Is falling in love just a chemical reaction or not

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I don't think emergence means what you think it means.
Being trained in entomology, emergence to me means aquatic inverts emerging from the water to carry out their adult lives or terrestrial insects converting from larvae to adults.

It's amazing how different your profession becomes!
 
Being trained in entomology, emergence to me means aquatic inverts emerging from the water to carry out their adult lives or terrestrial insects converting from larvae to adults.

I worked under a PI who was all about the emergent properties of neural circuits from neurons but that is more that looking at one part of a whole does not tell you much about the whole itself, not that putting 100 neurons and wiring them magically creates something new (ok that may be the case but we are ignoring qualia/awareness for now).
 
I worked under a PI who was all about the emergent properties of neural circuits from neurons but that is more that looking at one part of a whole does not tell you much about the whole itself, not that putting 100 neurons and wiring them magically creates something new (ok that may be the case but we are ignoring qualia/awareness for now).
Neurons are boring :P
 
It's funny how people talk about love being a chemical reaction when they want to sound edgy, yet every other human emotion - which is also a "chemical reaction" - doesn't get the same treatment.

Almost as if they're compensating for something 🤔.
 
Was I wrong?
Not necessarily no. Love has as little or as much importance and weight behind it as you want and feel it deserves since love is the most personal thing and as such it's incredibly subjective. Therefore whatever your thoughts on love are should matter to you and to you alone. What I or anyone else thinks about your views on on love should be completely irrelevant, don't let us decide for you OP.

That's my interpretation of it anyway OP, I have a very do as you want, and love as you wish kind of mentality.
 
Dunno love is not just a chemical reaction; I think its a could also be a choice.

I literally fell in love with a person which has a physical trait I hate usually but with her its fine, but her character especially and everything else makes up for it.
 
For people wondering what specifically I'm talking about, this is it:

The University of Pavia found a brain chemical was likely to be responsible for the first flush of love.

Researchers said raised levels of a protein was linked to feelings of euphoria and dependence experienced at the start of a relationship.

But after studying people in long and short relationships and single people, they found the levels receded in time.

The team analysed alterations in proteins known as neurotrophins in the bloodstreams of men and women aged 18 to 31, the Psychoneuroendocrinology journal reported.

They looked at 58 people who had recently started a relationship and compared the protein levels in the same number of people in long-term relationships and single people.

In those who had just started a relationship, levels of a protein called nerve growth factors, which causes tell-tale signs such as sweaty palms and the butterflies, were significantly higher.

Of the 39 people who were still in the same new relationship after a year, the levels of NGF had been reduced to normal levels.


Report co-author Piergluigi Politi said the findings did not mean people were no longer in love, just that it was not such an "acute love".

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/4478040.stm
 
For people wondering what specifically I'm talking about, this is it:



http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/4478040.stm

Not trying to rain on your parade, but this is one of many chemicals responsible for the short term rush of infatuation/lust/whatever. Its cool they saw changes in some peptide but its all part of an absurdly organized and crazy dance that we call the nervous system. Probably has a lot to do with dopamine, I would figure people on dopamine antagonists or any of the shitty dopamine messing up diseases would feel less infatuation (and less rush/elation/happiness whatever but such is the sad state of neuropsychiatric medication).
 
Of course it's a chemical reaction. Everything is. What's the point of even saying that?

Tasting food is just chemicals, may as well not eat anymore.
 
My exgf said love is a spiritual bond between two souls. They don't have a choice. The compatibility of your energies determines if you are soul mates.
 
Falling in love is "just a chemical reaction."
Music is just vibrations.
A piano is just wires, and hammers that hit those wires, and keys that cause those hammers to hit those wires.

Art is just a particular pattern of particular wavelengths of light that hit your eyes.

How can a man drown in water? It's just lots of hydrogen and oxygen. How does that make any sense?

Reducing things like this isn't wrong. It just reaches a point where it doesn't make any sense.

Saying things like "Food is just water, salt, _____, _____, etc" or saying that "Food is just a lot of atoms" doesn't change the fact that it's important to eat. Doesn't change the fact that food is delicious.

It isn't technically wrong, but it isn't useful. It doesn't change its importance, it doesn't change how it feels, it doesn't change anything.

Love is a wonderful feeling that is created by chemicals, and it's a beautiful thing.

Happiness is also a feeling that is created by chemicals. Whether those chemicals are caused by some food, another person's presence, or something else. It's still important.
 
Love is just chemical reactions. Your mind is just little interactions between neurons. Rainbows are just light refracting through water droplets. The posts in this thread are just zeroes and ones.

All of these things are true and yet still completely miss the point.

What is the point though?
 
