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[Aegus]

How long have you known this girl? You are treating this friendship much like a relationship. You sound like a clingy friend.

You really shouldn't say anything to her at all. It's her right to ignore you and she doesn't have to respond to anything you send her. Her not doing so is likely purposeful. You expressed a liking for her beyond friendship and now are continuing to ask her out on "friendly" dates as a friend.

If it were me, I'd think you were a little creepy. You already expressed you had interest in me beyond friendship, why would I want to be your friend? Why would I go out with you knowing you like me?

If someone doesn't want to be your friend, tough luck. Don't get upset at her for the effort your putting forth. Not everybody in life is going to want to be your friend.

My advice would be to not say anything to her about it. If you guys have any set plans, follow through with them and then never contact her again. If she never contacts you then you know she doesn't really care about you at all.

You are taking this way too seriously. You need to back off at the very least.

Cheers for this. Yeah after having a think about it and some time I've realised that I've been very unreasonable towards her and I'm not even acting like I did last year towards her. I'll hangout with my cousin and if I see her and she talks to me I'll just act normal.

So we'll see how it goes.

 

[exhume]

Woah, didn't know Shia could look so hot!

Sorry, had to get that out there. As you were.

He is starting to look like Edward Norton.

I'm okay with that.

 

[MutantCyborg]

How would you react if you got a note from your ex explaining why they liked you, and what you did for him during the time you two dated?

I wrote a note the other day explaining why I liked her, described the situations she helped me through and what that meant to me. Something I currently don't have the chance to do to her face unfortunately. She helped me through a lot, and I think I will always like her because of what happened during our 5 months together.

I've had friends say to not give it to her and I've had friends say give it to her. I want to make sure I'm not making a mistake and pushing her further away or coming off as creepy to her. I realize what I wrote feels like it comes straight out of a love movie, but I felt so much better after writing this note.

What should I do? Throw the note away or give it to her?

 

[BladeWorker]

What should I do? Throw the note away or give it to her?

Under no circumstances should you ever give her this note.

It's nice that writing it made you feel better - take that weight off your shoulders and use its contents to help you learn what works in a relationship, but also don't blind yourself to what did not.

If in keeping the note you are preventing yourself from moving on, burn it. It's all well and good to have fond memories of a former flame, but if you can't focus on your present and look forward to your future as a result, you're doing more harm to yourself than good.

 

[MutantCyborg]

Under no circumstances should you ever give her this note.

It's nice that writing it made you feel better - take that weight off your shoulders and use its contents to help you learn what works in a relationship, but also don't blind yourself to what did not.

If in keeping the note you are preventing yourself from moving on, burn it. It's all well and good to have fond memories of a former flame, but if you can't focus on your present and look forward to your future as a result, you're doing more harm to yourself than good.

Gotcha, I threw it away. I didn't want to burn it, but there is no way I'm fishing it out of the trash at this point.

 

[shanshan310]

It's obnoxious. Even beyond "flipping out", accusing someone of.. "bragging"?

I can't imagine a world where I'd think it was bragging for a guy to mention his girlfriend.

But I'll move on, and avoid mentioning the fact that sometimes I'm posting in the same thread as my girlfriend, lol.

I don't see why people are flipping out, I mean several other gaffers have mentioned that their so posts on gaf. Its really cute. I'm kinda jealous really all mine does is lurk.

Spoiler

not a stealth brag

 

[scitek]

Hey guys, I'm curious about your opinions on this. I have a somewhat unusual friendship with a girl. Ever since last April, practically every day I've shared messages with her, but it's been strictly through Twitter DMs. She works in tv, has a gig with the local ESPN affiliate, and is unbelievably attractive (she finished top 5 in trying to represent her state in the Miss USA pageant last year), and has told me before there's not another person on the planet she talks to as frequently as me. On the flip side, I'm a movie critic for a niche website, and have to have a crappy part-time job to keep myself afloat.

