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How do you guys deal with loneliness?

I was "okay" with it for a long time, but it's been really rough for the past several months. Seeing nothing but couples when I'm walking home at night, having all of my friends in relationships, etc... Shit makes me feel invisible, which I essentially am to guys, and having to live with this "empty pit" sensation for the rest of my life is honestly going to drive me to an early grave.
 
How do you guys deal with loneliness?

I'm suited for solitude, I rarely experience loneliness, and when I do I'm reminded that there's a reason that I live my life this way.

Though I have friends and family that are usually there when I need them, if I didn't have that it would be hard.
 
So... you taught him right?

I'm not sure I would be telling every gay guy that they need to get into the hook-up culture so they can get some experience. I'm certainly not greatly experienced in that department. I would think an open mind and willingness is more important than a resume.

I tried but you have to explain too much and some things will never change. the worst in my personal case were:

.- He thought anal intercourse is done with a bit of saliva and maybe without any if you rub bodies long enough.

.- He thought once it's in, you gotta do it as fast and hard as you can (you know, porn movies show that, so that must be it.)

.- He though he was good at sucking cock while the truth was, he was just using his hand, aka masturbating me, I was like "Hey! men come when masturbated, you know?". To be good at blowjobs, you have to master the art of not letting your teeth touch or even hurt the penis and you must be able to take as much without smashing the penis against the back of your throat, as it hurts when you try to grab as much as you can, even though you don't have more place to fit it in, but I am no expert so I don't know ;).

all things said, nice guy but bad lover my ex, sorry to say.

I really doubt he talks english, I'd had more luck with spanish.

more luck? I am sure he'd understand every single word, they just can.
 
I tried but you have to explain too much and some things will never change. the worst in my personal case were:

.- He thought anal intercourse is done with a bit of saliva and maybe without any if you rub bodies long enough.
.- He thought once it's in, you gotta do it as fast and hard as you can (you know, porn movies show that, so that must be it.)
.- He though he was good at sucking cock while the truth was, he was just using his hand, aka masturbating me, I was like "Hey! men come when masturbated, you know?". To be good at blowjobs, you have to master the art of not letting your teeth touch or even hurt the penis and you must be able to take as much without smashing the penis against the back of your throat, as it hurts when you try to grab as much as you can, even though you don't have more place to fit it in, but I am no expert so I don't know ;).

all things said, nice guy but bad lover my ex, sorry to say.
Maybe it's just me, but it sounds like your ex was exceptionally ignorant. Even at 16, I don't think I'd ever reach such conclusions, but...everyone is different, I suppose.

But you can be inexperienced and open-minded or "knowledgeable". I know what I want and how I want it; it's just the getting it that's the problem. :p On OkCupid, my choices seem to be: "straight" men in their late 50s, the morbidly obese, or men wearing women's clothing (some claiming to be transwomen still identifying as men). Unfortunately, none of those are my type. I've had no luck with Grindr, either, although I missed a message by a ridiculously hot guy who later blocked me. :(

It can get frustrating sometimes, especially when guys don't seem to find you attractive, but I'm learning to be patient. I'm only 21, after all... I'm sure I can find myself someone to be in a relationship with (or have sort sort of physical contact with, at least) one day.
 
I was "okay" with it for a long time, but it's been really rough for the past several months. Seeing nothing but couples when I'm walking home at night, having all of my friends in relationships, etc... Shit makes me feel invisible, which I essentially am to guys, and having to live with this "empty pit" sensation for the rest of my life is honestly going to drive me to an early grave.

Don't know why man, you're pretty handsome. Maybe they're too intimidated to approach?

I tried but you have to explain too much and some things will never change. the worst in my personal case were:

all things said, nice guy but bad lover my ex, sorry to say.

Yikes, he does sound really bad. Some of that is just really, really bad ignorance and an insistence on not listening.
 
How can you call yourself a transwoman and identify as male?
That's a very good question. I would say that they were transgendered in the sense that they were more comfortable with embracing a female gender identity, but at the same time, I guess they were also content with their sex...? It sounds to me more like people early on in their transitioning and still confused about the details. :P Who knows.
 
Maybe it's just me, but it sounds like your ex was exceptionally ignorant. Even at 16, I don't think I'd ever reach such conclusions, but...everyone is different, I suppose.

But you can be inexperienced and open-minded or "knowledgeable". I know what I want and how I want it; it's just the getting it that's the problem. :p On OkCupid, my choices seem to be: "straight" men in their late 50s, the morbidly obese, or men wearing women's clothing (some claiming to be transwomen still identifying as men). Unfortunately, none of those are my type. I've had no luck with Grindr, either, although I missed a message by a ridiculously hot guy who later blocked me. :(

It can get frustrating sometimes, especially when guys don't seem to find you attractive, but I'm learning to be patient. I'm only 21, after all... I'm sure I can find myself someone to be in a relationship with (or have sort sort of physical contact with, at least) one day.

