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[Miguel]

That recent Ok Cupid thread has inspired me to get back on the site and *bam* as luck has it I see a girl that's my "type" in a physical sense.
Dark hair, piercing blue eyes, pale skin.

But she's religious... but I'm just going to ignore that for now.

I'm sending her a quick little message that reads:
"Hey there K***! My name is W***.
What kind of music are you into? "

Thoughts?

Initial reaction to this post...


"Katy/Will"

Am I right?

 

[Miguel]

That recent Ok Cupid thread has inspired me to get back on the site and *bam* as luck has it I see a girl that's my "type" in a physical sense.
Dark hair, piercing blue eyes, pale skin.

But she's religious... but I'm just going to ignore that for now.

I'm sending her a quick little message that reads:
"Hey there K***! My name is W***.
What kind of music are you into? "

Thoughts?

Second reaction... Try to at least make reference to something on her profile, just asking a question is exactly what every other person does. Start a conversation based on something on her page. You're not interviewing her.

 

[Atramental]

Initial reaction to this post...


"Katy/Will"

Am I right?

You got my name right but not the girl's.

Second reaction... Try to at least make reference to something on her profile, just asking a question is exactly what every other person does. Start a conversation based on something on her page. You're not interviewing her.

The girl's profile is a bit open ended.

The reason why I'm asking her what type of music she likes is because she only says "I love music so much!"

 

[Sanky Panky]

I'm sending her a quick little message that reads:
"Hey there K***! My name is W***.
What kind of music are you into? "

Thoughts?

Sounds kind of bland unless she had music all over her profile.

My ex let me see her profile and the messages she was getting, messages like those were a dime a dozen (and were ignored).

 

[xXBetter Off DadXx]

Nevermind.

 

[Sadetar]

The thing is... from a pure logistics standpoint, I'd be pretty damn awesome at it. I'm awesome with names/faces, remembering details, etc, but something about doing that doesn't sit right with me. Not that it's a bad thing, but I don't know that I'd be able to pull it off well. Maybe that's part of the issue (overall in my life, not necessarily at this moment) I start to invest too much too early in someone.

Just a random thought I suppose. Realized today I hadn't logged in since Saturday to either dating site, when it's normally a daily thing for me.

I don't see that necessarily a bad thing at all. It is of course different, if you feel it yourself as a really negative, but I don't see it as one. I mean you can flirt with everyone, but dating one at a time is a good way to go... At least if you ask me.

I am btw awesome with names, details, and so forth.. as long as they have nothing to do with me or people around me. Basicly for example, if I read a text once, I am most likely able to remember every date in it and what it was referring to, if I need to (and I quite often do, that is part of my job). Or if I check some new English words for work, I am surely going to remember them even if I have seen them once in my life. I still fail in real life what comes to details and personal information. Or I can remember the names, but I seriously can't connect them with faces. I have people I have known over 8 years, and I still don't know their faces, I just recognize their way of clothing, their hair or walking style, but not the faces.

 

[Atramental]

Sounds kind of bland unless she had music all over her profile.

My ex let me see her profile and the messages she was getting, messages like those were a dime a dozen (and were ignored).

Revision:
"How's it going *****, my name is Will.
Just out of curiosity, what genre of music are you really into? I'm a bit of an alt-rock and electronic music buff but I'm pretty open to other genres as well."

I'm not going to put too much stake into this girl because A) she is religious and B) she probably won't like me based upon my appearance.

 

[Hylian7]

Maybe I can't do this.

I was talking to my friend about my "goal" I mentioned earlier, and she thought it was stupid and unrealistic (she is always honest, which is something I like about her). She said that I shouldn't just try to hit on hot girls on the street, but should just wait until I meet someone I actually like. She said if I were to ask her to go get coffee with me, and she didn't know me, she would say no, even if I looked like Sylvester Stallone (she thinks he is the hottest thing ever, if that wasn't obvious). Why? Because she wouldn't know me at all. She also wondered why exactly I'm in such a rush.

I thought about it more and realized that I just hate being alone. It really is the worst feeling ever. I don't really want to fuck around, so "fuckbuddy" relationships aren't my thing. I want someone I actually like, but yet being alone feels so terrible. My ex was crazy, but at least she was there and seemed to care to some degree, and I wasn't alone at the end of the day.

