If you were single and had the ability to choose between all these girls and your current girlfriend knowing now what you are capable of, would you still choose her?Hello, fellow Gaffers. I've got a difficult burden on my shoulders, and I need your help.
I'm in a longterm (6 years) relationship with this great woman. She's my fiance now, and we're planning a wedding. We have very much in common, we've got pretty decent jobs, and we're planning to buy a house this year (with a 20yrs bank loan...). There is love, there is sex in many forms, there is laughter, we don't quarrel too much. You can say that this is a perfect relationship.
She's my first and only girlfiend in my entire life (25 years old right now).
I was a big pussy before I met her, but thanks to her I'm now a grown motherfucker.
She was my motivation to work out in the gym, she tought what clothes to wear, and you can say that thanks to her I graduaded college. She made my life much better than it was and much better it could have ever been.
But...
Now that I feel confident with myself, I see that women look different at me. And I'm intigued...
Ok, I'll be honest - I think I need some other pussy.
I don't plan to abandon this fantastic chick that made me the way I am... but I want to taste different flavours of life.
Should I discuss this with my fiance? Or just cockblock myself, and aprreciate more what I have?
Maybe some swing party a few years after the wedding? Partner swap with our friends?
Maybe my recent sex obssesion is the fault of the intenet and the avalibity of porn?
Please help me
Strangers at first. You don't want any kind of drama on your relationship if things go south
Not only shy girls, but ALL girls. And they don't think it, they feel it, quite the difference. A girl that WANTS to have sex with you, but somehow CAN'T because she is embarrassed of her body, her skills will think you will scorn her somehow. Just back up a step, reassure her and go back again, for example, if you are kissing and you start going to the neck and she recoils, go back, reassure her that you won't do anything she is not comfortable with and start again with kissing shortly thereafter coming back to the neck. Try three times, if she still has not broken down her barrier, stop making out and start doing something else.
I still don't get this. Every time I'm at the gym, (and granted, it's rare to see girls my age at the time I go) I don't see any way to meet, let alone begin a conversation with a girl since most of them have their ear-buds on or are reading something. And that's not when they are focused on their routines.
"Hey, I think it'd be cool to grab a bite to eat together on Xday. Want to come?" (revised)
You've got each others' info and have made idle chit chat. Just ask
Cool, good to know there are others like me.
Your post actually made me just think back on some of my previous relationships and you know what, I really can't think of any that followed that pattern where I regret moving on so I definitely don't think I'm being too picky. In fact, now I feel like I generally end things at just the right time rather than trying to make something work that never will.
Now just wondering if low maintenance women really exist
I remember earlier in this thread there was a link about dealing with drama and in it the author said something like "women don't like drama anymore than men". Bullshit, then why are women so obsessed with reality TV, soap operas, and celebrity gossip? Many are obsessed with drama to the point where they need to fabricate it if it doesn't exist.
I just need to find a laid back girl who doesn't need to rely on others as her entire source of happiness. There is a big difference between a loving, supportive relationship and a needy one.
Hell yeah. Pick a night and hop to it. She made herself available for a night. Not reading too much into it, but it's also a weekend, so there's potential for being out later. Not suggesting that a first date homer is on the docket, but you might be able to get a better idea of her if you have/ more time, dig?
YOU FUCKING IDIOT, WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU YOU HAVE MISSED OUT YOUR ONLY CHANCE FOR LOVE AND COMPANIONSHIP AND SEX. THE REST OF YOUR LIFE IS MEANINGLESS.
Am I doing it right? I wanna do justice to BronzeWolf
Do you know her or can contact her? Cause I mean, just ask her out like to hang out or something. On Saturday, since your week isn't free apparently.
Don't sweat a missed opportunity, dwelling is for losers. Make a new opportunity and ask her out for the weekend. You're already in the mindset of what'll work for you with the days here...
Just as a small tip, I would say if you open up in here about things you wouldn't want your fiance to find out, I wouldn't keep any personal information in your profile. I don't know does she read NeoGAF, but if she does and even if she wouldn't know your username, you have some personal information (as in your homepage) in your profile.
I would say she is totally into you and feel jealous about you when you are with other girls.
I understand that very well. I am totally unable to date more than one at a time. Just call me old fashioned, but I am seriously so bad with names and faces, that it takes all my attention to remember even one new name not to mention to be able to connect it to the right face.
