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[Greddleok]

So I'm new in this town and a girl at my gym invited me to lunch with her and her colleagues from the university's psychology department. Seemed friendly enough so I accepted.

When I turned up, it was just her. We also ended up talking for way longer than I would if I was eating lunch with other buddies. I started freaking out a little towards to end because I wasn't prepared for that kind of interaction so I decided it was time to go after about an hour of talking.

The worst part was the goodbye. I didn't know whether to hug her (see my previous thread) or what. So I gave an awkward wave and hastily went in another direction.

I'm so confused. Was I tricked into a date? I didn't ask where her friends were because I didn't want to be presumptuous. I feel a little violated.

 

[FortuneFaded]

Is she hot?

 

[Skellig Gra]

You blew it OP.

 

[LucidMomentum]

GAF, help this man.

 

[MiketheBSG]

Lucky you.

You probably did. Then again, friends can be extremely flaky.

 

[ZeroX03]

I'm so confused. Was I tricked into a date? I didn't ask where her friends were because I didn't want to be presumptuous. I feel a little violated.

Just ask, stop being a tease and leading them on.

 

[stump sock]

I feel a little violated.

oh no, you got tricked into spending time with somebody who enjoyed your company

how vile

 

[NoblesseOblige]

Yes, and the wedding is on Tuesday.

 

[BlueTsunami]

GAF-Man is at it again

The correct response was to not over think it, share a moment with this person and go from there.

 

[nasax]

This thread makes me angry. (OP's post)

 

[nilbog21]

As long as you waved good bye, everything will be OK

 

[Busty]

If you were confused as to whether this was a date or not it probably wasn't.

Maybe she just thought you were nice and wanted to increase her circle of friends.

 

[cartographer]

I can understand being confused but you probably should have known something was up when you two started shopping for wedding rings.

 

[Aiii]

Well... If you like the girl, I suggest you text her quickly and said you enjoyed the lunch and ask her out to dinner. Because don't waste that opportunity because she caught you off-guard, dude.

 

[Carl]

She sounds like a vile human. Wanting to spend time with you? Wow. I see why you got worked up, OP

 

[Dennis]

I thought this thread would be about you unwittingly appear to be old in front of co-workers or something.

I can't believe you were stealth-dated like that.

 

[Friggz]

GAF, help this man.

im sorry...there is no helping.

 

[Skellig Gra]

I can understand being confused but you probably should have known something was up when you two started shopping for wedding rings.

Lmao, I love you guys.

 

[BudokaiMR2]

I don't remember life being this confusing. Did I just get lucky?

im sorry...there is no helping.

Also this.
Not this time. He's on his own.

Let's go everyone. Nothing to see here.

 

[thesoapster]

So I'm new in this town and a girl at my gym invited me to lunch with her and her colleagues from the university's psychology department. Seemed friendly enough so I accepted.

When I turned up, it was just her. We also ended up talking for way longer than I would if I was eating lunch with other buddies. I started freaking out a little towards to end because I wasn't prepared for that kind of interaction so I decided it was time to go after about an hour of talking.

The worst part was the goodbye. I didn't know whether to hug her (see my previous thread) or what. So I gave an awkward wave and hastily went in another direction.

I'm so confused. Was I tricked into a date? I didn't ask where her friends were because I didn't want to be presumptuous. I feel a little violated.

*unzips*

And I thought I overthink things...

 

[NoblesseOblige]

Wait, she's in psych? In that case you're clearly serving as a guinea pig to her. But that's kinda hot so go for it.

 

[Cheebo]

How old are you by chance?

 

[ZackieChan]

This can't be a real thread.

OP, do you like her? Are you married or in a relationship? Are you looking to date? You left out key information in your post.

 

[Zabka]

Thank God you got out of there when you did. You were at a high risk for cooties.

 

[v1lla21]

I don't know, did an expiration date appear on your forehead?

Op is funny I bet this is all in his head.

 

[Spring Drive]

It was whatever you want to call it. Only your feelings matter

 

[Squalor]

Social interactions are so hard for Internet people.

"Violated"? Fucking hell, man, maybe you're just hopeless.

 

[CarpeDeezNutz]

Gaf I just got died.

 

[John Kowalski]

Did you friendzone her?

 

[Mik2121]

I feel a little violated.

Get out of here.

 

[Inferno313]

Heaven forbid someone of the opposite sex wanted to grab a bite to eat with you and get to know you a little better. This truly was a violation of everything good and right in the world.


