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[JCX]

I'm 15 lbs away from my next weightloss goal. Currently 215, so being at 200 for the first time since high school (and in much better shape) will be a nice victory, given that I was almost 300 at my heaviest.

Whenever I hit it off with a guy now though, I can't help but wonder if he would still be interested in the me from 6 months/a year/ 3 years ago. Hope this feeling goes away eventually.

 

[Beth Cyra]

I'm 15 lbs away from my next weightloss goal. Currently 215, so being at 200 for the first time since high school (and in much better shape) will be a nice victory, given that I was almost 300 at my heaviest.

Whenever I hit it off with a guy now though, I can't help but wonder if he would still be interested in the me from 6 months/a year/ 3 years ago. Hope this feeling goes away eventually.

That is really amazing JCX and it's so hard to maintain its really something special when someone can.

I wish I could say that I get your fear, sadly when I was looking didn't find anyone really interested so never even had to test that fear, though I do experience on.

I'm not sure if this happened to you, I went from 310 down to 160 and have put on weight and went back up to 175 (though that is due to bodybuilding) but I have some extra skin so it covers up my some of what I guess you could call muscle mass? I don't know but honestly, I've found I have a really hard time coping with the extra Skin issue more than I ever dreamed I would.

Have you personally experienced any of that? If so how do kinda get past it? I still fight with it every day.

 

[Symphonia]

You doing ok?

My dad looked disgusted. My mom looked bewildered. Nothing was said for a good 10-15 minutes. I said goodbye, went to kiss them, they pulled away, I walked out. I heard them lock the door behind me.

 

[Gibbs]

My dad looked disgusted. My mom looked bewildered. Nothing was said for a good 10-15 minutes. I said goodbye, went to kiss them, they pulled away, I walked out. I heard them lock the door behind me.

I am so sorry. This breaks my heart. We are ALL here with you. <3 My inbox is open if you need anything. It's gonna be ok.

I'm 15 lbs away from my next weightloss goal. Currently 215, so being at 200 for the first time since high school (and in much better shape) will be a nice victory, given that I was almost 300 at my heaviest.

Whenever I hit it off with a guy now though, I can't help but wonder if he would still be interested in the me from 6 months/a year/ 3 years ago. Hope this feeling goes away eventually.

Thats awesome! Congratulations! Extremely happy for you!

I understand the whole "would he like me heavier bit" as I was well over 300 pounds at my heaviest, and now I'm somewhere around 148-155 pounds. I struggle with it every day and as it does get easier to a point, you just learn to cope with it, or find a way rather. My inbox is always open if you'd like to talk about it. I completely understand it.

 

[Beth Cyra]

My dad looked disgusted. My mom looked bewildered. Nothing was said for a good 10-15 minutes. I said goodbye, went to kiss them, they pulled away, I walked out. I heard them lock the door behind me.

That is awful, and I'm so sorry that you had to go through this.

You are the same person you were before they knew as you are now and it's terrible they cant see how lucky they are that you were willing to trust them with something so important to who you are.

Take care and please know they were the ones in the wrong and not you for being the person you are.

 

[Grizzo]

My dad looked disgusted. My mom looked bewildered. Nothing was said for a good 10-15 minutes. I said goodbye, went to kiss them, they pulled away, I walked out. I heard them lock the door behind me.

Such blatant homophobia in 2017 never ceases to anger me. I'm sending all my support and best wishes to you Symphonia. It's going to get better. For you at least, now that you told them. In any case, you can be proud of what you did.

Edit: what Beth Cyra said is so true. You showed them you trust and love them enough to tell them the truth. That's beautiful. They should be ashamed of their reaction.

 

[KmA]

My dad looked disgusted. My mom looked bewildered. Nothing was said for a good 10-15 minutes. I said goodbye, went to kiss them, they pulled away, I walked out. I heard them lock the door behind me.

Good lord I'm so sorry

You don't live at home right? I wouldn't want you to be living at home in a situation like that.

 

[Symphonia]

Thank you for the support. No, no, I live on my own, many miles away from the rest of my family. I drove there just to tell them.

 

[Beth Cyra]

Good lord I'm so sorry

You don't live at home right? I wouldn't want you to be living at home in a situation like that.

