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SpaceBridge
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Well, Im happy to know that I aint that old fashioned. And my use of "sham" again, was used purely based on anecdotal personal experience. Ive actually hooked up with couples before, and (not at the same time), and the things they would tell me about the other or the condition of their relationship lead me to believe that an open relationship would be something I wouldnt want.
My issue was with the use of the word committed in the context of an open relationship.
SpaceBridge
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Cuz If I cant satsify him enough to the point of it being beyond physical, then he'd look elsewhere.
For the record though: Ive never been cheated on, thankfully.
I think that's the crux of where our views differ. If I trust my boyfriend, I trust my boyfriend, regardless of what he's doing, including having someone else "pounding his hole."
To me, that trust is at the heart of commitment, not sex.
SpaceBridge
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Then we agree to disagree. I realize that open relationships is the default relationship for gay couples nowadays. So, I know Im in the minority.
But, curious though, what would your BF have to do to break your trust?
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Has nothing to with trust for me. There just seems to be a major disconnect between my bf screwing around with other guys while claiming to love me at the end of the night. The whole idea would just make me jealous and probably bring out feelings of insecurity and doubt. But again, different strokes. Maybe one day I'll give it a try.
They are? If that's true, I've been out of the loop.
Lie to me without good reason.
CHEEZMO
Obsidian fan
I'm sorry if you've already answered this, but there are so many pages. What rules or restrictions do you have in your open relationship?
You're definitely not in the minority on this (non-)issue. According to the American Psychological Association, both gay and straight relationships share the same set of values in stuff like commitment. (Anecdotal stuff!) Most of the gay men I know are very much traditional in all ways but the "likes dick" part, so I'm not sure what you're seeing.
It's like you're going from one generalization to another.
My roommates are a gay couple in an open relationship. It seems to work for them, that said it wouldn't for me.
Not in our bed.
Honestly, it doesn't come up that often. For me, the knowledge that he trusts me (and I, him) with that freedom means a lot more than the actual practice.
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Deleted member 30609
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All the emotional problems that open relationships bring aside, it would kind of suck having to continually use a condom.
MidnightScott
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Someone PM me that video that guy is fucking hotttt :O
SpaceBridge
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Maybe its the gay scene here in my city, but it certainly seem like open relationships are the norm. Not really a generalization, just my perception.
Mystic Theurge
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So I just watching a movie called Hold Your Peace.
It's a about a guy, Aiden, who agrees to be the best man of his ex, Max who's getting married to Forrest. In order to safe face, Aiden brings along Lance, who pretends to be hid boyfriend.
All in all it's a movie with subpar acting, a lackluster story, and a WTF resolution. 1/5
I'm looking for another gay movie to watch, and I've heard about Weekend.
Is it good? Is it happy or funny?
It's a about a guy, Aiden, who agrees to be the best man of his ex, Max who's getting married to Forrest. In order to safe face, Aiden brings along Lance, who pretends to be hid boyfriend.
All in all it's a movie with subpar acting, a lackluster story, and a WTF resolution. 1/5
I'm looking for another gay movie to watch, and I've heard about Weekend.
Is it good? Is it happy or funny?
SpaceBridge
Member
Now where have you been buddy?
You're really keen on his 'Turkish Delight', aren't you?
I guess your rule is just no lying.
SpaceBridge
Member
You're really keen on his 'Turkish Delight', aren't you?
Who isnt, just look at him:
http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=25983813&postcount=503
edit: took the pic out, cuz I dont know if he wants it out on this thread.
Mystic Theurge
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I don't think I could be in an open relationship.
A closed one with more than one other person? Definitely. But not an open one.
A closed one with more than one other person? Definitely. But not an open one.
Is Hold you Peace on Netflix? Looking for gay movies to watch over there and it seems that I either watched them all, or are really hidden.
Weekend is on Netflix and I really enjoyed it.
Here's me, back then
...fernoca said:Netflix put 'Weekend'!!
Really great and nice movie, came out of left field on Netflix since I saw the trailer of it posted some months ago around this thread; but the movie wasn't released in theater around here (only limited release in the US).
Want more movies like this..I've watched nearly every on Netflix; but it also kinda sucks that some of the gay-themed movies are hidden (like the Eating Out ones).
