didn't make a huge mistake...

But you were pretty drastic to just quit right there because you had to wait around for a bit.

Waiting is part of the game when you start off... and then it's long hours till you've got the jist of it... then it evens out.

Just get back up on that horse, put your best foot forward, dust your shoulders off, etc... and get back to applying. You set yourself back but it's not a huge set back.
 
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balohna

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I get the feeling of being bored and useless, but if anything you should have asked your boss if there's something you could have been doing.

Maybe the job really isn't for you, but I do think it was a mistake not to give it more of a chance.

Learn from this and move on. Don't put the job on your resume.
 
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statuez

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Correct me if i'm wrong but I'm pretty sure you need at least some type of business degree or working towards one to even be considered for a position as a staff accountant.

I don't see how you could not know that the corporate world in an office environment is typically slow especially for new hires.
 
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TheOfficeMut

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Lmao I don't mean to laugh, but I will since that is god damn ridiculous.

Training often never goes as planned. The people intended to train you are usually busy doing their own jobs, so it's not unusual to find yourself waiting several hours or even several days before diving in. Sometimes jobs don't even offer formal training and just have you shadow others or immediately get the ball rolling. You were unnecessarily impatient for the first day on the job, especially since you were the one that was hired by them. It's not like you had a better place to be or another job lined up. What would possess you to suggest to your new boss that your time is too valuable to be wasted? I know you said in your original post that you don't enjoy that type of environment, but you were unfairly critical and didn't know what you even had in store with them. This type of attitude shows that you are inflexible and unpleasant to work with.

Your career prospects are not ruined since this job won't go on a list of references for you, but holy shit, have some patience next time. I don't like to sympathize with corporations, but they are the ones giving you a job after all.
 
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professor_t

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You fucked up completely, but only for this job. This mistake won't follow you.

However, if I were you I would be more concerned about my attitude and general decision-making inclinations. If you approach future jobs with the same orientation, yeah, you're in trouble.

If you learn from this mistake and realize that, yes, it was you, not them, then you're much more likely to be okay. Shit happens - it's not the end of the world.

If that suicide talk was not simply frustration or hyperbole, you should seek out some professional help. Immediately.
 
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