This is a good point.

I don't know you well Symphonia so I don't know where you're located, but if you're in Oregon and while I couldn't put you up for ever I wouldn't want to send you back there if you do live with them.

I know you're likely not, but we at LBGT+ Gaf got to stick together right?

 

[Ambient80]

My dad looked disgusted. My mom looked bewildered. Nothing was said for a good 10-15 minutes. I said goodbye, went to kiss them, they pulled away, I walked out. I heard them lock the door behind me.

FeelsBadMan

We’re all here for you! I’m sorry it went so poorly I’m probably going to tell my parents soon too, so I can only imagine how that will go.

 

[You Are Viewtiful]

Thank you for the support. No, no, I live on my own, many miles away from the rest of my family. I drove there just to tell them.

You're so brave, very brave. Sorry about your family's reaction.

 

[Vazra]

I havent heard of my family from Puerto Rico since 1am and I haven't slept and Im feeling the crash. The hurricane left through my hometown so Im pretty on the edge. It's 6:15pm here and I hope I get good news that my dad and bro are fine along with the dogs and hope I can sleep tonight. This sucks.

 

[Gibbs]

I havent heard of my family from Puerto Rico since 1am and I haven't slept and Im feeling the crash. The hurricane left through my hometown so Im pretty on the edge. It's 6:15pm here and I hope I get good news that my dad and bro are fine along with the dogs and hope I can sleep tonight. This sucks.

I heard PR is completely without power at the moment. I'm pulling for you and your family. I can't imagine buddy. I'm sure they're fine. &#10084;&#65039;

Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Ambient80]

Congratz!!

It's awesome to see some real positivity happening for someone in the community between all the issues with the weather and heart break in the thread lately.

I hope that you stay on that cloud going forward!

Thanks! Yeah everything was just great. We fell asleep on each other when we were laying on the couch after dinner. He’s so freaking cute and such a sweet guy.

 

[Kevyt]

Thanks! Yeah everything was just great. We fell asleep on each other when we were laying on the couch after dinner. He’s so freaking cute and such a sweet guy.

That's really sweet. ^.^

 

[Dead Prince]

I havent heard of my family from Puerto Rico since 1am and I haven't slept and Im feeling the crash. The hurricane left through my hometown so Im pretty on the edge. It's 6:15pm here and I hope I get good news that my dad and bro are fine along with the dogs and hope I can sleep tonight. This sucks.

same. know a few in mayaguez and san juan. they haven't been online for almost a full day. praying they are safe.

 

[RatskyWatsky]

I'm 15 lbs away from my next weightloss goal. Currently 215, so being at 200 for the first time since high school (and in much better shape) will be a nice victory, given that I was almost 300 at my heaviest.

proud of u sis <3

My dad looked disgusted. My mom looked bewildered. Nothing was said for a good 10-15 minutes. I said goodbye, went to kiss them, they pulled away, I walked out. I heard them lock the door behind me.

How shitty. They don't deserve you. :^(

I havent heard of my family from Puerto Rico since 1am and I haven't slept and Im feeling the crash. The hurricane left through my hometown so Im pretty on the edge. It's 6:15pm here and I hope I get good news that my dad and bro are fine along with the dogs and hope I can sleep tonight. This sucks.

same. know a few in mayaguez and san juan. they haven't been online for almost a full day. praying they are safe.

Wait, is there another hurricane? ffs :/

 

[Gibbs]

Wait, is there another hurricane? ffs :/

Yeah, the entire island is without power after a Cat 4 storm slammed it.

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/09/20/us/hurricane-maria-puerto-rico-power.html

 

[JCX]

That is really amazing JCX and it's so hard to maintain its really something special when someone can.

I wish I could say that I get your fear, sadly when I was looking didn't find anyone really interested so never even had to test that fear, though I do experience on.

I'm not sure if this happened to you, I went from 310 down to 160 and have put on weight and went back up to 175 (though that is due to bodybuilding) but I have some extra skin so it covers up my some of what I guess you could call muscle mass? I don't know but honestly, I've found I have a really hard time coping with the extra Skin issue more than I ever dreamed I would.

Have you personally experienced any of that? If so how do kinda get past it? I still fight with it every day.