She lives about 5 hrs away from me, but she travels at times, and we've discussed having lunch the next time she's up my way. We've also joked at times about how odd our friendship is, but we make each other laugh, and that's really all there is to it. We did consider chatting over Skype, but I think there's something about being limited to 140 characters that's more fun... or something, I really don't know why we haven't. Anyway, I was wondering if anyone had heard of anything similar happening before.

 

[Mahonay]

Hey guys, I'm curious about your opinions on this. I have a somewhat unusual friendship with a girl. Ever since last April, practically every day I've shared messages with her, but it's been strictly through Twitter DMs. She works in tv, has a gig with the local ESPN affiliate, and is unbelievably attractive (she finished top 5 in trying to represent her state in the Miss USA pageant last year), and has told me before there's not another person on the planet she talks to as frequently as me. On the flip side, I'm a movie critic for a niche website, and have to have a crappy part-time job to keep myself afloat.

She lives about 5 hrs away from me, but she travels at times, and we've discussed having lunch the next time she's up my way. We've also joked at times about how odd our friendship is, but we make each other laugh, and that's really all there is to it. We did consider chatting over Skype, but I think there's something about being limited to 140 characters that's more fun... or something, I really don't know why we haven't. Anyway, I was wondering if anyone had heard of anything similar happening before.

People are just people. Unless they're some egotistical megastar there's no reason to interact with that person any differently than with any other friend you have. Just treat it normally and there's nothing to stress about.

I can't really answer the question you asked but I can say you should absolutely go for it. If the only thing stopping you is the fact you feel like a peon in comparison to her, the only thing holding you back is yourself.

The other question would be is if you really want to try for a long distance relationship, or maybe you're just thinking of something more casual?

 

[scitek]

People are just people. Unless they're some egotistical megastar there's no reason to interact with that person any differently than with any other friend you have. Just treat it normally and there's nothing to stress about.

I can't really answer the question you asked but I can say you should absolutely go for it. If the only thing stopping you is the fact you feel like a peon in comparison to her, the only thing holding you back is yourself.

The other question would be is if you really want to try for a long distance relationship, or maybe you're just thinking of something more casual?

Well, I really don't know if she sees me that way, and I don't think either of us likes the idea of long distance relationships. I genuinely like talking to her, but am constantly afraid of overstepping my bounds. I don't think there's any harm in meeting face to face, and when I've brought it up, she says things like "well hopefully I'll make it back there sometime soon," so it'll probably happen at some point. She's seen videos and pictures of me, so it's not like she doesn't have any idea what to expect, but I think we're both kind of interested in seeing where exactly this is headed, if anywhere.

 

[BladeWorker]

Well, I really don't know if she sees me that way, and I don't think either of us likes the idea of long distance relationships. I genuinely like talking to her, but am constantly afraid of overstepping my bounds. I don't think there's any harm in meeting face to face, and when I've brought it up, she says things like "well hopefully I'll make it back there sometime soon," so it'll probably happen at some point. She's seen videos and pictures of me, so it's not like she doesn't have any idea what to expect, but I think we're both kind of interested in seeing where exactly this is headed, if anywhere.

This is going to sound harsh, but I fear you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

I've said it before and I'll say it again: you don't build a relationship 140 characters at a time.

Convert your interactions to another medium. Skype, in person, whatever. Just something that allows you to string a sentence together without having to omit the vowels.

If you want whatever you have to go anywhere, you gotta make at least THAT move. If she's not really interested in you, she'll be reluctant - or won't bother following up - to contact you in another format.

In that case, move on. As it is, I doubt that someone in TV who travels a lot and lives five hours from you is going to have enough time to devote to any kind of concrete relationship, so just keep your expectations in perspective.

 

[scitek]

This is going to sound harsh, but I fear you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

I've said it before and I'll say it again: you don't build a relationship 140 characters at a time.

Convert your interactions to another medium. Skype, in person, whatever. Just something that allows you to string a sentence together without having to omit the vowels.

