What? Who says you can't go to strip clubs after getting married?
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What can the groom get away with during a bachelor party?
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What? Who says you can't go to strip clubs after getting married?
DeaconKnowledge
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WanderingWind
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agree w/ everything but the bolded. that part baffles me a bit.
Devolution
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The idea that someone is forever tying the knot and not able to enjoy themselves ever again. Basically it's a sad tradition steeped in immaturity and ignores the fact that people forgo that shit when they entered into a trusting monogamous relationship. Personally I find the idea stupid.
Harry Potter
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Kuro Madoushi
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you know who has hands? THE DEVIL! And he uses em for holdin'!
WanderingWind
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Just hit me they are both dead
...aww. Now I'm sad.
Do people not know who they are marrying before they go through with it? I mean I just got married and nothing has changed in our relationship, at all.
freenudemacusers
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what? nah... bachelor parties are fun, assuming it isn't just whores and coke for 12 hours straight. a friend is talking about a rafting/spirit quest trip when he gets to that stage. sounds like fun to me.
Devolution
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What you're talking to me about is more chillin' with your buddies, which if you wife isn't a douche, should be something you can do even while married.
DeaconKnowledge
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It's a chance for your friends to spend some final quality time with you like they used to before you get sucked into married life.
Yup for the first part of mine we went camping, just the guys and one gal (who was my grooms-woman). It was a fantastic time.
Next bachelor party I am going to is a road trip to the actual wedding.
And that is true, it is just a tradition for a lot of people and friends get really depressed if there isn't going to be one.
First post nails it. Close the thread.
freenudemacusers
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well yeah but like I said, its rare to get several out of town friends in the same area at the same time, and it's kind of a themed one-off celebration (one hopes anyway!).
DeaconKnowledge
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When you get married (assuming you aren't already married) are you going to forbid your fiance to have a bachelor party?
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We had a bachelor party weekend for my best friend last summer.
We went to NYC, big group of us. Drinking started at 11am as soon as we could get into a bar off the train. Lots of partying. Lots of drinking.
Being nerds we went to comic book stores and anime stores during the day (those of us that could get out of bed).
The best thing for the whole trip was having one person who isn't drinking to be able to sort of babysit to make sure shit doesn't get out of hand. Being straight edge for a long time, this is always usually my job. Even on other trips there needs to be that person who says "Hey guys, let's NOT go to the massage parlor".
I can't imagine anyone going out on the town days from their wedding and looking to hook up. That's not sounding like someone who wants to be married. If drinks are flying and someones just trashed and a situation starts to happen, then someone needs to step in.
We went to NYC, big group of us. Drinking started at 11am as soon as we could get into a bar off the train. Lots of partying. Lots of drinking.
Being nerds we went to comic book stores and anime stores during the day (those of us that could get out of bed).
The best thing for the whole trip was having one person who isn't drinking to be able to sort of babysit to make sure shit doesn't get out of hand. Being straight edge for a long time, this is always usually my job. Even on other trips there needs to be that person who says "Hey guys, let's NOT go to the massage parlor".
I can't imagine anyone going out on the town days from their wedding and looking to hook up. That's not sounding like someone who wants to be married. If drinks are flying and someones just trashed and a situation starts to happen, then someone needs to step in.
To have fun. I think one important distinction to be made is that there is a _big_ gulf between going to strip club and getting a lap dance the night before you get married versus having sex with a prostitute. I mean that's not even the same ballpark.
The ones I've been to have basically been this: Go out somewhere for dinner, go somewhere like a cigar bar to hang out and reminisce, and then hit up a strip club. Drink a lot, have fun, go home. The part where I get lost is how some people seem to think that a bachelor party is permission to cheat. That part is pretty fucked up.
Harry Potter
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Such a fantastic point.
captmcblack
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Your bachelor party better consist of people you could trust with your life.
Your bachelor party better consist of people you can be sure won't blackmail you (since you could theoretically blackmail them as a result of them being there).
You make sure there's no pictures, no audio and no video; if a cellphone even comes out during the party, stop everything.
After that, you can get away with anything you can sleep at night having done.
It's a bachelor party. It's not necessarily so you can go sleep with some whores or something, but you figure there's going to be some debauchery - that's the entire point of the bachelor party.
I was the best man for a friend of mine, and I basically took him to every good strip joint in NYC and paid for whatever. I sent him to the VIP room with a dancer, and walked off. No audio, no video, no information to report or leak. Good drinks, good friends, good times, and the memory is just that - a memory. That's how it's done.
Your bachelor party better consist of people you can be sure won't blackmail you (since you could theoretically blackmail them as a result of them being there).
You make sure there's no pictures, no audio and no video; if a cellphone even comes out during the party, stop everything.
After that, you can get away with anything you can sleep at night having done.
It's a bachelor party. It's not necessarily so you can go sleep with some whores or something, but you figure there's going to be some debauchery - that's the entire point of the bachelor party.
I was the best man for a friend of mine, and I basically took him to every good strip joint in NYC and paid for whatever. I sent him to the VIP room with a dancer, and walked off. No audio, no video, no information to report or leak. Good drinks, good friends, good times, and the memory is just that - a memory. That's how it's done.