[Here's the trailer just in case]
(About the two main actors/characters):Really liked the "really pricey charity cup" to afford a Wii or Xbox..bit. XD
Though I didn't found Russell to be "closeted" , in the sense that he was out to his "brother" and close friends. Just that (probably because he never was in actual relationships just one night stands..with guys that turned out were cheating in someone else. He preferred affection and stuff in the intimacy/room; instead of holding hands and kissing around the streets. Well...at least until. At work he barely talked, and he seemed to be overall shy and silent; plus he didn't liked talking about his sex life so is not like he could start talking about it randomly; like in that bit were he hears his co-worker talking about fingering a girl.the end of the movie
Guess it was just part of the way he was; since he didn't needed to "come out to his parents" (for reasons explained in the movie); probably also why he liked knowing about that aspects of his "dates".
Really liked the movie in general. Felt like a down-to-earth movie; unlike many similar movies which feel as if they were filmed in this other planet or something. Really liked how he characters could argue, and never got into drama; you know.. intelligent characters, while in other movies one could just create this..drama over something and spend the rest of the movie not talking to each other.
Left: Russell (Tom Cullen)
Right: Glen (Chris New)
As far as movies goes, from the now dead Gay-movies thread:
Pornography: A Thriller
Wow!..this movie not only became one of my favorites this year (even though it's originally from 2 years ago); but the quality and the overall story, darn..this movie could've been easily released across movie theaters worldwide, probably with a different name so people didn't see it as "lol gay porno"; since there's suspense and the overall story will have you guessing, even after it ends. Kinda like Twin Peaks and Mulholland Drive.
The movie is around an urban legend of an "ex-porn star" that is trying to live a normal life, studying, having a steady relationship. But he soon finds himself involved in the world of snuff-films and disappears.
Some time later, a writer in NY just moved to a new apartment with his boyfriend. While the boyfriend is looking for a job, he works writing reviews of books and movies for various places and uses the rest of the time to write a book about the gay-pornographic industry, those involved and what happened to the actors that just disappeared. While doing research, he finds the name of the "ex porn star" and decides to investigate what happened. All this, while living under the suspicion that there's something wrong with the new apartment they just moved in.
If there's one "disappointing" aspect of the movie, is that the third act's story is around a curveball/twist they throw at you that, at first fits with the story and kinda makes sense of what you already saw. But then, they add more things to it and it stops making sense and you end with more questions. Though I've yet to see it again, and a few recommend multiple watchings, since after I watched it, I started thinking about it and connecting things.
But the quality of the acting, filming ,editing, script, music..everything's so high, I just couldn't believe that the movie was that great. And the fact that all the characters are gay are not the reason of the story but just part of the characters. This is not about two guys falling in love, or discovering themselves, just guys that have their work, school, lives..and happen to be gay.
Another one of those "looks can be deceiving". Based on the cover and name one might dismiss the movie, but this one's a thriller that will have you guessing through the entire film.
Make the Yuletide Gay was cute.
An "openly gay man" leaves college for Christmas vacation to spend it with his family. Leaving his boyfriend there, since he's supposed to travel to spend the holidays with his own (conservative/rich) family. But the boyfriend's parents cancel at the last minute just saying to him that he could go to his house and spent the holidays..alone, while doing some chores. He uses this abrupt change of plans, to visit and spend the holidays with his boyfriend.
Upon arrival, turns out he's boyfriend hasn't come out to his parents, and "girlfriend". So the rest of the movie is their ways of hiding their feelings ,the conflict while dealing with the weird but funny family.
Ending is kinda expected, but with a fun touch that fits with the way the parents act through the movie. Funny, entertaining, good acting; and there's a sequel coming this year, now apparently with they visiting the conservative rich parents of the boyfriend. Can't wait!
And a few more:
Redwoods
Was a little skeptical at first, since it was written and directed by the same one that did Rock Haven (which just sucked). But I've been watching movies with Matthew Montgomery on them and this was the last one. And I'm glad I did, while the movie is not perfect,; it was a big improvement over Rock Haven in terms of characters, script, acting...though had the same problems with music (i.e. sounding like NES Zelda/Final Fantasy) not fitting the movie neither any scene.