If you want whatever you have to go anywhere, you gotta make at least THAT move. If she's not really interested in you, she'll be reluctant - or won't bother following up - to contact you in another format.

In that case, move on. As it is, I doubt that someone in TV who travels a lot and lives five hours from you is going to have enough time to devote to any kind of concrete relationship, so just keep your expectations in perspective.

Noted, but I really (and I mean this) don't have any expectations whatsoever. I'm pretty sure this isn't going in that direction. I don't think of her romantically when we talk because we don't talk like two people that have a thing for each other, we talk like two friends that have similar senses of humor, and that's what I like, really. She's funny, and she does things like take time to watch my work and give opinions on it, and encourage me to keep working hard. It's nice, really.

 

[Mahonay]

Noted, but I really (and I mean this) don't have any expectations whatsoever. I'm pretty sure this isn't going in that direction. I don't think of her romantically when we talk because we don't talk like two people that have a thing for each other, we talk like two friends that have similar senses of humor, and that's what I like, really. She's funny, and she does things like take time to watch my work and give opinions on it, and encourage me to keep working hard. It's nice, really.

Not going to lie, I've had plenty of romantic relationships that have started out just like that. I've used humor and mutual respect in my favor many times.

But like BladeWorker said, you need to make move for at least Skype chat. In the couple of times I've gotten together with girls that I met long distance things really didn't get moving in that direction until I made that move. Usually you'll be able to tell if there's a real attraction there the very first time you Skype and the both of you start blushing like fools. Same thing as when you meet someone in person, you're either attracted or not. It's pretty simple.

It does sound like you're at least interested in a fling of some sort and that can't hurt as long as you know what the real deal is, that it probably won't end up being much more than that.

Good luck to you sir in whichever decision you make.

 

[Realyst]

Hello LadyGAF,

I posted a thread yesterday regarding the situation that I'm in. Check below:

GAF! I've Found My True Love! But...

Basically, I'm gonna have to break up with my gf of 2 years. My questions are 1) How should I do it, and 2) how big of an asshole will I be to her?

I don't want her to hate me for life, but after 2 years in the relationship I don't see how she'll forgive me. What can I do?

 

[shanshan310]

So, my boyfriend has this friend at uni who buys him lunch every day. Like, she's been taking him out for lunch for over a year now. I honestly can't see any possibility of them being... you know, but something about it still makes me feel very uncomfortable. I kinda approached him, mentioning I thought it was a bit weird but he thinks I'm jealous that I don't have any "rich friends". To me there's kind of a difference between being generous and buying someone lunch every so often and having them completely rely on you for food. Maybe I just don't understand generosity.

 

[KungFuBill]

Hello LadyGAF,

I posted a thread yesterday regarding the situation that I'm in. Check below:

GAF! I've Found My True Love! But...

Basically, I'm gonna have to break up with my gf of 2 years. My questions are 1) How should I do it, and 2) how big of an asshole will I be to her?

I don't want her to hate me for life, but after 2 years in the relationship I don't see how she'll forgive me. What can I do?

Tough call, but ask yourself: if it wasn't for the fact that The One wanted you back, would you still be considering breaking up with GF of 2 years? Are you happy with her? Or could you see yourself breaking up anyway, later down the line (if The One wasn't involved at all)?

It's not worth ending a perfectly good relationship on the off chance that another one may work out better. You and The One split once already...who's to say it won't happen again?

I admit, I only read the short version and skimmed the rest, so if you addressed this or I've got it totally wrong ... Sorry!

EDIT:
Okay I read through and here's the important part of your tale - BOLDED:

Fast forward to now. I’m still in my relationship with my current gf. She loves me, but unfortunately I never could say the same. The fact of the matter is she pursued me, not the other way around. Don’t get me wrong, she’s beautiful, sweet, and intelligent. I just don’t think that she’s for me.