Don't worry, I first started having sex when I was 21 (I'm 27 now) so everything comes in time.

How can you call yourself a transwoman and identify as male?

I'm no expert but from what I gathered there are different "layers" when it come to gender:

- Physical gender: whether you physically are male/female (ie genatelia)
- Gender identity: one's internal, personal sense of being a man or a woman
- Gender expression: the way you express your gender
- Sexual identity: what you are sexually attracted to
 
If you are actually a transwoman your gender is female. Seems very confusing or misleading to use male. Just put the fact you're transgendered and what parts you have in your profile.
 
Maybe it's just me, but it sounds like your ex was exceptionally ignorant. Even at 16, I don't think I'd ever reach such conclusions, but...everyone is different, I suppose.

Yikes, he does sound really bad. Some of that is just really, really bad ignorance and an insistence on not listening.

well it wasn't THAT bad because sometimes.. it worked pretty well and I had some real pleasure. We had a mirror hanging in the wall to the side of the bed.

I really miss having a boyfriend and watch him possessing me and vice versa, with love, no sexdate crap

If you are actually a transwoman your gender is female. Seems very confusing or misleading to use male. Just put the fact you're transgendered and what parts you have in your profile.

to be honest, I still don't understand what does it mean with trans------

Transwoman = a woman in process of turning into a Man(??)
Transwoman = a woman who was a man (??)
Transwoman = a man who was a woman (??)
 
A trans woman is a woman who was born male.


thanks, but why not drop the "trans" part all together after a certain point?

you had the sexual reassigment OP, took the hormones, Identity is clear, for all intents and purposes you have the physical constitution and the the emotional mindeset (and dare say, the soul) of a woman, why not acknowledge yourself a woman on all accounts?

Is the "trans" part really needed?
 
thanks, but why not drop the "trans" part all together after a certain point?

you had the sexual reassigment OP, took the hormones, Identity is clear, for all intents and purposes you have the physical constitution and the the emotional mindeset (and dare say, the soul) of a woman, why not acknowledge yourself a woman on all accounts?

Is the "trans" part really needed?

Well, because while you look, act and technically are a woman, there are still hurdles and such. Not to mention that you should still tell your boyfriend/lover/whatever, that you are trans, because that may effect the relationship down the road.
It's... complicated. But while you are a woman, you weren't always. So you still have to identify as such.
 
lucky

Haters gonna hate. Robert Downey Jr. is still the sexy god he is and I love him being Tony Stark.

It was hilarious and I had fun. And then the dude was like "wanna go back to my place?" And I'm like "Uh... (not really) no, I gotta go *since my car was dying and I was worried about being home at 5-6PM rush with it*" I think he was disappointed when he said he wasn't but we both enjoyed the film. :D
And then he wanted a kiss which was quick he was like "seriously?" so we kissed in the parking lot again and he put his tongue in my mouth. D:

The glasses worked but were flipping huge for my head so the ends were sticking out and probably behind the seat and the captions were a little hard to see because of said glasses being awkward but I was able to enjoy the movie. I was shocked by that.
 
Not to mention that you should still tell your boyfriend/lover/whatever, that you are trans, because that may effect the relationship down the road.

I don't understand this.

if I was born with one of my eyes lacking 90% of sight, should I tell everyone right away? quite frankly is nobody's business what peculiar things have happened with my body and I'll tell as I see fit and WHEN I think is the right time.

aren't I labeling myself like a handicapped guy?, even if I have an absoltuely normal life like everyone else?

o.k... I guess the world isn't prepared for this,..
 
thanks, but why not drop the "trans" part all together after a certain point?

you had the sexual reassigment OP, took the hormones, Identity is clear, for all intents and purposes you have the physical constitution and the the emotional mindeset (and dare say, the soul) of a woman, why not acknowledge yourself a woman on all accounts?

Is the "trans" part really needed?
Well, not all trans women have had the surgery and some don't want to. We are a minority, so it's also about pride.
 
I don't understand this.

if I was born with one of my eyes lacking 90% of sight, should I tell everyone right away? quite frankly is nobody's business what peculiar things have happened with my body and I'll tell as I see fit and WHEN I think is the right time.

aren't I labeling myself like a handicapped guy?, even if I have an absoltuely normal life like everyone else?

o.k... I guess the world isn't prepared for this,..

I'm not saying go around telling everyone that you are transgender. I'm saying, if you love someone, and see yourself with them, you have to tell them.
Even though one becomes a woman, you still have to be on the medication, you still need regular check ups, and likely you'll still need psychological evaluation now and then.
Add to that that you can't have children, if you choose to start a family.

