Rimon-hanit
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My coworker thinks I'm stalking her because I found her home address on a website
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SuperStiltzkin
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WOW WHAT A COINCIDENCE.
ALSO HOW DID YOU HEAR HER IN THE BATHROOM.
ALSO HOW DID YOU HEAR HER IN THE BATHROOM.
ALSO HOW DID YOU HEAR HER IN THE BATHROOM.
ALSO HOW DID YOU HEAR HER IN THE BATHROOM.
ALSO HOW DID YOU HEAR HER IN THE BATHROOM.
ALSO HOW DID YOU HEAR HER IN THE BATHROOM.
ALSO HOW DID YOU HEAR HER IN THE BATHROOM.
ALSO HOW DID YOU HEAR HER IN THE BATHROOM.
ALSO HOW DID YOU HEAR HER IN THE BATHROOM.
ALSO HOW DID YOU HEAR HER IN THE BATHROOM.
ALSO HOW DID YOU HEAR HER IN THE BATHROOM.
ALSO HOW DID YOU HEAR HER IN THE BATHROOM.
ALSO HOW DID YOU HEAR HER IN THE BATHROOM.
ALSO HOW DID YOU HEAR HER IN THE BATHROOM.
ALSO HOW DID YOU HEAR HER IN THE BATHROOM.
He said another female co-worker told him.
SuperStiltzkin
Member
OH OKay
HOnestly though OP, you should have just said you looked her up on facebook. If she said that was creepy, you call her a liar and a hypocrite. Everyone has looked up their crush/date on facebook at least once. This whole spiel about "wow i found a website that reveals your address and stuff. It doesn't take the hours and credit cards I thought it would to find such information! I found your info on it too!" is creepy.
LyleLanley
Banned
Only works if her birthday is viewable by anyone.
Jesus Christ it's 4 am here and I think I woke my family from laughing so hard.
NeoGold123
Member
To get a general idea, all you have to do is watch the "the call is coming from inside the house" scene.
LookAtMeGo
Member
Lol
LyleLanley
Banned
Just ask the OP for one of his live feeds.
newtypepilot
Member
next OP is gonna tell is her likes and dislikes, eating habits, the color of her underwear....
Yup, I want to scream reading this thread.
True Savior
Member
You just told a person you know where she lives without her sharing that information with you. From her point of view that's stalking. Not strange.
Dont search personal information about people you don't give a crap.
Dont search personal information about people you don't give a crap.
LyleLanley
Banned
I like to know their likes and dislikes along with their family background and all addresses they've previously lived in. That way I can pretend we have a lot of things in common.
oneils
Member
Oh god, I have my own cringe post in there sheesh.
True Savior
Member
From my experience, girls facebook/google way more than the dudes (or at least compared to me).
I've had a girl not going out with me cause I didnt had facebook. And I asked her in person.
Mr. Giggles
Member
Hold up OP, why were you even looking for that shit in the first place?
No way the site just fell in to your lap.
GHG
Gold Member
Well, here's the thing, I dont actually have a facebook account so no I haven't.
I just don't understand when it became acceptable to snoop on people on Facebook instead of going up to talk to them before you start judging them or forming an opinion.
I don't google people
But I accept that thats the reality we live in and everyone is googlable.
17 Seconds
Banned
haha, the fact that he accidentally let it slip with a stupid birthday comment is amazing to me. that's the type of thing that happens in tv shows, except in a tv show, it usually happens to a character you know to be normal.
Mr. Giggles
Member
Yes.
Seldomly Jambon
Member
Your roses are red
Your violets are blue
I know your birthday
And home address too
Your violets are blue
I know your birthday
And home address too
I don't think you can find out someones Birthday by their GAF profile info
Marky Mark
Member
I'm sure op checked already and knows that her profile info is private, hence why ended up coincidentally stumbling upon another website.
What he should do is take note of her friends on Facebook, and if any their accounts are open then he can start to build a dossier on the chick vicariously through them. Find out which of her friends she spends most of her time with, their shared likes and dislikes etc. Then he could look up those friends in this other website for their addresses and triangulate the most likely locations that he could coincidentally bump in to her and then she can introduce op to her friends as that creepy fucker from the restaurant
Triggerhappytel
Member
Yeah, it might have been totally innocent and a slip of the tongue, but it could still come across as totally creepy. Especially if he doesn't really know her and has intimated that he's interested before.
Also OP, not sure you're coming back to comment, but how did you happen upon this website which told this information? Seems like more than a coincidence you'd be looking this up the day after meeting her and making an assumption she was interested in you.