You already say she's not the one for you, you should tell her before things get too intense for her (after 2 years it's likely she is already there) and she starts planning a future with you. It'll be tough (I've been there) but the right thing is usually the more difficult. Don't even need to mention the other stuff, what I quoted above is enough of a reason for you to move on (even if it's not actually with your ex).

 

[Realyst]

Tough call, but ask yourself: if it wasn't for the fact that The One wanted you back, would you still be considering breaking up with GF of 2 years? Are you happy with her? Or could you see yourself breaking up anyway, later down the line (if The One wasn't involved at all)?

It's not worth ending a perfectly good relationship on the off chance that another one may work out better. You and The One split once already...who's to say it won't happen again?

I admit, I only read the short version and skimmed the rest, so if you addressed this or I've got it totally wrong ... Sorry!

EDIT:
Okay I read through and here's the important part of your tale - BOLDED:

You already say she's not the one for you, you should tell her before things get too intense for her (after 2 years it's likely she is already there) and she starts planning a future with you. It'll be tough (I've been there) but the right thing is usually the more difficult. Don't even need to mention the other stuff, what I quoted above is enough of a reason for you to move on (even if it's not actually with your ex).

Thanks for your reply. Before I learned what The One truly felt, I was already considering leaving her. The reason I waited all of this time was because she was really having a tough time in her life. I believed that leaving her would truly destroy her, especially then. I also felt that I might possibly love her afterall, I just couldn't see it (I've been really stressed out since I've been in grad school and balancing a demanding full-time job).

Most likely, I would've eventually left her. But now, I know that I must. I'm just concerned with her well-being.

 

[Alucrid]

So, my boyfriend has this friend at uni who buys him lunch every day. Like, she's been taking him out for lunch for over a year now. I honestly can't see any possibility of them being... you know, but something about it still makes me feel very uncomfortable. I kinda approached him, mentioning I thought it was a bit weird but he thinks I'm jealous that I don't have any "rich friends". To me there's kind of a difference between being generous and buying someone lunch every so often and having them completely rely on you for food. Maybe I just don't understand generosity.

Nah, it's weird. But still, free lunch.

 

[KungFuBill]

^Sounds like she MIGHT be trying to 'get on' your man Shan, but what man refuses free lunch eh? It may be totally innocent though, in fact it likely is, but important thing is you have no reason to doubt HIS intentions right?

Realyst:
Sounds like you've been thinking about this for a while, at least your sole reason for splitting with this girl isn't purely to get with your ex. It shouldn't be. Chances are she may actually decide to stay with her BF and you should give her some time to decide for herself what she wants to do about her situation.

In fact, the best advice I can give you once you break it off have some time to yourself to adjust back into being single for a while.

All too often people jump from relationship to relationship without being aware of who *they* are and what they want. It's only natural to change your behavious slightly when you've been with somebody for a long time (2 years fits into that category).

As for your GF, she'll be worse off in another 2 years when you end up resenting the reasons you stayed with her (guilt, concern for her well-being) and breaking it off anyway. Best to bring it up now and she may be stronger than you think. If she's that fragile then she needs help, not a relationship to base her entire happiness on.

Good luck Realyst!

 

[The_Hitcher89]

On the subject of facal hair, my shaver ran out of battery leaving me with a 3-day beard and a 9-day moustache. Stupidest thing I've ever seen

 

[Alucrid]

This is what I prefer.

I don't like loud clothing with a lot going on, that's pretty girly to me.

You're a man, you don't need pretty designs on your t-shirt., and you can look nice and put together without being flashy.

Varying ones wardrobe doesn't equate to wearing gaudy clothing. I'd say that yes, switching things up is good cause people probably notice if you constantly wear the same thing.

 

[shanshan310]

No reason to doubt him at all, no. ^^ He graduates at the end of the year. I suppose I can wait it out till then when they won't be eating lunch together. Haha. Still kinda "heeerm" about it though. Maybe because he has a habit of making friends and then getting surprised when they start asking him out.