Well, not all trans women have had the surgery and some don't want to.



There is this as well. The surgery is expensive and irreversible, and many choose to live a happy life without it, just staying on the medication.
 
Haters gonna hate. Robert Downey Jr. is still the sexy god he is and I love him being Tony Stark.

It was hilarious and I had fun. And then the dude was like "wanna go back to my place?" And I'm like "Uh... (not really) no, I gotta go *since my car was dying and I was worried about being home at 5-6PM rush with it*" I think he was disappointed when he said he wasn't but we both enjoyed the film. :D
And then he wanted a kiss which was quick he was like "seriously?" so we kissed in the parking lot again and he put his tongue in my mouth. D:

I'm not a big Avengers fan in the first place. I did love Stark and Fury though but the rest of the cast could have been cut for all I cared (also, I like my stories to be a little more than just bombastic, but it was competently made so I wouldn't complain about it anymore).

Sounds like you've got yourself a fan, though, Seks.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BroYDkRatIE

those guys know how to kiss.....I want my next BF to kiss me like that.. :(

What the hell did I just watch.

(Also, it wouldn't cut out the noise in her other ear.)
 
I'm not a big Avengers fan in the first place. I did love Stark and Fury though but the rest of the cast could have been cut for all I cared (also, I like my stories to be a little more than just bombastic, but it was competently made so I wouldn't complain about it anymore).

Well, how would you do an assemble movie since that was what they were going for for the past decade?

Sounds like you've got yourself a fan, though, Seks.

Yeah, which is nice. But I think he wants a relationship, which isn't.
 
Well, how would you do an assemble movie since that was what they were going for for the past decade?

Ensemble movie? :P

I'm really not sure. Marvel heroes really don't have much internal turmoil beyond their origin stories which are often wrapped up in those same stories. So character driven narratives are likely to be more retreading than anything else. Even with that limitation, you could look at some theme in the plot - say like the idea of a "cure" for X-Men 3 (though that theme was never actually realized).

But for that sort of plot, you would need something a little more relateable than a bunch of weird aliens wanting a box. And I can't really think of anything that could unite the Avengers as they're a pretty disparate group (one of the reasons I was never a big fan).

I do admit that the movie was competently made. But overall it was a lot of action scenes strung together which isn't really my cup of tea. I recognize that I'm in the minority on this and some people do just like watching lasers and explosions and Avengers certainly pulled that off well.
 
I have found gay interests groups, and I do use a dating website, Bees. Speaking of which,

How do you guys deal with loneliness?

Right when I'm down, the Gods deliver. I hooked up with someone today.

I was "okay" with it for a long time, but it's been really rough for the past several months. Seeing nothing but couples when I'm walking home at night, having all of my friends in relationships, etc... Shit makes me feel invisible, which I essentially am to guys, and having to live with this "empty pit" sensation for the rest of my life is honestly going to drive me to an early grave.

I'm sorry to hear that, Cosmic Bus. Is there a way for you to become visible?
 
Right when I'm down, the Gods deliver. I hooked up with someone today.

help us use our imagination: describe a bit of yourself and your hookup so we can create porn images of you guys in our minds.

he, bad joke,

are you happy? is boyfriend or bed material? congrats!
 
help us use our imagination: describe a bit of yourself and your hookup so we can create porn images of you guys in our minds.

he, bad joke,

I actually did a brief write up of the encounter. If anyone wants to read it, I can post it.

are you happy? is boyfriend or bed material? congrats!

The sex was good, but the relationship won't progress into being boyfriends.

Namely because he doesn't want to. And even if he did, he's going to college this year, so I wouldn't really want to either.
 
Here's my attempt at making it sound as interesting as it was:

I met a guy, Juan, on OKCupid in April. We hooked up twice, but then he decided to end things.

Cut to today. A text out of the blue. He wants to see me again. With a little prodding from the Skype chat, I decide to meet him.

Cut to his apartment. He greets me, and we go to his room. Small talk for a few seconds. Then we meet like comets on a collision course.

An explosion of lust and sexual frustration. Kissing, licking, grinding. All the while peeling off layers of clothing. When his shirt is gone, I go for the nipples. Moans flow out of his mouth. One of his E Zones, I think.

We go the bed, and foreplay proper starts. We trade sucking each other off with make out sessions punctuating each switch. Minutes pasts. I ask if he wants me inside him. "Do you have condoms?" "Yea"

The condom goes on, and I enter him. Missionary position. I thrust. He moans. The bed rocks.

Eventually, I cum inside him.

After that, I pound away for a little longer. Then finish him off with a blow job

All in all, it was great.
 
