Good for you for having that confidence.
You manage two months and your testosterone levels will be so high that you'll have a natural swagger about you.
Also, remember that very few people are confident 100% of the time. I have zero problems talking to random girls and guys I find hot, but that's only because I've learnt to ignore my crushing sense of inferiority and self-consciousness when need be. Confidence is simply you going "fuckit, I'm going to do that". If there are times when I feel completely without confidence, I just pretend. I
act like someone who does have confidence. Very quickly that turns into real confidence.
So I can't be the only dude that has the opposite problem.
I am way to sensitive, have always been. I wouldnt say its a problem but I have always been in search of a way to extend my performance time. I have tried several methods with out success.
#1
Here is your new masturbation regimen:
Masturbate slowly and steadily, getting as close to the 'point of no return' as possible. Just before you go over that edge and cum,
stop. Wait thirty seconds or so. Then resume. Keep bringing yourself to the edge then stopping. Do this three or four times (or longer if your a masochist) then let yourself nut.
Repeat often, at least three times a week. Nightly, even! From now on, masturbation isn't about reaching the goal of orgasm, but riding out the waves of pleasure for as long as possible.
#2
Make foreplay all about them, as little about you as possible. Give them the wildest head of their life. Not really necessary but to remove your own performance anxiety - if you can make them feel good or get them to orgasm before intercourse even takes place, no need to worry if the intercourse doesn't last very long.
#3
During sex, try to focus as little on your dick as possible. Look into your lover's eyes, concentrate on gyrating them hips in weird and wonderful ways, kiss a lot. Try for a slow and steady pace, just like you've been practicing to maintain for the last few weeks. You will notice a difference.
#4
As you approach that "things be feeling better than they were a moment ago" that signals the approach of the build up to orgasm, start doing the following mathematical exercise in your head:
1+1=2
2+2=4
4+4=8
8+8=16
and so on
This mathematical exercise can add a whole extra five minutes to your performance time, perhaps even more when you start getting into the really higher numbers that require you to use your brain a bit.
#5
Enjoy your new status as King of the bedroom. You may now start asking for the weird stuff.
Quality post. I can sympathize with you on the ScarJo part brother.
I don't think the idea is necessarily to cut it out completely forever, I think that's unrealistic. Obviously if you can go a couple weeks without any porn or masturbation I think that's a good start. I think the point is to try and limit yourself so that you're not dependent on it to maintain an erection/masturbate. Thats my understanding anyways.
Yes and no. Problem is, depending how far gone you are you have in effect created a new pathway in your brain that dominates the other pathways, hence why sexual stuff that isn't porn doesn't give you peak performance. Through lack of use, that pathway's prominence fades but it will always be there. If you're going to ScarJo out, you can't simply return to your old habits. It has to be infrequent else (as I've found out) you'll end up right back in square one again very, very (took me a week!) quickly again.