Realize that falling in love with someone is just the results of a series of generic events that can occur between you and basically anyone who meets your standards of attractiveness. It's just an emotional manifestation of a handfull of chemicals bouncing back and forth. It's not the holy grail of living, it's not your reason to exist and it's definitely not something reserved for "that one person." Accept that you are just an animal with a big brain that allows him to fret over what only amounts to a game of hormone pool. What you're feeling is not your soul dying a gurgling, ugly death, but withdrawal. All the happy chemicals that saturated your body when you were with him are kicking out cold turkey, and your body is screaming bloody murder, where are my fucking endorphins? It's just chocolate. Find a new bar.
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I personally consider anyone who describes love or any other human emotions in such a reductionist terms like, "it's just a chemical reaction" as dead on the inside.

The joyous feeling of seeing your cherished person happy, and likewise when you are happy being together with him/her, the emotion of a mother crying when her son/daughter died to an accident, the nurturing love parents give to their children, the feeling where you will not hesitate to sacrifice your life if necessary to protect those who are important to you.... I can't fathom how anyone would just simplify it all to just "Oh it's just a bunch of chemicals."
 
I would say no. One reason is that it is multiple chemical reactions, rather than just one. The different behaviours are also interpreted differently via culture. It's also a process of how you seek it out as well. So different chemical reactions could possibly lead you to searching out love, and then falling in love.

Your friends might have been concerned about you taking a possible pessimistic view of love.Perhaps having a view that love is merely a reaction, rather than within your own control could be a sign of helplessness. It could also be a sign of denying that you want love due to externalizing it to "just a reaction".
 
What is the point though?

The point is that looking at things at their smallest scale only gives a very limited perspective. Like, you're an architect and you know that lots of windows makes a room feel less constraining than it really is, but you wouldn't figure that out by analyzing the atomic structure of glass or how it interacts with light waves.
 
Osama Bin Laden probably loved blowing up the Twin Towers. Love is over-rated. It's like a chicken drum. Tasty at first. But after a day or two that chicken drum has started to rot, just as love for anyone will eventually rot.

We need more apathy. Honestly, the world should be smoking more cannabis and watching more Gossip Girl.
 
The problem with a lot of conversations about love is that the word means a few different but closely related things. As exemplified by the distinction between being in love with someone (which is pretty surface level emotional stuff that can be kind of a pain in the arse) and loving someone, which isn't necessarily romantic and runs a lot deeper.

My exgf said love is a spiritual bond between two souls. They don't have a choice. The compatibility of your energies determines if you are soul mates.
I can see why you're no longer together
 
I can see why you're no longer together

Yea she was a bit of a new age kook, only a bit. But you'd be surprised by how many people believe this, and think like this.

Even nerd messiah, Chris Nolan, told us in Interstellar the power of love is more powerful than any other force. People believe it.
 
Well, love is just a chemical reaction but all emotions are really. It's a somewhat reductionist way of looking at it though.

It's kind of crazy to think that all my anxieties are insecurities are just chemical imbalances but...yep. pretty much
 
Yes, it is chemical reactions. That doesn't make it false. We do feel it since we are sentient organisms. So cherish it with all your being.
 
Everything is in a very reductionist view.

Right.

And I think OP, you are reducing a really complex thing way too much.

There's a lot more to love, especially sustaining a loving relationship.

I mean no offense to you personally, but when I see people say things like that, it comes across like a robot. Humans are complex, especially when involving emotions
 
It is a chemical reaction, but so is everything that is part of the Human condition and comprises of life and culture.

Why is modern Anglophone pop culture so against falling in love?
 
What is the point though?

When you take those chemical reactions as a whole, they give you an intense emotional experience, a quicker heartbeat, maybe a flutter in your stomach. When you take those neuron signals as a whole, they create a gestalt that thinks and feels and experiences and is conscious. When you take those little bits of refracting light as a whole, you get a beautiful arc of many colors resting across the sky. When you take all those zeroes and ones together, you get letters, words, sentences, communication between people far distant from one another.

You can reduce something down into its constituent parts, but that doesn't somehow invalidate the larger whole.
 
When you take those chemical reactions as a whole, they give you an intense emotional experience, a quicker heartbeat, maybe a flutter in your stomach. When you take those neuron signals as a whole, they create a gestalt that thinks and feels and experiences and is conscious. When you take those little bits of refracting light as a whole, you get a beautiful arc of many colors resting across the sky. When you take all those zeroes and ones together, you get letters, words, sentences, communication between people far distant from one another.

You can reduce something down into its constituent parts, but that doesn't somehow invalidate the larger whole.

Well said. That's what makes Humanity so awe inspiring. We're doing and feeling these things naturally with no God or w/e.
 
Yes it is just a chemical reaction. As for having fallen in love since 16: I think that's normal, adults don't fall in love easily AFAIK. Never looked up if there is research on this subject or not (there probably is).
 
All processes of the brain are bio-chemical-electrical reactions. Love is not exempted.

Also love is a messy term that has too many different concepts and actual neurological functions blended into it.
 
I think it is.

Sometimes you fall in and out of love for things for no apparent reason. Not to mention that people "fall in love" with people they shouldn't be with -- even when they repeatedly say that they want to stop.

It's all down to the chemicals.
 
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