I don't have any loose skin (yet). I went from being borderline mobidly obese to just being obese now. Once I loose the rest of the 40-50lbs, I'll probably run into the loose skin problem. My ultimate goal is to bulk back up from 160 to 200, but with muscle, so that might paper over the skin issue for me.

I do have stretchmarks all over my stomach though. trying to figure out how to fix those.

I understand the whole "would he like me heavier bit" as I was well over 300 pounds at my heaviest, and now I'm somewhere around 148-155 pounds. I struggle with it every day and as it does get easier to a point, you just learn to cope with it, or find a way rather. My inbox is always open if you'd like to talk about it. I completely understand it.

Yeah I'll have to message you about it. Part of it for me is the underlying fear that this is all temporary, and that my body could slide back at any time. Almost as if I'm "renting" my current body, instead of "owning' it.

proud of u sis <3

Thanks bb!

 

[IvorB]

I'm 15 lbs away from my next weightloss goal. Currently 215, so being at 200 for the first time since high school (and in much better shape) will be a nice victory, given that I was almost 300 at my heaviest.

Whenever I hit it off with a guy now though, I can't help but wonder if he would still be interested in the me from 6 months/a year/ 3 years ago. Hope this feeling goes away eventually.

Congrats!

My dad looked disgusted. My mom looked bewildered. Nothing was said for a good 10-15 minutes. I said goodbye, went to kiss them, they pulled away, I walked out. I heard them lock the door behind me.

Really sorry to hear this . I hope they will come around.

I havent heard of my family from Puerto Rico since 1am and I haven't slept and Im feeling the crash. The hurricane left through my hometown so Im pretty on the edge. It's 6:15pm here and I hope I get good news that my dad and bro are fine along with the dogs and hope I can sleep tonight. This sucks.

Hope they're okay, mate.

 

[Queen Vulpix]

My thoughts to everyone here affected by these recent disasters, hoping that you and your families are safe!

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This lovely just arrived about 10 minutes ago! An early birthday gift to myself ^_^

My first "fancy" phone after having a < $50 budget phone for so long.

 

[yepyepyep]

My dad looked disgusted. My mom looked bewildered. Nothing was said for a good 10-15 minutes. I said goodbye, went to kiss them, they pulled away, I walked out. I heard them lock the door behind me.

Such a shame how some people can turn on their own family members on a dime. But just remember that you are a total badass for coming out of the closet knowing in advance that your family is homophobic. I took ageeeeeeeeees to come out even though I knew my family would accept it and not disown me.

It's never easy coming out of the closet but you did the right thing. It's their problem, not yours. Wishing you the best!

 

[Matsukaze]

My dad looked disgusted. My mom looked bewildered. Nothing was said for a good 10-15 minutes. I said goodbye, went to kiss them, they pulled away, I walked out. I heard them lock the door behind me.

I'm very sorry to hear it. That's awful.

I hope they come around and realize how foolish they're being ASAP. Hang in there, my friend.

 

[Beth Cyra]

My thoughts to everyone here affected by these recent disasters, hoping that you and your families are safe!

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This lovely just arrived about 10 minutes ago! An early birthday gift to myself ^_^

My first "fancy" phone after having a < $50 budget phone for so long.

That is one sexy device.

 

[Gibbs]

My thoughts to everyone here affected by these recent disasters, hoping that you and your families are safe!

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This lovely just arrived about 10 minutes ago! An early birthday gift to myself ^_^

My first "fancy" phone after having a < $50 budget phone for so long.

So pretty <3. After having an iPhone, I'll never go back to Android.

 

[Kevyt]

My thoughts to everyone here affected by these recent disasters, hoping that you and your families are safe!

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This lovely just arrived about 10 minutes ago! An early birthday gift to myself ^_^

My first "fancy" phone after having a < $50 budget phone for so long.

Congrats! Which iPhone is that?

 

[RatskyWatsky]

will i like Red Dead Redemption if i hate the GTA games

Yeah, the entire island is without power after a Cat 4 storm slammed it.

D:

 

[Queen Vulpix]

That is one sexy device.

Thank you! To be honest it was certainly one of the big reasons why I went with the 7 over 8 was because how much I loved the Rose Gold color and the new Gold just isn't my type. :3

So pretty <3. After having an iPhone, I'll never go back to Android.