 

[Omegasquash]

Maybe I can't do this.

I was talking to my friend about my "goal" I mentioned earlier, and she thought it was stupid and unrealistic (she is always honest, which is something I like about her). She said that I shouldn't just try to hit on hot girls on the street, but should just wait until I meet someone I actually like. She said if I were to ask her to go get coffee with me, and she didn't know me, she would say no, even if I looked like Sylvester Stallone (she thinks he is the hottest thing ever, if that wasn't obvious). Why? Because she wouldn't know me at all. She also wondered why exactly I'm in such a rush.

I thought about it more and realized that I just hate being alone. It really is the worst feeling ever. I don't really want to fuck around, so "fuckbuddy" relationships aren't my thing. I want someone I actually like, but yet being alone feels so terrible. My ex was crazy, but at least she was there and seemed to care to some degree, and I wasn't alone at the end of the day.

Dude the most important thing is always to listen to yourself. I don't think you would regret knowing the scope of your game (or bumping it up a notch) but only if you're cool with it.

Just listen to yourself and be brutal with yourself. Don't feel like you need to.listen to friends, or (heh) even this thread.

 

[nHDR]

Geez, ok.

Chick I have history with messages me randomly bitching because I don't keep enough contact. I ask what's up, she doesn't reply (predicted) in order to show me her anger/rage/whatever. So, I'm wondering. Obviously things will NEVER heal since I don't feel like becoming whipped any time soon.

Q: Should I let her know why she's a bitch, or do I just disappear as I have been doing for years now?

I figure maybe she'll realize that she needs to be more respectful of people in the future. It will also be somewhat satisfying.

 

[ErasureAcer]

Geez, ok.

Chick I have history with messages me randomly bitching because I don't keep enough contact. I ask what's up, she doesn't reply (predicted) in order to show me her anger/rage/whatever. So, I'm wondering. Obviously things will NEVER heal since I don't feel like becoming whipped any time soon.

Q: Should I let her know why she's a bitch, or do I just disappear as I have been doing for years now?

I figure maybe she'll realize that she needs to be more respectful of people in the future. It will also be somewhat satisfying.

Take the high ground for your own good...which means don't bitch her out. If you want to salvage the friendship I'd talk to her about ways you can strengthen your friendship. I didn't talk to many of people I called my best friends for years and just one day gave up on them. I didn't think the relationships were worth saving as I'd grown a lot as a person and they wouldn't recognize me for the person I'd become since we were never in touch. If you're not that so far gone and you want to keep her as a friend...I'd make an effort to meet her halfway. If you want to end it with her, be polite about it. Say, "yeah, we really haven't talked. I guess we've just grown apart. I did enjoy the times we had together and maybe our paths will cross again some day."...or something of that nature.

I also don't know what the hell I'm talking about. lol.

 

[nHDR]

Eh, its weird. She talks a lot of shit about me, then gets mad when I don't keep contact and/or meet other women. I don't think she's the type to change without a push, which is why I've been thinking to bitch her out and let her know why I've disappeared. And then I can just completely cut it. No point to remain friends, she's made it EXTREMELY difficult for me to do that, lol.

Fuck.

 

[Cubsfan23]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=OEffig_rHZs

 

[BronzeWolf]

Good third date idea?

Was planning on heading to the beach for dinner tonight, but it's pissing rain out. Live in a relatively large town outside of Vancouver, your usual list of things-to-do.

Third date should be at your/her place. You better seal the deal by third date bro.

With good cause. Do it.

Or give me her number and I'll do it for you. But I won't be kind about it. TAKING A PAGE OUT OF BRONZEWOLF'S PLAYBOOK, THAT'S HOW BAD IT WILL GET.

Hope she is ready for being fucked up from some much fucking awesomeness she will be getting

I'm envisioning that now:

"Like pancakes, bitch?! Want some pancakes?! Maybe some sex afterwards?!"

I love me some kinocakes

According to him, that stuff actually seems to work, so maybe there's something to it!

Gosh, I'd wanna be in the room when he does that.

You don't want to, it gets messy

I need someone to yell at me and my friends don't want to do it. I passed up a chance today to ask this cute girl out to lunch today. Maybe BronzeWolf or someone that is subbing in for him today can yell at me.

I want to ask her out, but now I wont have any free time until the weekend, what day should I ask her?