You came after one thrust?

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Ensemble movie? :P

I'm really not sure. Marvel heroes really don't have much internal turmoil beyond their origin stories which are often wrapped up in those same stories. So character driven narratives are likely to be more retreading than anything else. Even with that limitation, you could look at some theme in the plot - say like the idea of a "cure" for X-Men 3 (though that theme was never actually realized).

But for that sort of plot, you would need something a little more relateable than a bunch of weird aliens wanting a box. And I can't really think of anything that could unite the Avengers as they're a pretty disparate group (one of the reasons I was never a big fan).

I do admit that the movie was competently made. But overall it was a lot of action scenes strung together which isn't really my cup of tea. I recognize that I'm in the minority on this and some people do just like watching lasers and explosions and Avengers certainly pulled that off well.

I dunno. I felt it dragged a little to bring them all together to "AVENGERS ASSEMBLE!" to where the ending "war" bit was pretty rushed but I still felt the characterization and character plays off each other was really good.

"Nightwing take the roofs and snipe."
"Ironman can you get me up there?"
"Yeah, hold on Legolas, it's going to be a rough ride... *jets*"
 
Here's my attempt at making it sound as interesting as it was:

I met a guy, Juan, on OKCupid in April. We hooked up twice, but then he decided to end things.

Cut to today. A text out of the blue. He wants to see me again. With a little prodding from the Skype chat, I decide to meet him.

Cut to his apartment. He greets me, and we go to his room. Small talk for a few seconds. Then we meet like comets on a collision course.

An explosion of lust and sexual frustration. Kissing, licking, grinding. All the while peeling off layers of clothing. When his shirt is gone, I go for the nipples. Moans flow out of his mouth. One of his E Zones, I think.

We go the bed, and foreplay proper starts. We trade sucking each other off with make out sessions punctuating each switch. Minutes pasts. I ask if he wants me inside him. "Do you have condoms?" "Yea"

The condom goes on, and I enter him. Missionary position. I thrust. He moans. The bed rocks.

Eventually, I cum inside him.

After that, I pound away for a little longer. Then finish him off with a blow job

All in all, it was great.
Hehe, well good for you man.
:D
 
I dunno. I felt it dragged a little to bring them all together to "AVENGERS ASSEMBLE!" to where the ending "war" bit was pretty rushed but I still felt the characterization and character plays off each other was really good.

"Nightwing take the roofs and snipe."
"Ironman can you get me up there?"
"Yeah, hold on Legolas, it's going to be a rough ride... *jets*"
Did he really call him Nightwing? I totally missed that.
 
I dunno. I felt it dragged a little to bring them all together to "AVENGERS ASSEMBLE!" to where the ending "war" bit was pretty rushed but I still felt the characterization and character plays off each other was really good.

"Nightwing take the roofs and snipe."
"Ironman can you get me up there?"
"Yeah, hold on Legolas, it's going to be a rough ride... *jets*"

I don't remember the Nightwing line. Anyway, I'm glad you had fun. Good thing there were no inappropriate activity in the theatre with you two.
 
Did he really call him Nightwing? I totally missed that.

Whatever the Hurt Locker dudes' character name is. I think it's Nightwing. I can't recall as it was such a fast line that the captions were going nearly a mile a minute for me. But he does call him by the character name.
 
Here's my attempt at making it sound as interesting as it was:

Congratulations on the sex!

I dunno. I felt it dragged a little to bring them all together to "AVENGERS ASSEMBLE!" to where the ending "war" bit was pretty rushed but I still felt the characterization and character plays off each other was really good.

"Nightwing take the roofs and snipe."
"Ironman can you get me up there?"
"Yeah, hold on Legolas, it's going to be a rough ride... *jets*"

Yeah. The banter was fun and it was very visually interesting. I just didn't have any emotional stake to the story so it felt like it was really dragging after awhile. I enjoyed Stark and Fury though.
 
Whatever the Hurt Locker dudes' character name is. I think it's Nightwing. I can't recall as it was such a fast line that the captions were going nearly a mile a minute for me. But he does call him by the character name.

Hawkeye. Nightwing is a DC character.
 
Here's my attempt at making it sound as interesting as it was:


The condom goes on, and I enter him. Missionary position. I thrust. He moans. The bed rocks.

Eventually, I cum inside him.

After that, I pound away for a little longer. Then finish him off with a blow job

All in all, it was great.
I'm confused. Did you cum inside him while wearing the condom, or did you pull out, cum over his ass, then scoop it up and stick your dick back in? Finger? Or did you, like, spread his ass and aim it in there?

If you stuck your dick back in, doesn't that negate the condom, basically?

EDIT: Oh, I guess I missed your last line.

Fuck the spoilers
 
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