Thanks! Certainly had a few moments when it was delivered! Haha It'll probably take me awhile to get used to the OS but I'm learning how to use it and how the home button works and stuff!

Congrats! Which iPhone is that?

Thanks! Rose Gold iPhone 7 plus!

 

[Raxus]

will i like Red Dead Redemption if i hate the GTA games

I'd think so.

 

[Dany]

Red Dead is better so yes.

 

[Bladenic]

will i like Red Dead Redemption if i hate the GTA games



D:

All Rockshit games are the same. Overrated boring trash

 

[Aarglefarg]

All Rockshit games are the same. Overrated boring trash

The world building and production value can be among the best.

 

[Gibbs]

The world building and production value can be among the best.

While I agree with this completely. The worlds feel realistic and alive, and they do amazing building them... BUUUUUT all their games feel the same and repetitive.

Loved LA Noire. LOVED LOVED LOVED. The best line ever was "HOW CAN I HELP DETECTIVE!?" Was just a detective style GTA with decision making.

Red Dead was a wild west on the GTA Engine.. BOOOORING. Though I had a blast with the MP admittedly at times.

GTA is well.... Gta. Play one, the rest play identical. Never played Bully though.

 

[DOWN]

Rockstar is literally my favorite developer and nobody matches their open worlds tbh

 

[Beth Cyra]

I can't stand Rockstar's games, to me they are very definition of meh at a lot and master of none.

Absolutely none of their gameplay systems feel rewarding to me and the whole gangster thing in GTA is the biggest turn off in games I've ever experienced.

That said they are clearly well made games or they wouldn't sell the way they do, but they don't speak to me at all.

 

[RatskyWatsky]

I saw the trailer for Red Dead 2 and thought it looked amazing (setting, graphics, etc.) and I've always heard good things about the first game, but I'm definitely not a fan of R*, so I'm hesitating on a purchase. tell me the gameplay is closer to Assassin's Creed than to GTA

 

[DOWN]

I saw the trailer for Red Dead 2 and thought it looked amazing (setting, graphics, etc.) and I've always heard good things about the first game, but I'm definitely not a fan of R*, so I'm hesitating on a purchase. tell me the gameplay is closer to Assassin's Creed than to GTA

It’s unique. It’s more atmospheric and streamlined than GTA’s mass of activities and chaos. Gameplay is more open and less frustrating than the more broad gameplay of GTA can get. The tone is more sophisticated and memorable. Side activities are mostly really well designed to be optional ways to get more character time. More emphasis on exploring than action compared to GTA, but no platforming and way more competent story than an Assassin’s Creed game.

It’s easily one of the masterpieces in gaming, honestly. It’s almost universally liked. It’s also significantly different from GTA so there’s no guarantee someone who likes GTA would like Red Dead and vice verse.

 

[Aarglefarg]

While I agree with this completely. The worlds feel realistic and alive, and they do amazing building them... BUUUUUT all their games feel the same and repetitive.

Loved LA Noire. LOVED LOVED LOVED. The best line ever was "HOW CAN I HELP DETECTIVE!?" Was just a detective style GTA with decision making.

Red Dead was a wild west on the GTA Engine.. BOOOORING. Though I had a blast with the MP admittedly at times.

GTA is well.... Gta. Play one, the rest play identical. Never played Bully though.

LA Noire disappointed me since it seemed like I'd just go to a place that a witness mentioned as a possible lead and as soon as I arrive they're shooting at me and the mystery is solved. Also the sounds signifying if you got a response wrong ruined interrogations by removing the mystery. Also the whole Doubt overreactions.

When Sherlock Holmes: Crimes and Punishments was released, I finally got what I was looking for with LA Noire. That is a really good mystery solving game.

 

[TheNotoriousAFG]

New Jhene Aiko out. Time for a psychdelic R&B feels trip ;_;

 

[Zeusy]

Update on the coworker, he's bi and we totally spooned over the weekend. Set too hang out again this weekend. I'm excited!