Is about a guy that seems to be just not happy with his life. He lives with his partner and an adopted son; but things feel like a routine, more than anything. One day, his partner and son leave for a trip so he has the house to himself, but he doesn't do much since he's used to the routine. So he spends the day with his parents and around town and then back to the house. One day, a stranger arrives on car, asking for directions since he was staying at a place close by to (try to) finish the book he was writing.
Sparks fly, friendship develops. Family likes the writer, everyone's happy with the way things are working out. But one of them is in a relationship and with a son, how's that going to work? There lies the problem with this movie.
The story/script doesn't explain much, so we're supposed to just accept that one person in a relationship, fell in love with another person, is technically cheating on his partner and son; and everyone's fine with it. The movie would make sense for many, only if they watch it with one idea that I (and others it seems) realized during the movie (spoiler):that the partner and son are dead, and he's living attached to the ghosts of them, hence he hasn't moved on. He tries to when meeting the writer, which is why his family seems to be happy with the idea of him going out with another guy, also related to when his father talks about "wounds taking time to heal". Seems that when his partner and son left for the trip, they had an accident and died, so he kinda blames himself for that and lives life as if nothing ever happened. Also explains why the son, after 5 years passed at the end of the movie, didn't aged.
But none of that it's actually explained, or directly shown in any form. One just has to guess it, and reading around online seems many people didn't and hated the movie in general because for them it was about a "gay man that cheats and we're supposed to feel fine about it". There are other theories, but since there's no official explanation it seems to depend on who's watching it.
Add to that a sad ending. Overall, better than Rock Haven at least.
East Side Story
This one was fun. It's focused on the clash of cultures between Mexico and the US. A young mexican guy lives with his grandmother and they both run a restaurant that sells mexican food. Through the years, he has been going out with closeted real estate agent, that only cares about sex. Their "relationship" comes to a halt, when the grandson says he's in love with him wand the real estate agent, reminds him that basically falling in love is a thing that women and "f*****" do.
While this happens, there's talk in the radio, local people and news about how their city is suddenly begin invaded by "the homosexuals". With the cook from the restaurant sending a letter to the newspaper expressing his hate towards them. This causes the "news" of the grandson of the owner being gay, while she's away on vacations and he was running the restaurant. This, couple with the homophobia of the cook, people in general and the rise of gay men moving around things don't go that well. Add to this that the grandson, is falling in love with a neighbor who just moved to the house in front with his partner of two years.
There are a good amount of funny lines, and scenes. There are many cliches, but they also use the cliches as part of the film (like a scene when the partner of the neighbor enters the house and he sees a few shaved hispanic men and he starts screaming because he thinks thy're robbing the house; only to find out that they were with his partner doing an AA-gay meeting); among other things.
Nice, fun movie to watch. Not great and unique; but fun.
3-Day Weekend
This one was entertaining, nothing great. 3 old friends, 2 being a couple decide to spend a 3 days weekend at a cabin on the mountains. To spice things up, they decide to each invite other people, like to play "matchmaking" of sorts.
One of them on his 40s invites his 25 years old boyfriend, and since they're going as one, they also invite friends on their own. The older invites his yoga teacher, the young one invites an old friend from college. Of the couple that owns the cabin, one invites a shy co-worker in the hopes of this "opening his shell", and the other invites...a hustler..which he paid to be there....and whom he has been seeing for over 2 years without his partner knowing. But he thinks everything will be fine, since they both agreed to be in an open relationship.
That's obviously going to cause problems in the relationship, the shy one you know is going to come out of his shell, truths are exposed, relationships tested, new friendships start and so on. So yeah, nothing biggie, or shocking but a nice movie to watch and Derek Long always being a great actor steals most of the scenes.
Well, sorry for the necro-bump; but i couldn't find a more recent thread.
I've recently watched a few movies, and surprised me that were quite nice to watch, with nice plots and well acted. So I'll list the main ones I liked:
Strapped
Really nice one. Is about a hustler, during one of the usual one-nigh tstands; he's wit ha guy, do their thing, he gets the money and leaves. But after he leaves, he just can't find teh exit of the apartment. Lots of walls, doors, non-working exists, get him into meeting other characters; some are nice, some not so much. It was cool how he basically changed his name and way of acting depending on the guy he was with. A little bit feminine with the group of "old gays", straight-macho with the married guy that "was straight..but likes men" (really creepy scene at one point too) and so on; but as a hustler he gets to have "fun" and get paid; while looking for the exit.