On the subject of facal hair, my shaver ran out of battery leaving me with a 3-day beard and a 9-day moustache. Stupidest thing I've ever seen

Post pics!

On a serious note, disposable razors to fill the gap?

 

[FallingEdge]

I really, really, really, wish I can grow quality facial hair. My beard would be so dope ;_;

 

[dudeworld]

No reason to doubt him at all, no. ^^ He graduates at the end of the year. I suppose I can wait it out till then when they won't be eating lunch together. Haha. Still kinda "heeerm" about it though.



Post pics

On a serious note, disposable razors to fill the gap?

you should tell him to order A LOT of food when she buys for him. Then he can bring it home and you guys can eat that food and never have to buy groceries again

 

[shanshan310]

you should tell him to order A LOT of food when she buys for him. Then he can bring it home and you guys can eat that food and never have to buy groceries again

Its ingenious!

 

[KungFuBill]

Yep, sounds like the best thing to do about lunch-girl, just wait it out. If they've been lunching for so long, wiating until the end of the year is nothing.

Also agree Re: disposable razors, I ALWAYS keep a few spare in the bathroom cupboard! So glad I'm not prone to facial hair!


On an unrelated note, I'm totally petrified - I've been with my SO for 8 months now and we've done the meeting friends and family dinners etc. Unusual for me, I actually want to see a future here (and can, when I let myself). I really want to drop the L-bomb after the cinema tonight but it's such unfamiliar ground, as I'm usually the more stand-offish in a relationship.

So do I just spill it or go all out and explain all about the above?

Help/advice would be appreciated. Do guys even want to hear this after a couple of months? I want to get it out there.

 

[Omegasquash]

Yep, sounds like the best thing to do about lunch-girl, just wait it out. If they've been lunching for so long, wiating until the end of the year is nothing.

Also agree Re: disposable razors, I ALWAYS keep a few spare in the bathroom cupboard! So glad I'm not prone to facial hair!


On an unrelated note, I'm totally petrified - I've been with my SO for 8 months now and we've done the meeting friends and family dinners etc. Unusual for me, I actually want to see a future here (and can, when I let myself). I really want to drop the L-bomb after the cinema tonight but it's such unfamiliar ground, as I'm usually the more stand-offish in a relationship.

So do I just spill it or go all out and explain all about the above?

Help/advice would be appreciated. Do guys even want to hear this after a couple of months? I want to get it out there.

I figure it's easy to know after a few months if you're a proper match or no. You can put it out there, and regardless of whether or not you hear it back, just keep being yourself. That way, nothing changes an already good thing, no?

 

[Realyst]

^Sounds like she MIGHT be trying to 'get on' your man Shan, but what man refuses free lunch eh? It may be totally innocent though, in fact it likely is, but important thing is you have no reason to doubt HIS intentions right?

Realyst:
Sounds like you've been thinking about this for a while, at least your sole reason for splitting with this girl isn't purely to get with your ex. It shouldn't be. Chances are she may actually decide to stay with her BF and you should give her some time to decide for herself what she wants to do about her situation.

In fact, the best advice I can give you once you break it off have some time to yourself to adjust back into being single for a while.

All too often people jump from relationship to relationship without being aware of who *they* are and what they want. It's only natural to change your behavious slightly when you've been with somebody for a long time (2 years fits into that category).

As for your GF, she'll be worse off in another 2 years when you end up resenting the reasons you stayed with her (guilt, concern for her well-being) and breaking it off anyway. Best to bring it up now and she may be stronger than you think. If she's that fragile then she needs help, not a relationship to base her entire happiness on.

Good luck Realyst!

Thanks a lot Bill! I guess I need to have faith in her.

You're right, I do need to be single for a while.

 

[The_Hitcher89]

Post pics!

On a serious note, disposable razors to fill the gap?