 

[dragonlife]

Anyone else on antidepressants? I got diagnosed with major depression a few days ago, and got given meds. Was told I've had it since I was a kid (not surprised), but it's kind of funny that I only went to the doctor for stomach issues, and then came out with a prescription for antidepressants (well, the stomach stuff, too). I guess I'm thankful he noticed and started asking me a bunch of questions.

I'm actually very surprised how they've already made everything seem just a smidge brighter, like I have it in me to actually be able to do things I want to do. Hell, I even cleaned my room and read. I even sat down to start writing. Small, but a huge deal for me.

I've basically been living like a slob because I just didn't have the energy (or will) to do anything, at least until it got extremely inconvenient (strange smells, no more room to walk, no more place to leave dishes, etc). That stuff was easy to get away with because I'm mostly a shut-in. I always joke I'll be one of those deaths that doesn't get discovered until months later.

Most of my recent years have been me just existing, my thoughts eating away at my time unless I numbed them with video games or Netflix. But they started to affect that, too. Sometimes I'd even have days where my mind was nothing but a chain reaction of daydreams haunted by regrets, and an eventual crash where I'm just reminded how much of a failure I actually am. You know, fun stuff. Felt like each thought was an hour, then the whole day would be gone, or it'd be morning. Time and dates blurred together for me.

But, yeah, it's going to be five days soon since the diagnosis/pill, and I haven't had a bad thought since then. I'm... really impressed. I hope it lasts, but I have no point of reference to know what to expect. I don't expect the world, obviously, but pessimist me has been happy with the results so far (My prescription was for three months to start with).

In other news, it's been about a month since I went vegetarian. It's been such an easy change that it's hard to believe it's been a month already. Feels like only yesterday that I said, "fuck it," after a terrible experience with a hamburger.

I think my favorite thing I made was eggplant lasagna. Ugh, my mouth is watering just thinking about how good it came out. If only it weren't such a pain to make because of our small oven, haha. Never even had eggplant before I decided to try making it into a lasagna. Glad I did!

I've also been making batches of tomato soup lately. So easy and filling, though I eat it with bolillos, heh. Kinda kills the healthiness of it, but whatever. Roasting the tomatoes and onion with s&p plus Cayenne pepper, and adding roasted garlic when blending... omg.

Roasting garlic is nirvana. Can't wait till I have to roast more just for that amazing smell that permeates the whole house.

Before this I had never had tomato soup. I know, I know. My mom refused to ever feed us canned soups, and the mentality just followed me. Plus, since we're Mexican, we just ate other kinds of soups. Tomato soup is super easy to avoid, too.

Anyway, I'm rambling. I left this post open for about two hours before deciding to hit post. No going back!

 

[Aarglefarg]

Celebrate Bisexuality Day, or Bi Visibility Day, is September 23rd every year. There are events in many cities in many countries: http://www.bivisibilityday.com/year2017/

Update on the coworker, he's bi and we totally spooned over the weekend. Set too hang out again this weekend. I'm excited!

Sounds great. I'm excited for you.

Anyway, I'm rambling. I left this post open for about two hours before deciding to hit post. No going back!

I've never used antidepressants or been diagnosed with depression but my dad was and had it since he was a child but was only diagnosed around 50 years old.

It's great that things are going well for you, including the vegetarianism.

 

[Booker.DeWitt]

ok, can I ask a serious question? I am trying to understand transgenders specially during childhood, and not trying to be a jerk or anything, please.

My main question is about the safety of "changing" sex during childhood. I know some children might not identify with the "biological" sex initially, but I know a few male homosexuals that are very feminine but they identify as males. some are very flamboyant. I have a friend that is gay, he used to dress like a princess (I remember we playing together), and he eventually "grew out of it" and today he is a flamboyant gay, self identifies as male.

So my question for transgenders here is: When would be safe to transition somebody? hormones and surgery can cause permanent changes, so we don't want to do that unless we are sure, but delaying transitioning might make that worse for people that are 100% sure. how do we assess this in children? Is this 8 year old boy a flamboyant gay, feminine gay, or is he really a transgender?

Just see this case:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DcxOOWbrC6k&feature=youtu.be

Again, I am not trying to criticize anybody here, just trying to understand what would be the best option. I think this is a legit discussion to have . Sorry if this is not the place, and sorry if I offended somebody, not my intention

 

[DOWN]

ok, can I ask a serious question? I am trying to understand transgenders specially during childhood, and not trying to be a jerk or anything, please.

