I don't care to convince you to find it cool or stupid. Democracy is about being able to do something other won't necessarily agree with.
Soul searching women to see if they are the agent of their actions or not it's a dangerous path, and i don't see why it couldn't be apply to bikini or anything cultural. If a husband force his wife to do something like that, it's forbidden by the law and it's enough.
This is reductive and disingenuous at best and you know it.