Nah, its recharging so I'll trim the tache in an hour or two. Quite enjoying my time as the leather chap-wearer from the Village People

 

[BladeWorker]

Yep, sounds like the best thing to do about lunch-girl, just wait it out. If they've been lunching for so long, wiating until the end of the year is nothing.

Also agree Re: disposable razors, I ALWAYS keep a few spare in the bathroom cupboard! So glad I'm not prone to facial hair!


On an unrelated note, I'm totally petrified - I've been with my SO for 8 months now and we've done the meeting friends and family dinners etc. Unusual for me, I actually want to see a future here (and can, when I let myself). I really want to drop the L-bomb after the cinema tonight but it's such unfamiliar ground, as I'm usually the more stand-offish in a relationship.

So do I just spill it or go all out and explain all about the above?

Help/advice would be appreciated. Do guys even want to hear this after a couple of months? I want to get it out there.

It'll happen when it happens. If you feel it let it out. Just try to do it in a way that doesn't push your SO to say it back if they're not yet feelin' it.

And don't freak out if you don't hear it back right away. Some people take a little time to absorb and respond. That said, if you go a couple weeks and there's been no response, have a "so, what's up" chat, to figure out what's going through your heads and get on the same page, if at all possible.

 

[Hylian7]

Cross-posting from Dating-Age, I'll have to tell the full story though.

Last week I was going to ask out this girl in my calculus class. We had a test one day that week, I sat down at this table outside the classroom when I was done. A few minutes later, she comes out and sits two seats away from me at the same table. We were talking for a while about the test and stuff, I didn't want to rush it. Suddenly, this other guy finishes his test and comes out and sits at that seat between us. All 3 of us are talking about the test for a while, then he notices she's occasionally texting on her iPhone, which she sets on the table. One time when she sets it down, he picks up the phone and tries to slide the slider and unlock it, but accidentally hits the screen black button on it. He's like "How do I do this?" and she unlocks the phone for him and says "What were you trying to do anyway?" He says "I was trying to put my number in it." This girl that was standing there says "You know he's asking you out, right?" She realizes what's going on now, and he invites her for lunch or dinner or something, and SHE SAYS YES. I nearly knocked over magazine racks in rage.

Fast forward to this week, she doesn't seem to be actively talking to him, but he's flirting with her like no other, but her responses seem like she's just being polite. Either that or she's shy, I'm not sure. For instance, today after class was over, he walks by her and drops a note in her hands, she's like "Haha....thanks..." I didn't get to see her read it though.

So, based on what we know here:

1. Do you think she is just shy or actually not interested in him?
2. Should I go for it anyway? Dating-Age seems to think I should, but I want to get more opinions on this.

 

[BladeWorker]

Cross-posting from Dating-Age, I'll have to tell the full story though.

Last week I was going to ask out this girl in my calculus class. We had a test one day that week, I sat down at this table outside the classroom when I was done. A few minutes later, she comes out and sits two seats away from me at the same table. We were talking for a while about the test and stuff, I didn't want to rush it. Suddenly, this other guy finishes his test and comes out and sits at that seat between us. All 3 of us are talking about the test for a while, then he notices she's occasionally texting on her iPhone, which she sets on the table. One time when she sets it down, he picks up the phone and tries to slide the slider and unlock it, but accidentally hits the screen black button on it. He's like "How do I do this?" and she unlocks the phone for him and says "What were you trying to do anyway?" He says "I was trying to put my number in it." This girl that was standing there says "You know he's asking you out, right?" She realizes what's going on now, and he invites her for lunch or dinner or something, and SHE SAYS YES. I nearly knocked over magazine racks in rage.

Fast forward to this week, she doesn't seem to be actively talking to him, but he's flirting with her like no other, but her responses seem like she's just being polite. Either that or she's shy, I'm not sure. For instance, today after class was over, he walks by her and drops a note in her hands, she's like "Haha....thanks..." I didn't get to see her read it though.

So, based on what we know here:

1. Do you think she is just shy or actually not interested in him?
2. Should I go for it anyway? Dating-Age seems to think I should, but I want to get more opinions on this.