My main question is about the safety of "changing" sex during childhood. I know some children might not identify with the "biological" sex initially, but I know a few male homosexuals that are very feminine but they identify as males. some are very flamboyant. I have a friend that is gay, he used to dress like a princess (I remember we playing together), and he eventually "grew out of it" and today he is a flamboyant gay, self identifies as male.

So my question for transgenders here is: When would be safe to transition somebody? hormones and surgery can cause permanent changes, so we don't want to do that unless we are sure, but delaying transitioning might make that worse for people that are 100% sure. how do we assess this in children? Is this 8 year old boy a flamboyant gay, feminine gay, or is he really a transgender?

Just see this case:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DcxOOWbrC6k&feature=youtu.be

Again, I am not trying to criticize anybody here, just trying to understand what would be the best option. I think this is a legit discussion to have . Sorry if this is not the place, and sorry if I offended somebody, not my intention

As far as I’m aware, transgenders is not a preferred way to refer to trans people. Just go with saying someone is trans or trans people, unless a LettersGAF member can correct me if I’m off base.

First and foremost, none of this is done lightly and without medical supervision. Psychology and physical examination are both part of the transition discussion. In adolescents, it is common to hold off on performing any surgeries, but to possibly slow puberty via medicinal options so that the body changes slower in terms of birth-sex specific growth. Then when they reach a more mature age, possibly in their teens, they can consider other hormone therapies and eventually surgeries. So a trans female-identifying individual who was assigned male sex at birth may have their medical team decide that slowing their male hormones related to puberty is ideal while the young individual matured and can better be treated appropriately by hormone therapy and surgeries.

I could have info wrong, but that’s part of my understanding of some of the medical conventions when it comes to young trans patients. It is most definitely possible for children to know their gender identity, but medical professionals also consider their age and thus often find ways to accommodate their maturing mental awareness that can add certainty or clarity to that identity as the patient ages.

 

[Beth Cyra]

ok, can I ask a serious question? I am trying to understand transgenders specially during childhood, and not trying to be a jerk or anything, please.

My main question is about the safety of "changing" sex during childhood. I know some children might not identify with the "biological" sex initially, but I know a few male homosexuals that are very feminine but they identify as males. some are very flamboyant. I have a friend that is gay, he used to dress like a princess (I remember we playing together), and he eventually "grew out of it" and today he is a flamboyant gay, self identifies as male.

So my question for transgenders here is: When would be safe to transition somebody? hormones and surgery can cause permanent changes, so we don't want to do that unless we are sure, but delaying transitioning might make that worse for people that are 100% sure. how do we assess this in children? Is this 8 year old boy a flamboyant gay, feminine gay, or is he really a transgender?

Just see this case:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DcxOOWbrC6k&feature=youtu.be

Again, I am not trying to criticize anybody here, just trying to understand what would be the best option. I think this is a legit discussion to have . Sorry if this is not the place, and sorry if I offended somebody, not my intention

Most of the time you will not find children transitioning completely via surgery or therapy.

Most often youbwill see children if they believe they are and are supported by their family and medical professionals given Hormone blockers to stop the effects of the incorrect gender developing further.

Then if they are not, they simply stop the blocker and nature will take its course.

 

[Booker.DeWitt]

Makes Sense guys. Thanks

 

[Kevyt]

Celebrate Bisexuality Day, or Bi Visibility Day, is September 23rd every year. There are events in many cities in many countries: http://www.bivisibilityday.com/year2017/

I am amazed that I don't hear much about this! It's saddening to say the least. Even when working in the community, I don't see much for bisexual individuals.

 

[B-Dex]

What are people’s thoughts on Bromans?

 

[lenovox1]

What are people’s thoughts on Bromans?

iTV mixed MTV's the Challenge with [American] Gladiators with their own Love Island and made it into a competitive reality show that likely would be better suited for the summer.

And the UK's reality TV personalities are hotter than the US's. And the men all have dick pics somewhere on Tumblr and and Snapchat (unsurprisingly).

 

[Mystic Theurge]

Any hot male on male action?