Ask her asap, let her cook in her own juices with anticipation about your date. Girls do that.

I was talking to my friend about my "goal" I mentioned earlier, and she thought it was stupid and unrealistic (she is always honest, which is something I like about her). She said that I shouldn't just try to hit on hot girls on the street, but should just wait until I meet someone I actually like.

You should stop asking advice from straight girls. It's GIRLS that wait for DUDES to fall off from the sky. It's easy to say to them "wait". Nah, we are MEN here, and we DO NOT WAIT. We GO OUT and find what we like, and take it

She said if I were to ask her to go get coffee with me, and she didn't know me, she would say no, even if I looked like Sylvester Stallone (she thinks he is the hottest thing ever, if that wasn't obvious). Why? Because she wouldn't know me at all. She also wondered why exactly I'm in such a rush.

If I asked your friend out, she would say yes so fucking fast her panties would have to get a gps to know where they are. She is just feeding you bullshit advice

Geez, ok.

Chick I have history with messages me randomly bitching because I don't keep enough contact. I ask what's up, she doesn't reply (predicted) in order to show me her anger/rage/whatever. So, I'm wondering. Obviously things will NEVER heal since I don't feel like becoming whipped any time soon.

Q: Should I let her know why she's a bitch, or do I just disappear as I have been doing for years now?

I figure maybe she'll realize that she needs to be more respectful of people in the future. It will also be somewhat satisfying.

Don't be part of her drama. Just send her a message "OK, I am done with your drama, either you like hanging out with me or you are free to go find someone else that can deal with it. Have a good day"

 

[Miguel]

I don't see that necessarily a bad thing at all. It is of course different, if you feel it yourself as a really negative, but I don't see it as one. I mean you can flirt with everyone, but dating one at a time is a good way to go... At least if you ask me.

I am btw awesome with names, details, and so forth.. as long as they have nothing to do with me or people around me. Basicly for example, if I read a text once, I am most likely able to remember every date in it and what it was referring to, if I need to (and I quite often do, that is part of my job). Or if I check some new English words for work, I am surely going to remember them even if I have seen them once in my life. I still fail in real life what comes to details and personal information. Or I can remember the names, but I seriously can't connect them with faces. I have people I have known over 8 years, and I still don't know their faces, I just recognize their way of clothing, their hair or walking style, but not the faces.

No, it's not a bad thing, but in a way, it kinda shows that I tend to jump on whatever opportunity arises pretty quickly. Granted, most everyone I've dated has lasted at least 3 dates, usually more, but I attribute that to being able to remain calm and keep a conversation going the entire time. I'm generally very self-depricating, but in reality I have a quick wit to me that tends to get me through any rough patches in a date, that lets the rest of the evening go smoothly.

I'm just a bit mystified, as I can't exactly remember ever having a bad first date... and wonder if it's just that I've lucked out this entire time, or if I'm just trying to jump on whoever comes along. (literally and figuratively of course)

I'm rambling again. I'll stop now, I'm delirious from lack of eating, running, and it being 1:30am... I need sleep. Later boys and girls. And wolf.

I suppose I should get some rest before tomorrow, gotta be awake during lunch lol.

 

[Fou-Lu]

So how long does it usually last when a girl says she's never dating again because men are jerks? I've known girls to say it before and all of them gave up on that after a while, but never with a girl I've been interested in.

Then again, knowing my luck she'll go on to be nun, but I figure if I show her not all men are assholes, pigs and cowards I might have a chance anyways. Or in a couple weeks she'll go back to dating assholes. Meh.

 

[AdventureRacing]

Not that this is necessarily a problem (ok maybe a little in the grand scheme of things), I can never get myself looking elsewhere once I have a good date or two with a girl. I know at that point it's nowhere near serious relationship status, but I always get the sense that trying to juggle multiple girls in the initial dating phase would just get too messy.

It's a flawed view I think, since for all I know the girl is likely dating others, but I've never been comfortable with it I suppose. Not that I have any other prospects at the moment, but I'm also not really actively looking after date 1 and a very positive response since then, with 1.5 (lunch) and 2 (movie and/or drinks) on the horizon.

I'm pretty much the same. I'd rather put my effort into that one relationship and see what happens and if it fails start over again.

I can see the benefits of trying to manage more than one woman at once but it wouldn't work for me.

