Ghost_Protocol
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That just sounds like you want impassive and subservient girls who take enjoyment from just staring at you enjoying yourself whilst playing.
Haven't you learned anything from reading this thread?
That just sounds like you want impassive and subservient girls who take enjoyment from just staring at you enjoying yourself whilst playing.
This jew thinks these girls need to harden up. You don't see [insert minority here] starting campaigns after the HALO 2 era and lord knows the girls can't be getting it that bad. Lord knows the idiots that actually spout racist/sexist crap aren't going to spend their time watching this.
That just sounds like you want impassive and subservient girls who take enjoyment from just staring at you enjoying yourself whilst playing.
Sorry, still not seeing the relevance. I am aware that the internet grants people greater opportunity to express themselves without consequence. The issue is that they express themselves as sexists.They know what buttons to push. There's not a lot of thought involved as there won't be any consequences (usually). It's not like real life where people know they cannot do certain things - it's the wild west out there on XBL, there are no rules and no expectations as to how you should behave.
I've already addressed this line of thinking several times on this page. The issue is the specificity and persistence of the insults. As well, the purpose of sanctimony is to counteract said persistence.Guys talk shit when they're being competitive. You can't reprogram that out of them because you've decided that isn't how you communicate. If you kickass at a game then you will earn respect. If you take advantage of your position as a woman in a mostly male community then you will lose respect. The newslfash is other than immature, 14 year old sections of the internet, most people don't care what your gender is. It's a curiosity and that's about it.
If you want equal treatment then you're going to have to learn that means males will talk to you like they talk to other males, which is not nice. Equality isn't a cafeteria line sort of deal. You don't get to pick which parts you like or else its a double standard.
The video's response to this is "we get it, but you don't have be the asshole."
This won't work. For one, it addresses a you, which I can only assume to be male gamers. It's a you coming from many images of girls. There is a quiet commentary here of "If you be nice we'll like you more" or "Be nice for us girls". This comes off as playing the gender attraction you previously admonish. "It doesn't matter that I have boobs." Secondly, what is "the asshole"? It's hard to say where the line is being drawn here. I talk crap, I give people crap. Am I an asshole? Others use offensive words, but only to get reactions. I deal with them by deflating them in some way. The worst thing to do is to throw a fit in response or get all serious when nobody is serious. That's why "speak up" is a mistake. You aren't going to make some life changing event happen by getting sanctimonious about people's rights and respect when speaking to a troll.
There is also something weird here about "Sure, bludgeon me in digital form, fill my body with a hundred digital bullets and teabag my corpse, but dear lord, don't call me a ho." The situation is already over the top. Unless we're speaking some sort of RP MMO realm, I'm not sure there is a high standard of conduct to be had.
Right, but that doesn't change the fact that their actions online are most certainly a part of their offline personhood. Any person that lives by a different moral standard online is either delusional (because they believe that their actions do not affect real people) or equally codified by their online standards (because they accept that their actions affect real people but are comfortable with them anyway). An online sexist is just an offline sexist with less confidence and/or more social awareness of how much of a dumbass the rest of society perceives them to be.
Right, but that doesn't change the fact that their actions online are most certainly a part of their offline personhood. Any person that lives by a different moral standard online is either delusional (because they believe that their actions do not affect real people) or equally codified by their online standards (because they accept that their actions affect real people but are comfortable with them anyway). An online sexist is just an offline sexist with less confidence and/or more social awareness of how much of a dumbass the rest of society perceives them to be.
Yeah. But I doubt these videos are targeted at them, because reducing the efficacy of sexism relies on the non-career assholes removing it from their vocabulary first so that it can't be used to deconstruct women.Some people will say anything to get a rise out of other people, they don't have to believe what they're saying.
It is the people disconnected with the responsibility of speaking that I suspect that these videos have the potential to be effective on, because it may actually indicate to them the effect that their words have. This issue is certainly not limited to gender, but I would argue that it is, far and away, the most extreme form of abuse encountered on the internet. It's just my opinion but I would be willing to bet that a thread about online racism would not look much like this.But coding this discussion in gender is a mistake. The actual issue is that people have disconnected from the responsibility associated with speaking. They may use sexist or racist words, but that's only due to the general power of those words to evoke reaction. (Which I know you know.) So, why are we approaching this from a gendered view when it's a matter of a change in how people treat and view sincerity? The "GAMER GIRL" aspect totally distracts from what's going on.