If he changes his ways and if he manages to find the exit, I won't say.
Long Term Relationship
Another nice one. About a guy that's doesn't have actual relationships, just fuck buddies and regular buddies; but seems just tired of just the usual things. One day, while eating out with his friends, one of them starts reading the classifieds section looking for a quick hook up, while reading they find this guy that is looking for an "LTR". They read more of his description, decides to call him and then meet in person. Sparks fly, they have lots in common, friends are jealous about the time they spend together...BUT..there's a problem; sex sucks! There's also a bigger problem!...guy's a republican.
So they have a lot of funny situations while dealing with that and balancing family, friends and temptation.
Is it just me?
This one was better than I expected. even thogh the plot and soem of the characters are the usual "cliche" like good looking, but less confident guy, good looking gym body that strips in a bar and has sex, no friends.
The story is basically about a guy that doens't like hookups but actual dates and relationship and he's disappointed he just can't find them. So he ends doing the whole online dating. On a site, he meets a really nice guy, which have a lot in common, talk over the phone for hours, everything's perfect....till they decide to meet each other. After they agreed to and the other guy sends hi ma picture; he realizes, he was talking using his roomate's (gym guy) account. Afraid that the other guy was talking to him, based on the pictures of his roomate, he agrees with the roomate so he pretends to be him. Of course, things are going to get complicated.
One problem with the movie, is that the other online guy is barely described. We know he's from Texas and that he recently moved there and that's it. We know the main character is in love with him and the conversations they have, but he's literally non existent even when he's on scenes. Also, things get solved really fast in the end. But I still enjoyed it, because the main character reminded of me so much, specially during an early scene when he's at a coffee shop and the employee threats him like shit; just to go and be all lovely towards the next, better looking guy and even offer him the coffee for free. (Yeah, I've been there)
Dog Tags
Two stories/characters that cross paths. One's a straight guy, that never knew his family and was raised to basically grow up and be a (providing) father. He decides to join the NAVY, with the idea that if he decides to meet his real father, he can go all dressed in uniform so he can see what he became. The other one, is a gay guy after the first time he goes out to meet people after his relationship ended; just to realize that he's just not ready and doesn't want quick hookups.
They both meet under some...kinda funny circumstances which I won't say.
They start traveling together to go to their respective families and continue with their lives but a few situation and last moment revelations change all their plans.
Movie's good, except for one thing. The gay guy, is the father of a baby. That's no problem per se, but seems it was a problem for the writer, when not only the characters forget about the baby; but the script sometimes even forgets the baby is supposed to be there.
Also 'Rock Haven', but that one just sucked. basically cliche christian kid, cliche gay character, they both fall in love, but God this, Bible that, Mom's a fan of Jesus, gay = disease and can be cured, director/writer having a cameo as the Father from church/spiritual guide of sorts, with some horrible wooden acting that looked as if he was just waiting to rape the kid. All that coupled with bad editing (tons of beach scenes for no reason), music that sounds as if was taken from a NES game, and laughable scenes; like a few scenes with both characters just eating junk food, or a scene were Christian guy masturbates in the shower using the mental image of cliche gay guy (whom he saw for teh first time from afar, removing his shirt only; yet he imagined him up-close and saw his face and entire body in detail). Really horrible movie.
I also watched 'Raging Sun, Raging Sky' and its prequel of sorts; 'Broken Sky', because of the amount of praise around both.
Basically both are 2-3 hours long "artsy films" with a bunch of extended scenes, characters looking at each other, barely to no dialogs, and in the case of Ragin Sun; which lasts over 3 hours, around 2 hours of it are in black and white. The supposed plot in both is about "souls" looking to be together and a third soul kinda jealous of the 2 that belong together.
But since there are so few dialogs, characters don't talk, there are a bunch of sexual scenes in a movie theater; that you have to assume is some kind of purgatory; like the rest of the movie you're left to assume things and you end with more questions than answers. Both were big disappointments and sorry to the director/writer; but after watching the movies and even reading a blog about Raging Sky and how he likes young actors and consider anyone over 25 as "old", I get the impression that he makes this movies as an excuse to have young, new actors naked and doing sexual things for the camera. Aside how the blog talks about the director being basically a bitch and getting a few of the characters to cry, after demanding and insulting them in front of everyone; but since he was the director...the one with the vision, i twas fine since he was just expecting more from them.