 

[Mendrox]

Well called another girl last night if she's free tomorrow, everything went allright, so that I won't depend on my "problem girl".

That girl was at my place yesterday again, without any other person, we watched the remake of footloose and had some fun. After the movie she talked a bit about that she has bad experience with relationships (out of nowhere...lol) and that she likes to be free at the moment (women and their current feelings) She even told me that she is strong nut with a weak core but she doesn't let anybody near her. Well I said again that I am into her...and guess what? She suddenly told me privat things, things that are very important to her, like that she was the first born woman in the last decades in her family and that because of that she gets everything what she wants and that she is handled like a princess.


I guess that was a point that explaines why she is like that to me sometimes. I didn't kiss her or anything like that (even if that was the point where I would have to do that) but when she was home she wrote a message that I shouldn't tell anybody. I wrote back that I don't give her my keys without reason or say that I am into her when I am not and that she is my queen and not my princess.

If everything breaks and I do something stupid or I notice that it won't work, I will go my own way with another girl (backup plan so that I won't be depressed and stay strong)

 

[mcrae]

Well called another girl last night if she's free tomorrow, everything went allright, so that I won't depend on my "problem girl".

That girl was at my place yesterday again, without any other person, we watched the remake of footloose and had some fun. After the movie she talked a bit about that she has bad experience with relationships (out of nowhere...lol) and that she likes to be free at the moment (women and their current feelings) She even told me that she is strong nut with a weak core but she doesn't let anybody near her. Well I said again that I am into her...and guess what? She suddenly told me privat things, things that are very important to her, like that she was the first born woman in the last decades in her family and that because of that she gets everything what she wants and that she is handled like a princess.


I guess that was a point that explaines why she is like that to me sometimes. I didn't kiss her or anything like that (even if that was the point where I would have to do that) but when she was home she wrote a message that I shouldn't tell anybody. I wrote back that I don't give her my keys without reason or say that I am into her when I am not and that she is my queen and not my princess.

If everything breaks and I do something stupid or I notice that it won't work, I will go my own way with another girl (backup plan so that I won't be depressed and stay strong)

if you've given her your keys but havent kissed her and you messaged her saying shes your queen, i think its too late to not do something(s) stupid

 

[Mendrox]

Well my parents are not at home at the moment and she is everyday at my place, because she is not able to be at home (cause she shares a room with her sister I guess, and her sister has a boyfriend) I gave her my keys so that she gets the feeling for beeing independend. I said that she's my queen because in the evening I messaged her that I won't have much time the next days because of my goals that I have to follow, but that she should support me. So that she's my queen and I am the king, and she liked that, I wanted to get more into her core so that she feels more comfortable so that I will be able to score.

edit: Well we kind of kissed on the mouth nothing really okay, in our friendcircle we do these things sometimes, but she really didn't do it with me at all which bugged me a bit. But when we were drunk we did it often. meh. :/

 

[PflargBlarg]

Hahaha, I'm just going to wait to see BronzeWolf's response to that.

Just wow.

 

[Mendrox]

Hahaha, I'm just going to wait to see BronzeWolf's response to that.

Just wow.

I count on that, that's a really stupid problem. First girl which I can't handle like any other and I don't know why. Actually my game is very advanced and I am able to get every damn girl without any problems. :lol

 

[Hypereides]

Holy SHIT.. who the FUCK tells some chick youre barely EVEN that seriously involved with that shes your ''queen''!!!?

You just threw some C4 onto that shit, son. Might aswell add some gasoline to the fire while youre at it.

This thing is dead, captain.... Worse.... its walking dead yo!!

 

[Discotheque]

I've been seeing a girl for like 2 weeks now. When do I drop the "queen" bomb on her?

 

[Devolution]

I've been seeing a girl for like 2 weeks now. When do I drop the "queen" bomb on her?

When she's caressing your jewels.

 

[Discotheque]

Haha. Seriously Mendrox, no offense mate. But that's the cheesiest thing I've read in a bit. "My Queen"....I'm honestly surprised she hasn't left your keys in the mailbox and ran.

It sounds like you're addicted to the classic "troubled girl" who you want to fix.

edit: or not, she sounds pretty stable actually. I think when you see her in person you should play off that queen comment like it was a big joke or somethin.

 

[EviLore]

Lieutenant, prepare the Crown of Sonnets. Fire on my mark.