Am I reading this right: Some other dude jumped in between your physical space in a conversation and is running her hot (and presumably, the moment she responds, cold) and put you in Mr Forgotten space, and you still want to go for it?

That's courageous, dude, but I wouldn't advocate it.

Let's assume they went on that date. Let's also assume by her response that it didn't go as planned, at least on her end. But he's still playing.

It matters not whether she's shy or uninterested, her attention won't be focused on you as long as he's focused on her.

Chalk this one up to bad timing, next time close the physical gap when you're having a conversation with someone with whom you're attracted (not smell-my-breath close, just close enough that someone doesn't feel that it would be acceptable to cut in), and hey, if you're single again by the time you discover she's still available and you're still interested, take another shot at that point.

For now, let Smooth Moves finish his play, because stepping back in on him will create more drama than it's worth. If he's really the sort of guy your description makes him out to be, you may not be waiting that long.

 

[Hylian7]

Am I reading this right: Some other dude jumped in between your physical space in a conversation and is running her hot (and presumably, the moment she responds, cold) and put you in Mr Forgotten space, and you still want to go for it?

That's courageous, dude, but I wouldn't advocate it.

Let's assume they went on that date. Let's also assume by her response that it didn't go as planned, at least on her end. But he's still playing.

It matters not whether she's shy or uninterested, her attention won't be focused on you as long as he's focused on her.

Chalk this one up to bad timing, next time close the physical gap when you're having a conversation with someone with whom you're attracted (not smell-my-breath close, just close enough that someone doesn't feel that it would be acceptable to cut in), and hey, if you're single again by the time you discover she's still available and you're still interested, take another shot at that point.

For now, let Smooth Moves finish his play, because stepping back in on him will create more drama than it's worth. If he's really the sort of guy your description makes him out to be, you may not be waiting that long.

That's pretty much what happened. Thanks, I'll see what happens tomorrow/the next few days.

 

[Rentahamster]

Some help, please.

Give me your recommendations for a hair product that protects your hair from thermal damage due to flat-iron/curling iron/blow drying, as well as gives your hair a nice post-styling sheen and softness.

Also, is there a difference in products that say they are specifically for flat-ironing, or specifically for blow drying? Seems like it would be the same thing.

 

[chiQ]

Some help, please.

Give me your recommendations for a hair product that protects your hair from thermal damage due to flat-iron/curling iron/blow drying, as well as gives your hair a nice post-styling sheen and softness.

Also, is there a difference in products that say they are specifically for flat-ironing, or specifically for blow drying? Seems like it would be the same thing.

It doesn't protect, so much as repair, but it's bloody magic stuff:



You put it in after shampooing, and as soon as all hair is coated you rinse it out again. No fuss, no waiting. As mentioned, magic.

 

[Rentahamster]

It doesn't protect, so much as repair, but it's bloody magic stuff:



You put it in after shampooing, and as soon as all hair is coated you rinse it out again. No fuss, no waiting. As mentioned, magic.

Thanks for the recommendation!

Hmm, I wonder if I should have posted this in the girl-gaf thread instead. Reading through the first page, this thread seems like it's supposed to be more for problems that dudes have with women, lol...

Plus, the other one is bumped more often.

 

[Zoe]

Thanks for the recommendation!

Hmm, I wonder if I should have posted this in the girl-gaf thread instead. Reading through the first page, this thread seems like it's supposed to be more for problems that dudes have with women, lol...

Plus, the other one is bumped more often.

Fashion/Make-up/Accessories thread would be more appropriate, but you have a higher chance of getting replies in Girl-Age.

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=437880

 

[chiQ]

Not from me. I don't read it.

 

[SteveWinwood]

Someone help me with tweezing my eyebrows. I just let them run rampant for a long time and now I kinda wanna keep them in check a tad more. I don't know where to start on the insides. Line it up with my nose somehow? I also have lots of stragglers below on the outsides. I don't know whether to just get rid of them or not, I'm worried it will make the whole brow look too "clean". I 'spose I can post pics if needed.