Seriously though dude, I do get it. I have some social anxiety issues from time to time, but by no means should you feel violated or offended that someone wanted to get to know you. Maybe she did invite her friends, and they flaked out on her? It doesn't really matter though, because you just successfully "friend zoned" her if she was interested in you at all.

 

[Dynamite Shikoku]

op is fuming right now

 

[NoblesseOblige]

Are people really reading the last sentence as genuine?

 

[Kurita]

"Violated"

Jesus H. Christ

 

[George Oscar Bluth II]

I feel violated just reading that, OP.

Good on you for being able to escape.

Can only imagine the horror.

 

[hoos30]

Yesterday I read an article that said millennials don't like to eat cereal because opening the box and pouring the milk is too complicated.

I didn't believe it until saw this thread.

 

[Zabka]

I heard their periods attract bears

 

[Pai Pai Master]

Lol such violation, wanting to get to know you like that

 

[Inferno313]

Are people really reading the last sentence as genuine?

Looking at the other thread OP linked to, absolutely.

 

[GK86]

File a cop report.

 

[entremet]

Possibly?

It doesn't matter because nothing will go forward unless you start being more direct.

Do you like her? If so, go for it. If not, don't initiate anything romantic. The ball is in your court.

I have no idea why guys panic about this stuff.

 

[StrangeTaco]

Is she cute? Do you like her? Then just ask her out, say you were a bit nervous last time and enjoy. It's really that simple.

I'm more just shocked that someone could use such an underhanded tactic to arrange a one-on-one meeting.

I eat lunch with my co-workers who are women and men all the time one-on-one, and I've never felt like I was being dated.

... is being "dated" a thing now? Also underhanded tactics? This was about as innocent as could be.

 

[Greddleok]

I'm more just shocked that someone could use such an underhanded tactic to arrange a one-on-one meeting.

I eat lunch with my co-workers who are women and men all the time one-on-one, and I've never felt like I was being dated. It's just a friendly lunch. It's the fact I was lead to believe there would be multiple people. Multiple people means it's friendly.
Also the questions where standard date fare.

Probably over thinking it, but it was super weird.

I'm not looking to date. She was cute. I'm late 20s. I also have no idea if she has a boyfriend/husband/partner.

Spoiler

Violated was an exaggeration.

 

[Strictly]

In for Gaf classic.

 

[TaterTots]

Did she punch you or pinch? That's the only way to know if she likes you. If you're interested throw a rock at her.

 

[Beren the Empty-Handed]

When I turned up, it was just her. We also ended up talking for way longer than I would if I was eating lunch with other buddies. I started freaking out a little towards to end because I wasn't prepared for that kind of interaction so I decided it was time to go after about an hour of talking.

So I gave an awkward wave and hastily went in another direction.

I feel a little violated.

I really hope this is a joke that just didn't land.

 

[entremet]

I'm more just shocked that someone could use such an underhanded tactic to arrange a one-on-one meeting.

I eat lunch with my co-workers who are women and men all the time one-on-one, and I've never felt like I was being dated. It's just a friendly lunch. It's the fact I was lead to believe there would be multiple people. Multiple people means it's friendly.
Also the questions where standard date fare.

Probably over thinking it, but it was super weird.

I'm not looking to date. She was cute. I'm late 20s.

Spoiler

Violated was an exaggeration.

Underhanded tactic?

Good fucking lord.

My guess is that she likes you, but heterosexual dating dynamics being what they are, she's being indirect.

Heavens forbid a cute girl wants to spend to with you lol.

 

[Alavard]

I believe a date requires both parties to agree that they are on a date. So, no, you weren't on a date. But if you'd like to be, you can now easily ask her out.

 

[Greddleok]

Did she punch you or pinch? That's the only way to know if she likes you. If you're interested throw a rock at her.

She threw a 6kg medicine ball at me last week. It kinda hurt.

 

[Forerunner]

I'm more just shocked that someone could use such an underhanded tactic to arrange a one-on-one meeting.

I eat lunch with my co-workers who are women and men all the time one-on-one, and I've never felt like I was being dated. It's just a friendly lunch. It's the fact I was lead to believe there would be multiple people. Multiple people means it's friendly.
Also the questions where standard date fare.

Probably over thinking it, but it was super weird.

I'm not looking to date. She was cute. I'm late 20s. I also have no idea if she has a boyfriend/husband/partner.

Spoiler

Violated was an exaggeration.

lmao