 

[Gregorn]

If I have no friends how am I meant to find a girl?

 

[lazybones18]

If I have no friends how am I meant to find a girl?

Kidnapping. It's the only way

 

[Mendrox]

BOMBA haha.

I guess that everyone exaggerates, she said that she is the princess in her family (first girl in a decade) I explicit told her that I have my goals and that I don't need her if she doesn't support and gives me trouble. That queen comment was a joke, she knows that.

She also knows that I don't put up with her shit, she can go and get her own soda/food and so on, not like at her own homeplace where mama and papa give her everything

 

[AdventureRacing]

I know this question is probably asked every single page but i'm trying to think of some decent spots to take out girls to. I tend to like simple things like going to the movies, going to the beach, going out for dinner, going to the zoo etc but i'm trying to branch out from that a bit.

If I have no friends how am I meant to find a girl?

No idea if this is possible for you but i find playing sports has been a great way to meet friends and girls. At my rugby club alone i've made like 50-60 friends. Playing rugby and the drinking and what not that goes on afterwards has been a great way to meet girls.

You don't even have to be good at sports really either.

 

[WARCOCK]

This forum will be forever biased until there is a help thread designed to maintain my forever alone status.

-How to cope with sex while forever alone. (i.e. in depth prostitution and masturbation guides )

-How to more effectively keep women at bay.


Etc, etc...

 

[Hypereides]

BOMBA haha.

I guess that everyone exaggerates, she said that she is the princess in her family (first girl in a decade) I explicit told her that I have my goals and that I don't need her if she doesn't support and gives me trouble. That queen comment was a joke, she knows that.

She also knows that I don't put up with her shit, she can go and get her own soda/food and so on, not like at her own homeplace where mama and papa give her everything

It better be... I almost spit out my whiskey when I read that. Its quality scotch. I dont want it, to go to waste.

In any case, Im relieved if that is true.

 

[AdventureRacing]

It better be... I almost spit out my whiskey when I read that. Its quality scotch. I dont want it, to go to waste.

In any case, Im relieved if that is true.

"There's a special rung in hell reserved for people who waste good scotch. Seeing as how I may be rapping on the door momentarily. I must say, damn good stuff, Sir."

I just finished watching that movie and that's one of my favourite bits in the movie so i enjoyed this post lol.

 

[Xun]

Going to some band night at my old college tonight.

Should be good.

Felt pretty confident and like a badass tonight, which is a huge contrast to how I've felt recently. Probably fed off me when I made my way up there and back.

The event wasn't that great, so me and my friends went to a bar nearby.

Had some 40-something women randomly ask how old we were, and they were chatting with us for a bit.

Once they got back into their conversation I could overhear one of them speak to another saying shit like "Well he's quite a bit younger than you, but he's cute, so why not have a bit of fun?". The conversation went on for a while.

It would seem they were talking about one of us (maybe even me considering they were looking over, more in my direction), but I'm not entirely sure. But I'm 99% sure they were talking about one of us. Nothing happened anyway, but it was hilarious hearing them speak about instinct and what not.

When I was on my way home a bunch of girls seemed to deliberately sit near me (lots of seats on the train), they were damn fine, but I didn't say anything.

Ah well, it was good to get out.

 

[Cameron122]

Sitting outside my room while my roommate gets laid. College at 343 AM woot woot

 

[Hypereides]

"There's a special rung in hell reserved for people who waste good scotch. Seeing as how I may be rapping on the door momentarily. I must say, damn good stuff, Sir."

I just finished watching that movie and that's one of my favourite bits in the movie so i enjoyed this post lol.

I forget... was that Mike Myers? Im generally a movie enthusiast, but that quote slips my mind.

But being thats Inglorius Basterds, I have to admit that this is one of my most favorite songs to listen to:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZE44TDL_C2Y&feature=colike

I was thrilled Quentin Tarantino included it.

Sitting outside my room while my roommate gets laid. College at 343 AM woot woot

I would be so fucking tempted to just knock on the door and join in. I'd do it anyway.

Felt pretty confident and like a badass tonight, which is a huge contrast to how I've felt recently. Probably fed off me when I made my way up there and back.

The event wasn't that great, so me and my friends went to a bar nearby.

Had some 40-something women randomly ask how old we were, and they were chatting with us for a bit.