During the upcoming days, will watch Socket, Gone but not forgotten and Back Soon.
Well, watched Back Soon and Socket.
Back Soon, was kinda cute and most of the cast was from Long Term Relationship; only they were playing straight for the most part. About 2 characters; an actor that's trying to cope with the death of his wife after one year, he decides to sell the house they lived in and an ex-convict trying to change things and leave everything behind to start anew after an accident...nearly a year ago. Because of malpractice, the ex-convict gets some extra money which he uses to buy buy a house. He ends meeting and buying the house of the actor. They met, start a friendship of sorts; they feel mutually attracted to each other but don't know the reason. Both see the ghost of the late wife and as the movie progress, they discover a connection between the appearances and the sudden attraction between both.
There were some slight problems with editing like you can see the "recording sound" through the entire movie, a few scenes that played for a second or two longer and had the actors just standing there, scenes constantly faded to black and the movie was sometimes too funny, compared to the main topic of the movie. Like there were too many jokes at time even more when you get to see one of the actor's movies which was on purpose badly edited, acted etc; but was still nice to watch.
The other movie was Socket...and what a really weird and kinda creepy movie on top that it seems that in purpose the movie was filmed to look "cheap". The story is about a doctor, that after being struck by lightning and surviving he receives an invitation by an intern, to a group that has been through the same. He goes home and feels no will to live, but an obsession to clean and organize everything. Bored with routine he decides to call and go to one of the meetings of the group. There he discovers that they're all survivors of being struck by lightnings and that because of that event they all not only transmit, but can feed from electricity and power outputs; which after doing so they feel better (like a drug).
The doctor starts a relationship with the intern, but also getting obsessed with electricity and wanting more and more and looking for ways to easily connect and get energy. As far as even doing an experiment on which he and the inter put plugs , in their wrists so not only they can connect easily between each other, but also to any plug/output of electricity they see around. Things get even more crazier after that too...
The movie looks and sometimes feel like a really cheap indie-thriller, with a few scenes of full frontal nudity too. There are a few scenes with the doctor's lesbian friends which are quite funny actually, but overall..well, it's fun to watch and a nice diversion. Not something nice, or deep but more like to have a little laugh.
Later I'll see Gone, but not forgotten.
By coincidence, though in part on purpose
SpaceBridge
Member
Heh, see, I can handle casual sex on the side in a (sexually) open relationship, but I don't think I have enough energy or emotion for more than one person in a closed relationship. I've heard of them though, and it seems like a viable option.
EDIT: wait, what'd I miss, SpaceBridge? I'm so confused.
Mystic Theurge
Member
I don't get it either. What did I do?
And two more from the "Matthew Montgomery collection", hehehe...
*****
Gone, but not forgotten was really nice. Is about a young man that is found by a forest ranger. At the hospital it turns out that the man can't remember anything, not even his name; which was surprising to the doctor since there were no signs of any head trauma or anything. They assume that there may be a psychological reason and a traumatic event made him forget things. The ranger starts befriending the patient and develop a friendship; he admits that he had to punch him when he found him and he thought the punch was part of the reason of the amnesia.
They agree that the patient needs to get out, since staying at the hospital won't be good for his condition. So he stays at the ranger's house. This get more intimate, but they both feel as if there's something wrong. The ranger thinks he might be getting advantage of the situation of the amnesia and that is not fair for both of them; but he always wanted someone waiting for him on his house and to take care of each other. The patient feels bad, because he's afraid that the moment he remembers his past he might remember something really bad that might end their relationship.
There are a few small twists, which i won't spoil. If anything, the only thing I didn't liked was that the ranger was like obsessed with the patient and didn't cared about him getter better, if anything preferred he wouldn't remember anything just so they could both be together. But that was part of the character in any case, just that it contradicted the same character and instead of feeling sorry towards him, one kinda starts disliking the character.
Bonus points for the movie and the scenery. Lush forests, lakes, mountains, rain. really nice.
Role/Play was excellent, which really surprised me. If there's one negative aspect of the movie is that unlike the forests and lakes of "Gone", this one is basically inside a resort in Palm Springs. But that aide, the movie deals with so many recent topics more than just "2 guys in love" aspect.