Mammoth Jones
Member
This. Why? Why would you think this is a thing people should do?
BlueTsunami
there is joy in sucking dick
Oh.my.god
Mammoth Jones
Member
It's creepy as fuck. You wanna look up family just to see what info us out there, that's one thing. A co-worker you don't know like that?? Yea it's fucking creepy. How do you not know this?
Personally I like the "forgot the rest quicker than the 7 seconds to type her name" bit. I mean, what? lol
TheOfficeMut
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You know it's really weird that many people in this thread are disturbed by publicly available information via Google and the few minutes a person may take out of their day to search someone. I actually do this as a profession. It's my job to conduct due diligence on individuals seeking to do business with our firm. You'd be surprised by what you can find if you look hard enough, but even if you don't strain your efforts, you'll still come up with a basic profile.
I have only ever done this as part of my job and never with someone I wanted to date; however my female friends have done it plenty of times and they were better off for it. Some things they found off the top of my head from only using Google include a vehicular manslaughter charge, a sex offender registry and a spouse (when he was allegedly single). I never once found it weird that they searched for these things, especially since a person can have some serious shit attached to his name that you really should know about.
In the case of my friend who found out the person was a registered sex offender, it turns out he molested a teenage girl. If you were to tell her that she was a stalker or weird for researching that, I'd completely support her in slapping the shit out of you.
As for the OP, the only weird thing from the little information I got was that he told his coworker, because even though some of us may do some research, not all of us take lightly to being told that we were *gasp* Googled.
I've also had ex girlfriends tell me very early into our relationship that they researched me. I was actually pretty happy that they did because it showed that they weren't going in blind and were curious to see what they can find.
I have only ever done this as part of my job and never with someone I wanted to date; however my female friends have done it plenty of times and they were better off for it. Some things they found off the top of my head from only using Google include a vehicular manslaughter charge, a sex offender registry and a spouse (when he was allegedly single). I never once found it weird that they searched for these things, especially since a person can have some serious shit attached to his name that you really should know about.
In the case of my friend who found out the person was a registered sex offender, it turns out he molested a teenage girl. If you were to tell her that she was a stalker or weird for researching that, I'd completely support her in slapping the shit out of you.
As for the OP, the only weird thing from the little information I got was that he told his coworker, because even though some of us may do some research, not all of us take lightly to being told that we were *gasp* Googled.
I've also had ex girlfriends tell me very early into our relationship that they researched me. I was actually pretty happy that they did because it showed that they weren't going in blind and were curious to see what they can find.
There's only one power move to make here OP if you still want to own the day.
Put your collective stalked knowledge of her to use and stand outside her home with a boom box playing the sweet mixtape you made for her. Maybe if she finally sees that you aren't stalking in a creepy way but simply in a way that lets her know you like her taste in music, she will let you in and you can be rewarded with sex for all your hard work.
Put your collective stalked knowledge of her to use and stand outside her home with a boom box playing the sweet mixtape you made for her. Maybe if she finally sees that you aren't stalking in a creepy way but simply in a way that lets her know you like her taste in music, she will let you in and you can be rewarded with sex for all your hard work.
ManUnkindH
Member
I have done plenty of dumb shit in my day. But googling/facebook searching people I meet IRL isn't really one of them. Now that likely has more to do with me not being a social media person at ALL. But... don't project man. Hold your L's and stop pushing them off on other people.
TheOfficeMut
Unconfirmed Member
There is nothing dumb about it and perhaps you should stop tripping over publicly available information.
Poor GRIMES
Banned
There are no L's to be had. Googling and looking at someone's social media is a very good indicator of who they are. If you are even slightly interested in a person then it is almost required for you to take a peek at their social media to see if you would like to continue speaking to that person or not; that's just how the world works now. Posting shit online with your name attached to it has a level of accountability that many people in this thread seem to not understand.
It is perfectly okay to think that surface-level Googling/social media searching is okay prior to a date and also think that the OP committed a social faux paus by slipping that he used a weirdo website to search her information. The days of absolute anonymity prior to a date is a bygone era, information is almost universally accessible and people are, as evidenced by the anecdotes of many women using it as a a tool, absolutely using it.
1.21Gigawatts
Banned
I'd say confront her: "Hey, so I overheard the conversation you had in the bathroom and I want to set things straight about stalking you. I'm not. And if you ever tell someone again be sure that I'll know about it."
Triggerhappytel
Member
Maybe not, but I understand why she might find it unsettling, and she may have a grievance case if she wants to take this to HR.
FalsettoVibe
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lol
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