 

[chiQ]

Someone help me with tweezing my eyebrows. I just let them run rampant for a long time and now I kinda wanna keep them in check a tad more. I don't know where to start on the insides. Line it up with my nose somehow? I also have lots of stragglers below on the outsides. I don't know whether to just get rid of them or not, I'm worried it will make the whole brow look too "clean". I 'spose I can post pics if needed.

With women I think the idea is you line up outer, lower corner of nose, outer corner of eye, and outer end of brow, in a diagonal line across your cheek. I have no idea if there are different guidelines for men.

 

[BladeWorker]

Someone help me with tweezing my eyebrows. I just let them run rampant for a long time and now I kinda wanna keep them in check a tad more. I don't know where to start on the insides. Line it up with my nose somehow? I also have lots of stragglers below on the outsides. I don't know whether to just get rid of them or not, I'm worried it will make the whole brow look too "clean". I 'spose I can post pics if needed.

Go get your brows done by an esthetician. They don't judge. After all, they see a thousand womens' hoo-has in a year.

Describe to her your ideal, what's important to you (no unibrow please), and then let her do her thing. (Replace "her" with "him" if you like, though I know of few male estheticians).

Once you have it done a single time, it's easier to maintain. And nobody but you has to know that you got them done by a pro. It's fairly inexpensive, and most estheticians are happy to give you instruction on how to make yourself look good. Buy one get lesson free!

 

[scitek]

A few weeks ago I posted about a girl that I've developed a friendship with over the past year, but that all of our communication has been solely via Twitter DMs. I was about to get around to trying to moving things along to a more personal level, but turns out I won't have to. Today she messages me saying "I don't want you to find out on Twitter like everyone else, but we're going to be friends in real life!" She just landed a job with Fox Sports and is moving to Atlanta, where I live. Shit just got real.

 

[Mechazawa]

Hey woah, this is pretty dead.

I call upon the wisdom of girl/lady gaf, in case any of them bother to see this, to ask them a question:

Splitting the bill on the first date. What's your opinion on that?

 

[Devolution]

Hey woah, this is pretty dead.

I call upon the wisdom of girl/lady gaf, in case any of them bother to see this, to ask them a question:

Splitting the bill on the first date. What's your opinion on that?

Sounds fair to me. Any girl who balks at that is entitled.

 

[JumpingTheGun]

Sounds fair to me. Any girl who balks at that is entitled.

Please marry me now.

 

[The Anti-Monitor]

If he offers to pay I let him, but I always think the proper thing is to suggest to split it, at the very least

 

[Pixel Pete]

My current partner insisted she pay for the bill herself on our first date <3

 

[Mechazawa]

Well, that makes me feel a little better.

I've been second guessing myself lately because the prospect of "it's on the onus of the person asking the other person out to cover everything or find a way to make an evening cost free" doesn't seem...totally unreasonable.

 

[chiQ]

Hey woah, this is pretty dead.

I call upon the wisdom of girl/lady gaf, in case any of them bother to see this, to ask them a question:

Splitting the bill on the first date. What's your opinion on that?

Not a problem. I tend to pay for meals I initiate, but if a guy wants to split the tab with me I'm hardly going to complain

 

[Samara]

Hey woah, this is pretty dead.

I call upon the wisdom of girl/lady gaf, in case any of them bother to see this, to ask them a question:

Splitting the bill on the first date. What's your opinion on that?

If you invited her, you're supposed to pay

 

[Kisaya]

Hey woah, this is pretty dead.

I call upon the wisdom of girl/lady gaf, in case any of them bother to see this, to ask them a question:

Splitting the bill on the first date. What's your opinion on that?

There's no problem on splitting the bill, I wouldn't expect anyone to treat me. But if he insists then... sure why not ;3