Story's about 2 characters: an actor that for years passed as straight, starring on the main role of a soap opera, but finds his career coming to a halt when a sex-video of him and another guy is leaked on the internet; and an activist, who's the face and champions for the rights of gay marriage, but finds himself under the of criticism and double standards when reports of his divorce are out and the reason being cheating from his part.
The two can't stand each other at first, the activist accusing him that because of closeted actors like him, gay men in general think that the only way to succeed in life is to hide their true-selves, and the actor accuses him that gay men like him go around parading about how other gay men should live their lives, and wanting to out everyone just to join them in their "cause" instead of just living normal lives.
Though the movie, the relationship gets better and they developer feelings towards each other, but the same line of thinking and ideas is still discussed. Topics about how gay websites/magazines seem to be ore obsessed at who's the next straight guy that will come out of the closet, rather than talk about gay men that are succeeding in their lives and career. How the gay community tends to create this divas like Madonna and Lady Gaga to represent "them", instead of gay men and women. About the obsession with the rights for gay marriage, when the idea of relationships and monogamy usually get the laughs and rejection of this same community.
And other similar exchanges. There are twists and stuff through the movie, with the reason of the divorce of the activist begin the quite more surprising one; but still grounded onto the whole concept of the movies which is about roles and how people not only see you but expect you to be. really surprised by this movie overall, just excellent. (the main actors are a real life couple and recently announced their engagement after 3 years of relationship)
*****
Guess I'm just a big fan of the actor, producer, etc. etc Matthew Montgomery.
He's writing and getting ready to start a movie he wrote called 'Sticke Figures' which the story sounds really interesting; about a gay writer having one of those "blocks" while writing his next book, but when things seems to start getting back to normal he learns that an old girlfriend passed away and left for him a child, his daughter.
Plus:
-Shelter
-Latter Days
-Trick
-Eating out (all of them...silly fun, but still entertaining)
****
Damn, that was a long-ass post (above) about movies.....sorry. :/
SpaceBridge
Member
I thought you were making a joke, where by definition a relationship always involves more than one person. You and someone else.
LOL, guess I read more into that than I should have.
Mystic Theurge
Member
Is Hold you Peace on Netflix? Looking for gay movies to watch over there and it seems that I either watched them all, or are really hidden.
Weekend is on Netflix and I really enjoyed it.
Here's me, back then
(About the two main actors/characters):
As far as movies goes, from the now dead Gay-movies thread:
Thanks for all the information! Wow.
Hold Your Peace is not on netflix.
Weekend looks like sad movie, but it seems interesting. I'll watch it and report back.
Edit:
I've watched all of those except Shelter, which seems like it's just another coming out story.
Mystic Theurge
Member
Yea, just a little. lol.
To clarify, I meant things like Triads and Quads (Probably couldn't go higher than Quad) .
Nice, and no problem.
Though give Shelter a chance, it is a really well done movie.
Too bad about the one you said not been on Netflix. Netflix not only tends to hide gay movies, but when they openly announce one (under New Releases) ..is relatively old movies that I've watched already. :|
Those movies I posted, I had to go to a local place and rent them..so I ended renting all the ones they had.
SpaceBridge
Member
Yes, I realize that now.
Mystic Theurge
Member
Nice, and no problem.
Though give Shelter a chance, it is a really well done movie.
Too bad about the one you said not been on Netflix. Netflix not only tends to hide gay movies, but when they openly announce one (under New Releases) ..is relatively old movies that I've watched already. :|
Those movies I posted, I had to go to a local place and rent them..so I ended renting all the ones they had.
Well, if Netflix hides gay movies, it might be on there. I just did a cursory search.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
I need a link too plz.
Well, I see it's already been discussed to death while I was away, but yeah, committed ≠ monogamous.
Also, as I said earlier, there are different types of open relationships. Ours isn't the kind where you both just fuck whoever you want. Though we wouldn't really have a problem with that, but we prefer to do things together.
The point is we love each other, and nothing can change that. Sex with other people is just harmless fun. Also, it's not just complete strangers we're fucking. We would only ever have sex with a close friend. Everything is all good and mutual between us all that way.
Also, as I said earlier, there are different types of open relationships. Ours isn't the kind where you both just fuck whoever you want. Though we wouldn't really have a problem with that, but we prefer to do things together.