There's a difference between saying things and actually meaning things, that's what you seem to ignore here. Or at least that's what it seems like to me. People who act like homophobic assholes aren't necessarily homophobic at all.Sorry, still not seeing the relevance. I am aware that the internet grants people greater opportunity to express themselves without consequence. The issue is that they express themselves as sexists.
It is the people disconnected with the responsibility of speaking that I suspect that these videos have the potential to be effective on, because it may actually indicate to them the effect that their words have. This issue is certainly not limited to gender, but I would argue that it is, far and away, the most extreme form of abuse encountered on the internet. It's just my opinion but I would be willing to bet that a thread about online racism would not look much like this.
People who are consistently homophobic on the internet are homophobic. Whether or not they actually believe that gay people do not deserve to exist or whatever becomes irrelevant as soon as they accept that it is appropriate to hinder the betterment of homosexuals. If they don't accept that it's what they're doing by being homophobic on the internet, then they're delusional.There's a difference between saying things and actually meaning things, that's what you seem to ignore here. Or at least that's what it seems like to me. People who act like homophobic assholes aren't necessarily homophobic at all.
While I think attention-seeking people have a tendency to receive flak regardless of gender, I would guess that a female would probably receive more flak for doing so. I don't have any evidence to back this up so whatever.Also, I really don't think that people have a problem with women identifying themselves as female online, unless they are assholes - which like I said are not worth anybody's time.
I think what's really annoying, or at least with pisses me off, are girls who get on there because they have this assumption in their head that because we are male gamers, we are desperate for their attention. Basically attention whores.
I had a friend whose gamertag was xCassie7eEx or something like that. You could tell she was a girl and she was a gamer. Cool. No big deal
Then you have people like sexyHaloHotNerd or some shit. And while you are allowed to choose whatever gamer tag you want, that just seems attention whoreish. There really is no need to point out that you are a sexy hot nerd. You aren't on a dating site.
It would be equally ridiculous to have a guy with the name HotFamousMovieSTUDster. Why? What's the point? Who cares that you are a hot movie stud?
It needs to be codified in gender because the insults are codified in gender. I perceive this as less about the assholes themselves and more about the enablers that accept the systemic presence of sexism on the internet. If the assholes were not enabled by the reaction of the target and the lack of reaction by everyone else in the game (and by the lack of reaction of a lot of people in this thread, and a lot of people on the internet), then the assholes would not have the basis to antagonize females on the internet on the basis of their gender. Like I've said, it is indicative that men are not attacked on the basis of their gender; it is as simple as the fact that being a male on the internet is not remarkable or even worth mentioning.They won't be effective on these people because it is codified in gender. This video comes off a bit too much like the Beauty and The Beast female fantasy. The female taming and educating the unrefined male. This interferes with pointing directly at what is going on, and asking all people if something has changed and if it is harmful. You are dealing with people throwing away the power of their voice for any attention whatsoever. Why? Do they think that the internet, with all its ability to record everything we say and archive it, database it and make it easily accessible for generations to come won't somehow travel back to them in real life? Do they seriously think the future won't care?
"We're girls, be nice." does not touch on these problems at all.
By the gender coding, this because one gendered way of communicating--within competition--seeking to overwrite another gendered way of behavior. What gives one side the right over the other? Temporal morals? Get to the problem, not the shallow surface of "eat a dick".
Do you see anything feminine in the way I type or in my avatar or my name? The types that DOES this are the ones that are obnoxious about this problem because they're obvious and obviously wanted the attention.
Except races aren't drastically and disproportionately under-represented in online games. Racially-motivated harassment isn't acceptable either; it's just not as severe as what we're discussing.Doesn't this happen to everyone who "stand out" in some way. As soon as someone joins with RUS in their name or a French accent they are bound to receive the same kind of harassment.
At what point does identifying your gender become obnoxious? Serious question.I'm pretty feminine but being feminine isn't the problem. I agree about them wanting attention, but just because you don't get mistaken for a boy doesn't mean that you want attention.
Except races aren't drastically and disproportionately under-represented in online games. Racially-motivated harassment isn't acceptable either; it's just not as severe as what we're discussing.
It needs to be codified in gender because the insults are codified in gender. I perceive this as less about the assholes themselves and more about the enablers that accept the systemic presence of sexism on the internet. If the assholes were not enabled by the reaction of the target and the lack of reaction by everyone else in the game (and by the lack of reaction of a lot of people in this thread, and a lot of people on the internet), then the assholes would not have the basis to antagonize females on the internet on the basis of their gender. Like I've said, it is indicative that men are not attacked on the basis of their gender; it is as simple as the fact that being a male on the internet is not remarkable or even worth mentioning.