Once they got back into their conversation I could overhear one of them speak to another saying shit like "Well he's quite a bit younger than you, but he's cute, so why not have a bit of fun?". The conversation went on for a while.

It would seem they were talking about one of us (maybe even me considering they were looking over, more in my direction), but I'm not entirely sure. But I'm 99% sure they were talking about one of us. Nothing happened anyway, but it was hilarious hearing them speak about instinct and what not.

When I was on my way home a bunch of girls seemed to deliberately sit near me (lots of seats on the train), they were damn fine, but I didn't say anything.

Ah well, it was good to get out.

Sounds like a cool night dude.

I would never pass up the opportunity to lay an older attractive woman. They are for the most, skilled in bed gymnastics.

Next time just use something situational to talk about. Youve been to a concert. Talk about the concert to break the ice. Youve been hit on by a cougar. Briefly talk about the cougar etc. etc.

 

[Cameron122]

I would be so fucking tempted to just knock on the door and join in. I'd do it anyway.

Busted down door, they are asleep. What a shame.

 

[AdventureRacing]

I forget... was that Mike Myers? Im generally a movie enthusiast, but that quote slips my mind.

But being thats Inglorius Basterds, I have to admit that this is one of my most favorite songs to listen to:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZE44TDL_C2Y&feature=colike

I was thrilled Quentin Tarantino included it.

Michael Fassbender right before the big shoot out in the bar. Pretty much all the songs in the movire were awesome.

 

[Johnlenham]

Lieutenant, prepare the Crown of Sonnets. Fire on my mark.

AHA yes!

 

[Etrian Oddity]

I would be so fucking tempted to just knock on the door and join in. I'd do it anyway.

The best I ever heard was one one of my roommates knocked on my other roomie's door (while he was slamming some meat), and asked what he did with his herpes cream.

 

[Omegasquash]

The best I ever heard was one one of my roommates knocked on my other roomie's door (while he was slamming some meat), and asked what he did with his herpes cream.

That's....like I wouldn't know whether to finish up and go get in a fight, or finish up and then slap the dude high five.

Really, it's a good one.

 

[MutantCyborg]

Apparently a friend texted this girl I was about to ask out that i was going to do it. I saw her earlier todayand tried to strike up conversation with her between classes. She was acting different that she has in the past. She kinda seemed disinterested when I tried to talk to her and walked infront of me. Is this something shyer girls will do when they are nervous? Whatvshoukd I do?

 

[LosDaddie]

So how long does it usually last when a girl says she's never dating again because men are jerks? I've known girls to say it before and all of them gave up on that after a while, but never with a girl I've been interested in.

That's her way of saying she's not interested in you. That line is a variant of the classic "I'm not looking to date right now", which actually means "I haven't found anyone worth dating right now, especially you".

I mean, it's definitely possible that she just got out of a bad relationship, and wants some free time. But if a girl is interested in you, then there's little chance she would tell you that she never wants to date again.

 

[Omegasquash]

Apparently a friend texted this girl I was about to ask out that i was going to do it. I saw her earlier todayand tried to strike up conversation with her between classes. She was acting different that she has in the past. She kinda seemed disinterested when I tried to talk to her and walked infront of me. Is this something shyer girls will do when they are nervous? Whatvshoukd I do?

A) Slap friend upside the head, and fire them if they're a wingman. This is not middle school (I hope), and that's some weak behavior.

B) She's shy. Just be your charming self and maybe she'll come around. Don't get invested, though.

 

[wizard341]

Revision:
"How's it going *****, my name is Will.
Just out of curiosity, what genre of music are you really into? I'm a bit of an alt-rock and electronic music buff but I'm pretty open to other genres as well."

I'm not going to put too much stake into this girl because A) she is religious and B) she probably won't like me based upon my appearance.

Good on you for not spending too much time on the message. Messages should be feelers - not long paragraphs. 1-2 sentences tops.

However, your content is rather dull. Attractive women get a ton of messages on online dating sites. Think about it from her perspective. If you got 30 messages from average looking women asking what sort of music you like, how many of them would you actually respond to?

Your content needs to be something they haven't answered before. Something silly that makes you stand out from the other boring guys out there.

 

[Atramental]

Good on you for not spending too much time on the message. Messages should be feelers - not long paragraphs. 1-2 sentences tops.