The point is we love each other, and nothing can change that. Sex with other people is just harmless fun. Also, it's not just complete strangers we're fucking. We would only ever have sex with a close friend. Everything is all good and mutual between us all that way.
What about Whirlwind and Noah's Arc Jumping the Broom. For some reason I like both of these movies, maybe because they both have a nice ending.
-Rag Tag - Story of two guys who were best friends when they were little. Theyre from different side of the tracks. One moved away and the other stayed. Years later he shows back up in town and things get interesting.
-LA Mission - An ultra macho ex-con single father tries to deal with his son coming out to him. It's a really good movie that's funny, sad, and dramatic.
-Shank - About a gang member who is gay but hides it from his peers. He falls for a student from France and they begin a relationship. Eventually his gang finds out and it takes some twist and turns from there. Its very gritty and graphic.
Love Noah's Arc! If you haven't seen Season 1 and 2 I would recommend them as well. They help set up the movie.
"Weekend" was such a great flick. I caught it on Netflix a while back not knowing much about the premise other than it being under the gay and lesbian section. The interaction between the two protagonists felt so real.. from the quality of discussion to the overall physical intimacy. I felt like I could easily relate to what they were going through, which is why it probably hit so close to home. Anyway, if you haven't seen it yet go watch it.
I'm absolutely the other way round. And yes, I had an open relationship that lasted for almost 7 years and ended for completely unrelated issues between us. (we're still close friends though). If I trust my partner, I really don't care who he's nailing, I just expect him to...
a) be responsible (safe sex and all that)
b) be sincere. I hate being lied to on important stuff.
Yeah, watched all 3. Liked LA Mission more than Shank and Shank more than Rag Tag. LA Mission got bonus points because Kitana (Talisa Soto) was in it.
Wasn't a big fan of Noah's Arc (the series) so, haven't checked out the movie...yet.
Might give it a chance if anything.
Whirlwind yeah, really liked that one. The psycho was really nice to watch and was glad that at least they all solved their issues by the end and the psycho just went his way. XD
Though just noticed that most of the copy-pasted impressions I posted, were from what I rented and not from what I watched on Netflix. Might end making a list of what I've watched on Netflix.
So I have another long story that could probably be summed up in 3 sentences but i like telling stories so what the hell...
Today I thought I'd be nice and drive my friend and her bf to a job interview that her bf had all the way in Anaheim (30+ miles away from where I live). It was really early in the morning and I didn't want to 3rd wheel it, but I figured I'd help them out since neither of them have a car at the moment. We reach the destination and drop off the bf at the job for the interview. My friend and I decide to wait at a Starbucks we saw about 3 blocks away.
The first thing I notice when we walk in is none of the employees had hats on (i work at Starbucks in LA county and i guess they don't have to wear hats in Orange County) and the cute guy at the register-tall, light skinned, dark features, handsome. We order drinks and a sandwich (that they have to warm up) and he was pretty charming, funny, and genuine. The drinks were ready almost right away but the sandwiches weren't so we just sat down and waited. We waited a few minutes and still didn't get the sandwiches. Thinking the guy forgot, my friend said she was going to the bathroom and hopefully they'd be out by the time she got back. Sure enough, as soon as she walked away, the guy came up to my table, gave me a smile, and handed me the paper bags with the sandwiches in them, placing one really close to my hand and the other one on the opposite side of the table almost falling off, which i thought was kind of strange. My friend came back and we started eating. I lifted the bag to take a bite and my friend looked at me wide-eyed and gave me a weird smile. I was like "huh? what? what is it?" and she said "turn the bag around." i turned it around and it had a name and phone number written on it... i instantly blushed because i couldn't help it! LOL. I didn't know how to react so i just played it off nonchalantly and ate my sandwich normally. We left and I said thank you and goodbye to the nice guy and he winked at me and said bye haha.
Now i have a few questions. I'm clearly not going to pursue this guy since I'm super happy with my bf Should I call the guy and tell him I have a bf? Should I ignore him? Should I tell my bf what happened today? Should I drop the whole thing?
Today I thought I'd be nice and drive my friend and her bf to a job interview that her bf had all the way in Anaheim (30+ miles away from where I live). It was really early in the morning and I didn't want to 3rd wheel it, but I figured I'd help them out since neither of them have a car at the moment. We reach the destination and drop off the bf at the job for the interview. My friend and I decide to wait at a Starbucks we saw about 3 blocks away.