Incendiary
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I'm planning my friend's bachelor party right now, and his fiancee told me that as long as he doesn't come back with an STD it's fine.
If my fiance had ideas like half the guys in this thread, absolutely.
ZombieSupaStar
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Just boys pretending to be men, and ultimately showing their true nature.
I would say so, to myself and my wife.
Obviously you can give up more, but your "last fling" (if you even decide to participate in such a thing) is supposed to go a bit farther than you'd go in the next days or years.
Why? It is fun to go to a strip club (at least here, they are just like regular bars. It is even fun to go to them *gasp* with the wife.
Oh that's not the problem. Moving in together (if you only do so after marriage) results in a huge loss of free time.
Devolution
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I don't even know if I plan on getting married, and I don't have a problem with the stripper stuff. What I have a problem with is this ideal that it's the last time they'll ever do anything as a "single" individual, that's what cheating asserts, hell it's in the name "Bachelor" party. Seems to me if someone is getting married the next day they've already foregone that life for years no? So at that point it just seems like an insecure thing to partake in. And some of the stuff either implied or posted in here makes me think people shouldn't even be getting married any time soon, unless their S.O. is cool with all that mess.
And honestly I wouldn't have a problem with the hubby going to strip bars, hell I'll go with him.
Gonna go the judgmental route for a minute here, this is just asking for trouble anyway.
If it was something the wife wanted, then yes. Otherwise, I'd have to live without.
DeaconKnowledge
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Eww.
Frankly i'm not big on strip clubs, but I see them just like regular clubs - boring as hell to be at with your wife.
Not a very trusting marriage then, in my opinion. You don't go to a strip club to cheat.
Strippers love female patrons. My wife's friends get so much attention when they are at the front. Hell one time the stripper just took a knee and talked to the ladies about her boobs and body for almost an entire song.
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Are you serious, bro? We have a blast when we hit up the strip club. Wifey gets dances, picks out who should give me a lap dance, it's fun and hilarious. My friends expect her to go when we hit one up.
SneakyStephan
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Eat out the stripper so you can give the gift of herpes to your wife on your wedding night.
It'll be something to remember when you're both old
It'll be something to remember when you're both old
And she 's living in your former house while you are under a bridge
Holy shit haha, I was reading the last page from the bottom up and saw the picture first and then read the quote, perfect.
Ken Masters
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just get an escort and handle your biz privately, that way you never have to worry about info leaking out
DeaconKnowledge
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So what's the line for you, or to be more specific, the females in this discussion? Assuming hypothetically you and I were getting married tomorrow, and I went to a strip club for the bachelor party, would that be the line for you? Would it be the lap dance? The blowjob?
I'm just not sure I get specifically which part of it rankles you. (Well, the blow job obviously...)
I'm serious. I stopped going to regular clubs because I had a woman; no need to go anymore. Like I said I was never big on strip clubs, but even if I was, going with my wife would kill whatever anticipation I had for them.
Foxy Fox 39
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Out of all the nonsense in the thread, this is what finally broke me down. Bravo sir.
Devolution
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The blowjob obviously or the idea that you should just be able to up and go without even discussing it with me. Why are we getting married if you feel I shouldn't be allowed any input on that?
DeaconKnowledge
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Okay, now I get it.
It's not so much that you shouldn't be allowed input. It's just considered an unwritten rule that what happens at the bachelor party stays at the bachelor party. It isn't specifically an affront to the wife/fiance.
Eh, I think that rule is kinda outdated in this day and age. The wife and I shared what we did for ours.
Maybe I'm just in a good group of friends. But the last few bachelor parties I've gone to the wives knew for the most part what was going down. They didn't care.
At most the guys would just get a ridiculous amount of lap dances. The majority of guys who came would buy a lap dance for the groom to be and just get him hammered beyond all belief.
The single guys would be the ones who ended up doing anything more with a stripper which would lead to some memorable stories to highlight the night.
At most the guys would just get a ridiculous amount of lap dances. The majority of guys who came would buy a lap dance for the groom to be and just get him hammered beyond all belief.
The single guys would be the ones who ended up doing anything more with a stripper which would lead to some memorable stories to highlight the night.
Bay Maximus
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It's kinda like that Clockwork Orange movie, you gotta have as much sex with as many different women as possible so that the mere thought of extracurricular poon makes you throw up. A Clowrkwork orgy, if you will.
AdventureRacing
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If i wouldn't feel comfortable telling my partner about it i wouldn't be doing. I doubt i will even have a bachelor party, it just doesn't seem like something i would want to do.
VICTORsaurio
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you can have gay sex (if you're straight) or viceversa
Captain Sparrow
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The correct answer is to not get married. The bachelor party actually symbolizes how awesome it is to be single and hang out with your friends. You are supposed to use that time to do things that you will never do again, like having sex. Once you become married, you will be miserable and always regret what could have been.
TAJ
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Catching, maybe. Pitching, I think you have to at least be bi. Otherwise, how would you even get it up?
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