However, your content is rather dull. Attractive women get a ton of messages on online dating sites. Think about it from her perspective. If you got 30 messages from average looking women asking what sort of music you like, how many of them would you actually respond to?

Your content needs to be something they haven't answered before. Something silly that makes you stand out from the other boring guys out there.

I'll keep your advice in mind the next time I send a message to another girl.

And if I don't get a response back it's not a huge loss. I wasn't too emotionally invested in this girl anyways.

 

[low-G]

I've been seeing a girl for like 2 weeks now. When do I drop the "queen" bomb on her?

Wait until she's about to crush you along with the rest of the local population under her heel. Oh wait, that was this /d/ thread I was reading...

The correct answer is...

What was the question?

 

[Hypereides]

This is what I thought of when I read the "my queen" statement.

 

[BronzeWolf]

So how long does it usually last when a girl says she's never dating again because men are jerks?

This is her way of blowing you off. If you've got confidence in your game, pay no heed to these statements. It only takes one dude doing the right things to convince her she wants some dick in her life. It's not more than one girl that has told me "They wanted to be alone for a while" and then came back crying wanting some of this. Good men are hard to find and she better take the offer or forever despair.

I might have a chance anyways

You might have a chance if you show her your dick is existent. You've got to touch touch touch her. As often as you can. And tell her all the awesome things you do and then shut up so she can imagine the rest. Do it often, and do it fast, and she'll be sucking your face in no time.

Well I said again that I am into her

Here you fucked up. Why did you tell her instead of showing her? Did you kiss or held hands before? NO? You are fucked if not

...and guess what? She suddenly told me privat things, things that are very important to her, like that she was the first born woman in the last decades in her family and that because of that she gets everything what she wants and that she is handled like a princess.

Yadda yadda, who fucking cares? We all have stories. You are a man, she is a woman, you can learn each other later.

I guess that was a point that explaines why she is like that to me sometimes. I didn't kiss her or anything like that (even if that was the point where I would have to do that)

You fucked up big time

but when she was home she wrote a message that I shouldn't tell anybody. I wrote back that I don't give her my keys without reason or say that I am into her

Oh you WISH you were into her.

when I am not and that she is my queen and not my princess.

Girlfriends deserve that treatment. She is not your girlfriend, she is just a friend. You fucked up. Big time

Well my parents are not at home at the moment and she is everyday at my place, because she is not able to be at home (cause she shares a room with her sister I guess, and her sister has a boyfriend)

What is she? 11? Why can't she be a her own place? Excuses to use you as free entertainment

I gave her my keys so that she gets the feeling for beeing independend. I said that she's my queen because in the evening I messaged her that I won't have much time the next days because of my goals that I have to follow, but that she should support me.

Still not a reason to call her your queen. You fucked up. Admit it

So that she's my queen and I am the king, and she liked that

Of course she liked it, it strikes her ego

I wanted to get more into her core so that she feels more comfortable so that I will be able to score.

It's never all right for a girl to feel too comfortable around a guy. Comfortable does not generate attraction. She should be feeling like "Oh shit, this guys is so nice but at the same time I don't know if he will just take me and make me his today" all the time you are around her. Like you are just a cave man waiting to push your dick into her, and she will like it. You don't need her to open up big time to score. That will happen after you do it, after you kiss or hold hands. Before? it's just girl friend zone.

But when we were drunk we did it often. meh. :/

Drunk does not count. Lowered inhibitions plus alcohol pretexts invalidate that shit.

BOMBA haha.

I guess that everyone exaggerates, she said that she is the princess in her family (first girl in a decade) I explicit told her that I have my goals and that I don't need her if she doesn't support and gives me trouble. That queen comment was a joke, she knows that.

She also knows that I don't put up with her shit, she can go and get her own soda/food and so on, not like at her own homeplace where mama and papa give her everything

That is no reason to call her your queen
That kind of treatment is for girlfriends only

Apparently a friend texted this girl I was about to ask out that i was going to do it. I saw her earlier todayand tried to strike up conversation with her between classes. She was acting different that she has in the past. She kinda seemed disinterested when I tried to talk to her and walked infront of me. Is this something shyer girls will do when they are nervous? Whatvshoukd I do?

Shy girls? try asshole girls. Why haven't you asked her out yet? Out of the blue, just do it.