The first thing I notice when we walk in is none of the employees had hats on (i work at Starbucks in LA county and i guess they don't have to wear hats in Orange County) and the cute guy at the register-tall, light skinned, dark features, handsome. We order drinks and a sandwich (that they have to warm up) and he was pretty charming, funny, and genuine. The drinks were ready almost right away but the sandwiches weren't so we just sat down and waited. We waited a few minutes and still didn't get the sandwiches. Thinking the guy forgot, my friend said she was going to the bathroom and hopefully they'd be out by the time she got back. Sure enough, as soon as she walked away, the guy came up to my table, gave me a smile, and handed me the paper bags with the sandwiches in them, placing one really close to my hand and the other one on the opposite side of the table almost falling off, which i thought was kind of strange. My friend came back and we started eating. I lifted the bag to take a bite and my friend looked at me wide-eyed and gave me a weird smile. I was like "huh? what? what is it?" and she said "turn the bag around." i turned it around and it had a name and phone number written on it... i instantly blushed because i couldn't help it! LOL. I didn't know how to react so i just played it off nonchalantly and ate my sandwich normally. We left and I said thank you and goodbye to the nice guy and he winked at me and said bye haha.
Now i have a few questions. I'm clearly not going to pursue this guy since I'm super happy with my bf
Should I call the guy and tell him I have a bf? Should I ignore him? Should I tell my bf what happened today? Should I drop the whole thing?indigodomino
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Unless you stop by that starbucks very often I would just drop it, otherwise just call him (blocking your number before hand lol) as to not make it awkward for you and the guy next time you stop by.
As for your boyfriend, tell him about it as a funny anecdote through your day, unless he's the jealous/insecure type ;o
As for your boyfriend, tell him about it as a funny anecdote through your day, unless he's the jealous/insecure type ;o
MidnightScott
Banned
So the new guy at work is gay and super hot in my opinion. (He is 28 and has two daughters...so he used to be straight) He told me he just met this guy and he told him that he just wanted to be friends so they hung out and stuff over the past few weeks, but then last night he said he had sex with him.
I told him about my first sexual experience back in September and was getting turned on just telling someone else. He was like you should just come over and chill.
Yes I think he is super hot and he has already sent me some racy photos. I told him we should just save it for the weekend maybe, I don't have any plans.
But damn I was checking out his ass today and wanted to like grab it so bad...
But I also told him how when I messed around with my friend that there was something holding me back.
I told him about my first sexual experience back in September and was getting turned on just telling someone else. He was like you should just come over and chill.
Yes I think he is super hot and he has already sent me some racy photos. I told him we should just save it for the weekend maybe, I don't have any plans.
But damn I was checking out his ass today and wanted to like grab it so bad...
But I also told him how when I messed around with my friend that there was something holding me back.
Ollie Pooch
In a perfect world, we'd all be homersexual
You gon fuck.
The hot guy wants his ass. But he'll cockblock him for anxiety issues.
Ollie Pooch
In a perfect world, we'd all be homersexual
Probably.
I wonder if this DILF is a bottom. That'd be hot. MidnightScott, you owe it to yourself to test drive this guy's ass. FOR YOUR COUNTRY. Then again, workplace, etc etc...
You gon fuck.
I'm crossing my fingers and toes for him, and if you do do anything. . .
Remember, MidnightScott it's your body and your sexual experience, too. You've already told him about the last time you tried to hook up with a friend, so don't worry about any expectations going into this.
And play safe, and have fun
ETA: Usually if you set up rules ahead of time, it doesn't have to be weird.
I never would have thought about calling the barista under a blocked number to inform him about the bf. That's not a bad idea.
But, yeah, my first thought would have be to just drop it.
MidnightScott
Banned
He wants me to go meet him at a park today but I don't feel like it. He said he doesn't have plans this weekend so I'll probably hang out with him then.
Also, I don't want to hook up with anyone you know. Plus, I'm meeting the guy I like on Thursday already to go hang out.
He told me he doesn't like to bottom and has only done it 3 times, he says he topped that guy the other night...
Also, I don't want to hook up with anyone you know. Plus, I'm meeting the guy I like on Thursday already to go hang out.
He told me he doesn't like to bottom and has only done it 3 times, he says he topped that guy the other night...
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