The ones that keep repeating how much they own men's arses online. And how much better they are compared to all the men out there. The ones who identify themselves as girl gamers instead of just gamers. It has NOTHING to do with being feminine.At what point does identifying your gender become obnoxious? Serious question.
People who are consistently homophobic on the internet are homophobic. Whether or not they actually believe that gay people do not deserve to exist or whatever becomes irrelevant as soon as they accept that it is appropriate to hinder the betterment of homosexuals. If they don't accept that it's what they're doing by being homophobic on the internet, then they're delusional.
While I think attention-seeking people have a tendency to receive flak regardless of gender, I would guess that a female would probably receive more flak for doing so. I don't have any evidence to back this up so whatever.
However, the more important part of this is the generation of the female "attention whore" stereotype. It is a mainstay in this debate. Indeed, it is a mainstay in this thread. However, it is not a mainstay online and compromises as insignificant a percentage of the total online female population as it does the online male population. It is a gigantic straw man and the discussion of it is almost completely irrelevant in the grand scheme of the whole debate. Most women aren't this way, so why are we discussing it with such frequency? Why doesn't it come up nearly as frequently in discussions about online gamer behavior in general?
It needs to be codified in gender because the insults are codified in gender. I perceive this as less about the assholes themselves and more about the enablers that accept the systemic presence of sexism on the internet. If the assholes were not enabled by the reaction of the target and the lack of reaction by everyone else in the game (and by the lack of reaction of a lot of people in this thread, and a lot of people on the internet), then the assholes would not have the basis to antagonize females on the internet on the basis of their gender. Like I've said, it is indicative that men are not attacked on the basis of their gender; it is as simple as the fact that being a male on the internet is not remarkable or even worth mentioning.
Also, I think online communities have changed a lot. I almost always use my mic, I play with friends but I rarely get harassed, and when I do instead of getting into verbal battle I just block and mute them. But then again I play games like MAG, BF3, UC3 etc so maybe people who play games like these aren't really that assholish towards women who game online. I only play on Steam or PSN, never played on XBL.
Junior account? Eugh, no way.Video is terrible - Im going to hang myself. Who wants my gaf account?
not a fan of the term 'gamer girl'.
Girl gamers need to understand that it's a part of the culture that is online gaming. I wish it wasn't but it is. This video is going to do nothing to help the situation. I have seen plenty of these so called angelic girl gamers proclaim at the end of a game after no shit talking has been spoken "YOU JUST GOT YOUR ASS HANDED TO YOU BY A GIRL!!!!"Junior account? Eugh, no way.
I read this thread so far and decided I don't want to watch the video. Please tell me I made the right decision.
This is amazing.Haha, I have GAME GURLZ in my YouTube recommended videos now. Worth it.
Their video is so fucking pointless: people are assholes online, it doesn't matter if you're a girl. Anyone got to deal with them in way or the other: use mute, grief report them, play with good company/communities.
I'm prefering the related video much more tbh.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=vtk8zW7xF9E#!
Even if you manage to stop grief for being a woman, they'll find something else. The only way to solve this whole mess is to stop people being assholes online, good luck with that.it does matter, you get much more grief for being a woman, why should that happen?
Does anyone else also hate the term "gamer"
Like - yes, I am one who games. But it's not my job. I don't get paid from it. It's not 'all' I do.
You don't call a person who goes to watch a few movies every few months a "movie-er" Or a person who demonstrates regular hygiene a "bath-er" Though I'd imagine movie-goer would also incite the same kind of response from me. But it's used much less often than "gamer"
Anyway, term gamer just strikes me as a person who does it for a living, or that is all he does. Rather, all he or *she* does (out of respect for this thread).
Enthusiast subculture pride dude.
Does anyone else also hate the term "gamer"
Like - yes, I am one who games. But it's not my job. I don't get paid from it. It's not 'all' I do.
You don't call a person who goes to watch a few movies every few months a "movie-er" Or a person who demonstrates regular hygiene a "bath-er" Though I'd imagine movie-goer would also incite the same kind of response from me. But it's used much less often than "gamer"
Anyway, term gamer just strikes me as a person who does it for a living, or that is all he does. Rather, all he or *she* does (out of respect for this thread).